Hello Family!
Today was a good day. Got up this morning, chatted on the phone with my brother-in-law for a minute, went in the kitchen and cooked me some collard greens, fried chicken and some corn bread, had me a ice cold Pepsi and by 6 o clock it was ON AND POPPIN!
Your gurl was throwing down! Do ya here me??? lol
But that\’s not why Im here today. I have a question and I need honest opinions on this. Men step up to the plate as far as your feelings too.
Ok…………. my daughter who is 19. She is my only child, she\’s in college, and lives at home. She has a relationship with her dad, ( not close at all) his mom ( very close), and his whole family ( close). Well, any way, her dad called her yesterday and told her that he was moving to Atlanta with his wife and son on today (Sunday). And that he was coming to see her today ( Sunday). But he was going to try to leave on Monday. So today after so many hours had passed, she called him and asked him was he still coming over to see her before he leaves. He was like yessss I\’ll be over there as soon as he was done with what ever he was doing. It started getting late, and she seemed to be really looking forward to him coming. She wont tell me if she was or not, cause she know I\’ll get mad.( since he end up not coming).
Well, here it is 2:55 in the morning and he has not called or came over. I knowwwwwww she wants to see him before he leaves. See I know him, his heart has no intentions on NOT coming over, but his actions shows that he didn\’t come. See what Im saying? So to him, he dont look at it as standing her up, he looks at it like dang I didn\’t make it over to see my baby today. But I TRIED! And I dont understand that. He dont understand the importance of his presense. He just dont get it.
Now, we dont know if he left, or if he\’s leaving tomorrow or what. He hasn\’t called (as usual). Ok, now Im pissed, I want to call him and go straight off. Something I haven\’t done in over 12 years. Im real mad about it.
Why?
Because my daughter is humble she aint gonna say nothing. I think she is waiting to become a Judge and them sock it to him. I dunno. But thatgurltheycallCredog, is ready to git em gurllllllllllll ( Madea) lol. Im ready to holla at home boy. Im veryyyyy angry about this.![]()
So my question to you all. Should I be mad that he didn\’t call or visit her? Am I wrong for wanting to call his cell phone and let him have it? Am I wrong for stepping into a situation of my daughters after all she is grown? Should I let her handle it?
TELL ME THE TRUTH FAMILY!!!! BE HONEST WITH ME
LACREASE
Where works of the flesh exists, there is NO joy
Learning Life Lessons 
You have right to be mad! I am mad at him for not calling or coming but Cre dont call him. She is grown…ooohhh I know I want to call him and tell him something but that aint my place either. She’s grown let her handle it but I would encourage her to let him know how she feels.
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Lady J, I am maddddddddddd at him too. And Cre, I can feel the anger but I’m guessing it is more that you are hurt for your daughter than mad. I wouldn’t call though because it could iritate the matter. See if he contacts her first. If not, let your daughter process this and just be there for her as you always have been.
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I know that you want to be mad at him for not keeping his word but at the age that she is she is old enough to fight her on battle, and you calling his cell would only give him a further excuse not to come to see her becasue of the thought of having a confrontation with you.
Just be there for her, but let her make up her own mind as far as her father goes.
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that is so wrong on so many levels you cant lie to a child and if you cannot make it what was wrong to take a minute out to call and say sweety daddy cant make it? for god sakes she is your daughter!!!
crre i am with you on this one maybe its time for your daughter to tell him how she feels because i would understand if he called and something came up but to no show no call is not good
love wind
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I wouldnt blame you for calling and telling him a thing or two but he knows that he is WRONG and whether he mans up to it or not he knows deep down. I am 24 years old and also have a lame dad…they don’t realize how much disappointment they bring into their children’s lives by not being there at all or by not showing up when they say that they will, forgetting promises etc. Just be there for your daughter because she may not say it or she may try to hide it but it hurts her what he is doing.
~Mona
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I agree with KD! It really is none of your business @ this point in your daughters life to fight your daughters fights!
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Thanks everyone for your commments. I really agree with everyone. Im going to move on.
Thanks Fam
crease
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wow a brother was wrong let your daughter deal with this because if you get into it it’ll be messy
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That @#$$#^@#%^%$&^%&&*$^&*…. ok i said it for you! I’m sure that your Daughter called him a few things too to herself and that my be here way of dealing with it.. Chill and just hugg and be there for her.. He was very wrong for not come but he will have to answer for all of his action to someone that’s bigger than you and i
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IF YOUR DAUGHTER HASN’T BLEW UP THEN DON’T YOU….BELIEVE ME I KNOW ALL TOO WELL HOW SHE FEELS….LET HER DEAL WITH IT ON HER OWN..ONE DAY SHE MIGHT JUST SAY THE HELL WITH HIM….DON’T LET THAT MAN MAKE YOUR BLOOD PRESSURE GO UP! TOODLES
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THANLKS DIVA, AND EVERYBODY. WELL HE CALLED TODAY AND WAS LIKE IM ON MY WAY TO SEE YOU. SO HE CAME,THEY WATCHED THE GAME TOGETHER, THEY HAD A GOOD TIME. I gave him a hug and we laughed a little, and marched myself right in my computer room so that she can be with him. He stayed a good while too, she was happy I can tell. Im happy too. So he’ leaving in the morning for ATL, and he wants her to come down in August.
Im soooooooo happy that I stayed out of it,I did want to chop his head off, you dont do my baby like that. But everythang is cool.
HE told her on the phone last night. tell your momma I love her. I was surprised!!!!! But he comes from a loving family, and thats normal for him. But as long as he came to spend time with Neisha Im cool!
Thanks fam
Crease
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