Hey,
Ok, I have a serious question that I need to ask you all. I really need your opinion on this okay? When everyone has commented, Im going to print it out and take it to my friend, who is waiting to hear your replies.
Ok, here it is. My friend has a 10 year old son, and a 4 year old daughter. Now when she uses the bathroom , she sometimes leave the bathroom door open. She talks to her son with him in the bathroom and with the door open. If she is doing number 2 she still will talk to him with the door open.
Recently her boyfriend moved in. They go to Church together, he loves the Lord and is a Christian just like her. Well, he feels that its disrespectful to her son, as well as him to have the bathroom door open when she is using it. She tells her boyfriend, that she was doing it before he got there and she see\’s nothing wrong with it. And therefore she will continue to do it.
They called me this morning, arguing about it asking my opinion. I told her how I felt about it ( will share later after you all response) she still felt that in the end, its his opinion and thats all it is.
So I told her that when we go to work in the morning, pull 10 people to the side and tell them the story without using names, and see how they feel about it.
But tonight Im asking you all. What do you think?
Learning Life Lessons 
IT IS VERY DISRESPECTFUL! ME AND MY EX HAD THIS SAME ARGUEMENT! I DID SAY EX! IF THIS WAS A MAN PULLING HIS JOHNSON OUT AND PEEING IN FRONT OF A LITTLE GIRL, HE WOULD BE LOCKED UP!
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I don’t think that is a good idea. She should shut the door whenever she uses the bathroom. Her son is way too old to be watching or even in the room while she is using the bathroom. Her mom needs to start reinforcing this NOW! I feel especially now that her boyfriend has moved in. It is just not wise any way you slice it.
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“Recently her boyfriend moved in. They go to Church together, he loves the Lord and is a Christian just like her.”
When I reached that point, I stopped reading right there. If they were such good Christians, why don’t they get married?
…and no, I’m not judging anybody.
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Youre right! So right. Mike but guess what? HE MOVED OUT! HE CANT TAKE IT! HE MOVED OUT! HE WENT BACK HOME!
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LOLOLOLOL!
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um its no big deal to me…my mom used to do that to me…even had me bring her stuff while she was on the toilet…that is not being disrespectful…blah
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if that’s her way and her family is used to it then her boyfriend needs to adjust .my mom did that till all 3 of us moved out it is not that big of a deal
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Sitting on the toilet is not really showing the goods, so unless she’s buck naked…now is the bathroom one everyone uses or in her bedroom? My kids will ask me questions while standing just outside the bathroom door, which I don’t close because my bedroom door is usually closed.
I’m with Mike though, “Recently her boyfriend moved in. They go to Church together, he loves the Lord and is a Christian just like her.” Ha!
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I think it is very disrespectful. I think that she needs to consider the fact that using the restroom is a private matter and is not something to be shared with others. I can understand that this is something that she is accustomed to doing, but in my opinion this is not a habit that she should have ever started (live in boyfriend or not) I think that your children should not see you doing certain things and using the restroom is one of them, amongst many others.
~Mona
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The boy is 10 why does she have the door open when he’s at that curious age. Kids are taught about their private parts and how to keep that concealed so why does she have hers out on display for the son to see. That’s why a lot of these kids r having babies at such a young age now because the parents aren’t teaching them to not to or setting good examples for them. Why does she have to speak to him when she’s using the toilet??????????????? Can’t whatever discussion they have wait till she’s done. That’s just being nasty and ornery. So what example is this for her daughter to use the bathroom in front of boys whenever she pleased with out closing the door? I can imagine this situation will have her daughter in the principle’s office a lot as well as her son. There is a such thing as modesty and privacy. When I go to the br I close the door regardless to it being just me and my daughter in the house. Why because what I do and did then will reflect how she does things when she has her own place or when male or female company is over. Another question is now that the bf is living with her and her kids do they keep the door open when they yave sex????????????? Do the kids have manners enough to knock before entering? Or do they just barge on in the room while their doing the do????????? I can’t see their relationship going to far on this one. It doesnt’ sound like she had many before.
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I am with Magic Mike. They need to evaluate moving in together…..a chrisian…….loves the Lord. I am not judging, but in order to set examples for th elost we must live the life we preach, and sing about. But at this point she needs to close the door while using the restroom.
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Yes, she did grow up with her mom doing the same thing. But Diva do you agree that its okay to leave the door wide open, IF YOUR MOM HAD A BOYFRIEND WHO WASNT YOUR FATHER, and when she is talking to you while the door is open, her boyfriend walks up and see this, Do you still feel that its OKAY?
Anyone can join for this question.
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I think you have to teach privacy to children at an early age . Set examples that you want them to follow. They can still talk with the door closed. Leaving the door open may be making the child feel uncomfortable and she not even realize that. Privacy is very important in teaching kids right from wrong in regards to sexual harassment, and molestation and things like that . And as children get older you have to respect them , and not exposing them to certain things. You can talk to them and educate them, but there is no reason to talk to someone with the door open while you’re in the bathroom, hell you need your privacy too…. Just my opinion, It had nothing to do with the new boyfriend, this is strictly about the moms behavior .. She needs to close the door simple and plain. Talk when you get out, before you go in , or through the closed door… !
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hey sis tell her she made a mistake with the christian live in boyfiend that took the focus off her bathroom situation..lol
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Parents are to be role models for their children and set good examples. Using the bathroom is a “personal” act and not one that should be shared like that. I can understand if the child was a toddler and there’s a need to keep an eye open at all times but this is a 10 year old and a boy at that. I say she should, “close the door” and keep that personal business to herself. As for the boyfriend, I do understand his point of view too. And if he is a potential husband, then it’s time to start taking his ideas, thoughts and feelings into consideration as well. Just my 2cent. Heyyyyyy Lacrease! Hope all is well with you girl.
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Hmmm, I went back and read this again and the responses…I have to agree with the people who spoke about privacy issues. We want our children to act a certain way when they grow up but we have to teach them the way first. I’m sorry to hear that the boyfriend left because that could have been the man God sent for her. But she disregarded him from the start. I hope she understands what people are saying here. And as for people who don’t find it to be a problem…sorry, my mother never walked around naked in front of her six children nor do I recall seeing her or my dad using the bathroom. I’m glad they taught me the value of privacy. My life is not an open book.
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Well, I have a 9 yr old daughter…she’s afraid to shut the door to the bathroom, so she goes with it open. We live alone, so I don’t find it to be a big deal. I try SO HARD to use the bathroom in peace, but she will normally come in and open the door on me. I don’t put up a big fuss one way or the other.
I think it all depends on how she’s been doing it. If she ain’t showing the goods, then I don’t see nothing wrong with it either. But, my momma used to walk around the house with her tatas hanging out, and I have a younger brother. I think it she’s teaching him right, then her using the bathroom in his presence isn’t really a big deal.
Dude said, if it was a man then he would be in jail. That’s probably true, dudes gotta stand up and pee…they don’t have a choice BUT to show the goods! That’s just my opinion.
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I think she should close the door. I like to use the restroom witht he door open but not if my son is around
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I will comment because you asked… Respect is how we feel about ourselves. Your friend need not be worried about what her boyfriend feels about her bathroom/conference habits. It seems that she is confortable with her routine. What’s comfortable or routine to us is not always adequate behavior. One of the most challenging tasks in life for man to surpass is the criticism of oneself. I challenge your friend to evaluate herself/actions and then.. and only then will this dilemma diminish.
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Unappropriate!!!! She should be taught to be a lady.
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I know I’m late but I say the door should have always been shut waybefore her man moved in
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I REALLY DONT SEE THE BIG DEAL HERE, LOL…IT’S NOT LIKE MOMMY HAS HER LEGS COCKED OPEN SAYING SON COME AND CHECK OUT WHERE YOU SLID OUT FROM…FOR PETES SAKE IT IS HIS MOTHER…AS FAR AS THE BOYFRIEND GOES HE WOULD HAVE EVENTUALLY SAW HER ON THE TOILET ANYWAY LIVING TOGETHER…YES GOING TO THE POTTY IS A VERY PRIVATE THING…BUT ITS NOT THAT DAMN SERIOUS….JUST MY OPINION
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