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#darkgirls Dark girls a true story…..Crees Blog Entry

cresterI was talking to one of my co-workers yesterday, when she asked me have I seen the previews of “Dark girls” premiering on OWN Sunday night at 10pm.

 

I told her yes, as a matter of fact, I tweeted about it and got a retweet from OWN. She went on to tell me that when she was growing up her grandmother use to tell her how dark she was, and that it made her self-esteem low. I was really shocked by this, because she’s 44, have a live personality, and is very pretty. She told me horror stories about having dark skin and growing up. I was like WOW… and all my life I grew up being asked ” how does it feel to be light-skin”? I didn’t like that!!!

 

What I found out is, many parents are responsible for building a child up or tearing them down. Me and my sister who is under me are light skin, but my brother and baby sister are dark skin. WE didn’t grow up comparing skin color with each other. We weren’t even allowed to fight, only debate. So when we all left home and went out on our own, we were like “strangers” when it came this topic. This was foreign to us. I HATED when people always wanted to talk about skin color, in my mind we are all people. Then to make matters worse for me, I had a beautiful shape and very popular because of my friendly and outgoing personality.

 

This Sunday its going to “kill” me to watch this show. I hate to see people, friends, and family divided over their skin color. My coworker told me that no matter how pretty people tell her she is, she still feels that her being dark skin has a lot to do with her self esteem issues. That just does something to me. I kept asking her… “who told you, that dark skin is not pretty”? Its the parents telling their children this mess, then its bad enough that they go to school and are being teased by other kids.

 

Some people are so quick to blame “white” people, but its not them, its our own people pumping this “dark skin, light skin”, into our children. Stop that MESS!!! Looking back at my first weeks at my job at the school, I think the reason why we didn’t hit if off right away, is because of this issue. By me not being a person who “just go with the flow” all the time, by me being standoffish and trying to learn my job, it probably to “her” made it seems as if I’m funny acting. Wow, talking to people and getting to know them for THEM and not for “who they seem to be” is the best thing 2 people can do. I hope that by watching “Dark girls” this Sunday can really shed some light on things.

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My review “For Colored Girls”

Thanks to all the Sistergurls who came out to see the movie For “Colored Girls” with us, and, to Ruby Tuesday on Saturday Night.

I thought the movie was very, very good and very deep. Its a trip when you see yourself on the screen in 3-4 of these women at one time or another in your life. And then you sit back and ask yourself “dang, did I really look and act like that”? The painful truth is……… yes. We as women allow ourselves to be treated in ways as we saw in this movie. We can sit up all day and blame the man, but it is us who allow it to continue to happen day after day, after day after day. Situations that we find ourselves in, are the same ones that we “swore on a stack of bibles…..aint gon happen to me”. Well it is you/us. We would sit up as teenagers and stare into the  mouths of our mommas, her friends, our aunts,  and grandmothers when they would be “having grown folks talk”. And listen to everything they talked about. It was usually about  “jive turkey dudes” they were dealing with. We are the same teens that grew up and became the stories that our aunts, grandmothers, and mothers talked about.

How could we go to the movies see ourselves on the screen and get MADDDDDD at Tyler Perry.. because its “depressing”.( side eye) Well, welcome to your own world…..HOME GURL!  This is the life  YOU/WE penciled in for OURSELVES. What we all saw this past weekend in that movie is real life. You may not have been all of those women, but I know each of us is at least 3 of them. I know and understand that its “painful” to watch, and its “depressing” and it makes you cry, and makes you think, and makes you relive your past. But you know what? This movie will either make you “Level up” or Fall Back” Quit playing……..aint no in between’s. After watching this movie, you’re gonna either go home and put on a “Band-Aid” meaning…… do a self examination of your past/present issues. Or you’re going to “let your wounds continue to bleed” and allow salt and vinegar to nurse your wounds. Tell me you get the picture?

I feel so bad for all the men who let this movie go right over their heads. I read so many tweets and messages from  BLACK men who felt Tyler Perry HATES THEM. First of all, this is NOT Tyler Perry’s work. Yes, he may have added something’s for balance. This was a play, and he turned the characters into a movie to bring them to life as it was written in poems. When Daddy’s Little Girls came out, I wonder how many of those same men, took their kids to see that movie? Um hmmmmm. This was NOT a movie to male bash. This is a movie for WOMEN and MEN to look at themselves on the screen and use it to heal. This movie is NOT to blame the BLACK MAN. And truth be told, they  saw THEMSELVES, THEIR FATHERS, COUSINS, UNCLES AND FRIENDS in this movie too. They’re not exempt from healing. We all know that all men are NOT gay, NOT abusive, NOT HIV carriers, NOT rapist, NOT baby daddy’s,  and NOT cheaters. This movie didn’t say that they all were. I can talk all day until I’m blue in the face on this subject, but to me in music videos the women always are half naked. The men ALWAYS HAVE ON CLOTHES AND COATS. I’m not mad at the rapper who made the video, or feel the need to say” all women are not like that”. It goes WITHOUT saying as far as La’Crease is concerned. Everyone is their own person. Every time I see a flyer advertising for a party, whose on the front cover showing all her goodies, front and back……….a WOMAN. That’s the reason why we ALL need to see For Colored Girls, see yourself on the screen and do a SELF EXAMINATION!!! If you are NOT any of those MEN in the movie…….keep it moving. If you feel its male bashing, then videos with half naked women, and party fliers are female bashing too. Same stuff!

I advise every person to see this movie. Its okay if you feel your wounds opening up. If you fall on the ground scar your leg up, 1 week later its still not healed, you need to revisit that wound and find out what’s the problem. But if you fall and one week later that wound is closed and no matter what you do to it, it won’t open……. YOU’RE HEALED. Don’t be afraid to see this movie, I also think you should also see it alone if you’ve seen it with others. So what if you need to cry, that’s a good thing. Just whatever you do, don’t just go see “the movie”  AND come home EMPTY HEADED get YOU SOMETHING OUT OF IT.

My name is La’Crease J. Walker and I approve this message.