Being the Oldest/BLOG

When I was growing up I use to ask God why do I have to be the oldest? Why didn’t I have a big sister or brother to lean on and talk too? Why do I have to look out for my siblings and set the example? Why do my parents always look to MEEEEEEEEEE to make sure they’re okay if they weren’t around ? I hated the responsibility of  looking after them. I just hated that as the oldest. HATED IT! UGH

Now that I’m 4 months away from being 50.. I SEE WHY GOD MADE ME THE OLDEST. Even though I’m opinionated. I realize that I’m wired differently. I have always looked at the bigger picture. I can see set backs, benefits, consequences, greatness, trouble… I see it all. Where my siblings may look at the NOW. Yes, even though we are all different, I see that my personality bring a balance to us as siblings.

While they call me BOSSY, I can sit back and not speak a word. Sometimes even as adults when we have debates and our parents tell us to SHUT THE HELL UP… I am the oldest and they DO listen to me. Still till this day.. Its just amazing how I can see why God made me the oldest.

If one sibling is mad at the other, they always want to know what I THINK. And some times, I’m like figure it out on your own, why do yall always want and need MY opinion? They say because I give good advice and  peacemaker of the family. While that is true, I’m leaning to cut back on my opinion. I’m learning that being quiet sometimes is best. Being the oldest and being quiet about something is when my siblings REALLY WORK IT OUT. Because they don’t know how I feel about the situation. ((LOL)) And I think they have a need to please me, especially when it comes to getting along. They know I don’t play that staying mad days and days. NO WAY!!! Not in this family. Not as me being the OLDEST. They know I will drive to their homes, and make them talk about it.

When it comes to the family functions which we have quite often.. I’m usually the one along with my baby sister who does the planning. My middle siblings just bring what we ask. Its funny because it has always been like that. My baby sister is always on the page with me. We plan everything. The middle two… just play along. LOL

What’s funny is, if we’re planning a function and I have to work, OMG they’ll have a fit! They act like they cannot function without me being there. My mom will call me, my dad, nieces, siblings wanting to know why I cant come.

I LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE MY SIBLINGS.. GOD HANDPICKED THEM JUST FOR ME!! I am the oldest and I get it now! Thank you Jesus.

LaCrease

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My Second Oldest Sister

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My Brother

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My baby Sister

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I AM LaCrease, and I don’t have to do anything else!

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My niece baby shower/BLOG

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My niece had a baby shower on Sunday and it was so nice.  I can’t believe she’ll be 22 years old this year. I witness her BIRTH, and its hard to fathom that she has graduated from high school, working a good job, AND A GROWN WOMAN!!!!!

This was her boyfriends first time attending a shower , but what’s funny is that he didn’t think they would get ANY gifts . He thought that because he had no idea how baby showers went, that people wouldn’t bring anything. So when he first found out he was going to be a dad, he went out and bought EVERYTHING.  When I say everything, I mean EVERYTHING. Not only him, but his mom. They for real, REAL lost their minds buying gifts. When he saw all the gifts they had gotten, not to mention take home, he was so HAPPY and so SURPRISED. He had no idea how many people would show up and buy so many gifts. I’m happy for them both.

It was my second time meeting him and I really like him. I can see them marrying in the future. She really loves him and he loves her. They have the best chemistry. I really enjoyed watching them open gifts together.

Here are some photos from their shower.

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Her BFF

Her Mom, ( my baby sister) and her BFF

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I AM La’Crease and I don’t have to do ANYTHING ELSE

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I have NO room to JUDGE/BLOG

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I was just in the bathroom thinking as I always do… too much sometimes. About all the mistakes I made in my teens and in my 20’s and early 30’s. The things I did, said. I will continue to give my advice, and I will always TELL THE TRUTH AND I DON’T CARE HOW MAD A PERSON GET AT ME… (( cause at the end of the day that’s YOUR story and NOT LACREASE ( mines)) .Forgive me.. but I say that with GREAT ARROGANCE! FRFR Because at the end of the day, I’m going to my apartment, CLOSE MY DOOR,  cross my legs turn on the TV, and that will still be YOUR story.

I came to the BIGGEST CONCLUSION…. looking back at MY life. I have absolutely NO ROOM AT ALL PERIOD… to JUDGE anyone ever!!! I really had my share of making bad decisions. I’m also happy that I can share them with others going through the same things. All I ask is that you TAKE WHAT YOU NEED FROM MY CONVERSATIONS and ADVICE.

I ask that you go down memory lane of all the things you did wrong IN YOUR EARLY DAYS, and ask yourself…. DO I HAVE ROOM TO JUDGE? Just remember this is NOT your story anymore, you are only a coach to someone.

I AM La’Crease and I don’t have to do ANYTHING ELSE

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I challenge you to get to know YOURSELF… all over again!/BLOG

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Hey

Today I decided to call off from work. Its been a while since I did that, because when I do I feel so guilty. But tonight I’m glad I did. Today was one of those days where I’m feeling some kinda way. So many questions to God and things that I have learned about myself. I really needed this day off.

I challenge you to get to know yourself, think about YOU, realize and come to some conclusions about things. Think about consequences YOU had to deal with because of YOUR immature decisions.  Its okay. Cry, laugh, and think about things in the past. I did and I’m glad. I want to share them with you.

  • I find myself often asking God, why do we have to stay “down here” with people who just want to kill and hurt others? Yes, I know Jesus will come for us, and I look forward to that day. But I still ask, because I often wonder if I could survive if some of the things that happen to others, would happen to me. That’s so scary to me.
  • I realize that once upon a time.. I cared what people thought about me. I cared about the wrong things. Recently a coworker came to me and told me that she was pregnant with her 3rd baby, at 19. She was feeling some kinda way, because she and her kids father were already having a hard time with a baby sister while they work, not to mention the fact that she was embarrassed, and ashamed that she was pregnant again. I was so happy she came to me, because of my experience I was able to help her come to her conclusion. I was so glad that I am a person who can share my experiences (( because I revisited them and healed)) with others, and I don’t GIVE A DAM about what people think ANYMORE. I told her how I had my daughter at 19 and 3 months later I was pregnant again. I was too embarrassed to tell anyone except her dad. I was ashamed and VERY AFRAID WHAT OTHERS WOULD THINK OF ME. I decided very quickly that I would have an abortion. I was especially afraid of what my parents would think of me. At 3 months I had an abortion and never thought about it again until I was in my 30’s. I shared my story with my co-worker and told her this: This is YOUR baby, yes you may be ashamed, but at the end of the day….. if you decide to have an abortion it will be with you for the rest of your life. You can raise this baby, you can do it. When you lay eyes on your baby for the first time, you’re going to ask yourself…. how could I ever consider killing you? I told her don’t care or worry about what the next person has to say about you, because at the end of the day this is your baby, YES THE ONE GOD GAVE YOU. And with that, her baby boy will be born sometimes this summer. Amen!
  • I realize that I enjoy being alone more that I ever thought. My personality attracts a lot of people. No matter where I go someone always have a story for me. I don’t mind because God wired me up to be a listener and a person who gives good GODLY advice. I’ll be 50 this year, and with my age comes a lot of experience and WISDOM. With that being said.. so when I’m home, I like to chill out. I don’t talk on the phone unless its my parents or my siblings. (( and I have the nerve to have the iPhone 7 PLUS)) I hate talking on the phone. So I write a lot and that’s my personal therapy. Now don’t get me wrong. I LOVE being around people, I love  going to the movies, or my favorite mall. I love get to gethers to play cards, laugh and talk junk. I LOVE to travel, and I LOVE ENTERTAINMENT. Its just that when I’m HOME… that’s my place of PEACE.. AND I LET NO ONE DISTURB THAT LIFE!
  • I’m very territorial when it comes to my daughter, my family and a few friends.
  • I HATE when women talk about other women. I just HATE it. What they don’t realize is, when you do that, you’re only making your OWN self esteem go down. What you think about others, you FEAR others think about you. FLAT OUT! Stop that. Build! Find something about her that stands out in a good way and focus on that in your mind. Trust me, she has something way more valuable than you. God made her differently.
  • I love about myself is the fact that I don’t have to look cute everyday. I can throw on some clean clothes and just run my errands looking ruff in the face. And, I know that I can throw on some clothes and as soon as I hit the outdoors MEN ARE STARING AND SMILING.. I love this about myself. LOVE IT. I DO ME DAILY! ME ME ME… now do YOU YOU YOU!

Take a inventory of yourself and discover you all over again!

I AM La’Crease and I don’t have to do ANYTHING ELSE!

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You are the CEO of your life!

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Hey Family!

I’m sitting here on this lovely day, I really need to be at a park this morning, we have some rainy days coming and I wanted to be near water on Belle Isle. But Summer is just around the corner and I promise myself I will be there more often than last year.

As many of you know I am deeply into the growth of  women, when it comes to Life Lessons and Experiences. Seems like there is not a day that goes by when someone needs to talk to me and ask for advice. I’m very, very, to the point and honest with my answers. That’s what people LOVE about me, but sometimes when I dish it out they have a problem with my truth and honesty. And guess what? I don’t even care.

I was speaking with someone recently and they began to tell me that whenever she hits her boyfriend and fight him, he wont hit her, but, he will push her and leave marks on her body. She justifies the fact that she fights him, but he will only push her. I told her, one day…. one day… ONE DAY, he will not stand for her putting her hands on him and he’s going to fight back. She doesn’t believe it. That’s where the LIFE LESSON will come in at. I can tell her all day, but she’ll NEVER believe me, because it HASN’T HAPPENED to her YET. This is the part of my job, where I can’t help. She has to learn the lesson herself, and I hope that it doesn’t land her in the hospital.

We.. MEN AND WOMEN have to pay attention to the signs of any and all things. People are so afraid of being alone. They cannot see themselves alone. They rather deal with fighting and arguing, instead of saying… look we cannot get alone, lets go our separate ways. This is why so many men and women have self esteem issues. They stay in relationships that they are not suppose to be in.

Why is it so hard to leave? Fear of being alone, and seeing that person with someone else. SO WHAT!!! Especially if you’re not getting alone. Who wants to wake up arguing everyday, holding grudges and CONSTANTLY talking about the same issues day after day after day? I just don’t have that kinda time. Many people don’t like the thing of meeting someone new, getting to know new families, dating, meeting the kids and those kinds of things associated with meeting someone new. But its better than being in a relationship that clearly isn’t going anywhere right? Some will say, they just don’t want to put the time into it, so they stay.

I have plenty of things to say about this topic. Stay tuned.

I am La’Crease… and I don’t have to do ANYTHING ELSE!

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Whats going on with me!

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Hey!!

Wow,  I know I should be ashamed of myself for having not written since Jan. I guess I haven’t been in a writing mood, not to mention working a lot lately. But one thing I did do this year, and that was take my first cruise April 2-9 2017 on The Norwegian Breakaway!

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Yes, I took a 7 Day Norwegian Cruise to the Bahamas with my MOTHER, daughter, sister and her husband. WE had a ball!!!

First of all we drove to New Year to Embark. I love to drive. I did the first 6 hours, my sleeping sister did a few, and her husband finished it off. LOL   We dropped off our rental at Enterprise (( the nicest people)) in New York and were met with a beautiful driver by the name of Maria to take us to the ship. Once we checked our luggage and selves in, we were ready for a shower, eat and a nap. We were so tired after the shower, we were suppose to meet with all the travelers for a brief safety meet, but we were sleepy and didn’t go. Ill never do that again, because we had some storms come our way during the 7 days, and had something serious happened, I wouldn’t know what to do. I’ll never skip a safety meeting again on a cruise. My mother and daughter also fell asleep, but it was shown on our TV’s, they watched it, but still I didn’t. Not good.

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The entertainment on the Norwegian Breakaway was soooooooooooo fun!!! They had a lot of things planned for the guest to enjoy. I really loved the unlimited drinks and eating. I thought I would eat a lot, but it wasn’t like that. But I sure tore that BAR UP. I don’t drink “in real life at home”, but on that cruise..it went down!!! LOL Those daiquiris was the bomb! The people were so nice. OMG! The waitress and waiters were the best. The food was delicious, everything was so perfect. I really really enjoyed myself.

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Then… I got sick. Caught a cold being in that night air, and taking showers. That has never mixed well with my body. I have to take showers at night before bed unless its hot outside, and on the boat everyday we all wore sweaters because the waters were HYPED! LOL

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I would NEVER EVER take a cruise less than 7 days. Ever! I was okay with dealing with the fact that it was time to go home, but a 3-4 is not enough for me. I like to chill, and if I want to chill in my room for a day, so let me do it. If I want to party and be apart of all the entertainment… so let me be. I say that to say…. I need 7 plus days on a cruise.

I enjoyed getting up at 5;30 in the morning and headed down to breakfast while everyone slept. I took a seat by the window for 2 and just enjoyed watching the sun come up. That was one of my favorite things to do.

Being on a cruise made me feel that there is MORE to life than just working and paying bills. So many people get into the habit of saying and BELIEVING that they dont  have the money to cruise, or that they have too many bills, or dont have a baby sitter. LIES, LIES LIES!  I came home and told my co-workers all about the cruise and they also had a hard time believing that it wasn’t expensive. I have a travel agent with Norwegian, and its all about paying your deposit and having 8 months to pay it off!!! You can pay any day and time you want! No one calls you and say… um cuse me, but when are you going to make a payment? You pay when you can as long as you meet the deadline.

The night before the cruise we had to set our suitcases outside of the door for pickup for Disembarkation in the morning. We put our s out late because we were out and about, but it was cool. I didn’t want to go home. My brother -n- law drove all 12 hours plus home from New York. Once I got home I still felt as if I was on the boat. I didn’t like that at all, I had to lay down. LOL The next day I was fine and on online looking for  OUR next cruise!

And with that said… WE have already booked another 7 day CARIBBEAN CRUISE NEXT YEAR!!! My co-workers are going with us this time, plus many others!!! Yes, I plan to cruise every year!!! If I can cruise you can TOO!!

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Baby boat to take us to the island