50 Things About Me!((BLOG))

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Hey Family!!

Today I decided to write out 50 things about me. Sometimes in life we are constantly moving and we forget about ourselves and the things that makes us… US. Every so often I like to remind myself of who I am by writing or thinking about the things I love and enjoy. So, I am asking that YOU do the same thing. It may take you a while, but its worth writing down. Here we go!

  1. I HATE cheese. When I buy pizza its always….. NO cheese, extra sauce, sausage and pepperoni. People ask me… do you eat Macaroni and Cheese tho? NOPE!
  2. I LOVE squirrels. I sit at the park and video tape them running around playing with each other. They are the cutest. One day I hope one come into my home so I can take care of it.
  3. I had one baby. She’s 31 now and  was born on MY birthday September 3. I was born at 1:40 am at HUTZEL HOSPITAL and she was born at 1:43 am at HUTZEL HOSPITAL. My mom was in labor with me for 3 days, and I was in labor with her for 3 days. I am 19 years older than her. People told us we would never get along because we are so much alike, but we are BEST FRIENDS because WE ARE SO MUCH ALIKE. We understand each other PERFECTLY!
  4. When I clock in for work, I WORK! If I’m not feeling it, or feel as if I’ll be mean… ILL CALL IN! I refuse to go to work and make others feel the way I’m feeling. I’m a positive force at work, and I want it to stay that way, even if my money is on the line.
  5. My favorite PERFUMES in the world are….. Si by Giorgio Armani, Beautiful by Estee Lauder, Carolina Herrera 212 NYC, and Paloma Picasso by Paloma Picasso
  6. When my baby was just 3 months I got pregnant by her father again, and had an abortion never telling anyone but him and his best friend. Years and years later a customer I met wanted to have one, but I talked her into having her baby. She kept her baby, and bought him to meet me. We cried. God told me it was the right time to share my story, so that one could be saved. So glad I got out of my own way.
  7. I’m the oldest of 4. I’m 50 years old. I have 2 Sisters and 1 Brother. Each of us have only 1 child, except my baby sister she has 3 grown adults.
  8. I ABSOLUTELY HATE talking on the phone. I want eye contact, so everything with me is in PERSON.
  9. Out of all the friends that I have, I know one who is LOYAL TO HEART! GLORIA GLASS (( over 23 years of friendship))
  10. God ALWAYS tell me things before they happen. Visions, Dreams, and His Voice. He LOVES ME SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO MUCH!
  11. I LOVE ICE CREAM. I eat it every week. My favorites are Haaggen-Dazs Strawberry and Butter Pecan. I love chocolate with peanuts on top.
  12. I took my first cruise last year on the Norwegian Cruise Line for 7 days, got sick one day, and the rest was filled with drinking, laughing , eating and talking.
  13. I listen to MUSIC everyday. I gotta have it. It relaxes me. It loves me and I love it.
  14. I was afraid to fly. I would take the greyhound every time I went to Chicago to be with my online Ministry group. Until our Leader told me to go in a private place so that she could pray for me over the phone. Instantly, my fear of flying was lifted by God. That same night, she bought me a flight to New York for a weekend I’ll never forget.
  15. I love trees. I enjoy looking at their “arms” and strong “legs”.
  16. Dogs, Lions and Tigers are my favorite animals. When I was a kid, I asked God when I go to Heaven can I please take care of the Lions and Tigers?
  17. Before every meal I have to have a HUGE hand full of fresh raw broccoli (( straight out of the bag)) before I start my meals.
  18. Anita Baker is my FAVORITE SINGER EVER…. PERIOD! Beyonce,  Karen Clark-Sheard, Marvin Sapp, Maxwell and The Great (RIP) Gerald Levert.
  19. I started a Teens Group for over 5 years every Summer. We met every other Sunday at my home and we talked about God, family, parents, peer pressure, personal issues, and social issues. I keep in touch with them all through FB.
  20. I held several Women’s Gathering where we came together and talked about God, marriage, being single, friendships, relationships, and many other topics.
  21. I love to write and read.
  22. When you walk into my apartment you will smell my favorite plug in scent. Cashmere Woods by Glade
  23. My favorite lotions are Razac, and Bath and Body works Eucalyptus + Spearmint EVERYTHING!!!
  24. I dont put salt in any of my food unless its something I’m putting in the oven. I hate salt because when we were kids my dad would cook and put way too much salt in the food and I couldn’t eat it.
  25. I get upset when people don’t get over when EMS and Police speed by.
  26. I love being sarcastic, people always get my humor
  27. I’m a Virgo, and I’m silly as hell
  28. When it comes to taking care of business.. I’M A BEAST at getting it done.
  29. I love to multitask. I’ll never take a boring job
  30. My favorite food is Collard Greens… PERIOD!
  31. Tyler Perry is my favorite FILM MAKER
  32. I’m currently listening to Everlasting Love by Chaka Khan
  33. I HATE washing dishes, but LOVE cleaning up the bathroom
  34. I love driving. I can do 13 hours SLEEPY! Yeaaaa I’m one of them, a BEAST!
  35. Some of the things I talk about with God is so funny. I know he says to himself…. “What am I going to do with this gurl”? LOL LOL
  36. When I was a teen I asked God for Wisdom and I know he has Blessed me with this gift, but sometimes IIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIII get in the way of WHAT I KNOW.
  37. I sit in my car 15-20 minutes early for work, but I punch in DURING my 9 minute grace period. (( bad bad bad LOL))
  38. I dont eat sweets, but I LOVE food.
  39. When I’m done talking or dealing with you.. I’m done. But when I’m wrong, you will hear from me asking for forgiveness. (( check your email))
  40. I wrote a love story years ago, only listening to Maxwell’s song Submerge all the way through it
  41. One of my  favorite bands is The Brand New Heavies
  42. I’m SO private, that if you THINK you know me…. YOU DON’T!
  43. I LOVE when a man sees me for the first time, and looks at me as if I was his WIFE *turn on*
  44. I love a man who smells good! Instantly my body reacts….  *ON SPOT*
  45. I miss my great grandmother so much. When I listen to BB King’s “I like to live the life I sing about”… makes me cry, cry, cry hard.
  46.  I love walking into a room and setting it off, by my smile, friendly vibe, pleasant personalty and warm Godly spirit..
  47. All of my friends and family says I can be a drama queen… not in gossip… but in how I can heighten a conversation to 100. LOL
  48. By the time I get to the first traffic light, I curse out at least 3 people in my head SMH
  49. I’m not a jealous person at all, but I saw something on YouTube by a fan, and it ROCKED ME TO THE CORE! Devastated ME something terrible! I’m just NOW getting over it.
  50.  Sep 15, 2019 ….  I hope to get my face done by Lisa P  from Texas…. Her song goes. “She’s building, she’s blending, now she bout to be BEAT!

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Hands On/BLOG

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Hey Family!

Have you ever just sat up and thought about the things people do? Sometimes, I wonder what does God think about what his kids are “down here” doing. I know I’m a handful BY MYSELF… the thing with me tho… I’m scared of CONSEQUENCES. I don’t want no trouble.

Then I sit up and think about how people treat each other. Today I was at a 4 way traffic stop, and everyone knows you take turns going. Well, instead of this one car waiting for his turn, he took off when it wasn’t even his turn. Just pissed me off. The car that was suppose to go started blowing her horn, it was funny, but the man didn’t care. As long as he went first without waiting, he was good. But then that same guy will go home, find out his house had been broken in, and will piss a fit about it. But you’re out here being disrespectful to the 4 way……ON PURPOSE!

This lady walked through the self check out at Meijer, she had to be about in her late 50’s. She walked in saying ” I don’t know how to work this”…. loud and obnoxious. The cashier said to her, come over here let me show you. The lady says ” could you just ring me up, those things frustrates me. The cashier rung up her and again, the lady is left not knowing how to do it. I’m a teacher at heart. I worked at an Elementary School for over 9 years. I’m a hands on person. I’m not going to ALLOW you to ask me 50,000 questions without me showing and teaching you.

One day my daughter surprised me with an iPhone 5, I didn’t know how to use it or anything. I would call her every 5 minutes asking questions. I knew she was getting frustrated with me because seems as if I wasn’t getting it over the phone. But the next day  in person she said I’m going to show you the basics, she said momma you have to play with the phone, make mistakes and remember what you did. I admit I was HEATED! I wanted her to show me how to do this and that, and all these things without having to do it myself. She said momma you have to learn it  for yourself. She said you can’t go around in life asking people to do things for you without you trying it first.. I WAS MADD in my mind! OOO weeeee. I was on fiyah.  She didn’t know that. But once I got to my apartment and thought about it, I said she’s right. I need to play with this phone until I can learn how to do everything. Even if I make mistakes. Even if it takes all day. I’m going to learn how to work this phone. And I did it!

That’s the attitude I have with everything now. I will get to a machine, look at it first, figure out the buttons and what does what, then I will work it. Especially in person. I’m getting older and that’s right, I dont want to be like that lady who want everyone to help her before she even TRY to work it. They don’t want to learn, or even think about it, just like I felt. They want it done for them and on to the next. NOPE… not going to watch others ask  questions all day and not try it first. My daughter has me in the iPhone forever plan where I can upgrade whenever a new phone comes out, and since then I had the 7 and the 7 plus, now I have the iPhone X and I got this!!! No help. Hands on!

So, I write this to say, if you have parents, or friends who are quick to say.. “HELP ME, HELP ME” Show them how to do it in love, and remind them to work with it first, make mistakes, then ask questions if they cant get it. Going around in life asking everybody to HELP YOU because you don’t want to learn it, don’t have time, being lazy, or intimidated is not a reason to not learn.  This is your life. I was feeling some kinda way when my daughter told me to play with things first, but I’m glad I learned that lesson from her.

My daughter and I  bought my mom a Ipad 2 last week. I showed her how to work it, she called me a few times about it, and now she got it mastered. The same thing my daughter told me, I told my mom. She lovessssssss it. My mom will be 69 in June and I don’t want her going around saying to folks….. “HELP ME DO THIS, HELP ME”.. unless she really needs it and not because SHE DOESN’T FEEL LIKE LEARNING IT.

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My Daughter Blessed Me Today/BLOG

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Hey Family!

So, today my daughter asked me to pick her up from work because she had something for me. When I read the text, for some reason I skipped over that part, I was too busy thinking about having to get dressed.  She could tell from my text that I did not want to get out of the bed from my nap. ((LOL)) So when I got to her she couldn’t stop laughing. She said I know you were sleepy, but I have something for you at home. I laughed because she knows me so well. I told her that I thought she was playing about having something for me, and that I never paid that part any attention.

Once we got to her apartment which is directly around the corner from my apartment she went in while I waited. As she’s walking back to the car, I’m looking at watching me with a smile on her face. I didn’t know what was going on, and why she had something for me. She’s always giving me money, or buying me something, so I couldn’t figure this one out. As she gets in the car, she hands me this bag which is cute and small, not to mention my favorite color green. I opened it up and its one of my favorite perfumes in the world. Si!  By Giorgio Armani. I was so happy and so grateful!!! I could not stop laughing and looking at her. She amazes me. Always thinking about me. I hugged and kissed her.. then she says.. ” didn’t want to get out of bed today huh?” LOL She is sooooooooo funny!

Just then she hands me over a card and I’m wondering where is all of this coming from? I opened the card and this is what it read.

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I’m normally a cry baby, but this really shocked me! Then this falls out

She put $500.00 in the card!!! Thank you Lord! Thank you Jesus. As you can see in the background there are 2 money orders. I’m paying off my credit card debt and she knew that I had 2 more payments for the one and I’m done. She paid them for me. Not only that, but she put some money on my cash app card for FOOD ONLY! She made it clear that it was for food only! She told me that she wanted me to spend the money all on me, and next week she’s going to give me more than this. Not only that, but she also is paying my home Wifi bill. This is too much for me. She’s very persistent and would not ever let me give it back to her.

Now the LESSON IN ALL OF THIS…. READ CAREFULLY

I went home sat on the bed for HOURS thinking why is my daughter so good to me? For one, I’m good to my parents. I LOVE LOVE LOVE my parents. They also live around the corner from me. I take care of them and they’re always expressing this same thing to me. But I do it because they took care of us. I’m 50 years old and to me, I can NEVER EVER do enough for them. I have to get this in my head, because this is how my daughter feels about me. She’s my only child.  But as a parent I feel that was my job to take care of her, not be paid back later. In my mind, I want her to do her, I’m good. In her mind, she’s good, she wants to do me. My parents feel the same way. The point…Take care of your kids family, and they will take care of you.

I wrote a post not long ago,

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about the time when I was in my early 30’s of how I was partying a lot, drinking, talking on the phone all day, having male company over at night, neglecting the time I spent with my daughter and GOD WAS NOT PLEASED WITH ME!!! HE knows I take pride in paying my bills on time and paying it off. But they were all shut off for non payment this time! I knew he wanted to talk to me, so I waited for him to speak for over 2 weeks. What he told me blew me away. He said that the person that NESHA is to be, I am getting in the way with my foolishness. Right away I stopped talking on the phone, cut off sex, and got back into doing things with my daughter. I knew one day God would show me what he meant by that. Everyday he shows me through her. She is amazing. She’s very educated and she’s the Director of her Department doing well for herself.

God told me for my OBEDIENCE ((I did it right away)) that I am seeing fruits from it. Now I understand. Now I get why she takes care of me the way she does. God places it on her heart. I don’t need anything and I’m so grateful to God. Take care of your kids while they’re young, this way they will take care of you and it will all be from their hearts. Just as I do my parents, my daughter do for me. I love her! Thank you Jesus! Thank you!

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My Acrimony Review @tylerperry @acrimonymovie BLOG

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Hey Family

Before I can get into this movie, I will use some colorful words from time to time. If this will not be your cup of tea, I’m asking that you exit out of this BLOG entry, and I’ll see you in the next.

Thank youuuuuuuuuuuuuu!

 When the movie first came on, the look in Melinda’s eyes told me she was out of her hook up. Meaning…..CRAZY!!! You could look at her and tell she was very disturbed about something as she sat on the couch. I love to get into people’s head, and it was very easy to get into her’s to see her way of thinking. When her mom passed away and she inherited lots of money, even though I’m not sure if I would have done that much for him but If I saw potential in him, I may have helped him out. Then another part of me feel that she was too young to spend that kind of money on someone. Maybe that’s the older person in me talking, but I was her age, and I don’t see that being in my Spirit at all. LOL

The part that pissed me off was that she bought him that car, and he didn’t call her for a few days. Um cuse meeeeee…….Any woman in their right mind would do a “ride by” his place to see if they could see another woman.  I’m not going to buy you are car, and you diss me for a few days. Nope! I would have never thrown the brick through his car,  or ran through the trailer home the way she did but I would have knocked on the door.   Aint NO WAY….. this Virgo would leave there and not find out was someone there with him. But She suffered the consequences of doing that, by never being able to carry a baby. If he got mad and asked why didn’t I call first, I would have told his ass, because dammit you aint been calling and I wanted to make sure you were okay. (( looking around for evidence of another woman)). But when Mel realized it was another woman over, I would have nutted up too. Flat out! I don’t hit or fight, but I would have cursed him coming and going. But I did love the fact that he left Diana alone  after that incident, and he and Melinda eventually got married.  

One factor in Melinda being “crazy” is that she didn’t mind supporting his dream, but this Negro wanted to “baby” this dream all day every day. He should have did more to support her. He should have at least work part time to help her out with the bills, That took a toll on her. After a while any person would be like… “Come on naw shit, we still gotta pay bills around here”. I’m not about to work 2 jobs, slowly lose my husband, and deal with tension in the house because I’m becoming fed up with everything. He should have met her half way. He should have considered her feelings a little bit more. There is nothing wrong with having a dream, but you can’t watch your mate do all the work. That’s just not fair. That’s selfish and unacceptable.

But too, I see his side. He was focused, driven, knew his worth. He KNEW in his heart that this dream was going to take off. He knew it. It was just a matter of when. He was hoping that his wife would just hold on just a little bit longer and everything she went through would pay off. But she was growing bitter by the day. She didn’t know how much she could take of his promises of taking care of her. They were sinking in their NOW… and he should have done more to make her feel secure. To make her feel like still loving him.

Those Sisters! One thing about me and my 2 Sisters, we DO NOT talk about what goes on (( the bad)) in our relationships. I love my brother n law (( my baby sister is married)) and as long as they are NOT FIGHTING AND CHEATING on each other. I don’t care. I want to look him in the eye never knowing any of his shortcomings. I want to enjoy myself around them, and not know their business, unless they are both in the room and they want to ask my opinion ((( and they always do lol)). In this movie (( which was so dayum good)) these sisters knew too much. OMG, they kept the secrets of their nothing husbands to themselves, but LIVED in Melinda’s. That’s a lesson in itself. Somethings you keep to yourself. Many times Sisters and Family really want the best for you, and will not tolerate anyone using you, I get that. But these Sisters were wrong in somethings, and stepped way over the line of what they knew. They caused her to lose everything, being too far in her BUSINESS! I don’t play that shit at all! I don’t want to know all of yours, and you’re not going to know MINES.

Okay, so Melinda told her husband to get out after the Sisters “caught a plane” to her house and told her about the wallet. I kinda believe that Diana left it in the truck on purpose. How the hell does a woman forget she doesn’t have her wallet? Women don’t forget about those things. We realize that its missing right away. We can go in our purse and know something is missing from it. She needed Melinda to know she was back on the scene, she left it on purpose. Made me mad!! Then when she got it back, she act like she didn’t know it was missing… gurlbye

During the time the Sisters broke their necks to tell Melinda about the wallet, her husband was in the meeting about his invention. I almost walked out the movies (( not for real, but in my mind)) when he turned down that $800.000. I said nigga are you serious right now? Your wife just lost her mothers house, you haven’t held down a job in God knows how long, your wife is pissed at you forEVA, and you turn down this kinda money? You must be out your eva loving mind.. But you know what? When you know your worth, and you know what they’re offering you is garbage, and you know they know, that this is more money than you have ever seen, they are expecting for him to take the deal. But, HE KNEW HIS WORTH. And in his mind he would rather walk out and “try again”, than to be undersold. I loved that about him. I had to put my anger aside about the situation and think on a higher level. I hate that Melinda was so far gone in her mind about everything, that SHE COULDN’T see the bigger picture. Sitting in that theater I couldn’t either at first. I had to think about it. That was another thing that caused her to lose her marriage.

When he came up to her job, with the check, keys, and flowers she was still mad. At some point if it was meeeeeeee. I would have been happy to see him and really paid attention to what he had to say. He still loved her and wanted it to work. Bitterness had already set in and she was done with him …. for a minute. That’s when she went home thought about everything and nutted up on her sisters and their husbands. That’s when she came to realize that her husband didn’t cheat, he still loved her and wanted it to work, and not only that, but, he finally got the money that he deserved from his invention. She started thinking and realized that she still loved her husband, and she wanted him back.

She was too late. I’m not sure how much time went by before she went to his place and met back up with Diana. Ohhh, I hated that part. I HATED when she said… “Hi, I’m Diana, I’m Robert’s fiance.”  Like it was okay to be Diana at that time. I was on fire sitting in my seat. Now, I have no problem with him moving on, and having someone new…. but DIANA FROM BACK IN THE DAY.. OH HELL NAW… Not gon be able to do that one. Yes, I know Melinda had the chance to get her husband back many and plenty of times, and true she didn’t go for it. But to finally come to your senses and to find out your EX-Husband is with a gurl he got caught cheating on back in the day…. JUST NOT GOING TO WORK FOR ME. Now, would I do all those things she did to them? Never, I would never put that much energy into them like that. Never ever. But I would be highly pissed!

Melinda went home thought about everything she did for this man, and she became enraged. Now, I wonder if she would have felt that way if it was someone else. See, that’s the big picture for me. That’s a hard pill to swallow when your EX husband met back up with and marries the same gurl BACK IN THE DAY that he cheated on you with. I’m not sure if she would have been that crazy had it been a new gurl. Because yesssssss, at this point…. she WANTED THE MAN…  THE MAN..  THE MAN.

He had already given Melinda the money back, she was cool with that part. She wanted the man and that’s how I felt. I would want my man back too. Then here comes Diana reaping the benefits of the man he is now. HELL NAW.. I would be mad too. I can deal with the fact that he’s moved on… but just not with her. NOPE…. Not gon be able to do that Tyler. But, in the end I would be quiet and allow God to heal me, because I would surely need it.

Then….. Diana says in court which for real almost made me have a stroke in the movies, when she said something like… its okay, I cant fit the dress anyway … because I’m pregnant.(( Something like that)) You could have poured gasoline all over me and set me on fire in the movies, I wouldn’t have felt anything.  I was numb!! Here Melinda is cant have any kids because of what happened back in the day…. and HERE YOU COME DIANA… and you’re pregnant with his baby……I was DONE! LOL Aint go lie… I was HEATED! I remember slouching down in my chair mad as hell! See women know when they let a BUM go on with his life. We have no regrets about those types leaving our lives. We know the difference. But a good man like Robert, its just not that easy to move on with your life without thinking about it daily for a while.

I hope that Melinda isn’t dead, maybe Tyler could revisit that story and allow her to find some peace about the situation. Sadly, I know a few people this story applies too. I really enjoyed this movie because it made me feel some kinda way, made me think about a certain situation that I think about often.  I learned that you really have to let go of things, because it could drive you crazy. I wonder if she is still alive, how in the world could she come back from that, and still be a sane person? How would she deal with the fact that she believes this lady is “living her life.”

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Fix My Life/Blog

Hey Family!

I just finished watching Part 3 of Iyanla Fix My Life, and as usual I’m sitting here crying like a baby. I’ll stop, then start back up again. If you want to see all 3 parts they are all ONLINE. Go ahead and BLESS yourself, its a life lesson we can all learn from.

It’s so heartbreaking to see grown adults who can’t get past their childhood, because their parents dont want to take responsibility. There is so much finger pointing, and blaming among the adult siblings, that they neglect the fact that what happened to them is NONE OF THEIR FAULT!

They had parents who BOTH were on drugs. The system took them away and they were all split up. As a result, they were abused, beating, molested, and degraded. The part that hurt me the most is, while they were adopted differently, they all thought that others were LIVING BETTER THAN THE NEXT. Meaning, the one and only Sister thought that her brothers were loved more than her. She thought the reason why her mom was not with her, was because she thought they were with their mom. The boys came on the show and said.. NO! We thought she was with you!!! Wow, and the mother allowed her kids to believe that LIE FOR ALL THOSE YEARS!!!! Little does she know that adds more guilt to her healing.

In the end, there was a breakthrough. They were all willing to forgive both their parents, that’s the great part, but were the parents able to forgive THEMSELVES? I say that to say, in the update, the Mother still wasn’t calling her daughter or making time to spend with her daughter. I take it as the Mother hasn’t forgiven herself. I wonder what did the mother take from the show? The father is VERY ACTIVE in his kids life. He’s making the effort to talk to his boys every week. I am so proud of him.

I’m hoping and praying that the amount of Power this family have, they could communicate their feelings toward each other more, and work on being together often.

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Sooooooooooooooo. this morning very early around 7ish. I was busy doing “something”, and in the middle of that, I asked God to show me a sign. Never in a million years did I think I would get it TODAY… the very same day. Its just amazing to me. Now I’m scared (( not really))  and have anxiety. I don’t want to control anything anymore. I’m letting God take care of me and letting him work things out. He is toooooooo much for me.. (( In a good way)) Now what am I suppose to do?  Smiling and SHY

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Close friend /BLOG

 

I have a very close friend who happens to be my BOSS. I love this gurl as if she was my own sister. I’m 15 years older than her, I need to add. She’s a Virgo like me, she’s funny,  she means business, and she plays NO GAMES. I’m a Virgo too and what makes us good friends, is that we are alike in so many ways, its not even funny.

NOW!!!

At work everyone knows how close we are. Everyone knows that we’ve been knowing each other since 2003 for a very long time. But for the last 5 years we’ve gotten very close.

I love and RESPECT her to the utmost. She’s my BOSS. Anything she tells me to do, I do it. I don’t give her lip, I don’t go back and forth, I do it. Our Communication is excellent and she doesn’t have to get on me about my work, or even threaten to write me up. I always want others to see that yes, she’s my BOSS and yes, I respect her, and our friendship. I would NEVER disrespect our work relationship with our friendship.

WITH THAT SAID…….

My friend doesn’t not know how to punch out AT work and turn the BOSS button OFF.

She’s a single Mother of 4, and even though she punches out from WORKING she has to stay in BOSS mode for her kids when she gets home. Okay, cool…..  I get that.

But when it comes to MEEEE… I don’t play that BOSS mode after we punch out. I’m La’Crease, my own woman. I do what I want to do, I change my mind when I want to and I DO THINGS MY WAY. She can NOT seem to turn off her BOSS button WITH ME and its effecting our friendship. After work sometimes we shop, I may take my time, and some days I may shop fast because I’m ready to go home.  I NEVER, EVER, shop with other women because in the past, I find that women shop differently. When I’m ready to go… I’m ready to GO! But my BOSS on the other hand, she shops fast sometimes, and no matter what, by me knowing I have my own car outside, I can chose to stay with her, or leave. There have been times in the past, where she goes into BOSS mode and want me to hurry up, or stop talking to others that I see (( I know a lot of people)) so that we can leave. Okay, fine she has a right to be ready to leave. BUT UNDERSTAND I DROVE MY OWN CAR, AND SHE CAN LEAVE WHENEVER SHE WANTS.. IM NOT MAD, IM HAPPY!  This gurl, gets mad and declare she is gone and that she’s tired of me talking to everybody. Which pisses me off, its not that you did it, its how you do it. This is why I ALWAYS drive MY OWN CAR. I never ride with anyone. That also have created tension. When you ride with people (( talking about someone else now)) especially women with strong personalities, they ALWAYS want you to ride with them. That’s how they control where we go, how long we stay, what time we go home. I DON’T PLAY THAT.. I drive MY OWN CAR. So when I’m ready to go, I’M GONE! I don’t want to hear no guilt tripping, or asking me why I’m leaving so early,  why Im not ready to go yet or why this or that.

We had a long talk about this yesterday with 2 other people. I kinda think she felt some kinda way after I told her she doesn’t know how to turn off the BOSS/MANAGER button OFF THE CLOCK. I told her that I’m a BOSS myself and I do what I want to do. I told her after work, I am a different person that I am at work. I’m submissive and very tuned into my work and I’m very respectful of Authority on the CLOCK.. BUT WHEN IM OFF THE CLOCK THAT’S MY TIME. I PLANT MANAGE AND SUPERVISE WHAT I DO.

Meaning when we’re out, and I want to leave early, that’s my business. I drove MY OWN CAR (( NEVER EVER ASKING ANYONE TO PICK ME UP)), then I’ll go home. I’m NOT at work and under a schedule of leaving at a certain TIME. Which is something she is use too. If  I change my mind about something, I CAN DO THAT BECAUSE I’M GROWN AND ON MY TIME! She’s having a huge problem with that. She can’t separate the two. She’s always on BOSS mode, and I’m not mad at her, but she seems to have a hard time accepting and dealing with my personality off clock, which is very different when I’m on the clock.

She also takes my ” Off the clock personality” PERSONAL. I told her stop doing that. This is MEEEEEEEEE off the clock. It has nothing to do with you. I don’t do what you say. I don’t always agree with what you agree with. I am La’Crease, and I live alone, pay my own bills, have my own EVERYTHING, I come to work and do I do everything you ask of me…. BUT AFTER WORK AND ON MY TIME……. I DO MY OWN THANG WHENEVER I WANT TOO. I’M THE BOSS OF ME. Of course I said it in a nice way, but still she’s not use to THESE words, she’s used to me saying… Okay I’ll get it done.

I love my friend, but she gotta get it through her mind…. on the clock, she’s my BOSS, off the CLOCK.. I’m THE BOSS!

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