Virgo Men

msvirgocreefameHmmm just something I found interesting. I met a Virgo in my parking lot last week. I dated a Virgo man in the past, and he was weird. We always argued, and he always showered me with gifts.. .THEN WANTED THEM BACK. I’ve met several Virgo men lately, and I need to understand why they all seem to be alike. This is the best piece yet I found on line by someone name Lisa… on a VIRGO MAN.

Virgo Men

I have to say, out of all the signs in the zodiac this one is the most perplexing in a relationship. Virgo men are incredibly critical when it comes to themselves and that will spill over to their ,relationships. I have never met, nor read for a Virgo male that was happy in their current state. Living for the moment is NOT their strong suit and their minds are so hyper analytical they create more problems for themselves and their lovers than solutions.

A Virgo male is what I like to call “fire and ice”. When they have an interest in a woman they believe in courting her. They may not have even spoken to her yet, but through his observations he has “summed up” just whom he thinks she is. He has created little scenario’s in his mind, and he’s begun to write a script of the relationship that hasn’t even started yet. He will woo her, be attentive, listen intently to all she says, taking notes and remembering fine details of all she says. He is a gentleman in every sense of the word. This man will make you feel as though you are not only the only woman in the room but the only woman on the planet as well. He’s known for luxury, comfort and fine things. He will open car doors, pull out your chair, order for you, and even gingerly feed her ice cream. He will call the next day, send texts wishing you a “good morning”, and he will be highly romantic. He sounds like dream come true. But remember, everyone has a shadow side and this man’s shadow side is the complete opposite. Remember, I stated he has an analytical mind and he will over analyze and blow up even the tiniest of things.

Once the courtship is solidified and the relationship cemented and this man feels secure that you belong to him he begins to unravel it. He will dissect every aspect of the relationship, not so much to pick YOU apart, but because of his own critical nature of the self he tends to find fault with a great deal. He idealizes so many things, and you are NOT sticking to the script he wrote of your love affair that he tends to manipulate it so it follows said script. He will stop with compliments and now he will give “helpful suggestions” which sound a lot like demands and dissection of your entire character. He can be brutal with this and it can and will be wounding. Mostly it’s wounding because before you could do no wrong, you were perfect, and now he’s finding fault with everything.

The more you try to please this man, the more you will fail. He likes independent, yet domestic women. He loves sensuality, but not overtly sexual women. He loves a great sense of humor, but never at his expense. You must be intelligent, self sufficient and someone who is strong, yet he wants to be needed. He’s a walking, talking contradicition. This is a man who wants it all, and he will refuse to settle for less. This is why most Virgo men tend to marry very late in life, or not at all.

Once you begin the tragic circle of jumping through hoops to mold, shift and change for him, he will lose a great deal of respect for you. He may become enraged when you stand ground, but I will tell you he will respect you for it. You never want to lose the respect of Virgo, for once you do, you lose their attention.

CONTROL should be a the middle name of a Virgo male. And many times in an effort to control aspects of their own lives they, in turn, attempt to control aspects of yours, though they don’t see it this way. It’s their life, you happen to be part of it, therefore you are subjected to their insatiable need for such control. That is how they view it. When you express your desires, needs, and wants, they will fulfill them only if it fits into what they want for their own lives. They appear to be very black and white thinkers, but I will tell you that under the surface you will never find another sun sign that worries, stresses or fears the worst than a Virgo male. Their minds are constantly working on a problem, but their actions in fixing said problem in a relationship are limited, and if they can get YOU TO CHANGE instead of changing themselves they will always choose that option. They don’t see what they are doing most of the time and how they have the ability to truly damage their lovers self esteem.

Virgo men are loyal, despite the bad reputation they may have earned. These men crave attention but the attention they crave is one that they are successful, helpful, respected, etc. It’s not really of a shallow nature, though their vanity does tend to get in their way, and Virgo men embrace aging much like a fading movie star sitting in a botox chair…the fight it every step of the way. But in relationships, they may give you the illusion he has other options, and he may, but he is highly selective and may be venturing into more of an emotional or mental affair more so than a physical one. They don’t bed a bevvy of women for instant gratification, there has to be more to it than sex for a virgo male.

They are also creatures of habit. I find them to be very predictable and ending relationships is not their strong suit. They tend to do so in a cut and dry manner, they shut down, withdraw and silence. They won’t return your calls, nor your texts, but they won’t tell you to “get lost” either. They tend to hold onto the past as they may regret their decision and want to revisit it. They are notorious for having explosive break ups, turning a tiny disagreement into a full blown brawl. They walk out, fall silent but make no mistake they are so sure of your love for them they will wait by that phone for the apology they feel they so richly deserve (even if they started the battle). As time goes by and you are not calling they become even more angry, bitter and resentful. But, and this is a big but, they are also known to reappear without warning, and attempting to discuss the issue long after you’ve moved on and forgotten about it. This causes many women bewilderment and they cannot figure out what the game plan is here. Is he trying to reconcile? Did he miss me? What’s he doing? What he’s doing is seeking validation that you are still waiting for him, and if you give him that, you will be placed back up on that shelf to collect dust only to be taken down and played with whenever he needs to feel secure again. It’s a horrible catch 22.

What keeps a woman going back to a virgo man is when he’s good he’s amazing. But when he’s bad he’s the most heartbreaking of men. He can make you feel alive, desired and wanted beyond measure, then with icy silence cut you off and make you feel utterly disposable. I wish I could tell you he wasn’t aware he’s doing this, but he’s well aware of it, and he’s so caught up in his own emotions, wants, needs and desires that yours aren’t even on his mind.

The best way to deal with a Virgo male in a love relationship is to be honest, up front and stand for your beliefs. If he insults or wounds you try to remove emotion from it and speak matter of factly. Emotions don’t hold a lot of weight and he’ll see you as out of control. Be very direct and state your case. If he tries to engage in battle walk away! Don’t engage. It won’t be pretty because this man will pull out all the ammo in an effort to win this battle. He’ll bring up your drunken mother, you’re cheating ex, and how you need dental work. There is nothing off limits when this man wants to attack. Fight the urge to retort. If he starts to get nasty, walk away and tell him you’ll discuss it when he’s not being so immature. A Virgo male hates to feel in inferior and when YOU are the more rational one he will stop his antics. If you insult him back not only will it get worse, but you will pay for it for weeks, perhaps months. They are like elephants, they never forget.

Secondly, don’t give this man ultimatums. He doesn’t respond to them, and if forced to move faster than he’s comfortable with he will retreat and leave you behind wondering WTF?

Remember, he is an earth sign. He does not move fast with anything. This man is cautious, meticulous, a perfectionist, a bit OCD, high worrier, and critical. He takes great time and care doing every task from buying a home, marriage proposal to making a sandwich. It can be maddening especially if you’re a fire sign and move quickly and follow your intuition. This man questions himself constantly so he won’t move in haste. He is always looking for a better option, and he’s frugal. He loves fine things, and may blow 10K on a gadget that is of quality rather than settle for something cheaper to do the trick. He’s a hard worker, but he has spouts of it. He’ll work non stop for 3 months without a break, then crash from exhaustion and hibernate cutting off everything and everyone to recharge. He doesn’t give a warning, he just retreats, again leaving you wondering if you did something wrong. Only to reappear without excuse, apology or explanation.

The best way to get along well with a Virgo male is to allow him the space he needs to do what he needs to do. Only lend advice when it’s asked for (he doesn’t take advice well). Stay true to your desires, for if you work your life around this man you will forever be doing so. Set boundaries with him. If he crosses a line with you, tell him blankly, and stick to it. He will challenge your boundaries. Be authentic. He won’t appreciate a dishonest, phoney person. The best advice I can give is know who you are, know what you want, what you stand for and what you will NOT tolerate, because if you go into a relationship with a Virgo male and you are seeking validation and/or expecting him to make you a secure person you will end up worse off than you were before.

Blessings, Lisa

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256 thoughts on “Virgo Men

  1. Thank you for this great article… It helped me to understand more the man I love who is unfortunately a virgo. I am aries and I hate when he plays hot and cold though I know he loves me too. It seems like he is not even aware of the fact that he hurts me sometimes by being cold as ice. I would give myself and advice after reading this and that would be: Stay calm and just ignore his distant moments. When he comes back play cool. If I don’t try this I will FREAK OUT and I when I freak out its not nice. LOL
    Regards and thank you again

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      1. What an amazing read. Thanks! My ex husband is a Virgo and you described him perfectly. My boyfriend is a Virgo as well, but he is so different from the ex husband. The ex, he called and checked on me all the time. I attribute that to his first wife having cheated on him. The boyfriend can go days without any contact and when he sees me he hugs me so tight and doesn’t want to let go. Holding hands as we walk, hugging me or touching me in some fashion. Constant displays of affection. When he doesn’t reply to a text and I have had enough of being ignored…I tell him so. He immediately replies and apologizes. When I once said I’m done calling and texting you, BOOM…again, he calls me and says that’s not nice. That I am being mean. When he is with me, he is a playful child. All 6 feet 6 inches of him! Incredible to see how he is with me. He told me he loved me first. He tells me to let him know when I need money or need anything, that it’s his responsibility to care for me. But…as much as I want to feel that way with him, his lack of communication makes me feel distant from him. When we are together it’s bliss. Yet…the alone and or down time a Virgo “requires” makes me feel alienated and alone.

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    1. Did you ever try that? How did it work on you played cool when he came back from the cold ice?
      Im Aries dating a Virgo man too. I got same problem 😦

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      1. Aries/Virgo is,a recipe for disaster. Aries cannot STAND to be controlled and contol is Virgo’s MO. Good luck, girl!

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    2. Hi! i know this is old but i am an Aries too dating a Virguy for a year now…i always feel so confused….he is steady but sooooo slow with his feelings…one year and no I love you yet because he is not 100% sure that something might be missing but i think it has to do with his idealizatoin of things..he is a good guy and shows that he loves me and that he wants to be with me because he never gave up and he tries to be better but oh dear…the impatience of aries doesnt help on this

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      1. I too am an Aries and I can tell you from experience…Virgo men are odd and downright narcissistic. Ended a 6 yr relationship with my V 2 months ago. He was always scratching for faults un me and reasons why are relationship wouldn’t work. I finally woke up one day and realized my worth and I left… and he LET me go. I suppose there is a zodiac sign that will mesh with these V guys, but Aries is not the one! Aries are way too feisty and confident to be controlled…which is what these guys try to do to you. I wish you well, hopefully your story has a HAPPY ending 🙂

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      2. Although I am a Virgo woman, I will never date another Virgo man. NARCISSISTIC!!! Still healing after a 1 1/2 from being discarded. I was dying a slow death and didn’t realize it until I was out. I will never figure him out or the relationship.

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      3. Wow. It sounds like you were with the same man I was with….lol. I am a Virgo woman and can’t handle a Virgo man. They are narcissistic, very controlling, blaming, selfish, negative and critical. He discarded me and after 1 1/2 years I ran into him at Starbucks and he was very negative about everything. He got a new girlfriend right after me…..don’t know how she is doing it. I am finally starting to be my old self but better. Smiling and laughing again. He sucked the life right out of me.

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      4. Hi Deborah.Mine got a ne gf right away too! They need a constant source of ego fuel (and sex) so they latch onto the first needy woman who comes along lol. I wish I could Warren this girl because she’s really nice, and she also has a small child. However, everyone has to learn for themselves. If someone had told me in the beginning of my relationship with him that he was as vile as he was I would have never believed them I’m happy to hear that you’re happy and have moved on 🙂

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  2. This article describes exactly how I am. I really enjoyed this article. Thank you for posting it. Now it’s time for me to analyze my faults and be a better man.

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    1. It’s do attractive about you as a Virgo when you realize your faults and try to correct it. I love Virgo men …down to earth. I hated them before ..I’m an Aquarius woman.

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      1. @sangeeta good luck with loving Virgo men they are annoying no emotion what so ever I dault with them in two different points in my life it’s funny bcus the two that I have dault with happen to have the same birthday and they really are the same person with a slight age difference the one I mess with now is younger than me but honestly he acts no different from my ex who is older than me. The difference with me now dealing with him versus my ex I know how to play his game I know what signs to look for I know when to walk away and allow him to come back but the thing is no matter how much you do that they will always make you suffer for playing with them even though they do it to you so many times when they feel like it. be careful with them they play games to the point it will have you thinking that you are crazy remember everything to them is a thinking game nothing is ever done from the heart meaning they use their brains not their heart. I am a Scorpio and that’s all I know how to do is use my heart I gave both my Virgo men my heart the first time I was so heart broken but this time it kinda hurts but I look at it more as to that’s his lost he will never find anyone like me and yes he has been calling me but late night like booty call hours I’m not accepting it I havnt replied to any texts or calls until he contacts me at a reasonable hour after 8 his feelings for me has not changed which is weird to me but that’s how they are me and my ex we’re dealing with each for 2 years and I found out that he was living with another girl his daughters mother when I found he blamed me this was a man that was always around me stayed at my house all the time etc he never said he loved me never put any effort into anything and I can see the same with this Virgo….They are weird but they are easy to be attracted too

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  3. Same here: an Aries woman in love with a Virgo man. Exactly the same, and he drives me crazy. I wish I could just fly away and not even remember him. But it’s not easy.
    Anyway, at least now I know what might be the matter with him (and with me) and I won’t think I’m crazy anymore. The worst thing is that among my Virgo male friends (like 10-12) only one of them seems more or less balanced. The others seem quite out of their minds from time to time. So it looks like there is no hope with these guys; this really makes me feel very sad.
    Great article, great help. Thank you.

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    1. I know…. and its so sad.. because they are really good people. They have a hard time trusting, and staying in the picture without running out…and *giving you/himself time out*. Thanks for reading

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  4. I’m in a “situation” with a Virgo man and he is acting exactly as you describe. Made a mountain out of a molehill and 6 weeks later he’s still trying to torment me about it. At first, I tried to work with him. Now, I’m standing my ground on not tolerating nonsense. He calls randomly and tries to bait me and I hang up every time. Now he won’t stop calling. Sometimes I answer, Sometimes I don’t. When I do, I explain that I’m not dealing with his BS and won’t answer his calls for days. He might be strong, but I’m stronger. I’m a Virgo woman.

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    1. Stand your ground!!!! Im a Virgo too… and the men Virgo I’ve ran into are something else. But its funny I say that because all of my family and friends say that Im something else too. LOL LOL I love my Virgo men… I do….. BUT YOU MUST NEVER BACK DOWN FROM THEM.. OR THEY WILL EAT YOU ALIVE!!!!!!

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    2. i love this…wish am a virgo woman but am a cancer dating a virgo and am seriously freaking out…i want to forget him but i cant! #sad.

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      1. Yes thanks so much! Yesterday he unfollowed me on instagram but my instagram is in public mode anyhow haha. . He did not unfriend me on FB though I wonder why! And his last seen on whatsapp is 3days back.. I wonder if he is really busy with work or what

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      2. Hey!!! I know you were like.. really unfollow me? These men will have you wondering what is going on with them. What ever you do, don’t stay too long trying to figure him out, it will wreck your brain!! lol lol

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      3. Ikr!! I am just wondering if these men crawl back after sometime when they get their lil heads straight or disappear and never come back! If there is no chance of him coming back than I think I will move on haha! Its just that he told me do many things n he was supposed to visit me next month 😦 On 13 Dec 2015 8:48 pm, “I AM La’Crease” wrote:

        > lacrease commented: “Hey!!! I know you were like.. really unfollow me? > These men will have you wondering what is going on with them. What ever you > do, don’t stay too long trying to figure him out, it will wreck your > brain!! lol lol”

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  5. Hi just a question. I met a virgo trough friends, first I wasn’t very interested in him but after a time I get some vibes that he might be nicer to me than to other people, who he knew for exact the same time like me. I always told myself not be over-whelming about him.. i just knew it’s way better to stay easy and calm. than first he just told me hello or smiled at me, what he never did to others, second when we met each other in a bar or something he ALWAYS found his way to me. I never searched for his attention (I still don’t do it)! We had and have a great chemistry and over the time we get a little closer.. not in a physical way but on the interpersonal level. His friends describe him always as someone, who is very loyal and that’s what counts for me.
    so actually this is going on since last year and we didn’t saw each other for about 5 months now.. what happend when we saw each other again is.. he searched my attention (again!) and he kissed me in the end of the day.
    I have to say that he is in a really long relationsship and they don’t even live in the same country BUT his best friends always told me (when I asked how things were going for the virgo man) that he would never cheat on his girlfriend and he never did.
    Once another friend came to me and told me that i should keep distance from the virgo man because he had a lot of things going on, which wasn’t really good but I never searched for his attention or something- I always mind my own business, it was him, who needed my closeness.

    This whole situation confuses me to death. not that I’m sitting here and thinking about him every minute but I can’t find any solution to this.
    I just don’t understand his motivation!

    After the kiss, I gave him my number and told him.. when he is feeling already he could write me a message or something. How expected (its been a week now) he didn’t wrote me and that’s absolutely fine for me.. because I still have to figure out for myself what I want and what this whole thing means to him / means to me.

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  6. Well I only went on this to read about Virgo man because a Virgo just left me and his 4 months child and already dating around. If I only read this earlier… But from my understanding, ones Virgo is done, he is not coming back…which is super sad since I would try my best to work things out with the father of my child. 😦 plus someone I truly loved.

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    1. Im so sorry to hear this. I hope that wants to build a relationship with his child, even if you and him are not seeing each other anymore. Some Virgo men really don’t know what they want in life especially if they’re young. He may not come back to the relationship fully ( he may try the back and forth after he realizes its nothing out there) but you have to be firm with them. They are something different… and can you believe that Im a VIRGO TOO? LOL females are different… Take care Sis 🙂

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      1. 🙂 he has a relationship with his daughter. And I am very happy with that. Just upsetting how sudden he has moved on from having a family to come home to, to something new and exciting. I guess only time will tell. But a woman and a man zodiac signs have such different characteristics … I am a Sag, and I can’t get along with my mothers bf at all when he is a Sag also lol!

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      2. Hey.. lol lol oh wow about your moms bf… Men sag are so cocky,,, i can only deal with them for so long. Yeah I see what you mean by your daughters father just moving on.. They have a hard time knowing what they want.. they are some all over the place MEN. tRUST ME.. HE’LL BE BACK!

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  8. My Virgo man confuses me greatly. He’s hot and cold, but has never really complimented me, never told me he loves me. It’s been 9 months, I haven’t met any of he’s family or friends. I would love to spend the rest of my life with him but feel he doesn’t want the same, he won’t talk about these matters. I feel like I’m ‘put on the shelf’ alot of the time. He’s 45 and never lived with anyone.
    Any advice on this truly weird/amazing/ frustrating Virgo man would be greatly received, I’m almost at my wits end, ready to move on.

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    1. Oh wow wow wow!!!! I’m a Virgo female, and I attract many Virgo men. To me…. their communication skills is the thing that have me running EVERYTIME. They are great people, so in touch with your feelings and thoughts. But they over analyze things too much and they live inside of their head. They may look at your dress and say to themselves.. “she looks good in that”.. but for some reason it never comes out of their mouth, even though they are showing you all the signs in the world that it he feels it looks good. They can be very, very secretive. My daughter is 28 a Virgo born the same day as myself. She’s very secretive and will not let me meet anyone she dates… her reason is because she has to make sure he is the right man for her. I’m the same way too.. I wont let any guy I date meet my friends because its a waste of time if they are not the one for me. But its something different about the Virgo man, they are too hot and too cold. They have a hard time communicating what they feel WHEN ITS MOST IMPORTANT. Now they can be verbal… but they cant seem to handle “tough” to the point questions. These men are great people, they just live too much inside of their heads. They think too much. You have to constantly “figure” out what it is that their thinking.

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      1. Yes you have summed my virguy up completely (well that’s if we’re still on) I’ve no clue. I’m sure he’s looked at me many times and thought she looks good in that, but wouldn’t dream of saying or believe they have said something because he said it in he’s head. I’m really starting to think about moving on, I don’t want to be on my own for the rest of my life. I’m broken hearted I want him !! Grrrr
        Why can’t we communicate ! It’s very, very much like hard work, do I want this !?!?

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      2. Wow… this is so funny.. not laughing funny.. but funny in how these men seem to be alike. THEY ARE GREAT MEN.. they just have a hard time communicating… My daughter is about to give up on her Virgo too because the same issue.. NOTHING ELSE… COMMUNICATION.. AT some point.. you have to make the decision… because LEAVE IT TO THEM.. THEY WONT SAY A WORD!

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      1. Okay, I gonna try to make it short….lol

        I am A Gemini…He is the Virgo (that is getting on my nerves)

        I have been talking to this Virgo for over a year now and every time we come close to building anything together one of us goes and ruins it.

        I ruined it the first time around by telling him that I needed my space, so I broke it off with him. I told him that we could still be friends. He was acting very clingy and jealous…..I started to feel trapped.

        He seem okay with being just friends at first. However, in class that next day..he was acting VERY spiteful. He started flirting with another girl in class..all in her ear..just being real extra. He never flirted with me like that…he has never even complimented me…

        I knew he liked me though, because he asked me out all the time and he also stared at me all the time during lectures in class.

        He did hurtful things throughout that entire semester though.He would purposely seek out women to flirt with that I was friends with! He was so calculating. If I would try to have a friendly conversation with one of the women..he would come over and distract them from me. He would start texting them right there…so they could stop talking to me. I was convinced that he was evil.

        I really wanted to talk to him to tell him about himself,but I didn’t want him to know he had made me angry.He would speak to me every now and then..and act like we were friends again.Then he would be right back cold towards me.Ignoring me in class..but still getting jealous when I flirted with other guys.

        Fast forward to now and we reconnected on Facebook back in February. Of course he pretended like everything was all cool. He has asked me to have dinner with him about 4 times now. I keep declining saying I have to work or I am just too busy to go out with him right now. I dont trust him at all. I feel like he is going to hurt me even worse.

        Well, I haven’t talked to him in almost 3 weeks now…and now he has resorted to poking me on Facebook.I messaged him the other day..and he never replied to my message. That was about 6 days ago. Why wont he go away for good? I deleted him off my Facebook, yesterday,….but I have a feeling he is gonna just gonna pop back up again one day.

        I also think it crazy of him to keep going on my Facebook profile using the poke feature and poking me…then he does not reply to text messages.

        Who does that? Is he just crazy?..lol Was I right to delete him and try to distance myself away from him?

        I think I am going to avoid dating Virgos after him…:/

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      2. These VIRGO MEN.. makes me laugh!!!! They have a WAY of bringing all the attention back on them no matter what happened!!!! HE knows how to manulate the situation. and when it was texting and flirting with those gurls, he knew it would make you act a certain way. HE WAS LOVING IT!!! SMILING AND PICKING UP ON ALL YOUR EMOTIONS… OMGGGGGGGGG… I wrote a story on here about myvirgo friend who knew i was knocking on his door, and blowing his cellphone up. HE WAS THERE ALL THE TIME.. LAUGHING AT ALL THE ATTENTION I WAS GIVING TO HIM ABOUT THAT…. I CUT HIM OFF AND CHANGED MY PHONE NUMBER!!!! IM A VIRGO TOO. SO I KNOW THE GAME THEY PLAY. But gurl lol lol yes he keeps poking you because he enjoys the attention you give him. If he ever feels that you are cutting him off for good, he will get bolder with how he gets your attention. I dont understand for the life of me.. WHY WONT THEY JUST GO AWAY… I WISH I COULD ANSWER THAT.. OMGGGGGG.. maybe I wouldnt have such issues with them lol lol. Oh and yes… by cutting him off on FB will either 1. make him go through other routes to reach you.. OR
        2. Say oh well. she’s done with me for sure this time.. I’ll leave her alone.

        Those male Virgos wont let you love them and enjoy them without them acting childish after a while. Ughh.. But I do love them.. they are funny.

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  9. Thanks for answering my question!

    Lol..you are so Right! He had this stone look on his face when I was chatting with those women. He didnt like the fact that I wasnt acting snobby with them. He is so childish. I swear to god if he ever contacts me again I am going to curse him out..I am so serious. Unless, he apologized for his actions then I could maybe forgive him then.

    I dont see him having the nerve to contact me again though. Especially since he never messaged me back the other day.He is just trying to get someone to feed his ego now I guess..but I am not the one for that.

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    1. You are so welcome!!! One thing about them, if they see you are “playing” the back and forth game.. they will play it for ever!!!! LOL Sad but true

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      1. Hi Lacrease! This is Vanessa. The one that wrote about the Virgo Guy who I blocked on Facebook finally after he kept ignoring me. I just wanted to write here and let you know that you were SO right.After 3 weeks of no contact from him, he still had the NERVE to contact me a month later asking me OUT!

        I was just thinking to myself..Are you really serious? He ignored my messages and now a month later he is calling me saying “I’ll take you wherever you wanna go..and we can do whatever you choose.’ He never brought up me deleting him or anything else. It was literally like nothing had happened.

        He also offered no apology for never replying to my messages. I almost find him creepy. I mean I have blocked him on Facebook..then I unblocked soon after..so he would know that I had deleted him. I am sure he knows that he is not my FB friend. Yet, he still had the nerve to contact me after all this time. The courage of Virgo Men is amazing to me….lol

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      2. LOL LOL I cant stop laughing because YESSS THATS HOW THEY ARE!!!! The challenge for them is.. SEEING IF THEY CAN WIN YOU BACK AFTER EVERYTHING THEY’VE SAID!!! Thats the “work” part of it for them.. so SICK!!!! The way these men have with words are so unreal.. its funny once you’re out of it and over them. He’ll never give an apology because he doesn’t even want to go down “that street” again of discussing it. So did you ever give in? Let me know and if not how did you stay strong.

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      3. Hi Lacrease,

        I need your insight. I have contacted you before about the Virgo man (50 years old) that I have been seeing for over 3 years. The entire relationship has been what you have described: critical, unexplained distancing with cold silences.

        I showed him your blog and he agreed that much of what you said is a description of him. I pointed out things and he said he would work on those items just as he has said the last 3 years. He says he wants to make major changes for “us” but of course it doesn’t happen or he will only change for a few weeks and then go back to what he was doing beforehand.
        Usually I am the one that gets upset about something or how he is acting and he will act indifferently or get mad and then several days or maybe a few weeks goes by and we don’t talk or see each other. I am 99% of the time the one initiating a response and he will respond and we start all over again. It just repeats itself.

        If he does the initiating after a spell its to text me that he thinks we need to move on and be with someone that makes us happy and that we “naturally click” with and then after several hours or a few days or even weeks, he will say that “trying to lose me doesn’t feel right and he wants to try again,” He says he missed me terribly…etc., and naturally I fall for it and go back.
        My question is: While he (Virgo Men) are in this silent, distance mode is it a sign that they really want the relationship over? Why do they wait many days or even weeks to respond and what is their intent when they do? When he says we should move on….is he being serious and that is really what he wants?

        I don’t understand when everything is going well and last conversations are good, what in the world goes through their head that puts them into this distance, silent mode?
        How do these men get close enough to a woman to even want to marry when they sabotage the relationship with their long silences and distance, control, unwilling to make changes?

        I think I must have an extreme case on my hands or there is other dysfunctions, He is 50 years old—never married or had children, has to have control, will not make any positive changes for the health of the relationship and very moody. I don’t even know why I want a relationship with this man other than the physical attraction is nothing like I have experienced before. Otherwise, he is very high maintenance about everything…, what trips and hotel we choose, what cars we drive, food, EVERYTHING!!!

        You state they always come back after some time….I wonder if he is doing the same thing with his ex-girlfriends as he says he maintains a friendship with two of them although one is now married. He will attend their group events without me even though I state I am not comfortable about it.

        I am a Virgo woman myself but I certainly don’t do these things in relationships.
        I have decided that if he calls or texts that I am going to ignore them all….Will this just make him more determined to contact me or will he get the message?

        I read elsewhere that if a man doesn’t text, call, or make time for you then they are not interested in you….I wonder if this also applies to Virgo men too as they seem to come back after so much time has passed.

        Like I said, I think I got the worst of the worst. They may woo you initially and do really sweet things at time,s and be great conversationalist but shouldn’t that be the way it is in every relationship despite astrological sign and without the drama that Virgo men dish out?!.

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      4. I was dating this one virgo he would go away and then come back like nothing happened… and Im like what????? Took me a long time to really catch on to what he was doing, he bought me nice gifts.. then when I told him I didnt want to marry him, he ask for all his gifts back.. and i gladly gave them back because I wanted to be done with him.. Ughhh weird.. I wouldnt date another Virgo, if they were the last men on earth. They are too wishy washy and will have your mind/head in a tail spin on a daily!!!! Im almost 50 I dont have time to deal with that mess. Thing is.. they all seem to be the same… I have dated at least 3 ughhhhhhhhh… Nope.. they dont like change, they get stuck in their ways and its a wrap after that. Very controliing and if they had their way, they would want you to live with them so that they could see your every move, even if the relationship is not going anywhere. I looooooooove Virgo men, I do. but they seem confused!!

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  10. I wish I had come across your post before!
    I’m a Sag and although I was warned that Sag-Virgo are not great together, I took a risk because as you say Virgos can be really charming and woo, in their “hot” time. He had just broke off with a Tauras I think, and although we started as friends I couldn’t help falling for him. A year later problems cropped up with his family not liking me and I also think he could not keep his professional and personal lives separate, he began getting moody. Ours was also a long distance, but whenever we met, he was very lovable.
    Recently he came to make out and broke off the next day, stating he wasn’t ready for responsibility and relationships; said he’s meant to be alone. Little did I know it was a Virgo thing then!
    I was obviously hurt and so asked him to go away and figure out things with his life, what he wanted to do…but guess he’s never coming back, because he’s a Virgo! I’m interested though if he ever will call back to talk. I guess he is in the ‘cold’ phase now?
    Acted all was fine, but was internalizing all the while. Didn’t know virgos are so complex.
    I’m strong but don’t know if I should keep trying and hold on, or it’s time to let go. I don’t think he’ll try anyway…

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    1. Hey!!!! Yess one thing about Virgo men, they will get in those moods where they will disappear in a heartbeat. Leaving you wondering what in the world?????? Ohh how I wish I could get in their minds and see what are they thinking? Give him that space, but if he comes back.. make sure you stand back from him, because they will woo you back in and next thing you know… they are doing the same thing again. Thing is.. they are good people. They tend to think inside of their own heads

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      1. I couldn’t take the silence and so contacted him some weeks back, but he sounded just the same. I started to feel like a fool and gave up too, but yesterday he called and was finally in the mood to have ‘the’ talk. We broke up, but seeing him so cold just annoys me. He’s a very nice guy like you say, and I actually feel sorry for him, because this guy had to leave me, and probably still wishes somewhere that we were together, or maybe not, I don’t know, but I know that he’s sad it’s over but relieved at the same time. He’s just so convinced in believing that he’s meant to be alone in life that he’s pushed all his relationships away and that makes me pity him. Well, I couldn’t continue being miserable and I thought I ought to let him give what he wants and that was to leave him. We’re done, but to think about it now, I feel this Virgo was more emotional than practical, showed he was strong, but actually didn’t stand for me. Yes, knew exactly how to love, but was easily bothered by what was not right in the relationship than trying to accept things or make things better. Their loving ways seem a little childish and immature at times especially if we’re not the mushy kinds. It is just so difficult to make him listen and convince to do or agree to something right, because he listens only to himself, and yes we will never know what goes in that workshop of theirs.
        I was warned by you too, so I think I’m better off. I doubt these creatures will ever settle down, and even if they do, if they ever find happiness and satisfaction with their partners…

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      2. Heyyy

        Ahhhhhhh.. I feel bad the relationship didn’t work out. But you know sometimes when things dont work out, we have to move on. We can still be friends, talk from time to time, and I LEARNED THAT ITS OKAY… WHEN THINGS DONT WORK OUT. As long as you tried and worked on it, and worked on yourself, its okay if you have to keep it moving. I use to cry and feel some kinda way when a “good thing” didn’t work out, but I learned that its OKAY… That means the one for you is still out there!!! That alone always give me HOPE. Because as long as you’re still in a relationship that YOU KNOW its not working, it takes that much longer for you both to get to the one who were meant to be with. LEARN everything from your mistakes, don’t carry HIS/HER baggage into the next relationship. Everyone is different. Communicate, talk, don’t let things build up. already know what you want… anything else…….. DONT EVEN STAND FOR. Just make sure you’ve done all you could to make things work, and after that… keep it moving in a positive way with that person. No need to end mad, or negative. Because everything you’ve learned will surely be needed for the next. ((((HUGS)))

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  11. Wow. This article is right on. I’m a 47 year old Virgo woman and have been in a relationship with a 50 year old Virgo man for 3 years until recently. The relationship has been off and on the entire time. When it’s good, it’s really good, but when it’s bad, it’s really bad. He can be amazing and the next day deafening silence for no reason. We have never been able to talk about or resolve conflicts.
    I have analyzed the relationship so much and wonder what I am doing to make him act the way he does and then came across your article and it makes so much sense now. Although I have displayed some bad behavior, myself, in the relationship, he is impossible. The things he says and does to me would never be allowed if I said or did them to him. When I try to discuss an issue, he tells me we should ‘break up’ and move on. We will not see each other for a few weeks other than random texts. Then it’s usually me trying to initiate a visit and it starts the cycle all over again.
    He has never been married and has been in one relationship after another. Logic tells me to run but my emotions tell me to give him another chance. He gets very uncomfortable when I try to talk about a future.
    He is very indecisive and sends mixed messages. This puts me on an emotional roller coaster. He is very critical. He has no problem discussing my flaws and his needs but will get very defensive when I bring up my needs or something I don’t like that he does or wants to do. He will turn the situation back onto me and tell me that I have an internal problem feeling the way that I do. It seems he does not have the cognitive ability to even relate to how certain things makes me feel. He will defend everyone else, even strangers, but has no problem ‘throwing me under the bus’ on many occasions. I am starting to see how it is slowly eroding my self-esteem and self confidence.
    Thank you so much for your article, I was beginning to think something is really wrong with me. Now I can see the light. This article was a God sent.

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    1. Hey Deborah!!! Yess Sis, I know the frustration of a Virgo and a Virgo. You would think that we would click since we are a lot a like. But trying to understand the male Virgo especially since I had a few relationships with them… I just don’t get it. My first time with a Virgo, I thought I was crazy, the second time around I WAS READY FOR HIM!!! LOL Didn’t stick around long at all to watch him go through his tantrums, his disappearing acts and SILENCE the one that kills me the most. Take a step back before you lose your self esteem FOR NO REASON!!! Virgo men are the sweetest men, but only when they are honest with themselves will they be good partners. Yesss when you said emotional roller coaster!!!! Just as you got your head together and away from them for a while… here they come and you’ll soon have to reboot. SMH. Please keep in touch, let me know how things are between the two VIRGOS. LOL TAKE CARE SIS 🙂

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  12. Hii,
    It’s been 2 months now between me and my virgo guy.
    I’m the miss Leo and I’m pretty sure that I could be a bitch or asshole if my negative assumption hitting me *lol.

    I’m lucky to read your article, at least I know..why my guy really insecure and kind of cold with me.
    Yes, it is..he loves me..therefore he feels so insecure and afraid of think about the future; since I’m saying that I want to be a journal traveller, which is will leave him alone for several days or months.

    Sometimes I’m afraid that my guy will looking for another girl, but as a Leo, my flirty things also makes him afraid that I’m gonna hurt him in the first place (I can’t resist to adore all the hot guys that I’ve seen..haha).

    I’m trying to be a good girl for him, really care, and give him a full of affections.
    And he do the same.

    In earlier times, he gave me a lot of freedom and let me not to reply his messages.
    After a while, he became more demanding and directly showing a bad expression if he dislike what I’m done.

    I really loves this guy, as a Leo, I always keep all the wound in my hearts; my pride much bigger than my love sometimes. Lol

    I really appreciate your advice for me to handle this guy because I think I’ve found the real home 😀

    thanks!♡

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    1. Hey!!! Yess LEOS ARE FLIRTY!! LOL LOL My BFF is a LEO and her husband is a Virgo.. She always tells me that if it wasnt for her knowing me, she wouldnt be able to stick the marriage out for so long. Thing for me is.. im a Virgo but I love to communicate. I would like to know more on the part of him being “COLD” to you… hmm wonder why they are this way.

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  13. This is Deborah that wrote you on May 22 regarding my Virgo man. Over the past weekend he tried calling me a few times but got my voicemail. We played phone tag. However, on Monday. Memorial Day, I texted him a copy of your “Virgo man” and told him that I thought he would find it interesting and that it articulated better than I ever could my observations and feelings of our relationship. I’m sure he didn’t like the piece but I have no regrets sending a copy of it to him as he needs to know the games he plays and the repercussions of his antics. Time will tell what direction the relationship takes. But I have had enough alone time lately to realize I not going to deal with his ups and downs, non committal attitude, and non compromising ways.

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    1. Hey Gurl!!!! Ahhh yess the phone tag.. yes yes yesss. I really wonder what goes through their minds about us when we are not around each other? Wow and I wonder what he thought about the Virgo Man? Well, you know its all up to you if you are tired of the back and forth, to decide if you want to move on. Keep in touch, I would to know what he thought about it.

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  14. I’m a 27 year old virgo male who just recently (maybe a year ago) started researching my sign and I was shocked how accurate the general traits were. (Picky/analytical/critical etc). This description you posted was pretty spot on. I’m getting to the point where I want to settle down in life, and I haven’t been in a serious relationship since high school. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve had my share of hookups and such but people are always asking me why I never date anyone and it just creates more of an anxiety in my own head. I’d actually like to settle down, especially with a lot of my friends getting engaged but it’s almost like I don’t even know where to start. I long for someone else who I can connect with intellectually, but I feel like it’s such a rarity especially with people becoming so non-personal in my generation due to all of the social media. I have no problems attracting females I was actually a male model (Lol not by choice) when I was a child and the good looks have carried over ;). However I always find something wrong with the female I’m after or for some reason it just never works out and I always thought it was me just being selfish. Financially I’m all set with a great job, and a few steady sources of income but my problem seems to be me being non-committal. I’m not even pompous in anyway but it’s almost like my brain naturally finds faults in people. Any advice for me?

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    1. Hey!!! Its always good to hear from the men. You know Im 47 and I am the same way as you described yourself!!! My sisters are married, my brother was married and meeeeee… I live inside my head too much. Thats the thing about us Virgos we live inside of our heads too much. We over think things, worry about stuff we dont even have to worry about. We are easily turned off, I think we are too Judgemental at times. Not so much as in your face, but in our minds. Not on purpose, its just that we notice everything. I come to realize that if we dont just live for the moment life is going to pass us by. We do good for ourselves, but its something about taking being committed. Wow thanks for posting. Leave a message if you have more questions. Bottom line.. WE NEED TO GET OUT OF OUT OWN WAY AND MIND!!! LOL

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  15. Updating status from May 27, 2015. Well the Virgo man, 50 years old, finally read your piece on Virgo men and said he was surprised at how accurate it was. However, it didn’t seem to make an impact in changing his negative ways. Now when he says something, he says he is not being controlling but “advising”. He is such a contradiction. In one sentence, he says he likes me the way I am and then in the next is critical about some aspect of my personality or standards which by the way are more elevated than his being that I’m also a Virgo women. We have basically been estranged for 2 months-enough time for me to think. His family and fiends can behave negatively and irresponsibly to others and their children and it’s acceptable but because I have standards and don’t agree with them, yet I have never said anything to the friends or family, I am criticized by him; whereas if I acted like they do it wouldn’t be acceptable. In addition, he says he doesn’t know how to compromise. He is a walking/talking contradiction.
    This is such a roller coaster ride that I am seriously thinking about getting off of it.

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    1. Hey Deborah!!!! Thanks for the update.. Good thing is…. he read it. He may never admit that he needs to change some things about himself, but whenever he start doing things from what he read on the site, oh YES HE’S GOING TO THINK ABOUT IT! It would be so nice to see you both make it through this, but there has to be some changes. Even if it doesn’t survive, these issues will follow him to the next relationship.

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    2. Hey Deborah.
      I’m in exactly the same situation as you.
      At the moment things are just great between my virguy and myself. Fingers crossed it’s going to stay the same. But how weird it is that they are all the same. If we do split again, it’ll be for good this time.
      I wish you all the best, because when it’s gd it’s amazing. X

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      1. Wow… unreal that we’ve all experienced this same thing. They are good catches, cant deny that part

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      2. Hi lixmax-

        I am seeing that the Virgo men are all the same. As I have stated, I am a Virgo myself. It has been almost two months since our last “episode” and since then its just been random texts. Lately, mostly on his part initiating because I am getting the impression that he is analyzing it all. Within the last month he has said in more than one texts that it is basically over. Yet last week he texted an apology stating that he “is sorry for maybe coming off as a complete jerk in his texts and that what he is trying to say doesn’t come out right. He also stated that he “is ultimately trying to do the right thing because he wants me to be happy as well”. Usually he doesn’t apologize and I have no idea what he is referring to in the last part of the text; however, I responded in kind and said thank you and wish him happiness as well. My motto with him right now is “kill with kindness”. I do not want to go back with the way it has been. There will have to be major changes as I am wasting time on the roller coaster with this guy that is critical, non-committal, and days of icy silences.

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  16. Wow I am just sitting here speechless. About how long they can go without communicating with the person that they say they love, a person that they like, or a person that is a friend to them. I just can’t understand how a person can go that long. Then they text out the blue and you missed a person so much you gotta respond. Then they go back to the cold ways again I just don’t understand.

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    1. Exactly. I don’t understand it….so in the meantime, I’m thinking it’s over and going through all the stages of anger, sadness, grief, acceptance, etc…and moving on with my life the best way possible and then he sends a text out of the blue with a very different tone. What are they thinking when they say they love you and will always be there and then something happens and they pull away with long long silences? I am just surrendering it all to God because I don’t know what else to do.

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      1. I feel the SAME WAY…. Its been 2 months since I talk to my Virgo friend, and Im waiting on anyday for a email saying heyyyyyyyyyyyyyy like nothing has happened. Even though we are not in a relationship or anything like that.. the disappearance is CRAAAAAAAAZY TO ME.We’re just friends and I just dont get it. So in the meantime… I’m just keeping it moving..

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  17. Wow.. It’s exactly my Virgo man. He doesn’t want any commitment, playing hot and cold. He can go and come back without explanation and apologized. You are right I need to stand firm in what I believe and just move on, but this Virgo man is know how to push my button in the right way so I can go back in the same circle over and over again, so tired !!! Dunno what to do 😦

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    1. LOL LOL Yesss when you say this Virgo man knows how to push the right buttons to go back to the same circle again!!!! Sooooooo funny.. because thats how it is with mines. I can be doing so good, not thinking about him or anything ( plus he’s 3 years older than me))) then here he comes….. always saying things that will make me “friends” with him again. Then when he wants to get cold again, its back to square one. I AM SO DONE WITH MY VIRGO!!!! DONE!!!

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      1. You are both so right. Thought I was done. Was even meeting new men…..not Virgo men and then guess what….Virgo man pops back into the picture. Knew my daughter was graduating high school this summer and wanted to know if he could help with party. Of course, I let him and he turned out to be a huge help and very generous and we are back into the cycle. But I am trying to keep my head on straight and be aware of his capabilities, knowing that it will likely be the same. I am trying to protect my heart and keep my options open.

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  18. I laughed so hard when I read you latest post !!! I’ve been there to.
    It’s still all GD for us atm, I did kinda ignore him for 2 weeks and I think that made him realise I’m not such a push over after all, he sent me flowers asking to meet for dinner to talk, so I just text a time,day and place. When we met he’s face was a picture, I’ll never forget that look, it painted 1000 words, why can’t he just come out and tell me how he feels. Anyway I wish you happiness and hope you can get things working for you Deborah . As they are for me now. X

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  19. I’m a Aries female and I just got out a 2 year relationship with a Virgo man. He was a sweetheart in the beginning. I met and did things with his family/ children, he showered me with gifts and attention, we did everything together. I thought he was the man of my dreams. Then things went bad. He became so mean and nasty. Granted I’m a Aries and can be very blunt and mean as well but this man had a way with words that would cut u deep. All of a sudden he wasn’t happy and I wasn’t the woman for him… Told me not to contact him and enjoy my life…lol But yes they are charmers but they’re also big worriers, liars, players , and mines was a huge mamas boy. I should have read this article 2 years ago and steered clear of this mess of a man.

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    1. Hey ladivee so sorry to hear that. But I know you are over him now, cause it was nothing you were doing to cause him to be mean. It still amazes me how many people are going through this same thing with a Virgo man. My daughter recently went through the same thing,, she’s also a Virgo. I warned her and she just knew hers was different. She’s 28 and she finally moved on. These men mean well, but they have this “keep it moving” spirit with or without you. Thanks for sharing!

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    2. LadiiVee…I am an Aries too…and you just described my relationship with my Virgo man…Wow! And this article and comments are spot on….thank you. I feel so much better.

      It has been almost two months since the out of the blue break up and I have been so hurt. All was going well and then very quickly one night, he ended it….in the car on the way home from dinner. This after a wonderful trip together and earlier in the day mapping out all of our summer plans! It was as if he had the discussion about our relationship in his head, but forgot to talk to me about it. He made assumptions without asking me. He said a few very hurtful, stinging, lasting things to me that I didn’t deserve. And then, in a very egotistical way he said, I’m going to have to let you go, but we can be friends. I shook my head and picked up my things. He motioned to hug me and I put up my hand and said, take care! I drove away and we haven’t spoken since.

      I need to start listening to my gut and very keen intuition. I had broken up with him about 5 months earlier for about a 6 week period. He came back to me and wanted to get back together. Somehow we did. I think I missed the part of the Virgo that takes care of you and showers you with attention and love and will do anything for you. I was missing that for years in my marriage and he fulfilled that part. Anyway, I was having doubts about our relationship again and didn’t want to settle into his very planned life. I think he could feel I was pulling away a bit and so he ended it. He abandoned before he could be abandoned.

      I know it is the right thing, but how it ended still hurts. I wonder what he is thinking and how he feels? I know the first time we broke up, he told me (weeks later) he was overcome with sadness and loss. I hate the word closure, but I feel like I need it. And I feel like I need to let him know he assumed things that I wasn’t feeling or that I wanted in our relationship.

      Thanks again for making me feel I’m not so alone. I truly believe in astrology and I had read about Virgos. I knew about all the traits and they describe him perfectly. I had never read about break ups with one! These too explain his behavior perfectly. I will know how to handle him if he does contact me. I…..will not be contacting him.

      My best to all of you!

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      1. yes he did contact me. he apologized for being such a horrible person and treating me horrible. he admitted that I did deserve better. We are not in a relationship but we have remained friends.

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      2. My virgo.ex bf just said he was tired of.our.3 plus years relationship and does not want to do it anymore. He has been distance….hot and cold. He just moved on…no discussion. I am still trying to deal with the heartbreak and grief after 6 months. There has been a few random text here and there but nothing for the last several weeks.

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    3. Hi, I just broke up with my Virgo man after dating a bit over a year…it was on and off relationship…I’m a Capricorn and it wasn’t easy for me to understand him at first …he was charming and nice first 6 months and than became a complete a**hole …plus I’m not the person to keep it quiet , after reading this article I know for sure I’m done with him even if he begs me to come back …it’s not got me, now that I know how they are…sad, he was amazing at first and yes , he did ask for his gifts back as well …

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      1. Heyy! See that’s the part I don’t get why do they ask for their gifts back? Yeah I understand about how nice a Virgo man is in the beginning that’s what they wear to reel you win and then after that they settle in and be themselves 100%

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      2. Ohhh, after I send him his gifts back we got back together and I asked him why he did what he did, asking back for gifts…his answer was :” I knew you like them a lot , and I know it will hurt you”, sorry about my English (I’m from Ukraine) 🙂

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  20. Hi again! :-)..I’m still up and it is 3:45 AM here…lol.

    That is the creepy thing about him though. We have never discussed anything in the past. Especially if it is something negative that I did to him or something that he did to me. It’s like he just ignores it and tries to “pretend” it did not happen. He called me two days ago saying that he was waiting for me to call him. I was thinking to myself…”Oh, so we are talking on a daily basis again now?” Me and him have never gotten into a real argument either. Even when he was criticizing me about not going out much….I tried to calm my thoughts…because I know I have a bit of a temper.

    We go 2-3 weeks without speaking sometimes..and I actually like it that way. I feel like since I am pulling back from him..he is becoming a little bit clingy. Which is shocking…he is usually cold and distant. . I want to give in and go out with him,just so I can finally discuss with him how he ignored me. I don’t know yet though. One of my friends said one time that it is extremely hard to get rid of a Virgo Guy…I believe her now. I mean I did like him..but after he ignored me..it really changed the way I looked at him.

    I swear he has a split personality.Right now he comes off as caring and a sweetheart..but I know it is all an illusion of his real personality..lol. I’ll update soon 🙂

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  21. Hi everyone! Thanks for this great article and all the comments, it’s all very insightful. I also have a Virgo man driving me nuts but unlike most of you, we haven’t gotten past the friendship phase yet. I’m an Aquarius woman but I’m very much influenced by the Capricorn in my Venus. So I am also an over-analyzer and I do love making up thise scenarios. So here’s the story with my Virgo man. First off, we work together. For the same company but on different floors. We don’t HAVE to interact every day but we both find excuses to. We started off just chatting about a year and a half ago and got closer and closer to where now, we have lunch together twice a week and everyone in our building assumes we’re together based on the way we act. We share food, even drinks, and he always wants to have a taste of whatever I’m having. We laugh a LOT, we share the same sense of humour. He compliments me all the time, he’ll notice if I use a different color eyeshadow or if I wear a new piece ofjewelry. His eyes are always glued to mine, so much so that it makes me uncomfortable sometimes. He touches me a lot, like his hand on my back when we cross the street, and he’s not the touchy-feely type with our other co-workers. He fans the flame on that rumor. He’ll say things like we’d make a good couple. He won’t go a day at work without at least talking to me once so if he’s had a super busy day, he’ll call me before he leaves at the end of the day just to say hey. Oh and the questions! He wants to know everything about me but he says I’m a mystery. So all this makes it sound like he likes me, right? Well… He’s told me a couple of months ago that his life was complicated and he wants to be just friends. Complicated meant there was someone else in the picture and now he’s seeing her but he says she’s not his girlfriend and he never ever mentions her if I’m around. So I feel like, given the Virgo’s analytical nature and how long it takes for them to commit, that maybe he hasn’t chosen between me and her yet. Now I’m not going to wait around gor him to make up his mind, if I meet someone else, too bad for him! But I’m just trying to figure out if he’s attracted to me or not. Would a Virgo man act this way if there was NO attraction? He’s all flirty and yeah, we lapse into those sexual inuendos all the time. Thanks gor reading, sorry it’s rather long!
    Confused in Montreal

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    1. Wow this is the very same thing that we’ve been talking about. HOT AND COLD!!! They are good people, please no one get me wrong, but they have a hard time commiting to someone. Its like they weigh what they have in you, then the move on like.. okay thats not enough, or that person is not who Im looking for. You never know with them. One mintue things are great, and the next its like what happened over night? What did you go home and think about concerning me? What is your conclusion of me/us? And trust me.. the other gurl… she’s going through the same thing too trying to figure him out. He’ll be back so expect it… make sure you say less as possible, let him do all the talking, cause trust me.. he is listening to your every word, paying attention to every detail of what you say and do. Then… he’ll be off again LOL

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  22. Well it’s driving me nuts! On my birthday last January he actually had a dozen roses delivered to my house (ok so they weren’t ALL red, but they were still roses) with a super sweet note – signed YOUR FRIEND. Well I don’t know about you guys, but no FRIEND has ever sent me roses! Our friendship or whatever the heck this is is definitely the weirdest and most confusing thing I’ve ever experienced. And every time I think I’m finally okay with being just friends with him, he’ll say or do something that makes me want more. Grrrrr!!

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    1. Yesssssssssssssssss…. ((( And every time I think I’m finally okay with being just friends with him, he’ll say or do something that makes me want more. )))) Thats the part we dont get about them!!!!! They make us want more… then they back away!!!! Wow this is so funny, but not funny. I meet Virgo after Virgo especially at work.

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    2. Same here,co worker , send roses say miss me but when you already that closed to think to be a couple.. He will back out and you will wondering what’s going on. Now I am playing the Same rule in and out just leave him in the corner make him miss u.he will bagging u to come back and gone again. Don’t fell in his trap. We need to be strong. I am Aquarius too 🙂 good luck

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  23. Hey,
    I just came across this article and I have to admit this is the funniest and most accurate that I have ever read about Virgo Men. LOL. The details are surprisingly accurate but I’m really curious about this Virgo guy I have spoken with for 3 months. We clicked or (I think) when we spoke with each other through online.
    We are both young adults (18) and shy so although we had met each other before we never really talked.
    I am a Capricorn, he is a Virgo. Being a cardinal sign I made a move by talking to him first online because he seemed interesting. Like being a Capricorn it’s really hard to become so interested in a guy…

    Then it started becoming mutual and he finally started to open up, talking about his some of his past…
    He has told me that “I was fun to talk to” at the end of the conversation. Then the other day he initiated the conversation and we had a deep conversation about life he said once again “it was nice talking to you”.
    I think that we really connect and are on the same wavelength mentally like when he says something, I automatically start thinking “I understand.”
    But the thing is he is being too nice to me and from what I heard via friends (who knows him) and online(virgo description), he is analytical/critical/rude so why is he nice to me and not critical/rude or even challenging in a conversation with me?
    Like what is going through his mind?
    We seem to have a lot in common about a lot of things.. maybe being a Capricorn female and him bring a Virgo male) but I don’t know what he is thinking from his point of view? And I really want to know from a Virgo’s point of view to what’s going on his mind!? HELP PLEASE!!!!

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    1. Hey GG!!! Im a Virgo female, and I looooooooooooooove Capricorn men!!! WE are so compatible with you. All I can say about that MALE VIRGO is be careful. They will come out of the bag on you. He is trying to figure you out. Just be cool gurl and take in the conversations as if you’re talking to someone youve been friends with for years. He is analyzing everything about you, those Virgo men remember EVERYTHING.. they will run back a “mental video tape” of everything you said.. lol lol I gotta admit I do love the Virgo man, just gotta treat them with care. They alllllllllllllllllllllllllllll start out so nice and so sweet, I beleive them to be good people, thing is.. they become COLD all of a sudden and you’re like.. dang what happened? Then you have to go back in your mind and remember the last conversation and try to figure out what turned them left. Whew.. they are a lot of work, but I found out seeing and talking to them FACE TO FACE is what really builds a friendship with them. They can talk/text/email any and everything, but with them you need FACE TO FACE to really really really really get the feel of what they are saying and thinking!!!

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  24. Hey Lacrease,
    You are so.. So right!! Lol, maybe I should just talk to him casully online for now and if he talks to me in person first then I’ll also talk to him.. Otherwise, I’ll just move on.. But thanks Lacrease.. That really helped 😃

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  25. Deborah says:
    July 9, 2015 at 4:21 pm

    Hi Lacrease,

    I need your insight. I have contacted you before about the Virgo man (50 years old) that I have been seeing for over 3 years. The entire relationship has been what you have described: critical, unexplained distancing with cold silences.

    I showed him your blog and he agreed that much of what you said is a description of him. I pointed out things and he said he would work on those items just as he has said the last 3 years. He says he wants to make major changes for “us” but of course it doesn’t happen or he will only change for a few weeks and then go back to what he was doing beforehand.
    Usually I am the one that gets upset about something or how he is acting and he will act indifferently or get mad and then several days or maybe a few weeks goes by and we don’t talk or see each other. I am 99% of the time the one initiating a response and he will respond and we start all over again. It just repeats itself.

    If he does the initiating after a spell its to text me that he thinks we need to move on and be with someone that makes us happy and that we “naturally click” with and then after several hours or a few days or even weeks, he will say that “trying to lose me doesn’t feel right and he wants to try again,” He says he missed me terribly…etc., and naturally I fall for it and go back.
    My question is: While he (Virgo Men) are in this silent, distance mode is it a sign that they really want the relationship over? Why do they wait many days or even weeks to respond and what is their intent when they do? When he says we should move on….is he being serious and that is really what he wants?

    I don’t understand when everything is going well and last conversations are good, what in the world goes through their head that puts them into this distance, silent mode?
    How do these men get close enough to a woman to even want to marry when they sabotage the relationship with their long silences and distance, control, unwilling to make changes?

    I think I must have an extreme case on my hands or there is other dysfunctions, He is 50 years old—never married or had children, has to have control, will not make any positive changes for the health of the relationship and very moody. I don’t even know why I want a relationship with this man other than the physical attraction is nothing like I have experienced before. Otherwise, he is very high maintenance about everything…, what trips and hotel we choose, what cars we drive, food, EVERYTHING!!!

    You state they always come back after some time….I wonder if he is doing the same thing with his ex-girlfriends as he says he maintains a friendship with two of them although one is now married. He will attend their group events without me even though I state I am not comfortable about it.

    I am a Virgo woman myself but I certainly don’t do these things in relationships.
    I have decided that if he calls or texts that I am going to ignore them all….Will this just make him more determined to contact me or will he get the message?

    I read elsewhere that if a man doesn’t text, call, or make time for you then they are not interested in you….I wonder if this also applies to Virgo men too as they seem to come back after so much time has passed.

    Like I said, I think I got the worst of the worst. They may woo you initially and do really sweet things at time,s and be great conversationalist but shouldn’t that be the way it is in every relationship despite astrological sign and without the drama that Virgo men dish out?!.

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    1. Im sitting here reading your letter shakimg my head staring at the wall saying to myself… HOW COULD THIS SAME THING BE HAPPENING TO A TOTALLY DIFFERENT PERSON IN A DIFFERENT CITY WITH A DIFFERENT MAN?????????????? UNREAL TO ME… FIrst let me say though I didnt write the article, the person who wrote is name Lisa. I posted her article with her name on my blog because I WAS SEARCHING THE INTERNET ON the same subject and question you are looking for. I dont understand for the LIFE of me, what are they thinking when they are away that long? I just dont get it. Im a Virgo too and to meeeee.. after an argument I say how I feel then they say how they feel, and thats it.. Why the long silence and no calls or text.. i dont get that., and it burns me up sooooooo bad. Its going to be so hard to ignore his text and calls. because we are so happy to hear from them, we want to know what they are saying and thinking. Good luck to that Sis. ((smiling)). Thing is, when they come back in the picture its like you miss them. But at the same time how can they stay away for so long? I just dont get it at all

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    2. Oh yesss.. and we are the ones to make up first.. LEave it up to them.. I wonder if they would ever speak to us again.. lol lol so sad!!!

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  26. Hello Lacrease,
    Ok..So im feeling pretty desperate right now! Im a 26yr old Scorpio woman who’s had some kind of “thing” off and on with a 30yr old Virgo man for about 7yrs. We met thru friends and he was immediately attracted to me and was so shy to speak to me so he asked his friend to talk to me for him. I gave him my number and he called the same night and brung me food which I thought was so sweet. We fell asleep that night together but we did not have sex and he never once tried, which further attracted me to him. But eventually our friendship turned to that and we met up a few times at my home.

    I stopped talking to him after only 3-4months because he was honest after he seen one of my pictures and told me he had messed with one of my friends. Plus I had a Bf at the time and he almost caught me and virgo..etc it was just a mess girl so I ended it with him.

    About 3 years later after I broke up with my Bf I wanted a friend so I contacted Virgo thru FB. To my surprise he was very excited to hear from me and we met up the next day. We started to spend more time together getting to know one another better. I was going thru a super bad breakup so I was happy to have someone to take my mind off that. He was so sweet always giving me compliments telling me how he was always attracted to how confident and successful I was. and I felt the same about him. We just clicked and we both liked doing the same things, never was into big crowds and people I don’t know or like. So we enjoyed staying home watching movies eating junk food and etc.

    As time went on I started to have feelings for him, which I never thought would happen but who was I fooling. I felt he didn’t trust me because he’s been around long enough to see me cheat on 2 of my Bf’s and I thought he would feel I would do the same to him. I didn’t want to scare him away by telling him my feelings so I thought id show him. I cooked for him 1 night. I cleaned his kitchen 1 time. Heck I thought once was enough to show him but idk he acted like he didn’t care and I was hurt because I don’t do things like that and its not like he was doing anything for me, for me to be trying to “show” him how I feel. So then I started to get a lil crazy..smh. If I called and he couldn’t make plans with me because he was “too busy” besides saying ok I would go off. I could tell he started to lose respect for me but I just couldn’t control my emotions.

    Then..around December of 2014 I became pregnant. I told him over the phone and he insisted I come over so we could speak. I did..and he got on his knes and started kissing my stomach??!! I’m like wtf? lol. he said he knew something was wrong with me because I didn’t want to show my body as I normally do and etc.. but this is the thing..he or I had no intentions on keeping the baby. So anyways..I don’t know why he did all that just to melt my heart or whatever but we both chose to not keep the baby and he paid and took me to the clinic..smh.

    As soon as it was over he dropped me off to my car and acted like I was nothing. I cried and asked him why all of a sudden he’s treating me so rude. He said he didn’t think the baby was his and he felt I lied to him. He told me he didn’t want us to have sex anymore but we could remain friends. Well I wasn’t letting that happen that easy. I should have though. We have met up a handful of times since then. But our relationship hasn’t been the same. He still thinks I lied to him and etc. I wish I could just let go. But I feel I have a connection with him and I want to show him I’m loyal. We haven’t talked in a month, I’m sure he’s surprised because he has gotten used to me chasing him, but I cant take it anymore. I miss him so much but I cant allow any man to have power over me. What should I do? And Thank you in advance 🙂

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    1. Hey Princess!!!! Once you had that abortion, he was done.. He disconnected with you. First of all, when he said that he didn’t think the baby was his, and that he felt you lied to him, he had disconnected from you moment you told him you were pregnant. With Virgos its a trust thing, he most likely really liked you, but once he started thinking about how you both got together, he came to the conclusion that you couldn’t be trusted. He went back and forth in his mind thinking, once she have this abortion its a wrap.. Im done with her. Thats why he was acting sooooooooo fake, that was to make sure it was done. If I was you I would let him come back to you for friendship or anything, because the ball is in his court.

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  27. You are so right. I wish I would have read this before Saturday because unfortunately I couldn’t take it anymore and contacted him, he tried blowing me off and I brung up the abortion and he said “Can you just tell the truth for once in your life”. I told him the truth that it was possible thru one night with my ex that the baby may not of been his. I never lied to him I just didn’t tell him because what was done was done and I didn’t want to further confuse things. After I told him that I said “there, now are u happy we can be done once and for all”. All of a sudden he insisted I come over and see him, I should have said no because he was such a jerk before but I missed him so I went. I thought he just wanted to throw it in my face but he didn’t. We laughed and talked and he couldn’t keep his hands off me. Before I walked out he said something that made me think, he said our relationship was starting to feel like marriage and he wanted us to remain friends. Like why does he insist on us remaining friends? I know virgos like to take it slow but it does kinda hurt me that we may never be more. I want to keep him in my life but I’m scared I’m going to hurt myself because I know he’s not ready to give me more. I thought about just backing off a bit and seeing what happens, but its hard. I like my space also but I also enjoy going on dates and enjoying life. That doesn’t mean I’m ready to be tied down! He just seems so scared of getting too close and he has no problem reassuring me that I’m just his friend. He just confuses me because the second he thinks I’m leaving for good he comes back. Its like he knows the door is open for him. He’ll be 45 before he wants to commit and I don’t think I can wait that long. But for him I have thought of it. I don’t know, but thank you for your insight. I appreciate it so much

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  28. You are so welcome!!! Just take it easy with him, do your dating and meet new people, but just know that Virgo is going to take his time. If you didn’t know any better he would have you waiting by the phone. Thing is, they do want to be friends, but when they get in the mood they turn into a octopus, can’t keep their hands off of you, and it leaves us wondering WHAT IS HE THINKING RIGHT NOW? But you can’t fall into it, cause it will leave you back at square one. LOL So not funny, but it is, because they all seem to be this way. And don’t get me wrong I love my Virgo men * I’m a Virgo woman* but they don’t know what they want, and what they have, they don’t know how to hold on too.

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  29. So, I met a Virgo guy and we hit it off right away. He admitted that he was really feeling me and was genuinely excited about where out relationship was headed. I felt a instant connection and let him know I was feeling him too. He was so excited that he was calling me everyday and texting all day. Showering me with compliments and his affection. Always gushing about how beautiful he thought I was.

    Then I’m assuming he must have realized he was jumping ahead a bit fast, and that must have freaked him out, because all of a sudden I stopped hearing from him. Just like that, he didn’t respond to my texts and phone calls. So I didn’t contact him anymore. Couldn’t for the life of me figure out what happened. How can you go from thinking I’m the best thing ever to ignoring me over night? He finally contacted me after a week of the silent treatment, and implied that I had been rushing things and made me sound like some desperate thirsty woman who was stifling him. What?!!! He was the one who was obsessed and chasing after me! I reminded him of that, and gave him examples to show him how wrong he was. I could tell by his voice that deep down he knew I had a point, and that he was merely grasping at straws. We never finished the conversation because we were interrupted. And we haven’t spoken since. He’s since gone back to ignoring me.

    A week has passed since our last conversation and he recently sent me a random “Hello, how are you text”. I kept it brief and replied that I was awesome. He asked me to elaborate and I didn’t feel like having a full blown conversation about my day without addressing the elephant in the room (his absence). So I gave him a short response, and after a few more texts of small talk that was it. No apology or explanation. No mention of why he”s still giving me the cold shoulder. What should I make of this? Should I ignore future texts and delete his number? Or do I wait for him to come around. I really liked this guy and felt that we were perfectly compatible until he flipped out on me. Now, it just feels like too much drama!
    As someone who knows what it’s like to deal with Virgo men, I could really use your advice. Thank you.

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    1. Hi Nina.
      That’s exactly what a Virgo is like, he’s weighing you up now ! If he really likes you he’ll come back to you, I’ve been with my Virgo man for 11 months now, and our relationship is wonderful (now) it wasn’t, it has been a roller coaster. Just give him the space he needs. And if he doesn’t come back, then he isn’t worth it. One more thing, they don’t like confrontation, so they’ll always try to skirt around the issue and move on, you just have to be straight and up front with him.
      I wish you all the very best of luck xx
      Lixmax.

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    2. HEY SIS!!! You wrote: He asked me to elaborate and I didn’t feel like having a full blown conversation about my day without addressing the elephant in the room (his absence) YESSSSS when they know they’re wrong about something, they alwayssssssssssssssssss want you to go into details so that they can get a “feel” of you. To see if your mad, or holding a grudge. That’s one thing I had to learn about them. When they disappear like that, they always send a message with very few words leaving the ball in your court. LOL LOL So funny. Waiting tooooooo long for him to come around will leave your HEAD SPACE FULL!!!! Keep dating, because one thing is for sure, once he start talking to you again, he will not want to revisit why he left in the first place. Just like lixmax said… they dont like confrontation, even if the issues NEEDS TO BE ADDRESS to move on… So sad… soooooooooo sad.

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      1. Thanks for your words of wisdom. He hasn’t contact me again since that last brief text exchange. I think you’re right. He definitely was trying to size me up and see where my head was at. But I wasn’t in the mood. SMH
        I just don’t know what to do the next time he decides to make contact. If I respond then I’m thirsty, and if I don’t then I’m bitter. I just can’t win. He’s leaving all kinds of romantic declarations on social media that appears to be aimed at me, but I’m not going to assume that it is. It’s almost as if he’s trying to get a response out of me and I’m not going to let him push my buttons this time. Drama-free zone.

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  30. Yes….. they LOVE to do things to get an reaction!!! He’s so aware that he knows you need answers… Thing is …I don’t think he knows how to give them to you. I love my Virgo men, but I just don’t understand them. 🙂

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  31. My virgo man is just like how everyone has described. I am trying to understand how he operates. So I try to give him his space. I am a virgo myself and like my alone time too.
    Anyways last weekend I went out with some girlfriends to a baseball game and told him a few days before that I was going to do that. The morning of the game, we exchanged some nice texts but as the day went on I was very busy at work and had to rush home to get ready for the game and meet my friends. Needless to say I didn’t text or contact him. Long behold at about 9:30 pm that night out of nowhere I get this text saying that he hasn’t heard from me and wondering what I am up to and stating that it seems very odd that he hadn’t heard from me.
    I remind him that I am at the ballgame with girlfriends and that I told him about it. He then accuses me of perhaps meeting someone else and doing something else.
    I sent him pictures of us at the ballgame and said that if he was concerned he could have contacted me earlier and I didn’t appreciate the accusations. He sent over more texts attacking me and after I finally got home I told him that I didn’t want to fight with him and he can believe whatever he wants and I didn’t have time for this and was going to bed. He continued to send more texts and I ignored them.
    Finally the next morning, we had plans to travel out of town so I sent him a text and acted like nothing happened the night before and asked if he was packed up to leave and what time was he coming over to pick me up. I was waiting for him to say he wasn’t going to go…but he responded very nice and we left for the weekend and had a great time.
    I don’t know why he starts stuff like that. He can go out with his friends and will not have any contact with me and its suppose to be ok but I can’t do the same thing. It’s like I need to check in with him. Very confusing. Do Virgo men have double standards and how does one deal with that?

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    1. Yes with Virgo men it is a souble standard and they dont seem to understand they do what they dont want us to do. I really wish more Virgo men would read this thread and HELP US!!! LOL I just dont understand myself why they drive us nuts the way they do. I wonder what kind of reaction do they want from us. The dissapearing part is what gets me. They make it so hard to love them. My friend loved when I called him in a good mood, then say something to get me going… and it always left me feeling some kinda way. Like its me that started the debate. They love to over analyze.

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  32. Hi, Your article is so true it’s like someone has finally understood what I have been trying to say. Everything that you have said is true.

    I am Gemini and let me tell you I am everywhere, however I am strong, independent and I know what I want. I feel that he thinks this is too overpowering. In a sense he wants me to be the man in the relationship and I am so tired. I was the one that told him I liked him. Which makes me feel stupid , yet I know that he feels the same way. It’s been three years and nothing and by nothing I mean not even a kiss or anything has happened. I know he likes me, but I am tired of playing this game waiting for him. I am not a soppy person, but I like the truth and if he doesn’t want it then way doesn’t he says it. Deep down I know he will, but slowly like a turtle no worse a snail haha.

    My problem is that when I want something I will not stop or give up until I get it. In a way this is how I see the relationship, but I don’t see him as an object I see him as a person. Which he doesn’t understand. Maybe due to both of us not being clear it’s not working. I want to give up and forget about him, I have tried ignoring him and turning my social media off. I have asked my friends and they are like just tell him how you feel. But it’s not as easy as its sounds, what ever I say to him it will not go done well (if you get what I mean). That’s why I don’t say what I really feel.

    We don’t communicate only in social media we have meet and we have gone on a few dates. And I like him I have know him for five years and I like how he is. I know if we did date we would be secure. However, we can’t get over this stage. But it’s as if we never told eachother that we like eachother. He said he wanted this to work. But he is always asking me as if I have the answers.

    Do you have any advice I really want to get over him, as I am not sure anymore. I am wasting my time it’s been three years and as dramatic as this may sound I don’t want to do it anymore. My brain is fried due to all the overthinking.

    You said before that you thought that the guy knew that the lady needed answers. However, he didn’t know how to give them to her. Then how do you get the answers from a Virgo man. I have no idea anymore to how to get them. A Virgo man is beyond confusing 😭😂

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    1. It took me a looooooooong time to realize and figure my Virgo men out. I came to the conclusion that things never get on a relationship level where we are together and inseparable. Many times leaving me asking… “Where did that come from?”… because their over analyzing something. I wish I had the answers.. I hope other Virgo men read this and help us out, because it still bothers me that these GOOOOOOOOOD MEN.. are filled with the same stuff. I just dont understand it myself,….. and what really gets me is… THEY CAN COME BACK IN THE PICTURE NO MATTER WHAT… AND TAKE YOU BACK TO THE LAST PLACE MENTALLY YOU WERE WITH THEM.. SMH LOL LOL THEY HAVE THAT POWER TO DO THAT. LEAVE FOR WEEKS, AND COME BACK LIKE NOTHING HAPPENED.. LEAVING ME ASKING…..ITS JUST A MATTER OF TIME BEFORE WE GO THROUGH THIS AGAIN.

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  33. So the Virgo is still giving me the silent treatment. Will text once a week or every other week, but it’s usually just a greeting or he’ll ask how I’m doing. He doesn’t say anything else besides that. Never an actual conversation. I’m torn between ignoring him, and responding in the hopes that he will explain himself. Or at least tell me what the heck he wants. But he never does.

    I read this article and it really tripped me out, because it described my interaction with the virgo man to a “T”, so I wanted to share it with you…

    http://thoughtcatalog.com/shahida-arabi/2014/08/5-sneaky-things-narcissists-do-to-take-advantage-of-you/

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    1. WOW WOW WOW WOW WOW WOW.. THIS IS ONE OF THE EST ARTICLES IVE EVER READ TO UNDERSTAND A PERSON LIKE THIS.. THIS IS UNREAL.. BUT TRUE. I WONDER DO THESE PEOPLE KNOW THAT THEY’RE THIS WAY? I HAD TO READ IT OVER AND OVER AGAIN… IM STILL IN A DAZE ABOUT THIS ARTICLE.. THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU FOR SHARING THIS WITH ME.. NOW I FINALLY HAVE SOME ANSWERS

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    2. Wow I read the link you provided regarding narcissists. Sound like a of Virgo men are narcissistic. I have read other article are narcissism and didn’t they applied but this one sure did regard the idealization period, devalue and discard.

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  34. Hi Lacrease!

    Thought I’d give an update on ny “friendship” with older virgo coworker. Things have kept on building up between us while remaining to stay in the same place. Does that make any sense?

    He usually gets off work before I do, but last week (Tuesday) he had to do some overtime and he had time to kill between the end of shift and starting that other thing. So Tuesday morning, he asks me if I’m working overtime and says we could grab dinner during his downtime. I said yes (obviously) so we headed out and had a great time. We had dinner and a drink then spent like an hour on a park bench just talking and goofing around.

    It felt like a turning point. The way he acted, the things he said. I thought he’d finally figured out how he feels about me even though he didn’t come out and say so, but just by the way he was acting and how he seemed closer to me. Wednesday, we made lunch plans. But then he came into the office and told my other colleague about the drink I’d had the night before and how good it was (cause he always has a taste of whatever I’m having) and she goes, “oh so you two had dinner last night! So is this thing ever pick up or what?”. Ugh. She has no filter, this colleague. So we sort of laughed it off and he left. Then he emailed me saying he was going to stay in for lunch after all. I asked if it was because of our colleague’s comment and he didn’t answer.

    Thursday I was pretty much down in the dumps because of that and some other issues in my life. And I guess it showed in my face cause the second he came into the office, he was like what’s wrong? And he said he worried about me. So anyway, the day was uneventful and he had Friday off and now we’re both on vacation for the next 2 weeks. I know he’s spending some time with that woman he’s been seeing. I feel like I’m his work gf and he has her as a weekend gf.

    It went so well Tuesday night, like we were finally coming close to something but my friend calling him out on it like that has sent him into one of his pull away moods. I guess I should move on but that’s hard to do when you see the person every day. I’ve got 2 weeks to get my head straight but I suspect he’ll be back to his sweet lovable charming self when we get back to work.

    Ugh!!! .

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    1. (((((((((hugs))))))))) goodness I KNOW THAT FEELING.. SMH…. OMG he didnt answer that question? What is wrong with them? Virgo men is something different… just by him not answering that questions says a whole lot especially after having such a great time. Why couldnt he just answer the QUESTION?????????? UGHHHHHHHH

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  35. Update status of my Virgo man. We have been together over 3 years. It is constant up and down, on and off. After a silent separation period, we saw each other and went out of town for a weekend and had a good time. The following week after the weekend things were good. Well the second week, he starts to distance himself. I wasn’t getting any morning texts from him as I usually do and he would call late about the time I go to bed. Into the third week, we went out one evening and he said he would call the next day when he got up….I did not hear from him the next day and finally I call him and was irritated and tried to tell him that I felt he was distancing himself and he started getting angry and cutting me off and saying that I am too sensitive and other women don’t have issues about the things I have issues with and then I told him to “grow up and take responsibility” and he said “we’re done” and hung up. That has been two days ago and I haven’t heard anything.
    I read the link that someone in another post provided regarding narcissistic people and wow a lot of what the article said applied. Seems that most Virgo men could be classified as being narcissistic.
    They have a great way of using people and then devaluing them and discarding them like yesterday’s trash. They may be nice at times but really they are not GOOD men.
    I have to stop being roped back into this.

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    1. I know I know its so hard not to be roped into it.. I wish I had answers for us all. Its like there is more to them that we need to find out about, and as soon as we get close.. bam GONE AGAIN!!!

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  36. I made a comment on June 20th about me and my Virgo man of two years. So here’s a update. He popped back up!! Out the blue called to “check on me” didn’t apologize or try to talk about our recent break up. I really don’t pay him any mind because I’m sick of the games. He says we will probably never get back together which I’m fine with, but yet hes calling me almost every day 2/3 times a day. Mind u I don’t call him @ all unless its a returned call. Granted i still have feelings for him but I have no real intentions on getting back with this man. He’s to hot and cold 4 me and it drives me crazy. So glad I read this article because now I’m on to him and his sick twisted mind.

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    1. I know it would drive me crazy too, because we dont know what they are thinking and how long does this back and forth last! I dont even see how they can even want to be involved with someone and be back and forth like its nothing to them. Seems to me that they enjoy the space apart and when they come back its like… “hey buddy”.. that crazy mentality. UGH!!! If you dont see yourself with him.. I hear ya gurl, I wouldnt either

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  37. Good Article, I decided to google because I’m lost. 1 month ago I met a Virgo man .. 30 years older. Yes I know but that’s a different story. We live in different states but he flew me out 3 times in one month cause he wanted to see me, he would tell me things like you’re special to me. I am so lucky to have you. I love you( as a person not in love) treated me so well. 10 days ago he went out of the county for a trip.. I sent him 2 messages and complete silence.. He came back and still no contact. Did I do something wrong? Is he done? Should I text him and ask how is trip was? He was so attentive and would text good mornings and check in on me every day for the last month. But now nothing I’m baffled

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    1. Heyyyyyyy… SMH See thats what we’ve been talking about in these threads.. We have no idea what happens to these Virgo men after they “vacuum” you into them.My first question is.. IS HE ALIVE? Have their been any FB stats, or anything to show you that he’s okay? Then if so… this is so sad to be treated this way. I dunno if these men get scared because they found someone they really like, or they just love to do women this way. The mind games kills me.Just to think I almost married one gives me the creeps!!! I hope you hear from him soon, PLEASE LET US KNOW.

      CREE

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      1. He sure is alive, saw him online last night on the dating website we met on. :-/. I’m planning on sending him one more text to see how the trip went and to thank him for a case of wine he sent me before he went on this trip to see if I get a reply if not then looks like I learned my lesson!

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      2. Update** I sent him a casual text with no emotion. Kept it short He responded with a long detail of what he is doing this week with work (he’s extremely busy) I told him not to work too hard and to have a good day. He responded with a “Big kiss!” Just like he used. So maybe we are ok? Not sure if he’s just being nice

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      3. Shelley….this is what these men do. I have been dealing with it for 3 1/2 years and quite frankly I’m sick of it. Half the time I don’t know where I stand. He gets upset anytime I bring an issue up and says it is over or move on. It’s been 6 weeks (the longest silence we have had). I sent him a bday card and about 1 1/2 weeks later he sent a text and said, “thank you, you didn’t have to do anything.” I responded by saying that I thought he was too mad to acknowledge the card or it got lost in the mail.” His response. “No, not mad. just moving on.”
        I can’t figure him out. I don’t know if he looks for things to get upset about and then ends it. We have ended it so many times and usually I initiate contact and we are back on. This last time I didn’t. and 6 weeks have passed. I think he gets scared when he gets too close and tries to find ways to sabotage it.
        Its been a difficult relationship and for some reason, I am still trying to find out why I don’t want to lose him despite all his bad behavior. But I think this is for good. I have called him a few times and then hang up before he answers and he will call back and leave a message saying he got a missed call from me and hope I am alright; therefore, I know he still must care. He is unwilling to talk about issues or look for ways to find a resolution; so we have all these unresolved issues. He can’t compromise either.
        He expects perfection and I am not going along with his relationship script that he has made up in his head.

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      4. Its so hard to tell with these Virgo men…. its like he wouldnt have did all of that if it wasnt for you texting first. Thats what I dont get.. I use to have to always text first, they wont do it on their own. and if they do…. its only TO FISH YOU TO SEE IF YOURE MAD BECAUSE HE HASNT RESPONDED… I dunno

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  38. Exactly. It makes you begin to wonder if there feelings were every real or was it just a fraud. When you do initiate, they are either very nice or they are cold and distance. I hate initiating anything now because I don’t know what I am going to get. After 3 years, it is too painful. So now I am processing the breakup with so many unanswered questions and feeling unworthy.

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  39. I’m done with Virgo men. They are the worst! My last boyfriend was a Virgo and it was the most horrible relationship I’ve ever been in. I’m a Libra women by the way and usually we can at least remain cordial after a break up but not with him.
    Even more recently I went on vacation and met this attractive Virgo man. We really hit it off. We ended up sleeping together which I’ve never done but I figured what the heck! I’m on vacation and will probably never see him again so it will just be a fun thing to say I did once in life. Before I left we decided to before friends on FB. He messaged me telling me he wanted to see me again and he would pay for the trip. I said ok then thought about it then said no. Then thought about it again and said yes lol. He acted like it was all good. He wanted me to come so I got the ticket and changed my preplanned vacation around for the trip. He kept telling him he couldn’t wait to see me blah blah blah then all of a sudden he stopped responding to my messages. Like straight up disappeared! I was getting upset because I already got the ticket and took the time and he just started ignoring me. I finally called him which is crazy expensive and asked him what was going on. I asked did he still want me to come he was like I guess. I was shocked! You guess!? I said no either you want me to come or not but I guess isn’t an answer. Finally he said no. Again I was shocked. You let me do all this changing around and let me get a plane ticket then you just change your mind. To add insult to injury it was my bday so going to see him was my bday plans and he knew that. He just didn’t care. He claims he will send me the money but I doubt it. I unfriended him on FB so I’m sure he’s mad about that and won’t be bothered with me anymore. I got the ticket myself since it was expensive to wire the money and what kind of person would let you get a ticket if they didn’t really want you to come?
    That’s my last time with Virgo men. They have left a bad taste in my mouth and they don’t take responsibility for their actions. They tend to end up alone because they run everyone off and they don’t communicate well at all.

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  40. Sigh .. here we goes im a capricorn my bf is saggitaurus … I know my bf since primary skool n I meet thus Virgo guy last year December November time … my friend knows him I was doing pre law n he was studying too not the same field but same exam level .. I dropped out cause of financial instability … we went to this club n every one was enjoying themselves n this guy stands in the middle of the dance floor dancing with himself it hit me then who is this guy anyway we all hung out n my friend got into an accident n left every one traumatised except me j was like where is my head band lol then i left cause I had a date a couple days later he called saying he found it n invited me at him … along with some other friends we made out n then when we were almost there u said uk we’re not having sex .. lol I wanted to but I was on my period lol then blah blah blah I have a bf he has a gf he talks about family n kids n what he wants from a girl n all that I asked him why hes doing this he said he feel comfortable with me but if this is an affair why bring all that sentimental bullshit sigh smh he asked me what j think our kids would look like blah blah blah ik his friends n over time he seems to be growing feelings not to mention every time he smokes or drinks he calls me … we are very compatible in every way my mom n guardian r Virgos so I like them n I understand that they get moody n if u push intimacy it ends very badly … so I wait till he wants it … I see it as just sex but the signs he sends me says otherwise … I would love to be in a relationship with hi. But he doesn’t seem to want that be says he doesn’t like hurting females so he hasnt broken up with her cause uk their friends at skool n they go to the same skool .. when we talk he does most of the talking I reply but sometimes I just look at him n smile he thinks its cause he thinks he talking too much but I reassured him its cause I was wondering why we’re not indulging in coitus yet lol so should I keep this asa sometimes fling or prepare my for him wanting more … I can handle the truth … btw we’re 18 year old

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  41. I could not help but to agree with everything. Have been with my Virgo for over 12 years and it has been hard. When I read when they are good, they’re amazing, I could not agree more. So many great qualities, but so many challenges that makes it so hard. Everything is my fault…And when we speak of his errors, it is non existent. Through the relationship, we have had many engagements and he would call all of them off and blame me for it. I feel crazy for loving someone that can be so hard to deal with. Soon as I try to leave, I get pulled back in. Every mistake I have made (even before meeting him) he throws up. As a Leo, since we are supposed to be so drawn to red why did I miss all the red flags! 😣😩😳

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    1. Hi Leo Woman-

      I am a Virgo woman and was in a relationship with a Virgo man for about 3 1/2 years. Everything that has been posted on this site, my ex boyfriend did; yet, I still remained in the relationship until he decided he was “tired of the relationship and didn’t want to do it anymore”. It has been over 3 months that we “broke up”. However, just as predicted, he still sends me random texts from time to time. He doesn’t seem to want to get back together. I am thinking he wants to see if maybe I am still interested with the intent of wanting to put me back up “on the shelf” again. My ex was amazing too; but, this dark and ugly side would appear and he would criticize me and blame me for his anger and his issues. He would also remember everything from the past and throw that up in my face. It was like he was “stuck” on things that happened a long time ago. He would be hot and then cold, close and then distance. Most of the time I never knew where I stood or why he would distance himself. He wouldn’t communicate any of it to me. He is 51 years old.
      Just recently, I met a nice Aries man and what a refreshing difference. Although, I am still working through the emotions of my ex, I realize I wouldn’t have been happy living that way.
      I have been seeing a counselor to work through all of this, because my ex Virgo man played a number on my emotions. These Virgo men seem to parallel narcissistic people. They initially put you up on a pedestal and then began to devalue you and discard you.

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  42. I met this Virgo man 24 years old a month back n since the first day he liked me.. he wooed me 2 days n since than until 5 days back we were together. He said in the girl he was always looking for n that he will marry me n stuff. He lives in another country but comes to my country once in every 2 months. He seemed really genuine about his feeling n paid a whole lot of attention to me. However just 5 days back he suddenly stopped talking to me.. i messaged him next dat asking him what’s wrong he didn’t reply.. I called him but no answer. I can see him online but he doesn’t answer me. But yesterday he put up a status on FB that ‘if someone does not brighten your life than you gotta find sunshine elsewhere’ . I know that this status was directed towards me but why? I haven’t done anything we didn’t even argue about anything! He just cut me off. I asked him if I hurt him somehow but no reply again. I don’t what to do.. I dint contact him at all today. Should I wait for him will he come back? I’ve read the posts here n people say they reappear again i want to if he will also . I m thinking of just giving him some space n not contacting him for a few days.

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    1. Ahhh wow!!! Yess just give him space. something went on in his head. But dont even beat yourself up over it, because its most likely him!!! Give him space and if he comes back… then ask yourself is this what you want to look forward too every so many days and weeks. Or you can keep it moving!!1 (((hugs to you))))
      Im so glad my Virgo friend moved out of the building, because he was the same way

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      1. Yes I haven’t talked to him in 3 days now. Yesterday he unfollowed me on instagram but anyhow my instagram is in public mode. He did not unfriend me on facebook though I wonder why! N his last seen on whatsapp is 3days back.. he doesn’t come online there anymore. I wonder what’s wrong with him.is he so busy with work.?

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  43. So i have been talking to a Virgo guy from my class for the past 3 months. We have been on two dates. Iam a Leo but very close to Cancer. I can be shy depending on how comfortable iam. I find him intimidating.

    Anyway after our first date in december he became a little distant. I didnt chase him. We had class in January and i saw him 3x a week. He stopped texting. We met up after claas twice to just make out – all my doing. In class he would poke me, tickle me, always touching me. I was talking to a classmate guy (not flirting tho) , he came over and pushed me. He is 28 – iam 36.

    We just had our second date and i was a little nervous. I wore a dress – i looked good and he said he noticed my efforts and liked the color i was wearing, but no compliments. He wore a nice leather jacket and scarf and i told him later i liked those items but also didnt compliment him directly.
    We talked about music but he stated that i wont have anything in coommon with him. He told me i should date white punk guys.

    Anyway after dinner we parked and talked. Not once did he touch me, but in class all over me. Dont get it!

    At one point we got out the car and i saw him checking me out. (I dint have my jacket on and my dress was tight) i laughingly said “dont look at me”. I was a little self concious because he was talking about women who wear girdles lol and that they should just work out. Iam curvy with a little extra weight. He is chubby too!

    After i told him not to look lol he told me i was complicated. I asked why he thought that and he hesitated. I told him i was simple! When i prodded him – he told me i was paranoid, care too much about what others think and have self esteem issues. All true but am working on all these things.

    He originally wanted me to come over after dinner but then told me he was being nice by not pushing me to come over. We havent had sex yet. I thought we would hook up this night. This made me more nervous on the date.
    Anyway we didnt hook up, didnt even go to his house. he texted me two days later. We texted briefly but i had to go. I texted him last night (2 days from our last brief texts). He joked about us hanging a dozen times before i would be comfortable with coming over. I said could he wait 12 times. He said probably not. When i asked if he would seduce me beforehand – he said iam too self conscious and nervous and his game wouldnt work on me. WTF?

    He then asked what my end goal for this is? What??? He said he doesnt want a relationship so this puts the breaks on it for him. I was surpised and hurt!

    I told him iam not sure i even want a relationship, but would be into a monogomous dating pattern, getting to know eachother better and seeing where it is going. I told him i respected his decision and asked if he would be more into that. He said he didnt know. I then told him we barely know eachother and we may not like eachother after 5 dates but that we dont know what life will hand us.
    I told him if he liked me he would think about it. I ended there and he texted me that he will do some thinking.

    Omg what the hell??? I dont know what to think. Is he into me at all? Is there a chance he will pursue something with me? Yes i want a relationship one day – i dont know if hes the one. Would i like him to be – maybe ?

    Ouch help!!!

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    1. Hey sis!! Was reading your letter and had to laugh! Not at you.. no no no.. THESE VIRGO MEN!!! I just don’t understand them. I wish that I could help you, but thing is I dont get them myself. I think tho. They over analyze you when in their presence and either realize that you are not the one for them, or they start to feel insecure. Let me give you an example. Lets say you are having a deep conversation about how important family is to you, and that you get along with all your siblings and parents. But since you are doing the talking, and you dont know that, they cant stand their parents because of past issues, or the fact that they dont get along with their siblings. In their minds…. they figure okay we wouldnt work out because we come from different back grounds.. And all while you think its you, its really them!!! Thing is they WILL NEVER SHARE WITH YOU THE REASON WHY THEY STOP CALLING, TEXTING, OR SPEAKING. They figure it doesn’t matter anyway. They over think things and end up with nothing at the end. I know because Im a virgo myself. But these Virgo men have nothing on the women. They will disappear in a heartbeat making you feel some kinda way. I don’t like that at all. The advice I would give you is to keep it moving with him. If he comes back into the picture be very careful.. THEY ARE KNOWN TO BE BACK AND FORTH AS LONG AS WE LET THEM.. Let the ball be in his court, don’t get emotionally attached to him at all. and let him wonder about you.

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    2. Leogrl17, I hate to put it this way, but that virgo guy was only interested in getting his di** wet. He practically spelled it out to you. But, you missed it. Move on and don’t contact him or answer his calls/texts.

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  44. If we do get to talk, i really want to call him out on his inconsistencies. Not sure if that would help or hurt, but i feel like he should still know.
    He is a good person, and i wish this could work.

    Thank you for the response and the help. I will be cautious. Unfortunately i always tend to lead with my heart.

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  45. Why are virgo men so confusing? I dated this virguy for 20months and I am a Taurus by the way. He broke up with me cuz he said he wanted to find himself but later on revealed that we just weren’t fit for each other. I told him that we could work it out so I chased him and tried to reconcile. But he said that he just doesn’t have feelings for me anymore. And then told me that he wanted to get back just a little bit. Now after 8months, he added me on fb and followed me on instagram. Then later on, deleted his facebook and created a new one. Like wth??? Finally messaged me and asked how things are going along with confusing late happy new year greeting. Seriously? Then, recently I found out that he’s been with a girl last Valentines and his friends were too insensitive to even support this nonsense. They even posted photos of them on fb. Lel! I still have feelings for himbut right now, I’m keeping my distance. It’s too hurtful more so, confusing! I don’t understand why our mutual friends will even support him playing house with this random girl. It’s been 3 weeks since he last contacted me but I have a feeling he’ll pop out again. I don’t want to get hurt again.

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    1. That’s so similar what happened with me. Oh God! And yes that was exactly what he said to me too- I want to find myself, I don’t think I know who I am, I haven’t been true to you, blah blah and then I don’t think I love you any more. Like what were you thinking, or playing all the while?!
      He called couple of times later to check on how I was coping with moving on. The last time I didn’t even bother picking up. And he hasn’t tried to get in touch ever since. His last status before I took him off my contacts indicated that he’s probably already seeing someone else. They move on so quickly too!!
      Ah! I’d say, they are so lovable but simply don’t deserve our love because they are scared of being loved.

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  46. OMG I feel like you know my husband!!! Lol but I can’t take it anymore … I’m a gemini, I know it can be hard to live with me, but the drama with the virgo is too much. And everything bad happening in his life is my fault. The other day et said we should move our own separate ways and yesterday he said “we should put money aside to buy a new computer” ….. What the hell!???? We have a daughter together so I think that’s why I’m still with him. He never wants to do nothing. I have to force him to come see my friends and family, he just wants to stay home all the time. BORING! Lol but the criticism is the worst thing for him. No matter what I do, it’s never good enough. Rarely he will say something nice … I can you live with a person like that? Is there hope for a change?

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    1. Omg….just like my ex. Critical, boring, moody, etc. Everything was my fault. No matter how hard I tried to please him or adapt it wasn’t good enough. He would fall silence and distance himself. He ended relationship last year only to restart cycle with someone else.

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  47. Hey, La’crease

    I need your opinion and help on this one so me a 26 years old Scorpio and a 24 years old Virgo man have been dating for about 8 years now the last 2 years have been hectic to me, Oh God so hard and confusing it consumes all my energy and thoughts, he was never this cold and selfish before its like he woke up one day to become this heartless creature who feels nothing!!

    My main issue here is how should I deal with his silent treatment when he is depressed or something is upsetting him ?? I have been living in hell for the past 2 month he is having some issues and troubles in his work and with his parents he is depressed and he decided to shut me out like I am responsible for any of this he doesn’t give me any chances to try and talk to him about his problems or why he is depressed lately he barely texts back or answer my calls he could go for a whole week with no contact and only when I call him sometimes he answers and most of the time he doesn’t answer nor does he call me back, I feel like my brain is being eaten up by the amount of thoughts that I have 😦

    Oh and when he does pick up and we talk for minutes and I dare to ask him what is going on he would deny that there is something wrong he would either change the subject,joke around, or just tell me that he is sorting out some issues that he has and that is it and he would cut off the call saying something like I have to do whatever and I will call you back and guess what he never calls back

    seriously what is going on, I just need to know how should I deal with his current mood and the silent treatment ……. and even when I watsapp him he doesn’t even open the conversation to read my messages. and if this is how he is when he deals with a problem how come it never happened before why only in the past 2 years did he change so much

    Help me please

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    1. Heyyyyyyy sis!!! I read your message!! Wow, with a Virgo sometimes its easy to tell that something is going on., but its hard to pin point. Let me ask you this? Think back.,…… think hard. did something happened that could have turned him off about you or a certain situation? Virgos ( I’m one too) things can be on our minds about something that happened, and if you dont say anything sometimes we dont either to avoid a debate. Virgos are known to SHUT DOWN.. and its hard to get back to where things were. You should talk to him face to face to get all of his emotions and body language.. Talking to a virgo over the phone, in text message WONT HIT IT.. You need to see his face!!!!! You can learn a lot about whats reallygoing on with him. Its easy for a male virgo to shut down and disconnect… and let me say this,.., IT MAY NOT EVEN BE ABOUT YOU,,, IT MAY BE ABOUT SOMETHING GOING ON IN HIS LIFE,,, AND SOMETIMES VIRGOS CANT DO TWO THINGS AT ONCE. After meeting him face to face (( IF he’ll give you that)) you will know in your heart, if this is something you want to work on or not.

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      1. You have to get him to meet you in person! No more texting or emailing. You have to see him face to face to get his real reaction to your question, and to see how he feels about you. Talking to him in text will not help you at all, because you cannot capture his true feelings. You need eye contact. You also have to be willing to face what ever his true feelings are. Do NOT be in denial because it will only set you back. I know its hard not to think about it, because women lovesssss closure, but you have to make sure you are loving yourself during this process and focus on yourself as well. You cannot give him all of your energy and thoughts thinking about what went wrong. One thing I learned about a man, you cannot do anything to change how he feels, he has to do it on his own. Just be willing to listen to what ever he has to say, if he keeps saying nothing is wrong, and not calling or answering your text or emails after the face to face talk… THEN ITS UP TO YOU TO MAKE A DECISION…. ITS NO LONGER UP TO HIM WHEN IT COOMES TO YOUR LIFE.. YOUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUU MAKE THE DECISION TO KEEP IT MOVING!

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      2. Ok if that wasn’t in response to my post about a month ago it’s sure did sound like it however I have asked him he always says nothing I can’t get over him sending messages to another girl that we work with but telling me it’s nothing they are cool I am a Scorpio I’m a very jealous person I just feel like they emotion is not there and I feel like he has an emotional attachment with this other female but I don’t understand why I think it’s because she is making him chase her but from what I understand she is involved in a relationship I think even Married…I just believe it’s nothing there and I need to let go and just look at it as something that just happened however can you look at my post from February so you can see what I am referencing to thank you

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  48. Girl! I have a problem and such a long story concerning this virgo – do i leave it on here or do i contact you via email??

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  49. I keep wanting to communicate with the Virgo guy who broke with me a year ago! Ahh, its frustrating but also I can’t help but still love him! I hate the silence he maintains, like all is cool, at least being in talking terms would help me, I feel, even to move on may be! Anybody else here felt the same and contacted him later? How do they tend to react like after this long?..

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    1. Hello mydeardiary9….
      My ex Virgo broke up with me last August. We had some random text until this past January when he told me that he met someone. I love him dearly but it was such a dysfunctional relationship…..hot/cold….he would be very charming and then distant himself for no reason. When we would have an issue come up…he would go silence for weeks and the only way it would get resolved was if I changed. I sent him an email in April about how I felt and only spoke of myself. He did respond to that email the next day…but I can’t bring myself to open it as I believe it will just hurt me further. I can’t go back to what to the relationship was….it was not healthy and full of psychological abuse as I have learned that he has many trait of a narcissist. I don’t know if I will every recover fully from this….it has been a slow process. I struggle with no contact because I want to hear something from him or at least be friends but he doesn’t want that; otherwise, he would contact me. At least with no contact…all the crazymaking events have ended….there is no more for me to have to add and sort through.

      My ex keeps in contact with his two ex gf but I was completely discarded, so I don’t know what to think. I have developed a close relationship with God and I believe God does not want him to be a part of my life in any shape or form.

      I would suggest that you have no contact because you are prolonging the healing process and will further hurt yourself especially if he is not interested in any kind of relationship with you. I know this is not what you want to hear but it will safeguard your heart and bring you peace of mind in the long term.

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      1. Oh my God Deborah, so similar cases. He had his previous exes on his Facebook even though aren’t in touch anymore, but I have been removed from everything available. This one also would tell me, he knows how good he is and he uses it to charm people, but didn’t want to that with me anymore. Sometimes it was so confusing to understand which parts were true and which was lies.. anyway, I couldn’t help it and left him a random message yesterday, to which there has been no reply. I guess you were right..it only feels like torture, and why should we hang in there just for a one sided love. I need o not care about him anymore, really. In fact we need to focus on other things and prove them that it’s their loss, you know!
        I hope both of find peace. Thank you so much for this, Deborah.

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      2. I am sorry. I know how painful it is. I would highly recommend that you read: “From Charm to Harm and Everything in Between with a Narcissist by Gregory Zaffuto. This book describes my ex Virgo and it has really helped me in my healing process. Men or I should say boys like this made up feel like we were the only woman in the world and then began devaluing us and finally discarded us as if we never meant anything. I question my relationship with my ex on so many levels. I wonder if he even really loved me or what his motive was. While he has moved on, I am left sitting in a pile of rubble trying to sort it all out. I can’t even begin to think about another relationship. I don’t think I will ever date another Virgo men….they all seem similar.
        Find things you love and surround yourself with the goodness and beauty out of life. Be compassionate and gentle with yourself during this healing process.

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      3. like to hear it here it goes lol…My Virgo guy I met at work first I must say that was the worst thing ever he is the biggest flirt dog etc. I am a Scorpio in which I am very passionate in everything that I do including my men. We started off as just friends nothing to do we sat very close to each to the point I could see everything he was doing on his computer I didn’t know he had an interest in me at all until we went into a training class and me and him say right next to each other (wasn’t planned) one day he just came on so strong to me wanting my number so I gave it to him he came on so strong how he wanted to take me out so we went out after we went out we had sex I thought of it as being safe and comfortable bcuz we were friends first after the sex everything was cool things went back to being somewhat the same he would try and kiss me at work etc that was the only time we ever went out somewhere for the first 3 weeks I would hear from him everyday after work asking what was I doing then it just stopped to where he would only contact me on the weekend when he wanted to me come over and it would after he went out somewhere with his friends I didn’t think nothing about bcuz I got so used to being with him laying with him etc. There was too situations at work one were he would be sending this girl messages daily like GM and talking back and forth I asked him about it and he said it was nothing they was just cool I felt some kinda way bcuz he was talking to girl more than he talked to me and we was having sex on a regular bases I brushed that situation off then there was another situation where I found some notes that him and another coworker that he say closer than me was passing basically how they was going to have sex or how they did i saw some things he wrote and they referenced sex I was hurt bcuz I asked him about him and her and he said they was just friends they never did anything together but these notes said something different so I sent him a long text of how hurt I was and how i didn’t want him to say anything to me he called me twice after I sent the message I didn’t answer he texted me saying he didn’t sleep with her and if he did he would’ve told me bcuz he doesn’t have to lie to me I never replied to his text and we didn’t say anything to each other for a month it was weird bcuz we had to look at each other everyday. After that month I broke the silence by calling him he didn’t even let the phone ring lol I said to him so you really wasnt going to say anything to me he said you told me not too we went back and forth about the situation until he ended the call by telling me he was going to call me back. That Monday we spoke to each then after work we went to the parking and did some nasty things in the car smh after we left the parking lot he textd me to tell me about a money situation at the time it was tax time so I had extra money what he told me made me feel bad for him and as a friend I allowed him to borrow money and advised him that as soon as he got it he needs to give it back to me he said ok and Thank you that was back in March to this day I halve not got my money back after I gave him the money he still acted the same until a week later they let him go as they were letting us all go just a matter of time. As soon as he told me that they let him go I went into problem solver mode I told him who to call who to ask for about jobs he said thank you he got a job thru a agency a week after getting let go but he didn’t say anything to me about it I had to ask while he was working everything was the same he was still going out on the weekend and calling me after basically as a booty call one day I sent him a long text telling him how I couldn’t do this and that I want more he replied 4 hours later telling me he doesn’t know what to say he isn’t lookin for a relationship so I told him that I wasn’t looking to be having sex with someone for no reason of I sent the text on a Friday and later that night yes booty call hours he texts and called me several times I didn’t answer but I sent him a text asking him to stop disrespecting me I meant what I said he didn’t reply and I didn’t hear from him again until the following week saying good morning and then that Saturday night asking what was I doing at that time I told hi I was going to miami in the morning he ask me how was I getting to the airport I told him someone was taking me but never said who he told me to let him know when I landed but when I got there I forgot heck it’s miami lol he texted me later that night while I was there about 8 something asking if I landed I never replied he texted me in the morning saying good morning I didn’t reply to the after noon the whole time I was there he was keeping tabs on me asking several times a day what was doing what was I doing now I didn’t reply except 2x then he begin to call several times I would say about 5 in a row I finally texted him asking what was wrong he said nothing he wanted to know when I was coming home and why I wasn’t answering my phone I told him when I was coming home but never said why I wasn’t answering he asked me was I coming to see him when I got home I told him no he said why I told him bcuz I want more and u do not I ended the convo after he told me I better be at his house when I get back lol he texted me later that night about 2am asking again what was I doing I didn’t reply the next morning he text again asking did I land safe I replied hours later bcuz I was home and sleep later that night he begged to come over and see me I did allow him too but when he left in the morning I felt stupid so as time went on we still did the same thing he went out and called me I would come to
        him or he would come here this went on for a month until me and him went on vacation not together but at the same time in May he wanted to see me before I left so I went to see him he went on a cruise with his family he said he wouldn’t be able to contact me while on there however when he got to miami he let me know he got there then once they got back on land he text me good morning to let me know they were back in miami and when he would be home after we both got back from our trips everything was good his communication to me was 100% better he would text me good morning every morning and if I texted him he would reply right away however we still wasn’t doing anything else not going out nothing he was still going out with his friends and not me however it was different after the trips bcuz I was seeing him now 2-3 times a week I even gave him a special night the day after he came back from his trip with candles dinner massage me with a sexy outfit he loved it like I said the commutation was good but I still wanted more when I told him about us not going out he told me he doesn’t have money to be taking me out after I he said that I felt bad and allowed our relationship to continue as it was up until about a week ago he told me his assignment with the position he had was about to end that was last Friday so once again I went into problem solver mode telling him about agencies jobs and to call unemployment asking about his benefits he thanked me again and said he would however when I asked him what he was doing later that night he said he was going out with a homie that word homie didn’t sit too well with me so later that night I sent him a text test to see if he would reply bcuz I was thinking he was with a female he replied right back with more than one word texts however that still was not enough for me so about 2 hours after the text my crazy Scorpio kicked in and drove to his house in someone else’s car I found him sitting in the car alone on his phone he didn’t see me I texted him about a minute after leaving the parking lot asking what he was doing he didn’t reply so I called he didn’t answer I waited and call 30 mins later he didn’t answer but he called me right back I asked where he was he said at the bar I asked why was it so quite he said he came outside to call me he was lying o was looking at him sitting in his car!!!!’ however I told him I wanted to see him he said he would call me when he left at 2am in which he did call he told me he was on his way home he called again about 10 mins later telling me in was in the parking lot waiting for me I told him I’ll be there in 10 mins when I saw him he was dressed had a watch on cologne it look like he went on a date he didn’t even drink when I asked him where he went he named the street the bar was on then I asked why didn’t he drink he said he wasn’t in a drinking mode which is a lie he is always drinking we went into the house where we of course had sex but before then he had a look on his face of sadness when I asked what was wrong he said nothing and kissed me I left his house early in the morning but later that day I sent him a long text telling him again I want more and how he wasn’t willing to give it to me and how I need to move on he never replied I only sent that text bcuz I was hurt by he fact that he went out even if it was with a guy friend or female that is all I have been asking of him is more effort heck I don’t have money to take him out but I do other things I cannot even get a massage from this man when I told him about job I got he didn’t even say congrats nothing I don’t like that when I have been nothing but supporting to him cooking for him bringing him lunch when we was working together getting him things like if I see something he needed at the house I would get it heck loaning him money which I haven’t got back yet but he was buying things like a laptop sneakers going out etc I’m just hurt that he didn’t feel like I am worth a chase or even efforts of little things however 3 days after I sent that text I sent him a text letting him know that I will always be here for him he replied and said Thank you for that. I do not know what to do on one hand I feel bad bcuz something was changing and that was the communication but the effort wasn’t there I felt that he would never feel the way I feel for him it’s been 8 months continuing 8 months except when we didn’t talk for that month but it hurts that he can still look at me as a friend. Please help I cannot get him off my mind to the point I’m not even excited about my new job and that I’m worrying if he is working or doing ok. Sorry I know it’s a lot

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      4. Hey gurl!!! First all I LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE long messages like yours. I love to read and write so I could have read more. I work midnights and just got off, and this was one I had to read before I laid down. Let me say this. WOMEN are MOTHERS whether or not you have kids, we are always making sure everyone is okay and doing fine. And this is the very issues that gets us in trouble with men. We feel that we have to “help” then in their time of need. We enjoy bringing lunch and making sure everything is fine. But our problem is.. We do it with the wrong men, and in our “meantime” of finding the RIGHT one for us. I know sis you cant help it, because you really like him. But we have to start listening to them when they say.. “Im not ready for a relationship”, We have to really hear those words and apply it to THEIR lives. lol lol What is happening here, is that you are still giving him all the things a man wants in a relationship (( and if he allow you the time, you would do more,,, and that means all of us women as well))) while at the same time, he’s saying.. “im not ready for that”. We as women have to learn to FALL BACK on giving these men that boyfriend/gurlfriend treatment. THEY ARE WINNING ALL DAY EVERYDAY WHEN IT COMES TO US!!!! But we are always left shortchanged and empty. Because he is not willing to give us what we want from them. We have to learn how to take it for face value, or get hurt. FLAT OUT! If you ask for the money back. to him it will mean that you are mad and bitter because you let too much time pass. He knows he owes you money, but he feels that its okay, as long as he is still in your picture. Its NOT our job as a women to help a “friend” especially him in this case, to help him find a job, and even though it is SOOOOOOOOOO SWEET OF YOU, this man is winning too much not to be in a committed relationship with you. This man likes you know doubt, but the door is open for him to be here and there, and that is not cool. I looooooooooooved when you went over to his house.. ooooooo weee yes.. something we all have done a time or two. Wish I could have been there with you. Its going to be hard getting him off your mind, because the SEX IS WHAT KEEPS YOU CONNECTED!!! SEX is the devil!! LOL LOL LOL It will have you hiding in the bushes watching “your man”. lol but it also start the “lying process” of this man. Just as you saw all of his moves, the lies from him will start and then thats another issues that will PISS YOU OFF!!!! LOL You see this man with your own eyes, but he doesnt know it, and then he LIES!!! NOW!!!! If you really want to see a chase pursue……write him a short letter telling him that you really like him, and that you was giving it time and was hoping that he would eventually be ready to start something more serious. Tell him from this point on… the ball is in his court. This means you will not answer the phone and talk about sex, conversations will be concerning job, family, social issues. Yes you will want him and remember keep the letter/text short.Oh yes, he will call, and be honest in a nice way. BUT HERE IS OUR DOWNFALL.. we answer the phone after not talking to them and then we get WEAK. WE WANT SEX! You have to be strong and mean what you say.. Okay, Im going to take a nap, but when i wake up Ill see if you replied with questions if anything is not clear. Talk to you later Cree

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      5. Cree, Thank you Thank you…the crazy thing is that I was talking to my girlfriend about the situation even though she already knows it step-by-step I was on the phone when I got your response because I felt bad that I flipped out and him not even knowing why I flipped out I did not tell him why I just told him I needed more and then that even though I said his communication was so much better I still was not happy but what really made me not happy is seeing that he went out when I just spoke to my girlfriend she gave me a different light on the situation now she said no do not call him to talk face-to-face about why I flipped out because I have to give him time but she also gave me another outlook on the situation she said yes he may have went out but I have to understand that he is going through a lot it just may have been a stress reliever and it had has nothing to do with me he’s going through issues with court of child support and he’s not working so she said it was kind of selfish of me but she understands my feeling because I only thought oh he’s going out why can’t we go out but she said at the end of the day it really had nothing to do with me and she believes that he likes me a lot but I may be too intense for him and that I reacted instead of thinking then react which I did not honestly and now even speak it to her I feel even worse because he was trying and it does make me look like I will never be happy at this point I feel as though I’ve ran him off which I understand because it does make me look a little bipolar I really don’t know what to do but to be a nurturer where when he told me about his issues I should’ve just listen and not try to solve the problem but that’s me that’s always been me with my girlfriends boyfriends whatever. I did tell him that I will always be there for him but at this point the way I go back-and-forth I don’t think he wants me to be there for him it has been a week now since the last time I saw or spoke with him even though we have went a week without talking or more I feel like this is the actual end of it because I may be too intense for him he does not like intensity am going out even if he went out with a female or a mail it’s no stress is no intensity is just a reliever in me being so intense is not a reliever but him maybe being around me is a stress reliever and honestly I feel like that if it was the case I messed it up. I feel like it different normally if I go off on him he would text me later that night like nothing happen but this time it hasn’t been anything. I can only say again I feel bad and I honestly miss him but I’m not going to call I can only hope he comes back around. I don’t want his last thoughts of me as being selfish in no way bcuz that’s totally not me. It’s funny bcuz I had a boyfriend with the same birthday as this guy sept 9th and I don’t remember these much emotions the only thing with my ex is that he had a whole other life that I knew nothing about that’s why I left him I didn’t go thru this much with my ex we did things he even brought me around his family we went out on dates to the mall we did everything together that’s why it took me by surprise that he lived with his daughters mother and the only how I found out about it was bcuz one weekend he brought a overnight bag to my house as he normally did when he stayed with me the whole weekend which he did every weekend but this time he had a cell phone in the bag no I didn’t go looking but when came to the house he dropped his stuff off and went out with his friends and the cell phone started to ring I went into the bag and got the phone it was his daughters mothers phone I knew that because she had a pic of her and daughter on the phone I went thru the pics of the phone and found a pic of her sending someone a pic of her engagement ring also I found that ring at the bottom of his bag so they must have for into a fight and he moved out I called him and met up with him gave him his stuff handed him the phone and ring separate from the bag all he said was why were you going thru my stuff!!!! after that he called me constantly back to back for about a week and then nothing after that it was 7 years ago I remember the heartbreak I went thru with him I cried I took sleeping pills to cover the pain it got to the point we’re I was addicted to Tylenol pm (before they changed The ingredients) I lost a lot of weight because I did nothing but go to work take a pill and go to sleep when I finally got over the situation I spoke with him it was about four years later and he acted as if he never did anything it was all me he keeps saying to this day I could’ve been the one. In the midst of talking to him I wind up having sex with him come to find out he had a girlfriend at the time after while the next day we had sex called my phone I told her everything because it was the same cycle he has always living with females sharing a car etc however he blamed me for them breaking up like I knew he had a girlfriend he said I should have never told her anything smh. I say all that to say why would I even wanna repeat something with a Virgo they are all the same especially these two they have the same birthday I feel like I’m setting myself up lol

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      6. Hey gurl!!! I love your messages because I can actually picture every word you are saying as if its a story and real people are in my head! lol I agree those Virgo men do not know how to communicate, but they get better over time. I think many of them want the ” girlfriend” but seem to flirt or desire other women. I dont understand if a man doesnt want to be in a relationship why do they “open up” friendships with us and do relationship things and then say… I’m not ready for one. My question is… youre not ready for a relationship, or is it that you found out in your mind youre not feeling me? Men do not know how to sit out and until they know they are ready to start one. Noooooo, they have to meet us and make us feel like theyve changed their mind and that we are the one to do it. For your situation, I know its hard, but I will let the ball stay in his court. Do not do any more “flips or bungee jumps” for this man. Let him do some “acts” for a change. We as woman have to learn that when “something” change and even if we dont know what it is….. we have to change too. Because trying to figure out whats wrong, will have us messed up in the head lol. Men dont communicate like we do, and Im cool with that. I had to learn that the hard way. And even though I’ll still ask…. whats wrong, and still not get an answer from him.. ILL MAKE A MOVE FIRST. We have to learn to pick up on hints from a man, and take it as face value. We ALWAYS want to know why, and if there is someone else, what did WE do wrong, and thats normal… but we cannot spend toooooooooooooooooooo much time anymore, trying to figure out, whats in their heads. too time consuming. Make decisions on your own as to where the relationship/friendship is going.

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      7. Ugh I just don’t know what to do but I know that I will text him to say happy Father’s Day and see what happens from there like you said if he wants me he will show me. I feel like I am jumped to assuming that it was this and that when it may have been nothing or maybe something he was too embarrassed to discuss with me hell I don’t know all what this man does heck I just found out he played baseball smh again I just feel like this pre break up is different and this time he doesn’t wanna come back basically him saying 3rd strike your out!!!

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      8. Yess, wish him a Happy Father’s Day! Don’t be too hard on yourself, what ever lessons you need to take with you, make sure you take them to the next guy you meet. Gurl trust me weve all been down this street before when it comes to a man we like and then “something” change. Just look at it like this, a older lady told me and it stuck with me FOREVER… She said, its okay if you realize that this is NOT the man for you, the one for you is still out there, and its up to you to get to him!!! That meant for me to regroup myself and get in position to be in order for when he comes. I toook that to heart, and when I meet a guy and we find out that we are not the one for each other, ITS SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO OKAY IN MY MIND THAT WE DIDNT GO ANY FURTHER!!!! Because I know the one for me is still out there!!! Another thing too, having sex with them before you find out if HEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE really likes you and do things to take it to the next level…… KEEP YOUR GOODIES!!! Just like a JOB… no benefits until 90 days!!! Thats wayyyyyyyy enough time to know if he/myself is still interested. But he must not know you are waiting 90 days, only YOU.

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      9. Thank you Thank you from the bottom of my heart…yes that is a good saying and yes I will take that with me also he isn’t the one for me I need someone who is my best friend some one I can vent too talk about my day too not someone I have to change for but he is something I want right now because I am so comfortable heck it’s almost been a year I think anybody in my position would be comfortable but I will take it as it is if he comes back then we’ll see where goes from there if not then like you said he’s not the one for me and be ready for the one for me coming to me.

        Thank you again

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      10. YESSSS GURL!!! YESSSSS YOU GET IT!!!! YOU REALLY GET IT… AND GUESS WHAT? ITS OKAYYYYYYYYYYYYY. IT IS SOOOOOOOOOOOO OKAY … THAT YOU FOUND OUT HE WAS NOT THE ONE FOR YOU. DONT BE MAD,. DONT BE SAD ANYMORE. DONT FEEL SOME KINDA WAY… ITS OKAY!!! ONCE I LEARNED THAT IT WAS OKAY….. I WAS ABLE TO SMILE AND KEEP IT MOVING!!! YOURE SO WELCOME.. STAY IN TOUCH HERE

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      11. Good Morning my text fingers are itching I am worried about him I wanna ask how he is doing..with these men and all that I told you about my situation what do you think this will do? do you think it would do more bad than good

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  50. Hi! I met a Virgo guy through Facebook, and that was during the time I have been seeing signs like 11:11, 4:44 and all those angel numbers, to which I’ve read that I am in the process of meeting my “twin flame”. We had no mutual friends on Facebook, which amused me because you cannot add a friend on FB if you do not have mutual friends. He owns a farm on the suburbs with a big red barn, a fish pond and mango trees where one has a tire swing hanging on it. I just narrated this bec I envisioned myself growing old with a man and staying in a place with everything in this picture. So it was all really coincidental to me. So I was even thinking that this Virgo guy might be my “twin flame” already.
    We started off okay. He constantly calls me, messages me sweet notes everyday the whole day. He even was the one who started telling me that I was the one he was looking for even though we have not met in person yet. He told me that he was visualizing things like growing old with me on a farm with our kids.
    Then one day, I got no messages and calls from him. Because I got used to receiving them everyday, I asked him through text if something was wrong. I got surprised when he answered, I annoyed him by asking that and said that he needed space. So I freaked out. I blamed myself for falling into his charm.
    After a few days, he came back, apologized for his behavior, but said that we should start off as friends again and to take everything slow.
    We met in person already, and he can’t keep my eyes and hands from me. Holding my hands, stroking my sides and legs and kisses me.
    But he said, I am just a special friend to him for now.
    He calls and messages me but not as much as before.
    I am getting confused. I am a Cancerian, and I am at my age where I want to settle down already and have a relationship that would last forever.
    What do you think of this Virgo man? Can you help me comprehend him? Should I stay and wait for him to make things be the way it used to be, or should I move on?
    Please help! Thanks!

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    1. Hey, Wow great story!!! With a Virgo man and when they tell you that they are taking it slow, it means something else has his attention. You have got to be careful with them, they are wishy washy and not even sure what they want. It feels right for them at the time, then once youre away and they have time to think (( what ever that’s about)) they can come back on a whole nother page. It will leave you dazed and confused. STart talking to other men, and if this virgo guy is the one for you, he will come back so strong and STAY THERE, not all this.. ” lets start over” mess they do. Ugh got so tired of that. Im a virgo woman, but the men drive me crazy lol

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      1. it’s this damn Virgo again so from the last convo me and you had I didn’t contact him except on Father’s Day then after that he contacted me from there we were close he started to be inconsistent again I told him that him doing that is making me wanna walk out of his life so he told me he apologize and he will do better which he did for a few days smh I told him that maybe I am excepting to much from him and maybe we aren’t meant to do anything with each other and maybe I was too much for him he never replied to that text that was on a Sunday then comes Wednesday he contacted me like nothing ever happen like I said before I will never be mean to him bcus he never is to me we had basic convo he ask me what I was doing I asked him then he ask if he could come over I told him no he ask why I said I told you why then he begin to beg saying he needs me (I always fall for that) he had a bad day I told him I can’t keep doing with him but if he wanted to talk about it I’m here to listen he said I don’t wanna talk about it he just wanted me to help him forget about it so I gave in and went to his house (my air was broke at my house lol) when I got there he did look kinda bad so I said to him you know Ima ask what happen he told me about his daughters mother and the whole custody thing the mother is trying to move out of state and wants sole custody he loves his daughter to death that’s one thing I love about him he told me that the mother can go but she can leave his daughter with him and he would be a single father then he said you meaning me can help him with his daughter I’m like umm ok in complete shock that he even said that putting me in his future so that was on a Wednesday I did stay the night Thursday I didn’t hear from him no biggie to me Friday he texted me good afternoon I replied with the same late Friday I texted him asking wyd he told me coming from a bar I told him to let me know when he got in which he did Saturday night late I got a text from him saying don’t ignore my text I was confused by that bcus I didn’t get one from him that day however I was at my sisters house he came and got me from there Sunday my phone kept calling him he called back everytime then Monday came around i saw him by my job I work in the county so I texted him saying I saw you where were you going he said he was taking his cuzn to work to me that was a lie I just said sounds good later that night I went out drinking I texted him late Monday night saying I’m starting to miss you he replied asking how much but I didn’t see the text until the Morning I texted him that morning when I got to work and said sorry I fell asleep and said good morning he never replied that was July 18th he hasn’t contacted me after that I contacted him late Tuesday night saying so your ignoring me he didn’t reply I didn’t say anything else until this pass Friday on July 29th asking what is the reason your ignoring me I called and texted him he replied saying good morning I’m not ignoring you I went off bcus I was mad that he was playing me so I told him I know u saw me calling and texting you and I said if U didn’t hear from me wouldn’t that tell you to check on me he said yea your right I apologize for that I said whatever man and then told him now that I know your good I’m done you can play these games with someone else your actions are showing me that u do not want me around and accordingly is how I should’ve treated you he didn’t reply I knew he wouldn’t so later that night I did a stake with my cuzn I wanted to see if it was someone else we happen to see him come into his parking lot alone no one went in and I even contacted him from a different number to see if he would answer the phone checking to see if someone was with him he answered called back and texted lol I havnt heard anything from him at all I did text him this pass Monday asking if he was working and did this job call him back he didn’t reply but I noticed that he is on social media not as much but he still is. I do not know what to do at this point idk if I should let it go and allow him to come back around or just block him and forget about him

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  51. I’m not understanding how and why he just went MIA I know he is going thru the thing with his daughters mother but this is something that has been going on which it has been postponed until November but why now is he pushing me away this has been the longest that I didn’t hear from him and i didn’t do anything

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    1. Gurl, those Virgo men are so wishy washy! They really dont know what they want. They are alwaysssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssss APOLIZING for something, all the time. Im sorry comes out of their mouth like saying Good Morning! I don’t get them at all. But one thing is for sure, DO NOT let him keep calling you over for sex, cause once he get his fix, he’s STRAIGHT FOR A WHILE! He does not know how to stay in contact and keep in touch on a regular, and dont be mad at him, because he’s showing you who HE IS. That is his personality and you have the choice to deal with it or not. Im done with my Virgo friend once he moved out of my apartment complex I was done. He was the same way. Its a back and forth thing with them all the time. You can expect it at ANYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY TIME after youve seen him that one good time. SMH @them male Virgos

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      1. smh they just act like they don’t do anything wrong and that’s the thing it’s not always sex the last time I was there we didn’t do anything we watched movies we even came up with us picking a actor or actress to watch and we would watch as many movies as we can I just don’t get it but I guess I just need to move on I don’t feel it will ever change no matter what I do if I’m here for him or not they are very selfish

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  52. Gosh this is so accurate. I met a Virgo around Summer this year, we dated until August. I’m a fire sign by the way with a Virgo moon. I was the one that ended it because he made the excuses of not knowing he wanted a relationship. He was just super uncaring and cold. After breaking up with him. When I tried talking to him he would be cold and as if he didn’t care. So I moved on and focused on myself. Fast forward, I guess he thought I was going to be replaceable but not the case. He contacted me stating that he made mistake. This month Mercury is in Retrograde on Virgos sign. So that could be why his coming back. So I’m kind of a bit distant. Not sure what to believe, cause he realize I was good to him and it was his mistake on his part. But he is gonna have to prove that with his actions. I don’t know I want him but at the same time I actually don’t after what he did. Which means he will have to prove it.

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    1. Hey Sis!!! If you decide to let him back in the picture…. stand your distance until several months have passed. Because he’s in your life to see if he passed up on a good thing. And trust me a Virgo will not be fake with you, (( Im one)) if he is not interested this time around, he wont take months and months to discover that. STAY ON GUARD at all times with this Virgo man. Have one foot in and one out, because at anytime he will DISAPPEAR. Let me know how things turn out okay… please I am dying to know. 🙂 Be Blessed

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  53. Hi Lacrease my story is kinda long ,just read your blog about virgo man. And it exactly describes the character of my long distance bf,we’ve been 2 years this feb but never meet im person yet. Our only communication is through viber and skype (almost everyday). I would like you to help me figure out if a virgo man would still want you back after a big fight. This happen almost 3 weeks when I wrongly accused him that he is cheating to me and he was very upset and told me I am crazy and funny of thinking that way. And told me that he’s ex gf also before told the same thing like that. At this time I was very confused because I noticed that he was being distant and cold to me already. We are already in a committed relationship and he got me engaged after 4 mos of being in a relationship with him. Idk but I can say he always gave me an empty promises of having to see me in real life. This year supposed to be the year hes going to meet me,but unfortunately he cant because he said hes got a lot of work to do. But i know hes into me (showered me with gifts and even send me money most of the time even I wont ask for it). Going back after that big fight i ask an apology to him,tell him that it was my fault and that maybe it was my instinct forcing me to accused him. And he said he dont have a fucking gf. But still i have doubt because lately everytime i call him his phone is always busy and when Im getting upset and confront him thru text he would always say it was hes family calling. And I bring up like a thrice already same accusation,although the last time I apologized to him. The last time I talk to him he was sick and when he got home he just send me a message telling hes home and just take his med and then rest. I was really crazy to phone him only to find out that hes line is busy again and i was very mad and texted him same accusation. After that i apologized again,but he never answer my calls and text anymore,its been almost 3 weeks he just disappear which drives me crazy. He didnt break up with me but I felt like hes just breaking me up by not communicating to me anymore. Rn, im just giving him the a lot of space. Idk, when hes gonna contact me,i didnt contact him also for a week now. Driving me nuts at the same time im scared to call him again only to feel rejected that he might not pick up my call. Should i wait til he comes back or should I reach out to him too soon. Pls help

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    1. Hey! Wow wow wow! I will say this.Even if he is not seeing anyone else, his behavior is enough to make you cut him off!

      I would be soo crazy just as you are. I’m a Virgo woman and that’s one thing that I will never do is cut someone off and never respond to them. Virgo men have this bad! In your case all you can do is wait it out and so my question to you is…… do you even have the time and energy to do so! Because once you start doing that too we three-week disappearing act he will do it again. Is seems to be easy for a Virgo man to disappear and not say a word I just don’t get that. But I will call him until he answers the phone and after I get tired of calling and he never answers I will never talk to him again. Meaning I would block him. Because was going to happen is when he misses you and wants to talk to you even if his months and months and months from now is something about the Virgo man that can get you to go back to them even after he’s disappeared. Don’t fall for it at all. Tell me your thoughts.

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      1. @Lacrease
        So sorry for posting here;but I can’t stand his manners anymore! Plz help me before I lose my mind 😦
        I’m a aries female…I met this virgo guy who’s younger thsn me by 8 years- on december of 2010 ;that was our first time together;as I traveled to his country for christmas/new year “since he couldn’t due to his studies etc..
        Then After spending 20 days togther I returned back to my country of residance; we continued chatting till one day we had an argument over a silly thing; he then went through the famous virgo ignorance stage lol Though I tried my best to get an explanation for his action through sms/calls I got no reply.. two years passed then out of the blue he called me @3 am explaining how unique & sweet I am he even called me an angel for giving him the chance after all these years😏& we spent 6 hours talking about what happened& fixing it;he then promissed not leaving like that again stating his reason for not replying was because “he didn’t want to end the relation;but he felt under pressure because his parents didn’t support our relation”,anyway years passed and we managed to get together 3 times (for 20 days each year);then my father passed away..and I had to move to my country of origins along with my old mother;from there he applied for me to join him forever;and here I am; staying with him ” w/o his parents knowledge” as its better this way for him..that’s what he said! Anyway we are living in another city;but the issue is..though he’s visting them every weekend since I moved here *5 months now* he can’t stop fighting with me! I tried my best to let him understand my emotional needs as he lacks showing emotions unless I push him to! Like when I got really sick shortly after arriving;yes he took me to the hospital after I felt like dying! But his emotional support was ZERO;& when I confronted him he was like”well thats my nature..I don’t find sikness a big issue!what!!! I also asked him to respect my personality; I’m very organized and like to plan things in advance while he’s random and very spontaneous! But cause I’m logical person; I tried to compromise;but again no matter what I do we will end up fighting; he’s NEVER wrong and I’m always controlling person ‘he says,while the fact is he is a controlling freak!! Just like virgo man ‘ve been described in this forum!
        Last night we fought over going out with his’ friends; Maybe cause his male friend ‘who has a girlfriend show signs of interest in me & said in front of him& others including his gf. That he really likes & looking for more meetings; but am sure he didn’t mean bad! Anw; mr. Virgo was hesitating to go or not; and I needed a yes or no! But instead of making up his mind he started accusing me of being dominant;why cause I needed to know if we’re going or not 2 hours in advance!! WTF!!!
        He started insulting me verbally;which made me mad & disappointed at the same time..so I told him shame on you;that’s it! From now on each one of us manage his own issues” as lasnight he said : that’s me I won’t change;don’t even try!
        He can’t understand that I don’t want to ‘change him;I just want him to compromise as well!
        As am still new in this foreign country I need your advice so padly.. I realized he’s a hopeless case.. I want to depend on myself 100% but as you know in a new country it’s not that simple;you need sometime to manage your life ;when we were waiting for the approval;he was very excited..he even couldn’t wait;showed intentions to support & promised 100 things; 99% of them didn’t touch the reality ground.. just tell me how on earth can I continue with such manners😣

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  54. @lacrease
    He’s even more mean now! while I was preparing food for both of us as usual; I had to do something in the living room;the lights were off so I turned ’em on;immediately he switched the light off! I said don’t act childish! Grow up! Why did you switched it off? He’s “in a roude way” it hurts my eyes;next time you wana some light go else where!!
    Hope you don’t take long to reply;cause I really don’t know for how long I can stand his ugly attitudes😑

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    1. Hey Im here!!! Wow sounds like soon the disrespect will get worst if you both dont talk and share what crossing the boundaries are. I can tell that you both are turned off from each other right now. Let me say this, if I was you, I would be getting myself together to move out eventually. If he’s not already arrogant he will be soon. I can tell that you both irritate each other on site, and that’s not good. Can you see yourself marrying this man, and when you have good days what are those like. Im here not going anywhere right now.

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  55. @lacrease
    Soo sorry for taking long to reply but I got a phone call from my mom..she was checking on me..cause I still have no one here to talk to just friends from his side..which makes it even harder😔
    U R 100% right;let me tell you that: this is not the first time I try to save our relationship; he doesn’t talk much as most of virgo men😏..So I asked him in a very rational way to set and discuss everything and try to understand each other;he tried to defend his stupid actions;but when I told him “if I don’t really love you;and care for this relation to continue;I wouldn’t be setting here right now! He seemed sad;and tried to convence me that he’s just being himself and didn’t mean to hurt/insult me though I told him that I did feel insulted several times and hurt..that’s why I cried, I don’t cry easily btw,,then he promised to reconsider and to treat me the way I like;that was 2 weeks ago and since then everything was almost perfect ;now just after the friends meeting plan of yesterday;I see him back to his old way of being roude,emotionless and careless.
    I can hear him trying to reach his mom through phone cause earlier this day his bro told him that her blood pressure is high which is common,and I just realized the difference between his reaction now & how much he’s worried for her and when his cold’ reaction whenI got seriously ill.. you got me I guess..
    Now back to your suggestion about moving out eventually;from one side I don’t want to seem ungrateful after all what he did for me “by bringing me here to live together;thats why though am unemployed- cause here you have to learn the language first then apply for a job (I have v.good working experience in the oil/petroleum field)- I financially participate as much as possible with our expenses.
    From another side I can’t agree more with your suggestion to leave him BUT its really hard here to find appartmemts..thousands of people are waiting their turn😕
    So all I need from you right now is:how to deal with him from now on at least till I can get myself together as you said.. Let me tell you honestly.. though I feel for him when I remember his lovely moments; I can’t help feeling really distant from him..emotionally ditached.. you will understand me if I say it’s due to his selfishness..he doesn’t have the “couple spirit” at all and when I tell him that he became sarcastic..
    Appreciating your wonderful support
    & again awaiting your reply❤

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    1. OMG yesssssssss the sarcasim. No, I dont want you to break up, sometimes when you live with someone it takes away from what we really need to see in them and ourselves, if that makes sense. I’m a Virgo too, and we do have similar ways for sure. Like the distance thing, I can distance myself in a heartbeat!! In my mind I can take a lot and a person will never know Im almost at my breaking point, until I get completely COLD. Virgos like to be alone a lot too, we need our space, and if we feel pressured or smothered, we tend to get quiet and distance.Thing is he is always thinking about you for sure, but if we get something on our minds, we tend to work that out, THEN go back to our regular scheduled program. lol We tend to shut down, and sometimes its nothing personal, we just do. THE BEST THING TO DO AND TO DRAW HIM TO YOU….. (( wow I wish I could show you))) but its to slow down your energy with him, so that he could NOTICE , I say that because this will cause him to look at himself and how he looks when he distance himself, and feel unattached. Its not a game or anything, but read a book, or get on line, something to take the pressure off him feeling that the ball is in his court. Give him that extra space … for him to say to himself…. what is she thinking? im also teaching another friend how to draw attention to herself. We woman are always wonder how a man feel, what he;s thinking about, why cant he spend time with us. lol lol Draw attention to yourself, so that he can not only want to be apart of your world, but to stay in your world.Indirectly Draw Attention.. I LOOOOOOOOOOOOOVE IT!!!! LOL Okay im about to lay down got off work at 7 am.. now im sooooooo sleepy. Im off tonight so Ill be back on. ASK ME ANYTHING, I LOVE TO READ SO TYPE EVERYTHING YOU ARE THINKING ABOUT. Ill be back later

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  56. @lacrease 1st sweet dreams😉
    2nd many thanks for your valuable advices dear; let me tell you that I already have my own space as well cause my descendant sign is virgo 😁 but unfortunatelly I have nothing much to do! No job..no activities..no gym.. so while he’s @ work from early morning till evening; I am loaded with free time;I sometimes go to the city center.. try to waste few hours jere & there..and after his promise to get us both gym membership..he didn’t why? Cause he’s too tired to train afterwork..so I started my daily walk few days ago alone ofcourse.. see what I mean about not having a sense of ‘couple spirit! I understand that he’s used to do everything alone;even when he was staying with his parents (this is his 1st time living alone/away from them btw) BUT at the same time he should have tendency to shar daily life with me for what we are a couple then!! The main issue is while he is lazy and prefers to relax most of the time..I am super active; he comes from work..eats..lay infront of the tv..ofcourse we should watch something ‘he likes😑 other than that he plays bandy twice a week..leaving me alone.. When I suggest going out with any of his couple friends for a change-he would say: if they ask for it maybe.. otherwise am not so much into it! From time to time he goes for a drink with his colleague ‘afterwork.. no matter how many times I tried to draw his attention to how important it is for a couple to “share good times together; he will prefer spending these times the same way he used to when he was single.. I just wonder where all the “together” promises faded..🙁
    Entertaining lifestyle eh! 😕

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    1. Hey, Have it ever crossed your mind that maybe he’s not the one for you. Maybe he’s not the one for you at this time in his and your lives? sometimes we have to come to that conclusion, and its okay.If the shoe is cute/pretty sometimes we try to squeeze our feet in a size 7 when we really wear an 8. You feel me on that? What I found is, that its okay that the shoe is nice and doesnt fit us, we just have to find one that does. Let me say this, what ever you do, don’t spend too much time trying to “understand” your situation, sometimes we have to walk away to see the bigger picture. In your mind, give yourself 3-4 months to see if things change, if not….. you’ll have to fill in the rest. Remember you can talk to others all day about this, but at the end of the day its YOUR story and YOUR situation. Just don’t stay too long where your self esteem will go down. alright, let me know if you need me, IM ALWAYS HERE 🙂

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      1. Hey gurl!!! LOL When I wrote if not……….. that means for you to do whatever you have to do to make sure you’re happy.

        I always always ALWAYS believe in leaving a relationship on a good note. As a matter of fact my last boyfriend is MY BEST MALE FRIEND.. I JUST LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE HIM. But once I realize that he is not a good boyfriend for me,, I got out and that’s when I realized that he is the greatest friend for me and I still get to see him and talk to him whenever I want!!! NO SEX,… all friendship.

        Yes, he’s going to miss you dearly if you leave. And yes he;s going to come back, but you will be in charge knowing what the book youve already read,.., IS WORTH READING AGAIN. SMILE

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  57. Oh girl! You took the words right out of my mouth!!
    In fact I told him last night “it’s not that you don’t know the value of a person until you lose it,
    you knew it already.. you just never thought you’d lose it ☺
    What I can’t understand is we did live together several months before things were awesome! maybe because they all happened to be “vactions” that’s wjy they were nice & fun;;daily life is something else..
    Remember he’s the one who came back to me;after shutting down for 2 years; *he told me back then that during the 2 years of our separation; he tried hard to find Ms. Perfect but no girl could take my place in his heart.
    I’m 100% sure that as soon as I leave he will miss me;he’s gona take his time “like before😏 but he will come back;I know it..
    Based on your advice of giving few months to see if any change will occur..I did gave him more than a chance indeed ;but the dog tail will never be straight😑
    What he doesn’t realize is I give more than a chance but once am done with someone AM DONE.
    But can you explain this plz:
    “if not….. you’ll have to fill in the rest”

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    1. Thank you! It was great chatting with you and if you ever need to talk or update just post and I’ll see it! Anything is possible just know that Sis 🙂🙂😍😍

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      1. I will keep you updated😉
        No words can describe my appreciation for giving me the time & mostly the honest advices It was my pleasure knowing you sis ;wish we can meet someday☺
        Stay safe and enjoy life as much as you can💕
        P.s. I’m sure you know how to 🙄
        Hugs from my soul to yours😇

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  58. @lacrease wow! That was fast! Guess what😆 few minutes ago he came to the room at which I’m spending my time while he’s home and I started that yesterday + am not talking to him at all +we are sleeping in different places “but thats from before.. so he just opened the door with a big smile on his face and asked me:don’t you want to come and set with me in the living room? Me:nope Him:isn’t it better than spending the time here ..alone by yourself? Me:alone without fighting/mean behaviours from you is way better than with you &your bad attitudes
    Him”rolling his eyes:I did nothing!..it was your fault..you started it bla bla bla
    Me:see!! that is the attitude am talking about 😏
    Him:listen that’s me;so accept it!
    Comeon now let’s sit there..
    Me:no darling things doesn’t work this way;unless you consider/avoid what pisses me off don’t try
    Him:up to you! Left & closed the door!

    Ughhhhh that b!tchy vanity😬
    Your explanation to his action are most welcome; and your suggestions as well😊

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    1. @life is short
      I read your whole story regarding your virgo male. Unfortunately I am also virgo male and deeply in love with my aries girl. and these days I am facing same issues from her what you are facing with your virgo. Can you help me understanding nature of my aries girl. I really think we lack communication although I am constantly trying to explain each and every thing which is normally Male virgos can do. But I have tried hard to remove this issue in my self of not expressing and have been successful some how. but here my problem is my aries girl is not communicating or expressing what she is thinking.

      It is like she is not aries and I am not virgo……em so confused

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      1. @lacrease
        Em good, how are you?

        I have read all the threads up there and I think our Cold attitude has really been a mystery for people. I think I can help everyone here with that issue and how to deal with it also. Its not very difficult, just a little trick which normally virgo males cant explain to their loved ones or the loved ones fail to understand…..

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      2. @lacrease

        I am not getting notification, I think my email has some issue. Can you help me with that because I really want to see updates here. It is very good forum, I really liked it. can I get notifications on facebook???

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  59. My Virgo Man, Sun in the sign of Virgo

    Moon in the sign of Sagittarius

    Mercury in the sign of Libra

    Venus in the sign of Leo

    Mars in the sign of Sagittarius

    I am a LEO Woman, Sun in the sign of Leo

    Moon in the sign of Sagittarius

    Mercury in the sign of Virgo

    Venus in the sign of Leo

    Mars in the sign of Aquarius

    I met my Virgo man at an event in the park May 2015. He sat next to me and started talking. We were instantly attracted to each other. Before we left, I asked him if he was single and he said” no, I am married but going through a divorce”. So, we left it at that and said goodnight. Not exchanging numbers or anything. 4 months later {September 2015), I was dragged to a housewarming with one of my girlfriends and the first person I see when I walk through the door was my Virgo man. I was floored and so was he. We both just knew it was fate and meant to be. We instantly started dating the next day. He was still going through his divorce but they were finally separated and he reassured me that it was happening and should be completed by early 2016

    As time went on, we became inseparable. Spending hours and hours together, constant calls and text messages every day. I love you, I need you, you are my soul mate talk from us both everyday. We were so in love that we decided to try and get pregnant. He had 2 adult daughters and wanted a son and I had no children and wanted one. Everything was perfect. I happen to have had fibroids and was going to have a hysterectomy in November 2015 but since we met and we decided to get pregnant, I switched my surgery to a myomectomy instead ( a c-section to remove fibroids). He was there with me through the surgery, by my bedside and was home with me taking care of any and everything I needed. He was going to doctor appointments with me and even had very detailed discussions with the dr on times to get pregnant etc. I was 44 and he was 47 and it was going to be hard to conceive but we were both in for the long haul. As time went on, I was healing from the surgery and decided to check into invitro in December 2015. He was not that keen on it but said he was open to discussing. He was not that excited about the cost and that it was unnatural so he started to get more uneasy. So we ultimately decided against invitro. As the new year rolled in, I kept asking him where he was with the divorce because we were going to be cleared to start getting pregnant in March. I could see that he was starting to pull back a bit and talk less and less about the baby. He started saying that situation at home is becoming brutal and his wife was trying to stick him for more alimony and dragging out the divorce but for me not to worry, its still happening. This went on with the back and forth about the divorce regularly as the clock is ticking down for the March deadline to start the pregnancy procedure. On February 12, 2016 he sat me down and said, I have changed my mind about this baby and having mixed emotions about this divorce. He also said, I don’t see a future with us and I need time to think. I was completely devastated and went into hysterics. Crying and questioning and going crazy. I cursed him out and said all kinds of things. That was the first time I ever saw him get cold. It was like I was looking at a stranger.

    I stopped speaking to him after that night. Flowers show at my door on Valentines with a card saying, “to a wonderful friend”. I was so angry, I threw them away. He began to call, text, call, text…even threatening to call the police to come to my home to see “if I am alive”. I never responded and no police came. He shows up at my door days later and I didn’t answer. I was done.

    A month later, I bump into him and he had the nerve to be pissed at me for not responding to him. We ended up talking and he said that he was trying to reach me to tell me that he had time to think and was clear on his feelings about his marriage and was proceeding with the divorce. He wanted us to pick up where we left off but since I decided to ignore him, he wasnt sure about that anymore. I said, F YOU. You went back to your wife and she likely said, I dont want you and now you think you can come grab back what you threw away. F YOU for LIFE. I said things that I regret saying but they were all things I felt. I left and started feeling bad that I spoke to him that way. I reached out to apologize and he said things will never be the same between us again because we are just too different. He said that I was too emotional and my temper was too much for him. I was so hurt and felt stupid for still loving this man. After 2 months of no contact I could not take it anymore and reached out. Somehow, we get back friendly and over time we began to start spending time together. We both were skeptical but we clearly still had a strong connection. We started back trying to see if we could date. Within this time, the divorce was finally complete. Stupid me, I think now the coast is finally clear for us to really be a couple and start over. So we go out to have dinner one night and he says, I dont know if I actually loved you, I think I loved but I dont know if I know what love is. Then he ultimately says,” I want my freedom and I want to stop seeing you”. I was sort of in shock but because of his history, I said ok and that was it. One month later, he tells me he is in a very serious relationship with someone and that we should never speak again.

    This man is one of the most unstable, crazy ass loony men I have ever met in my life. I feel crazy for ever loving a person like that.I have never sacrificed as much in my life for a man and truly feel like I have never loved anyone like this. The crazy part is, as I write this, I still love him and hate him at the same time.

    NOW, After we stop talking for the final time, he calls me yesterday and says….Lets try and be friends again. Go to HELL psycho!!

    Can anyone explain what the hell is wrong with this man????

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    1. Wow wow wow!!!! My BFF is a Leo, and her husband is a Virgo….. ooooooo weeeeeeeeeeee, how does that work for you both? LOL My BFF loved her husband but he started distancing himself just like yours. I wonder what goes on in their mind when they disappear and get into other things such as relationships on the side. They are so wishy washy, and let me say this guard your heart with them. Beacuse they know how to wheel you in, just for them to see if they really like you. One thing about Virgos period is that we get turned off very easily. I hate that part about myself.Because sometimes there is no coming back. One thing about men Virgos is that they are good people and lovable, but its hard trying to figure out whats going on in their minds. You have to always be on guard for anything with them. Make sure you have a limit on how much time you want to spend with them. Because if they lack anything in one relaitonship and they know you fill that spot, THEY WILL RETURN!!! Be careful and guard your heart. They dont do this on purpose, but you’ll look up and its happening again….. the disconnect and all of a sudden new realization. UGH LOL

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      1. That honestly makes me so sad. It means that we will never be on the same page. It will be a perpetual roller coaster. That really breaks my heart. How could a man that could be so loving and sweet and SO connected to you at one point then turn on you and be so disenchanted and uninterested. I lied to him and told him that I was in a relationship when called back the last time and he sounded like I had taken the wind out of his sails. Seems like he only wants me or sound like he misses me when he cant have me. Who has time for that ISH in their 40s. I found myself truly jumping through hoops just trying to please him and make him want me again. I was going insane and still am to an extent. Everything I read about LEO Women and VIRGO men say we are not a match but it all depends on the rising, venus and mercury stuff. So..its hard to say. I just want his PUNK ASS to come back groveling completely so I can dump him. Let him see how it feels and never look back. Thank you for your response. It was therapeutic to get this off my chest. PUNK ASS VIRGO COWARD. LOL…ok, Im done!!

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  60. Are virgo guys the talking type? I have been in a relationship with one for a bit over a year. And he tries to improve what he does bad, he says he feels closer to me and feels the relationship goes forward but i have some issues. He hasn’t said i love you, yet he considers moving to another country with me if i cannot find a good job in the one we are now living (we are both foreigners), he sees a future with me…also, he rarely asks me about my life, i talk to him about it but unless it is work or intellectual stuff the conversation doesnt flow…for example if i comment something about my family that he doesnt know since they dont live here…also, he rarely plans dates though he is always up to following me to wherever he proposes. He is a good guy, he cares about me, and he tries to improve but sometimes i feel it goes sooooo slow…he says he feels something is missing with us but i feel it has to do with the wrong concept of love he has especially after his old relationship that was basically fighting every week for 5 years…our relationship is more easy going even though we argue. HELP!

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      1. wow Virgo and Ares seem to be very popular together. Check out some of the others on here who are Aries women who date Virgo men. I dont know much about Aries at all. Im learning.

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    1. Heyyyyy… Its something about Virgo men that they take soo slow to do things. I dunno why at all. I know for one thing, Im a woman and we tend to over think things too much, and over analyze too. In your case, take it slow with him, but give yourself a cut off date for this slowness, and if it doesn’t fit in your timeline, you may need to reconsider things with him. How old are you and your guy?

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      1. i am soon 29 and he is soon 30…he finished a 5-year relationship one month before he started fully with me…it was always forward from the start and easy and we unoficcially moved in together after 5 months (i say unofficially since i still have my appartment – which i am ok with it just out of being cautious). They broke up because she emotionally cheated on him….but our differences makes us work…he makes me be more down to earth, mature and responsible and i make him be more free and carefree…but i am so perplexed, as a man that doesnt talk just to talk, that he is willing to do such a move because he wants to be with me but wont say ILY! like i feel he would have broken up with me already because i am not easy either but he tries to apologize and get better but still…like is he serious about us? i dont know how to figure that from virgos..

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      2. HEYYYY
        Ask him right out.. do you love me, or are you in love with me. Tell him you want to understand where we are in our friendship/relationship. Virgos love our right questions. Watch his every move in answering your question. Listen to what he says and what he doesnt say. Pay attention to his facial expressions and his body language. Get your answers gurl as to HOW HE FEELS ABOUT YOU. Do not be afraid to hear the TRUTH. And if its not what you want to hear, boss up and be able to accept the fact that the relationship could go on, or it could end. Because let me say this….. YOU NEED TO KNOW!!!! You deserve to know how he feels, so that you can know what you need to do as far as the relationship.MOST women feel that if they realize that the man doesn’t love them the way they feel they deserve, they’ll start to feel that they’ve wasted too much time. But its okay because those are lessons learned. Lessons Learned that you can carry on to the next relationship!!!

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  61. Also, did he even have enough time to heal and enjoy time to himself before he got right back into another relationship. EVERYONE needs time after a divorce or break up. I think thats another reason why he’s so wishy washy. He knows that he should have regrouped himself FIRST before jumping into anything new. THAT GOES FOR EVERYONE IN THE WORLD!

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    1. i know! he didn’t i was the first person he was with right after…their relationship wasnt good anyways but i always thought he should have had time to heal…well didnt happen and we wanted to go on together so that is that…but i sometimes feel everything overlapped a lot and that is why it takes so long with us…he is a perfectionist so…i just know he doesnt want to lose me..because he could have sent me to hell so many times…i am very demanding and i enquire and interrogate a lot because i am aries and i dont have patience and i get bored so 🙂

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      1. lol lol lol lol I know that is true about Aries women. lol loll ol But there is no doubt he loves you, just a little more time Nov 2017 and you will know everything you need to know. Keep me updated too 🙂

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  62. we talked about it…he says that he feels himself with me, he is happy, he likes how i am but he is not there yet because something is missing or maybe nothing is missing (his words), he mentioned that maybe he didnt have enough time between one and another relationship…not that i want to lie to myself but as we know they are so analytical and i think he wants to be sure not to make a mistake with me..i said to him i understood but i want to be with somebody that can say i love you…and he said he maybe needs to figure out that nothing is missing but as long as he feels closer to me and that the relationship moves forward it is a good sign…also how he acts makes me feel like he loves me….i just wish he said it…and i dont think he would move abroad for me if he didnt love me deep down….but i dont know maybe i just lie to myself somehow..

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    1. Well just continue to take it slow with him. Sounds like he does love you, from the way he treats you. Maybe its hard for him to say those words, but like I said. come up with a time frame where you know he should know. For example.. Give him until Nov 2017 to say he loves you. If he doesn’t say it in that time (( lets admit thats a long time)) then you have to come to a conclusion of your own. Because if you need to hear it, and you’re not getting in, yesss you need to regroup and figure out what you’re going to do next. ANY PERSON MALE OR FEMALE should hear/ need to hear those words after all that time.

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      1. yes i know! i did that when i went back to my country for 2 weeks during christmas i said to myself i am done if he doesnt know…but he doesnt let the relationship die and he cares but lord i need to have patience…whatever happens at least i ll learn some patience haha…

        now regarding the talkative part of it…do ou find virgos are not very into asking a lot about personal stuff? he is so reserved and also if i tell him about something like family or girl problems he doesnt answer me back to much!

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      2. Omgggggg yes we are so personal and private. I noticed that I am the same way but I am a great listener and I love to read. I’m not much of a person who will just sit down and talk about Me me me me. But I do ask questions but I rather a person just talk about it. Now if we’re in a conversation and someone is telling me a story yes I will ask questions because I’m interested. So don’t be alarmed if the Virgo man doesn’t answer you back too much a lot of times we are listening and learning.

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  63. But i dont think he enquires a lot. I ask all the time because i want to know what he thinks. He does ask me about his projects tho. He is a programmer and sometimes he asks me opinions about a website he creates. But the other day i said omg my dad got upset about this and that and it is so frustrating blabla and he didnt say anything to me :-/

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  64. @gracebarcor
    I am also in relation with aries girl. I am male virgo.

    Let me tell you, Virgos don’t give importance to words “I love u” rather they believe in showing their love and they think that by feeling their love, other person will have more trust of their love. In their mind it is like Saying “I love you” and then not meeting the standards of love is imperfect and virgos cant bear an inch below perfection for themselves. For virgos they have to be perfect.

    By your story it is definately a truth that he loves u either he says u or not. If you really want to bring these words from his mouth, just threat him that u will leave him and this relation is going to end, and virgo will do whatever u say. This same tactic my aries did with me and though it was very hard for me to speak these words, once I did speak, now I speak 100 times in a day.

    Secondly yes, it is hard, really hard for virgos to speak about themselves even we want to speak but we couldn’t. Whatever we feel, we think, either it is love, or anger, or frustration, normally we keep it inside. It is like we have another person inside us to whom we speak all of this.

    Aries are impatient and they cant wait for virgos to open, since it takes so much time. Plus aries are so fast that virgos can match with them. Virgos are very slow. If virgo will tell you something about himself, he will tell u the background of story, reason of story, actual story, effect of story, logics of story……. and so much of that story that u will get bored. Aries want straight things, to the point, they cant wait to listen every thing of that story so at end they will get know what virgo wanted to tell basically.

    and Virgo know this about himself. Because he is great analyst, analyzing each and every minor thing, when he wants to tell something, then he want to tell each and every detail he know. If some one cant listen to each and every minor thing, he think that the other person has not got exactly what he wanted to say.

    So if aries or even other people Can bear their each and every detail of the topic, either it is boring or interesting, then just start showing interest in their boring talks also, interact regarding those boring talks also And virgo will very soon get open and then it will be impossible to stop virgo. he will just speak speak and speak and u will not find anyone else more talkative than that virgo.

    Hope it helps..

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    1. See how much in detail I wrote my message. any person other than virgo male could have conveyed the same message in may be 4 lines….but just see how virgos are……when they have to say, they have to say in such detail.

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      1. Hi Lacrease…could you please remove my comment from february 25th directed to Rohail? I wrote it with my full name and surname and i dont want it to be on the net..highly appreciate!

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  65. @gracebarcor

    You are right, Virgo male are like this…….and that is why they are irritating…..I know my self, since the time I have started reading issues of ladies like you with virgo men, I have started realizing that “Oh, I am so different and strange to the world, the world and other people are not like me”. Before I used to think that other also think and should think the same way as I do, and that’s the normal thing but now I am realizing that its not like that. The world and people are like that and should be like that because majority is like that and may be Human beings should be like that…..

    But for you there is one good news and one bad news, good news is that you CAN tailor your virgo buddy, they are very adaptable and can change themselves to situations. So you can also change him like you want him to and you will see and will be so happy to see the results

    Bad news is that YOU HAVE to try very hard and keeping in mind the goal that you have to do so….

    You will find this statement many where and I will explain you and every one here will find this concept in my most of the responses, because this is the key of every issue with Virgo MEN.

    “Virgo Men only think from brain”

    This is not a general characteristic of Virgo men and no one should take it as normal. This is the main characteristic of Virgo Men on which every issue and success of virgo men is build upon. You can either get irritate from this characteristic or get benefit and use this for your benefit and best relation.

    What ever grievances you have with any virgo men, just think that are those requirements logical??? Because Brain only accepts logics and whether to go on date, kiss, kiddle, romantic talks etc all these are not logical but emotional requirements. Virgo Men will never understand these requirements of yours. Again they only “think from brain”

    But if you can explain them the logic of these requirements, they will understand the logic and then you will see that may be they are kissing, taking u on date, kiddling you, be romantic more more & more than you ever wanted

    Whatever you want him to realize, just explain them the logic behind that requirement. Most probably they will argue with you and if they are arguing, it means they want to know more about that logic. Arguing doesn’t mean that they don’t want to understand, arguing for us mean we are interested in that topic and we want to get each and every detail of that. Give them some logics and then leave the topic. They will definitely do they research work about that and once they will get the logic behind that requirements, then you will see the MOST ROMANTIC, BEST KISSER, BEST DATING MAN and whatever you want.

    eg Let me tell you a case…….Dont laugh on How I or virgo men think….lolzzz……

    I use to think about, why every girl always want to hear the words “I Love You” all the time, daily or after every fight, why they want to listen praises about them selves all the time, why every time they meet us, they want to hear about how they are looking, I mean, we have already told them once that yes I love you and we are showing them all the time, and the girl know that also so why to hear it again and again. Do they don’t trust us or our intentions? and we like the girl, and we love her so why to praise the girl all the time and we are comfortable with the girl, we are not saying that u r looking bad so it automatically means that she is looking good, why to tell her that she is looking gorgeous….

    This is the way Logical thinking harms us…..because our brain works like this, we think this way……No girl or teacher tried to explain us these reasons, no where in our studies we learn these things so we don’t know answers of all these questions……

    Either we ourselves have to realize that these are issues with our ladies and we have to research and find the answers or may be our lady can teach us the reasons behind these things……..

    I consider my self lucky, these questions came in my mind, and I had some free time to do research and I found out that Human beings specially Females are made this way, these emotional needs are their basic needs infact every human needs, they want to be told that they are loved on regular basis, they want to be told on regular basis that they are looking good, they want to feel regularly through kiddling, kissing, romantic touchs, romantic activities……all these things are requirements of every human being and if we give them all these, they will feel happy…..Once I realized this, I started each and every thing and I myself felt so happy that I cant tell you. This happiness and this feeling I was missing in my life and I didn’t have idea that life can be like this….just because we haven’t thought this way, we don’t expect these in our life……TOTALLY NO IDEA ABOUT THIS.

    I really feel sad and pitty about why virgo men nature is like that, they are lacking this enjoyment, this happiness, this feelings and they don’t even know about this that what they are missing……what BIG they are missing…….TOTALLY NO IDEA ABOUT THIS

    So I will request all you ladies who love your Virgo Men to Kindly do this for your virgo men, try to teach these stupid logical thinkers the logic behind all these……If no one will teach them, they may pass their whole life like this and they will not even know that they have passed whole life without this big part of emotional happiness. That’s the reason you will find this statement that Virgo Men normally pass life alone…

    If you really love these persons, if they are good, I will suggest to try for them…..you will definitely get the fruit.

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  66. hi i’ve read through most of these comments and it seems like the virgo man is sucha bad person….im kinda starting to be involved with a virgo man and i already picked up on the moodiness and insecure ways which he won’t admit to….. being a scorpio, reading the negative comments makes me think i should walk away before it gets too intense??? can someone shed some light on the positive traits on this starsign please…????

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    1. Virgo men are not easy going. I was in a relationship with one for 3 1/2 years. I have never had a relationship like that one. I am a Virgo women but we are different than Virgo men. They come on strong initially but once they know they have you, they begin to sabotage the relationship by being critical, trying to control things and if you try to voice your needs or your opinions differ, they will either go into a rage or give you an indefinite silent treatment. My emotions were so up and down and I had no idea where I stood. They seem to have many traits that border along the lines of a narcissist. When he was good, he was amazing but he had a very dark side that including being moody, projecting his flaws onto me, and having double standards. I tried to hard to mold and conform to what he wanted and it was never enough and I lost myself in the process. Once he finally discarded me for some petty reason he still played with my emotions. I never met someone so confused about what he wanted. It has been a year since he left and I am left in an emotionally mess because this is what they do to you. They will never validate you…so if you are looking for validation in a relationship, forget a Virgo man, because he will not do that. They seem to use you for some kind of supply and when they no longer need you because you longer fit their expectations or they find a new supply, they will drop you like a hot potato and leave you sitting there wondering what just happened. I will never date another Virgo man and put myself through that emotional trauma. The good that they do isn’t worth all the heartache they put you through. I would suggest educating yourself on narcissist and you will likely be surprised how much Virgo men border on that.

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  67. Hi lacrease – i can ask you again please remove the comment with my name :)? it starts: “Hi Rohail Naeem! i see that my two attempts of giving a reply failed for some reason…anyways thanks a lot for your insight – gave me some hope! I know our natures are very different but sometimes i wonder if he pulls me back…i am a more positive person and i get excited by just watching a tree, he is not like that at all..”

    i repasted it with my nickname so the comment can stay…:)

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  68. Omg, this here is awesome! When I tell you this is my ex to the T! I mean I was amazed at how accurate the description of a Virgo man was as I read this. They say according to horoscopes Taurus (me) and Virgo are suppose to have a high rate of compatibility but I’m wondering how that could be when all we did was argue over nothing, well to me it was nothing but to him it was everything. Let’s not talk about the off and on thing he does, one day he loves me and the next he wants nothing to do with me but some how it end up being my fault. I want to send this to him but I’m sure being critical as he is he’ll find something to disagree about. But as much as I hate his ways I still love him. Thanks for the insight.

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    1. Hey!!!! Yess when I found this article online I had to post it! I’m a Virgo, but the men are something different. I love them but I had to figure them out first! Whewww and I still don’t know what makes them this way. lol Thanks for reading

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  69. Hi! I am back and need help because i am starting to freak out…
    I have been with my boyfriend (Virgo) for 1 year and a half…we live together in a country that is not where we were born and, after months of saying NO, i will never move from here, he finally accepted to move to another country with me where he doesnt speak the language, they pay less in salary (he has job offers where we live now) and the culture is not similar at all to his. He does this because i cannot find a job i like where we live and i dont like the culture here. As he says…he does it so he can be with me. BUT still no “i love you”. He says he thinks he loves me but he needs to make peace with it. He is not romantic in like buying flowers or complimenting, but he is always present, he cooks food, he joins me to places he doesnt want to go (sometimes), he cuddles and the PDA is not a lot but ok. So, since he is moving for me i assume he does love me but he still isnt 100% sure and it kills me, makes me insecure etc. He also never speaks about his problems, the other day his grandma broke her back and didnt tell me because “how are you gonna help me? i dont even wanna think about it myself”. For me is so crazy. Now the question is…am i dealing with an emotionally unavailable man? i am confused since he is moving for me, he already quited his job and he is applying to the country where we move. I am Aries. I have anxiety and i always over-worry….just to be fair. Please opinions!

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