I’ll be back next week! 😘
January 10 I lost my best friend to a highway trucking accident. There was a waste spill on I-75. His truck slid in it and caused him to slam into another truck killing him. He died doing what he loved doing.
My sister called me that evening waking me up out of my sleep asking have I been on facebook and that there are post saying that Rodney passed away. I jumped up from my sleep, got an instant headache and logged on. I was devastated.
I became depressed and laid in bed every chance I GOT. I couldn’t cry for the first 3 days because it didn’t seem real to me. I thought about him all during the day and night. Seem like forever till the funeral which made me more depressed. My daughter knew it. She would call or text me just to hear my voice. Many times I would pretend to be fine, but I wasn’t.
Days after the funeral was over, I was lying in bed taking a nap deeply depressed when my daughter called she said “momma are you sleep?” She said why didn’t you tell me that Tyler Perry tickets in Atlanta were on sale? I said I forgot, plus we have 2 tickets (( nights)) for the Detroit shows anyway. She said but still we’ll be in Atlanta for the baby shower, and I wanted to go because it was his last show. She sensed in my voice that I didn’t want to go. I just wanted to sleep. She told me that she was online with ticket master and only had a few minutes for those tickets and they we going to throw them out. She said momma do you want to go? I said no, I’m okay. She said are you sure? At that point I didn’t even want to go to Atlanta in May. She asked me again, momma we only have a few minutes to get this good seats do you want to go? I said No. Just then I heard God say, you should go, by that time you’ll feel better. He said you wont feel as depressed as you do today. He said if you don’t go, you’ll be mad at yourself later. I felt that! Just as she was about to click off Ticketmaster, I said yes get them. I remember getting off the phone from her feeling more depressed. It forced me to have to “get in the mood” for this trip, because I absolutely adore Tyler Perry and his work. This forced me to get out of my funk and get myself together.
As the weeks passed I started feeling better about my BFF and learning that it’s Okay to cry, and feel some kinda way, but laying in the bed was not going to do it. My daughter wouldn’t allow it anyway. I started booking our hotel, truck, and also found some cool things to do for the 6 days we were going to be there.
I requested 10 days off from work and we were outta here!! I love to drive and drove 12 hours there, and 12 back. My daughter can hang, she stayed up with me going and coming.
We stayed in 2 different hotels. The first hotel was very nice, one we tried to get in before but was all booked up. It was as lovely as we knew it to be. The other hotel was across from the Fox. We always imagined leaving out of our hotel room and walking directly across the street without having to worry about parking and traffic. WE DID IT!! Yazzzzzzzz!
The second hotel was the Indigo. It was expensive, and not what I expected. It was beautiful, but since its the very first hotel of its kind, they were not allowed to upgrade as far as the bathrooms. It was tiny. But it was clean, neat and in the location we needed it to be.
We had plans to leave our room at 7:00 and we did. The show started at 7:30 sharp! Listen, when this play was in Detroit, they received much love, but when the show started there, it was a different applause . They absolutely love David and Tamela Mann, as if they were from Atlanta. But when Tyler came out, those people went bananas. It was a different kinda love. Maybe I’m not explaining it right, but the atmosphere and the Spirit of the place was so LIT! TYLER HAD TO MAKE US SIT DOWN, before he even started his part. It was amazing experiencing this for myself. Even though I had seen the play 2 times before, it felt good being there as if it was my first.
David and Tamela Mann posted a video of their grand kids car that was involved in I a car accident days before, and I knew she was going to let loose on this last day. I knew it. They all survived. I look at that footage and know it was ONLY GOD who bought them all out alive and well. Yes, it was that bad. When she sung her first song, she was gone in the Spirit. We went with her. Some people may not have understood what made her go there like that, but we knew. I cried, and cried, and cried, and cried and cried and CRIED!!! I think everybody cried in that place.
Tyler loves to have music during his plays, and since Monica is from Atlanta, she was there to sing a verse of her song for us. It was amazing to see her. She sat directly in the row in front of us, along with “Benny” from The Haves and Have Nots. I kept looking at him because he was so “beautiful” never knew who he was. So when the show was over as we were walking across the street to our hotel, I saw him again and said……. Benny, he somehow heard, turned around, laughed to his friends and said…. she called me Benny. LOL That was so funny.
The play itself was funny and loaded with lots of messages. In Detroit, I got a program book, but I wanted a shirt and other things. But the line was so long. OMGG!! Hopefully I can order online.
I hate to see Tyler leaving the stage. but I guess he’s really tired of playing Madea, and that’s okay too. I’m so glad God told me to go, THANK YOU LORD.
Last Sunday my dad called all his kids ((4)) and told us that he wanted to take us out to dinner. Afterwards we planned to go see Tyler Perry’s Madea’s Family Funeral. But baaaaaaaaby after we sat ate, drank, laughed and talked, we were all ready for BED! LOL As bad as I wanted to see his movie opening weekend I was sleepy and tired.
Sorry Tyler. (( smile))
My momma was the only one at the table who wanted to see it THAT DAY..RIGHT NOW. I live around the corner from her anyway, so I told her that one day through the week when I don’t have to work I will pick her up and we’ll go. Even though she wanted to go right then and there, she was Okay with the plans we made.
Wednesday morning. My phone rang it was my momma, I looked at the phone and said to myself I’ll call her back when I wake up. Later on that night, I called her back and her voice was sounding funny (( I’m cracking up as I type this)) I said hey momma what you doing? She was like…… I CALLED YOU EARLIER. I said I know, I was sleep. She was like….your phone was off. I said I never turn my phone off. She was like…. well I called you and it went to voicemail. So now by hearing her voice, I’m trying to figure out what she’s getting at. My momma is never like this, so it was kinda shocking to me. I couldn’t figure out why she was talking “rough”. She finally came out and said… “We were suppose to go see Tyla (( LOL)) Perry.” I think you left me, went by yourself and turned off your phone. I said momma I would never do you like that. She said I know you, you’ll go off to the movies by yourself in the mornings. I said but momma, we made plans to go together. I said I will never leave you. I told her that my boss called me and asked me would I work on my day off and I told him yes. She was like OOOH. OKAY (( LOL)). I told her that since I was off the weekend we would go Saturday. She was happy.
Later on my Sister sent me a Marco Polo laughing asking me did I leave momma. I replied back and said she must have called you. She said yes, her lil feelings were hurt cause she thought you left her. She said you know you are her favorite. We laughed.
Saturday afternoon. Me, mom, my daughter and Sister went to the movies. MY MOMMA laughed her lil tailed off. She LOVED the movie. She really enjoyed it. She said Joe reminds her of my daddy. My baby was Heathrow. He may not of had any legs, but he can make me laugh the rest of my life. LOL
One scene made me crack up, when Heathrow didn’t have that thing up to his neck and was talking without it, it didn’t hit me that there was no sound coming out of his mouth. And when I realized it, I let out this laugh that had the whole audience laughing. LOL LOL LOL Mess me up! That caught me off guard. Tyler is crazy, how the hell do he live HIS OWN LIFE, with all these characters in his head? Brian, Joe off the hook butt, Heathrow, and Madea. As I’m watching the movie, I kept imaging me making a small incision on Tyler’s forehead and looking around in his head at what goes on in there. LOL LOL LOL I really wish I could take a look. He’s so SILLY!
I was mad when they closed the door on my baby Heathrow and made him drop his cake. How he’s driving…… I DUNNO LOL LOL LOL
I really hate to see Madea go. But I understand that he’s tired of playing her. I remember when my niece introduced me and my daughter to (( Madea)) Madea’s Family Reunion THE PLAY. One day she came to spend the weekend with us and bought over the bootleg DVD. My daughter was 12 now she’s 32. She tried to get me to watch it with them and I hated stage plays because of the “all of a sudden burst out and singing.” I didn’t watch it. So when it went off, they played it again and laughed like IT DIDN’T JUST GO OFF. I remember staring at them so hard listening to them laugh loud like they had never seen it before. My daughter kept saying “momma you will love this man he is so funny.” Momma please watch it!
So that night when they were in bed, I was like let me watch this play. I LOVED IT!!! I LOVED IT! I LOVED IT! I had never seen anything like it. The messages, the singing, the humor. I remember asking myself when they came out to be introduced, where is the LADY? I had to figure out that Tyler Perry was Madea. Keep in mind, I had never in my life heard of him. This was in 2001.
I’m going to miss Madea, but I also look forward to see what Tyler has next for us.
I know its been a while since I’ve written anything here. But I lost my MALE BEST FRIEND to a trucking accident. He was a local truck driver. He’s been since I met him over 22 years ago. He loved to drive state to state for 2-3 weeks at a time, but since he started having grand children he wanted to be home more to spend time with them, so he changed his shift to locally.
January 10, 2019, My sister called me. I was taking a nap. I saw that it was her and answered the phone. She asked me if I had seen anything on FB about my BFF Rodney dying in a trucking accident. I sat straight up in bed as my heart started beating fast, I told her No. She told me to get on line, and go to our brother ex wife page. It read RIP Rodney Adams, and I was SHOCKED!!! I was mad at her for posting it, I wanted her to take it down. I was in denial and didn’t want to believe it. I asked her where did she hear that from? She told me from someone she knew. So, I went to his mom’s page, his daughter, sons, BFF, his siblings and NOTHING. No one had said a word. I couldn’t cry because I didn’t believe it. Not MY BEST FRIEND!
As the night went on I was glued to all of their FB pages and finally his sister posted. I was devastated. I knew it was true then. Still I couldn’t cry because I had just spoken with him less than 2 weeks before. We worked different shifts and when we talked over the phone.. WE TALKED!!!!!. He always made me laugh with his stories. I use to call him just so that he could make me laugh.
I can’t believe that I wont see my friend anymore. His BFF Mike for over 45 years was calling him to say that his MOTHER had passed away, just to find out the HE (((Rodney))) had too on the SAME DAY.
There was a HUMAN WASTE spill on I-75 that was backed up for miles and miles and miles. After “cleaning up” the right lane only ((( they were STILL cleaning up the other lanes))) they had to open it up to release the traffic. Well…. all of the waste along that right lane wasn’t completely gotten up. A trailer truck carrying a camper slid in the right lane on the waste leaving part of the camper hanging out of the right lane. He got over as much as he could from on coming traffic. Then Rodney comes along driving his truck, SLID in the waste as well and slammed right into the back of the man and his trailer. The driver was okay had a few injuries. The family said the first responders prayed with Rodney as he was pinned to his truck. He was in and out, after the prayer they told the family that he complained of his legs hurting. As soon as the jaws of life pulled him out, he died INSTANTLY.
The days after as it sunk in, I have crying spells daily. Even to this day. I think about him calling me all the time as he drove.
His family put him away beautifully. I miss my silly friend. He loved people, and LOVED HIS FAMILY. They said that so many times at his service, how he loved his Facetime LIVES, his family, especially his grandkids, family barbecues, Prince and his Superfriends. They are made up about 7-8 friends who went to high school together.
One thing I am grateful for…. his relationship with God. He LOVED GOD. They had the best relationship I can say this myself. I can’t wait to see him again.
Here is a song that his sister and her husband sung at his service. It happens to be one of my favorite songs from a CD I purchased years and years ago.
Rest Rodney. I love you.
Ill write something soon. Rest in Heaven
Happy New Year!!! Yea its been a while. I’m always excited about a New Year coming in, it brings new expectations. I’m looking forward to doing new things, and some old things that I enjoyed doing. Every New Year I like to reflect on things that I learned in the following year. Here are a few.
- I learned that no matter how great of a job you do in ANYTHING, there is always someone in the background thinking other wise. Know your worth, and know that you are doing YOUR best.
- Sometimes you have to just listen. You don’t have to always voice your opinion.
- Allow people to make mistakes, especially when there was a time you did the same things. Have patience with those people, and know that your experience in the past is why you are the best person to pull them up and to pull them through.
- I need to be more thoughtful.
- I’m always supportive of others, but I need to focus on MY goals at the same time.
God If…. I’m tripping, I can deal with myself. I can deal with myself tripping. I can forgive myself and move on. I CAN EVEN LAUGH AT MY SELF. LAUGH LAUGH AND LAUGH! I will laugh all day. I will be happy to laugh, because its at myself. I can LIVE AND DEAL with me. I can do ME!
But God…… If, I’m not tripping, bring it to ME.
God, either way, IM GONNA LAUGH AT ONE!
How I’m feeling. Playing it over and over 😦