Learning Life Lessons

First of all I must say I LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE watching The Braxtons. I love Sisterhood, because I have my own 2 Sisters who I just love and adore, along with our only brother. Many times I wish I had more siblings because I enjoy the different opinions coming from each sister.

The reason why I’m writing this  is because of the last episode when The sisters had dinner their dad and his wife. I am SURELY on the outside looking in and I wanted to share some things with the sisters.

I grew up with both my parents in the home, they’ve been married for 50 years this coming July 5. Even though they’re separated and living ALONE in the same senior building in different apartments, they are still best friends. I  say that to say, I know how it feels to live in the home with both parents and to have them love us all.

I feel so bad that Daddy Braxton didn’t make it to Trina’s wedding. I remember when  she talked about that pain. But when it aired that he wanted his wife to come along and that he was tired of not being able to bring her, because of the pain it caused Momma Braxton, I cried. I cried because he wanted to be there, he wanted to so badly. I can only imagine how it feels not to be able to bring my husband to ANY function or event. But this is the part that got me. Daddy Braxton wife Wanda WANTED him to go any way. She knew she wasn’t wanted/invited there, but still unselfishly she told HER husband to go anyway. She could have been like many other STEP MOTHERS who are evil,  that’ll say… if I can’t go,  you cant either. Not only that, when she walked out, he wanted to go with his wife, but she told him once again…. STAY WITH YOUR KIDS, ILL GO. YALL MISSED THAT! SMH SMH SMH SMH SMH..

Daddy Braxton was fed up… and I DONT BLAME HIM. He went to several events without Step Momma Braxton, at some point, he was like wait a minute… I know how my ex wife feels, I know how my daughters feel, its time to move on and accept the fact that I am know longer married to your mom, and that I am remarried. No one wanted to meet him half way. That’s not fair to him at all. PERIOD. Trina, you not once considered your dad’s feeling, because it was all about YOU AND NOT HURTING YOUR MOTHERS FEELING. You NOT had it in your heart to meet YOUR dad half way. You disregarded and disrespected the fact that he is no longer married to your mother, and wanted to bring his wife for HIS comfort, HIS enjoyment of the party, and HIS happiness. It was all about Trina. And I know it was fun blaming Step Momma Wanda along the way for HIM not coming. Yes, he should have explained to you that he was fed up not being able to bring her, but I wondered if you would have gave in and allowed him to bring his wife, knowing how your mom felt about his presence. Hmm.

Somebody has GOT TO STEP UP, and help Momma Braxton to a place of healing. She can no longer go on living her life in silent pain. His very presence makes her uncomfortable. I know it has to bring back memories for her. I get that. I get that she was living this happy life with 6 beautiful kids, and didn’t see divorce coming. But the pain is too evident in her facial expression, her speech, and her body language when he’s around. Help her!!! Its like the Sisters bandage up her pain. She has to deal with her feelings from the past. Anytime you have these GROWN SISTERS who many of them have been divorced with kids, want their dad and their mom to take “family” trips and  the dad can’t invite HIS wife. That is not only CRAZY but its selfish and inconsiderate of HIS feelings. Stop being DISTRESSFUL TO YOUR DADS WIFE PRESENCE!! Stop making this man pay for his divorce from your mom. This man should not have to go through this anymore. He’s 70 years old, and let me say this…. I DONT GIVE A DAYUM WHO GETS MAD……yall are too grown to not see how childish and immature this is. Stop making your dad pay for his mistakes. Cause baaaaaaaaby wouldnt you all like to hear from your grown children the mistakes you’ve made with divorce, FAME, TIME , OH YESSSSSS JESUS… YOU ALL WILL HAVE YOUR TURNS WITH YOUR GROWN CHILDREN…. SOON AND VERY SOON. On all the things you THOUGHT you were doing SO RIGHT!!! OHHHH YESSS BRAXTON SISTERS YOUR TURNS ARE COMING. Forgive your dad for everything, your kids are watching.

There is going to come a time, when Daddy Braxton is gone. These sisters are going to have to go to his wife for his personal things they may want. This could be her BEST revenge. No money, fame, TV show, or court can make her give up anything that belongs to HIM/HER from THEIR HOUSE. You didn’t want to have ANYTHING to do with her then,  but you will later.  And you better hope, the sister who has a relationship with Step momma Wanda, shares with you all. UNLESS SELFISHNESS HAS COME TO YOUR HEARTS AND SPOILED WHAT BELONGS TO YOU.  But they’re going to see how beautiful of a person she is. All things will come from her HEART.  Even though she was treated like crap, her heart will be open for these gurls, JUST BECAUSE OF THE FACT THAT  HER HUSBAND loved them FIRST-  and she followed suit.

They’re going to want to hear stories of how much he loved his kids. How much he talked about them. How much he loved his grandkids. Oh yes, there will be lots of tears. Tears of how they wish the conversation would have been different at that dinner table. Thinking how selfish Tamar was acting when she tried to geek Trina up about how he made a ‘CONSCIENCE” decision NOT to go to her wedding. How could TRINA AND TAMAR missed the point he was making when he said because he was tired of going to functions without his wife. Nobody wanted to meet him halfway on that part, all they thought about was themselves and their momma. I love me some Trina, but not once did she think about HER DAD AND HIS FEELINGS, it was all about her and her wedding day. She was busy thinking about hers, and her MOTHER feelings, and at some point Daddy Braxton said, WHAT ABOUT MY FEELINGS? YES, I love my daughters, but I will NOT spend another day paying for the divorce WITH THEM, that I had with my EX wife. Free your daddy. PLEASE BEFORE ITS TOO LATE! PLEASE FREE HIM FROM THE PAST AND HELP HIM LIFE THE REST OF HIS DAYS IN PEACE WITH ANYONE WHO WANTS TO BE APART OF IT.

Tamar… Tamar, Tamar… Listen boo. I use to get up grab my keys and be OUT at the first sign of a sister debate. OUT. Im the oldest just like Toni. I cant do that anymore. We have to pick up the pieces and see THE BIGGER PICTURE. When she made every speech, I wanted to jump in the TV and kiss her. Let me say this to you….. You have a son now and working on another child. The work you are putting in to make a future for your son is wonderful, Im 50 I get it. You love Logan.. (( with his handsome self)) BUT BABY SISTER BRAXTON….. as hard as you were on your dad, made me CRYYYYYYYYY. There’s going to come a time.. You’re going to explain to Logan how much you love him, and how much time you spent working to make it happen for him, and its going to be all talk for him. He’s going to share with you how he felt in your absence and how he just wanted YOU. Just in the heart of your explaining your love, he’s going to get up and walk out. Just then you are going to flash back to not only your dad, but to all the times you bust up in the middle of debates with your sisters. Just as you need to let your dad off the hook.. OOOOOOOOOOOOOO WEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE.. you are going to want Logan to do the same thing for you when you explain the fame you wanted, and how all he wanted was YOU.. Oh yesss sistergurl baby Braxton, your turn awaits you. All I ask is that you have the answers for him.

Please get Momma Braxton some help. I LOVE HER.. She reminds me of my momma SO SO SO SO SO SO SO SO much. She has got to come to a place where she can talk about it and keep it moving. And please don’t do Stepmomma Wanda like that, yall gon need her… WATCH WHAT I TELL YA.

 

BE BLESSED!