The Seven Deadly Dating Sins
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Style Shortchange: Darla was a perfessional entertainer who knew excatly how to make herself eye-catching; what to wear, how to turn on the glow and how to make an entrance that made tongues dangle. But that all took work, and in her private life she’d rather not bother. When she got around Keith, her boyfriend, Darla preferred to dress down and skip the makeup altogether. Through Keith didn’t know how to mention her appearance without the risk of seeming sexist or superficial, he did feel cheated. Darla was the picture of simple, classy style when they first started going out, but now it was nearly always jeans, sweatshirt and an all-too-familiar bandanna. He concluded that she felt he wasn’t worth dressing up for anymore, and over time his attraction waned.
What Went Wrong: When a woman maintains her physical appearance, its like making love to a man’s eyes. The same things that first attracted Keith to Darla are the things that he still appreciated, yet missed.
Solution: For every date in which you adopt the all-natural and laid-back look, let there be at least a few pulled-together ones. The subliminal message is: “You are worth my looking my best.” Whether he ever says anything or not, you can be sure he notices.
By Ron Elmore
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