Last night I wrote about controlling men. https://lacreasewalker.com/2015/09/08/men-control-in-different-waysblog/
To the women. Do your part in the relationship to balance your man. If your man is on 10, its your job as his woman to bring the balance and make sure he gets back to 1. Its pitifully and sad to see couples, especially husbands and wives both on 10 and no one can leave the madness for a few seconds in their minds to calm the other down. That’s a lack of self control and one day, it’s gonna catch up with them both. Either on each other, or someone else.
Women set the atmosphere for the home. When a woman wakes up, she makes breakfast, sees her husband off, the kids, and then she goes on with her daily life. I use to love when my mom wake up in a good mood, that meant it was going to be a good day for school and a even better one when I got home. When she was in a bad mood, we would stay away from her the whole day. We literally got up and looked at her face in the morning before we started our day to see what type of day it would be. LOL She had no idea until we got grown how her mood effected us.
When my daughter was growing up I tried my best to get up in a good mood saying to her “Good Morning Princess”, “Good Morning boo”. Asking her how did she sleep? How she felt? We never had attitudes or that ” I woke up on the wrong side of the bed MESS!” Being quiet usually let the other person know, that they’re just trying to get their minds right to start the day. But NEVER with an attitude, yelling or twisted mean looking faces. And we RESPECTED that space.
Women, know in your mind that you set the atmosphere in the home. Yes, your husband is the man, and the head…… but you set the atmosphere. The family always acts according to how your mood is in the morning. Smiling, speaking with a calm tone of voice, but at the same time being direct in your communication. I promise you, your hubby will be happy, and your kids will have a WONDERFUL DAY!
I AM La’Crease ((( I don’t have to do anything else)))
I’m here getting over a cold, haven’t had one in a long time, so I’m okay with it…. I guess. LOL
On Mothers Day, my baby daddy ** I love saying that** sent me a message and called…. something he always does. But its so funny how long I’ve come (((MENTALLY speaking))) from back in the day at age 18 when I met him. I really really love him today, because of the relationship he has with our daughter. She loves that man. I talk to women all the time about the importance of making sure that they don’t run the fathers of their children away. Even if they have broken up, its important, and even more when they’re grown and need that adult/father/child advice on life. I’ll never stop talking about that. Now, I see why I went through so much, because God knew that one day when I was healed from it all, that I would talk to others about my experience till I’m blue in the face. And there is NEVER a day where I am not doing just that.
Last night at work, one of the Supervisors took me there. I’m a person that does my work, anything asked… I’m doing it without any attitude, talking smart or eye rolling. Managers notice that. Why this one feel like, just because I make my job look easy, without complaints, minimum questions, with a smile on my face ALL NIGHT… that I want to do extra work that has nothing to do with me ? That burns me up. He made me so mad that I had to pull him to the side. And this is the reason why I don’t run behind, talk on a personal level, laugh and play with managers. Because just as they mean business…. LA’CREASE WALKER does too. The less I have to say about something that goes on, the more they want to know.. WHAT LACREASE THINK? Ummmm….. I think nothing, not going to empty my opinions and thoughts out to anyone on anything that has ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to do with me. #sostoplookingatme #waitingonaresponse #nothoughtsonthematter #asksomeoneelse #thankyou
So, Im trying to fix up my apartment room by room. I love it here, I’m going to video record as soon as they finish the lobby and the convenient store. I don’t think I will ever go back to living in a house again, UNLESS I’m married.
Was in the office doing some computer work, when one of the employees walked into the office and asked MEE.. was that in the lobby at the desk… I jumped up out of my seat so fast… and it was HIM… So fione!!!!
Okay… I’m getting sleepy, off tonight.
I AM La’Crease ((( I don’t have to do anything else)))
I was having heated debates with my friends on FB about the Baltimore Mom who “snatched” her son up because she didn’t want him out rioting. Many of them felt like “why is it news that she did that”, and that the Media had an agenda behind it, because they felt that had it been under other circumstances, she would have be arrested.
Well.. for me I didn’t agree. First of all, if it was a LAW and if she was breaking it, she would have been charged, no matter what the MEDIA reported. The MEDIA has nothing to do with the LAW. So if she was breaking the LAW she would have been charge or at least investigated. Why is it news? Well, its up to you how you see things. For me, I saw it as positive. There are so many “PUNK PARENTS” these days, that they let THE MEDIA… PLANT MANAGE AND SUPERVISE how they discipline their kids. For this case, TO ME…. the Baltimore Mom’s attitude about it, it was made it news. She didn’t have an attitude when she was doing interviews, she wasn’t offended by how others felt she should have handled it. And you knew not to get in her way that day when she met up with her SON. She was true to how she loved and raised him, and also how she felt about HER son rioting. She did say she was angry and that she would have done things differently. Give her that. I feel that when you stay true to what you believe people will pick up on that. Especially if you’re not rolling your eyes, having attitudes, or being defensive about it. When you are genuine sure about how you handled things, people are most likely to back off and RESPECT YOU EVEN MORE.
When it came to the rioting, I posted how I felt about that… and some people were mad at me. Here is that post….“I hate to see whats going on in Baltimore. This is their own neighborhoods that they’re stealing and burning. Now I see why God said Vengeance is mines. He can take care of anything better than we can…we anger to fast. After the destruction will come consequences. No buses, no stores, no groceries, no pharmacies, nothing. So sad people don’t see further than right now.” When I wrote… we anger to fast.. Oh boy what I say that for? LOL Only 2 friends come for me when it comes to these types of post. And I was ready for them! I understand ANGER.. I DO. But I also understand CONSEQUENCES… I hate facing those… with a passion. When you’re angry and you do things before you think them though, you pay for that either now or later. All I was saying is, when its all over said and done. Who will take your grandparents to the store to buy grocery’s when there is no car, and not a store to walk too? Where are they going to get their prescriptions from, when the next CVS, WALGREENS is 20 minutes away? What about the gurl who was just about to move and needed her check before she lost her job at CVS? People don’t care when their mad. At some point in your life you have to learn how to handle ANGER. Its hard, yes it is, but you’ll pay consequences for your actions if you don’t. Sons and Daughters are in jail because either their parents didn’t teach them about ANGER and consequences, they were taught and still did things their way, or they just didn’t care. So now, the parents have to suffer, if they have children, they will have to suffer, their siblings, nieces, nephews, and grandparents. Everyone pays. So, my post was to show that you have to think things all the way through before you start to do things that will effect you later. They didn’t see it that way. They felt that since I have influence, and use FB as a podium to write about important issues that I should have used that time and energy to write about charges to the officers involved in the case. And let me say this.. I AM FOR ACCOUNTABILITY for those involved… remember …I RAISED A LAWYER…. but if my post wasn’t about that, then fall back. I’m not a person who writes things ahead of the process. I like to watch, read and gather more information before I write. I’m not going to post every 7 minutes my feelings and thoughts just because I’m watching CNN. Oh well.. I’m the Boss of my FB page!
Last week, I was standing in line to deposit a check into my account. I was with my Sisters who were waiting patiently in the truck. The line was so long, and after a while I was getting irritated because the teller had to keep leaving her booth to get answers from a supervisor about the customer at the counter. After about 30 plus minutes , I had it. I was about to go into Incredible Hulk mode, I CAN FEEL THE GREEN MONSTER RISING UP IN ME. Now, I know why I have always had a connection to him as a child. LOL LOL I want to be nice and sweet, but that ANGER is something else. Let me explain. I have a lot of patience with people and situations, because God gave me this great gift of Understanding.. but BAAAABY.. every now and then….. I will cut lose. What happens is.. my leg starts shaking, my body gets hot, I have to hold my head in my hand to look away from the situation. I have this urge to have a OUTBURST. As I got older I learned how to pray to control it. I know once I have this outburst… I’m going to want to turn over something ( I have never) , not to mention scream out…… “HURRY-UPS.”. “WHATS TAKING SO LONG?”, “GET SOMEBODY ELSE OVER HERE TO HELP”, “WHY ARE YOU SO SLOW?” So, what I do is pray, pray, pray, I say God please, please, please, please, please, please don’t let me have an outburst. Lord, please help me not to say anything, to stay calm. Please Lord, let this heat in my body go down. Lord, help me right now to calm down. I’m a Christian woman I don’t want to nut up.. I KNOW THAT THERE WILL BE CONSEQUENCES IF I DO. Let me show you step by step.
- have this outburst and people are staring at me ((( hate attention)))
- the manager is called and Im asked to calm down
- I am asked to leave since I didn’t calm down , and I STILL DONT GET MY BUSINESS TAKING CARE OF
- if Im too out of order, then the POLICE may be called on me
- I will have to go elsewhere to be served
As people we have to think everything through before we do things. I personally don’t like to pay for consequences. God calmed me down, and when it was my turn, me and the teller were so cool. We talked and even laughed as she took care of me. I was so happy that I LET GOD COME INTO MY HEART AT THAT TIME AND CALM ME DOWN… no telling what would have happened and what I would have said, if I hadn’t. Thank God for Jesus!
I AM La’Crease (( I don’t have to do anything else)))
Last Monday I called my daughter’s dad and told him how much I loved the fact that he and Neisha are so close. He has 2 kids, Neisha the oldest, and a son 15, by his now separated wife. I never thought a day would exist to see them as close as they are. She loves that man, and he loves her. They are BEST FRIENDS. She told me that she has 2 Best Friends as her parents.
I’m so happy about the amount of time they spend together, they go out of town together, they go to dinner and lunch all the time, he even goes to her job just to take her lunch. I told her that when she was younger and we’d get into it, he had to have prayed to God that one day he wouldn’t have to communicate with me in order to be close to her. LOL LOL That when she was old enough, he could build his own relationship with her. And that’s exactly what happened. He told me that he loved me and that he is so proud of the way that I raised her. I told him I loved him too, and that I was so happy that he is the Father of my only child.
One thing that’s for sure, and we both tell her all the time. Whatever you do.. make sure you marry a decent man who loves and respect you. A man who doesn’t fight, or mental abuse you, because you know your dad loves you with everything in him, and he will NOT tolerate anything less.
I wrote this to say… sometimes you have to make a phone call to those who are important, to tell them how you love and appreciate them. Things change, and people change. If anything ever happen to me or him, we both know that we LOVE each other and that whatever happened in the past between us is over and done with.
Thank you Jesus for LOVE AND UNDERSTANDING. 🙂
I AM La’Crease
I guess in this entry I’ll do some rambling. Lets start with RHOA.
I’m still stuck on Apollo and last nights episode. How the hell could he do what he did without thinking about his family and then TURN THE STORY AROUND ON PHAEDRA and accuse her of not being there for him? Do you see that type of thinking?… I don’t be bothered with men like that. When they start talking “side ways” I will too, then after I get tired of that. I’ll start acting “dumb”.. after that…. then I’m done with the friendship/relationship because its pretty much going down hill. And in this case it did. He got mad and asked her for a divorce…. SHE GLADLY ACCEPTED!
A. while you were fresh out of jail Apollo.. she loved you and married you. B. You decided not to go with the “family business” to run a funeral home and go at it as husband and wife. C. You wanted your own money and decided that scheming was the way to go. I’m stuck on how he figure that he could just skip over all that…. and discuss Phaedra not going to his sentencing. I’ll tell him… look….. before we get to the “icing” we gon talk about the making of the “cake”. You did wrong to start with, didn’t think about me, didn’t think about the kids, didn’t think about our family, you thought more about money, and impressing people who are still walking around here Scott free. No one wants to run back and forth to a jail house with 2 BOYS..while you jail house talk me into staying with you for your return home. Women aint doing that “no mo”. We look at that situation as YOU LEFT US.. You did things that were more important than me and your kids. Women look at that as you LOVED US.. but not enough to do right so that we could all be together. Sorry I don’t feel any sympathy… especially, especially, especially when he tried to turn it all on her. Only in passing of a conversation will he acknowledge his wrong, never coming to the conclusion that what HE did …. is what got them in that situation in the first place. #SEEYOUIN5
I’m speaking from experience. I was dating this guy and we were trying to get it together. He was the sweetest man, loving, kind.. and he LOVED HIM SOME LACREASE. But he kept going back to jail. I was there for him, going to court with him, writing him everything.I LOVED THIS MAN. I don’t have one bad thing to say about him. He got out, did the same thing, and went back. When he came home… I was done with him. Told him to come over and pick up his things a few pair of socks and papers. He was sad, knew I meant business, we kept in touch but our relationship was over.
He went back to jail!!!
Came home and got it together. By this time I was long gone. We kept in touch from time to time. He had gotten married, was happy and doing well. Years had passed one day he contacted me, I invited him over and we caught up on old times. Time went by again, he came over this time he was in a different place. Told me that I WAS THE REASON why things went downhill for him. Told me I was a good woman, and that he loved me more than anyone he’s ever been with, and that if I hadn’t left him in his time of need ((jail)), then his life would have been different. He tried to make me believe that I was the reason why his life was the way it was, saying had I hung in there with him, we would be together. I wasn’t happy with that conversation, because just like Apollo, HE made the decision to do illegal things.You’re not going to put that on MEEEEE I’m sorry. He left my house.
Two weeks later he sat on the edge of his bed and shot and killed himself in the head. For years… I thought about his last words to me. So after watching last nights episode it bought back many memories. I hope Phaedra continues to stand strong. I hope she takes the boys to see him, I would hate for her to keep them from each other, but as far as herself…. she has to keep it moving in order to have peace of mind.
This is so cute!!! I love kids so much. I think the gurls are twins. One is mean and the other is nice LOL LOL I know twins just like this.
Why at the end it made me cry… awwww.
(((Click the link below if it doesnt automaticly plays)))
A beautiful kitchen for a woman can be equivalent to a “Man Cave”… When women look for a home, the kitchen is the first place she goes to. A kitchen is suppose to set the atmosphere appetite for the evening.
These last few days I’ve been thinking hard about our youth today.
I wrote yesterday on one of my students and how he’s being charged with MURDER.
Last month one of my favorite students was KILLED when he was driving a stolen jeep which turned over and threw him out of it. I was sick when I found out that it was HIM. I had seen the story on the news.. never in a million years thought it would be him.
What I LOVED about him……he was loving underneath all his BADNESS. LOL He worked my nerves every day I saw him. I would talk to him everyday, all day about his behavior, cursing, and just being bad. He was a big baby, that needed attention. I could see it in his eyes and the things he said. HE use to make me SO angry sometimes, that I would wish he wouldn’t come to school for a whole week. Thing is… LOL LOL He came to school every single day. He hardly ever, ever missed. He use to get mad at me when I kicked him out of the hallways and lunch period. One day he was soooooooooooo mad at me, that I was happy…. that meant he wouldn’t get on my nerves. So when he was around me he wouldn’t talk much.
I really grew to LOVE him.. no matter what he got into. I really loved this boy. No matter how “bad” I just call him bad…. but no matter how challenging he was….when I saw him.. I could feel my face light up when he walked into the room. Because I knew he was either going to be silly that day and get on my nerves, or be in one of those moods where he was begging me or bugging me about something. Gosh.. I’m going to miss him. We called him D. Woods. Deangelo Woods was his name. His nickname was Pooney.
Everybody in the whole school knew him because he was always picking on somebody. I use to talk to him all the time about getting himself together and not dying in these streets. I loved that lil boy, but I knew that his days were numbered. I could see it in his walk,eyes, and life. I hated what I saw…. but I know these streets and I know that at times… he just didn’t care. I loved him.. even though he use to make me so mad with him at times. He was still a kid to me, and he was one of those boys that needed just a little more attention.As a MOTHER… I knew that. Below is also a link to the NEWS REPORT here in Detroit on his story.
Um um um… RIP D. Woods
This post is from a good friend of mines. If you are lead to help her with donations for a Lawyer.. please do so. THANK YOU SO VERY MUCH!
Hello all!! I am currently raising funds to pay for what may be potentially two lawyers (one in Georgia and one in Illinois) to fight my abusive ex in court who has decided to sue me for full custody of our daughter and refuses to bring her home to Chicago from her summer visitation with him which puts him in contempt of our current custody agreement. Many of you may already know my story, if you don’t, a link will be provided below to my blog detailing my story. (Please excuse my language in the blog because it was written prior to me turning my life over to Christ.) Since we moved to Chicago, he has summoned me to Georgia on what will now be my 5th time. Since I have a permanent restraining order on him, he has abused the courts to file for modifications to our agreement. I have gone so far as to cut off the child support just so I can have some peace and hoping he will leave me alone, but he has not. He has been successful partly because I still had a victim’s mentality and did not want to rock the boat and partly because I could never afford representation so that I could adequately fight him in court. But no more!!! IF I need the lawyer in Georgia because the Illinois lawyer is not successful in transferring venues, that lawyer would be used to get the change of venue and hold him in contempt of the original agreement as well as hold him in contempt for filing our daughter on his taxes. The Illinois lawyer will be used to start my case here in Illinois, establish my custody case as Illinois as my home and file for modifications as well as close up the many loop holes. I was served by the Sheriff’s department on Saturday, August 16th and I have court Tuesday, September 9th in Georgia. Time is of the essence and school starts in Chicago soon. She is in a selective enrollment school and if she is not in attendance, it is possible she will lose her slot. Funds raised will also be used, if necessary, to fly to Georgia and to bring my 11 year old daughter home. I am a survivor, as you will read in the link below, I have survived so much and I will survive this too and God WILL get the Glory anyhow!!! Thank you for reading and being a blessing!! http://www.misfit4lyfe.blogspot.com/2012/12/lisas-story-part-1.html?m=1