“Forgiving Men, Forgetting Friends”

There’s something that’s been sitting heavy on my heart—and I know I’m not the only one who sees it. Women will stand by a man who spits in their face, cheats, lies, steals, take and tear up their car, curse their family and friends out, take their money and spend it on other women, eat their kid’s food up in the fridge, cook your steaks, drink your drinks and breaks their spirit over and over again. Yet when a sister-friend makes a forgivable mistake? Silence. Distance. Cut-off.

Where does that grace go when it’s time to love one another?

We talk about loyalty as if it’s exclusive to romantic relationships. But if loyalty means endurance and forgiveness, why do so many women lose patience with their closest friends over a single misstep, while still holding space for partners who consistently cause harm? It’s time we flipped this script. If we can forgive betrayal in romantic love, we can forgive the slip-ups in platonic love, too. Because women need each other. We deserve healing in our sisterhoods, not just in our relationships with men.

So, I ask—who have you been silent toward that maybe deserves a conversation instead of a cutoff?

📍 I’ve seen it happen in my own life. I’ve witnessed beautiful friendships dissolve over things that could have been healed with a conversation. Meanwhile, these same women return to relationships that scar them emotionally and physically—again and again.

The truth? Friendships are foundational. They’re often the ones who hold us up when love breaks us down. So why do we treat them as disposable?

🤲 Real grace looks like:

  • Pausing before you cut someone off.
  • Remembering the years, not just the moment.
  • Giving the same forgiveness you want for yourself.

If we can forgive betrayal in romantic love, we can forgive the slip-ups in platonic love, too. Because women need each other. We deserve healing in our sisterhoods—not just survival in our relationships with men.

Tyler Perry fired his AUNT?

It’s frustrating when some celebrities open up about personal family issues—how relatives ask for money or expose them publicly—but then stay silent when it comes to similar struggles with other celebrities. That selective transparency can feel unfair, even performative.

Here’s the thing: family stories often come with an emotional punch that draws attention. But choosing not to speak about equally messy stories involving well-known peers creates a double standard. It paints their relatives as opportunistic while shielding others with fame from the same scrutiny. And when they give or loan money to famous friends with no shame, yet call out their own kin—it sends a mixed message. Almost like… you’re allowed to ask for help if you’re rich and famous, but if you’re family, you’re a burden.

💬 Why it hits hard:

It makes their generosity look performative: noble when helping famous friends, but judgmental when helping family.

Families are usually the ones who were around before the fame, trying to hold onto a real connection.

Celebrities airing private struggles publicly—without naming equally messy celebrity situations—can feel like emotional branding, not real vulnerability.

Why Family Stories Get the Spotlight

  • Power Dynamics: Celebrities usually have more control over the narrative when speaking about relatives who aren’t famous. There’s no publicist, fanbase, or industry clout defending the family member’s side—so the celeb’s version goes unchallenged.
  • Sympathy Plays: Talking about family drama can make a celebrity seem relatable or even heroic—“look what I overcame.” It stirs empathy without risking Hollywood relationships.
  • Image Protection: Exposing a fellow celebrity’s messy moment could strain future work or social circles. It’s safer to keep those skeletons in the walk-in closet.
  • Media Framing: Interviews, documentaries, and memoirs often focus on “origin stories,” and unfortunately, family strife sells better than industry conflict.

😶 Why It Feels Hypocritical

That imbalance makes the family member look greedy, while the industry peer gets grace, privacy, and protection.

They’ll publicly call out a cousin for asking for $5,000 but stay silent when a celebrity friend borrows $500K and vanishes until their next comeback.

Don’t get this VIRGO STARTED!! Dont talk about your family on social media. If they share what they know about you, yall will be getting Cease-and-Desist Letters.

A celebrity friend of Tyler Perry, used his Black Card to purchase a Rolex watch during a trip in Italy. When asked about her purchases, she humorously mentioned needing undergarments, but she ultimately went to the Rolex store.

What are your future travel plans?

For ten days, I won’t belong to a schedule, a to-do list, or anyone else’s expectations. I’ll be aboard a cruise ship, surrounded by ocean and possibility, choosing peace one sunrise at a time.

This isn’t just a vacation—it’s a reclamation. A solo journey to tune into me. To wake when I want. To sleep without apology. To sip on something smooth in the entertainment lounge, laughing with strangers or simply taking in the hum of life around me.

I’ll call my family and friends when I feel moved to share a moment. But mostly, I’ll be discovering the joy of my own company. If I want to step off the ship and explore the warmth and flavors of island life, I’ll do it. If I want to wrap up in cozy sheets and drift off to the sound of the waves—yes, that’s on the agenda too.

This trip is about honoring what I crave: silence when I want it, community when I choose it, and indulgence without compromise. Just once, I want to experience the freedom of doing absolutely everything—or absolutely nothing—on my own terms.

And that’s exactly what I’m going to do.

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