SEX before MARRIAGE ( grown folks)

Here is a part of what I wrote on my Sistergurls Group Site. The subject is about having SEX before marriage. Below is my post from that thread. BE Blessed!

Ok, Im back!! Here are some things that I read before on line about this, and so I decided to copy and paste the parts that stuck out for ME. Then there are Scriptures, then my personal word.


Far too often we focus on the “recreation” aspect of sex without recognizing that there is another aspect—procreation. Sex within marriage is pleasurable, and God designed it that way. God wants men and women to enjoy sexual activity within the confines of marriage. Song of Solomon and several other Bible passages (such as Proverbs 5:19) clearly describe the pleasure of sex. However, the couple must understand that God’s intent for sex includes producing children. Thus, for a couple to engage in sex before marriage is doubly wrong—they are enjoying pleasures not intended for them, and they are taking a chance of creating a human life outside of the family structure God intended for every child.

While practicality does not determine right from wrong, if the Bible’s message on sex before marriage were obeyed, there would be far fewer sexually transmitted diseases, far fewer abortions, far fewer unwed mothers and unwanted pregnancies, and far fewer children growing up without both parents in their lives. Abstinence is God’s only policy when it comes to sex before marriage. Abstinence saves lives, protects babies, gives sexual relations the proper value, and, most importantly, honors God.

1 Corinthians 7:2 ESV But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband.

My thoughts…… Concerning the Scripture above. God is saying to avoid sexual immorality each man should have his own wife. Okay who are the ones left? The single folks. If we are having sex outside of having a HUSBAND then we face temptation of sexual immorality.
 An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord’s affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world—how she can please her husband. 35 I am saying this for your own good, not to restrict you, but that you may live in a right way in undivided devotion to the Lord.

1 Corinthians 7

I’m a single woman. My aim is to be devoted to the Lord in BODY AND SPIRIT. Now if I’m having sex with men ( a man) who (is) are  NOT my husband….. I’m devoted to HIM. He will receive my BODY AND MY SPIRIT. Where is room in that for God?
God wants MY BODY, okay but if I’m having sex with this man, why would God want to SHARE in that? He wants BOTH ….BODY AND SPIRIT. We cant say okay God, I’m going to give him my BODY (SEXUALLY), and YOU can have my Spirit. NOOOOOO, that wont work. He wants both!!! He has every right to want both!! Now, lets be real, we like to make the Scriptures work in our behalf . What if God said…. Okay just give me your Spirit, then it probably would be fair to say, ” HE DIDNT ASK FOR MY BODY SO I HAVE ALL THE RIGHT TO HAVE SEX WITHOUT A HUSBAND”. But God didn’t, he said he wanted a single woman  to be devoted to HIM…BODY AND SPIRIT!
If we/you are SINGLE and doing ANYTHING outside of giving God both, BODY AND SPIRIT…..its a SIN. When it comes to this Scripture as far as I’m concerned BODY AND SPIRIT ARE TWINS. They come together as a package.
This topic is not even a 5 minute conversation. The Scripture is self explanatory. Its not magic, its not difficult, its either this or that.


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