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Share five things you’re good at

🗣️ Communication

I love to communicate. Expressing my feelings and thoughts is second nature to me. Whether it’s talking with people or listening to understand how they feel, communication is my way of building bridges. It’s not just about words—it’s about connection, empathy, and understanding.

🧩 Problem Solving

I study people a lot, not to judge, but to understand. Everyone handles life differently, shaped by their unique experiences. That fascinates me. I’ve learned that problem solving isn’t about finding one “right” answer—it’s about respecting different paths and perspectives

📋 Planning

Planning is my happy place. I especially love organizing gatherings for family and friends. I can visualize every detail—the dishes, the plates, the silverware, the tables—before it even happens. That vision helps me avoid last-minute stress. I write things down, I prepare, and I make sure nothing is left out.

🚗 Driving

Driving is freedom for me. Funny enough, I didn’t start until I was 32, but once I did, I fell in love with it. I’ve driven all over my city and even in places like New York. I don’t like driving in the rain or the dark, but give me Michigan snow and I’ll get you anywhere safely. Daytime drives are my specialty, and I can pack up and go for hours with little sleep—just because I love it that much.

🌱 Working with Children & Young Adults

One of my greatest joys is guiding young people. I started a teen group in my home that ran for five summers, and we did everything you can imagine. Helping children, young adults, and women prepare for the real world is something I take seriously. It’s about equipping them with tools, confidence, and love.

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Chapter 2: Finding My Groove in Brush Park

I’ve officially moved into my new apartment, and while everything is unpacked and in its place, I’m still searching for my groove. At my daughter’s home, I had a rhythm—a flow that felt natural. Now, in this beautiful new space surrounded by concerts, dog lovers, and the heartbeat of Detroit, I’m starting fresh. And let me tell you… it’s not as easy as flipping a switch.

I know it’ll take a few weeks. I’m giving myself grace. But I also know I need to move my body. The fitness room is just steps away, yet I haven’t felt the pull to go. That’s okay. I’m not forcing it. I’m listening to my spirit, and she’s whispering: “Start small. Start soulful.”

One thing I’m proud of? My eating habits have shifted in the best way. No goodies in the apartment. No mindless snacking. No overeating. Just intentional meals and a lighter feeling—physically and emotionally. That’s a win I’m celebrating.

This is Chapter 2 of my journey. A new space. A new rhythm. A new level of self-awareness. I’m not chasing perfection—I’m embracing progress. I’ve got to get into my groovy. And I will.

Because this next chapter? It’s mine to write.

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What are your top ten favorite movies?

  1. Mr. and Mrs. Smith – Action, chemistry, and chaos. A wild ride of love and espionage.
  2. Tyler Perry’s Good Deeds – A soulful reminder that purpose often lies beyond routine.
  3. Titanic – A sweeping love story that never sinks, no matter how many times I watch it.
  4. Monster House – Creepy, clever, and surprisingly heartfelt. Childhood nostalgia with a twist.
  5. Just Wright – Romance meets resilience. Queen Latifah shines in this feel-good favorite.
  6. The True Story of The Apostle Paul – A powerful portrayal of transformation and faith.
  7. It Should Happen to You – A classic tale of fame, identity, and the longing to be seen.
  8. A Patch of Blue – Tender and groundbreaking. Love that defies prejudice.
  9. Mo’ Better Blues – Music, passion, and the price of ambition. Spike Lee at his finest.
  10. White Chicks – Outrageous and hilarious. Sometimes you just need to laugh out loud.

Each of these films has offered me something—whether it’s a lesson, a laugh, or a lens into someone else’s world. That’s the beauty of storytelling. It connects us, challenges us, and sometimes, it heals us.

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What do you enjoy most about writing?

Growing up in a home with both parents, I always felt a deep need to express myself. My mom understood me—she saw the spark behind my endless questions. But my dad? Not so much. He didn’t understand why I asked so many things. To him, it felt like noise. To me, it was the beginning of understanding.

I wasn’t trying to be nosy. I was trying to learn. I wanted to understand why people thought the way they did, why they reacted the way they did, and what shaped their choices. Over time, I realized that every experience a person goes through becomes a lens through which they see the world. That lens influences how they respond, how they love, how they protect, and how they communicate.

Even now, I ask questions—not to pry, but to connect. To understand. To grow.

But when words failed me in conversation, I found another way to speak: writing. Writing became my sanctuary. It gave me a voice when I felt unheard. It gave me clarity when the world felt confusing. And most beautifully, it connected me to others who feel the same way—those who may not write, but who find comfort in reading.

Writing is more than just words on a page. It’s a bridge. A mirror. A healing space.

So to anyone who’s ever felt misunderstood for being curious, for feeling deeply, or for needing to express themselves—know that you’re not alone. There’s power in your voice. And if you ever feel like speaking is too much, try writing. You might just find yourself there.

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How do you plan your goals?

Every morning since my stroke, I’ve made a promise to myself: stay consistent. I’ve always known what I needed to do, but consistency was my biggest challenge. That changed when I started writing down my daily goals first thing in the morning.

📋 I keep my list close, checking it throughout the day. Each checkmark feels like a victory—a quiet celebration of progress. It’s a feeling I can’t quite explain, but it fills me with joy and purpose.

As I move through the day, I notice things I want to add to tomorrow’s list. But I’ve learned not to overdo it. Pacing myself keeps me on track and prevents burnout. This rhythm of planning, doing, and reflecting has become my anchor.

💖 I love this new version of me. She’s focused. She’s intentional. She’s healing.

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What’s the story behind your nickname?

My nickname is Zee-Zee, and while I can’t say for sure where it originated, I know exactly where it bloomed — from the heart of my grandmother. She was my mother’s mother.

From her two daughters, my grandmother welcomed five grandchildren into the world — each with a name, and more importantly, a nickname chosen by her own spirit and wisdom. These weren’t just pet names or playful labels. They were personalized blessings.

We are:

🌟 Zee-Zee — that’s me, the eldest of the eldest. 🌟 Dee-Dee — my cousin Dial, named by Aunt Wana, my mother’s only sibling. 🌟 Na-Na — my sister, born Yolanda, lovingly nicknamed with a gentleness that mirrors her soul. 🌟 Bobby — our brother, named after our father Robert, grounding us in legacy and tradition. 🌟 Peedie — our baby sister Electria, whose nickname sparkles with playfulness and youth.

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June

What’s your favorite month of the year? Why?

June

I have to say June. June is my mom’s birthday month and it’s the time when I’m done with the cold and I’m ready for the sun. For some reason I love when the ground is damp and the mornings smells like flowers.

June, reminds me of planning trips to Cedar pointe, taking rode trips especially when I LOVE to drive. I enjoy grabbing a $5 meal and going to Belle Isle to sit at the fountain and Thank God for my life and the people that’s in it.

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Enjoying Peace in Your Life/ BLOG ENTRY

I’m at the age where I am enjoying being alone. I just absolutely love it. Sometimes, I feel selfish because I enjoy going to the park, going to have ice cream alone, taking rides Downtown Detroit, going out to eat . I’m just enjoying MY life right now.

My Best Friend of 4 is an empty nester for a year now, and sometimes she feels guilty for enjoying her Peace. She doesn’t have to think about what’s for dinner for the family or sneaking her favorite candy bar in her purse. She calls me happy only having the task of looking out for herself. Her adult children are doing well, and she just laugh at the Peace that was waiting for her all the time.

As we sit and think about where we are today versus 33 years ago when we met, we’ve been through a lot of ups and downs together. We deserve this, Peace! What’s our problem in thinking that we don’t? I’m laughing as I type this. Just today she called me feeling somewhat guilty for ordering herself a Tropical Smoothie meal, and I’m like gurl, you don’t have to worry about anyone else. GET THE SMOOTHIE MEAL!!!! LOL

I’m always reminding someone that I’m halfway through life, who has time to argue and debate about things that doesn’t matter? I don’t want to fall out with anyone. I don’t want to be mean to people, I don’t want to gossip and start trouble. Those days are over, I just CAN’T do it. I don’t have the energy. I want to smile with my eyes. I want to look people in the eye and speak as I walk pass. I want to encourage someone I don’t know. I want to always be mindful of others. Sometimes when I’m out, I’m so into what I’m doing, I’m mindful of others around me who may need me to pick up a baby shoe when the mother has too much in her hands. When a cane falls from an elderly person’s arm and need my assistance.

I’ve raised my daughter; she’s doing very well and that helps me to be happy and excited about living the rest of my life out in PEACE.

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Focus on ME/BLOG

Today, I decided that I was going to focus on ME. I listen and help a lot of people with my Spiritual advice, but I feel that I have neglected myself. Not in a bad way, but enough to say…..Okay, its my turn.  I’m going to listen to ME.

There are things that I want to accomplish, and things I want to do. I am traveling more and I love that about myself. Already I’m paying on my trip back to the Bahamas. I’m also going to Jamaica, and Mexico. I’ll be leaving for Atlanta next month, and I plan to go to Vegas for the first time next year. I’ll be 50 this year, and still haven’t made plans. I don’t want to have a party. I know a lot of people and there is no way I can afford to host a party that huge, people would be left out, I just don’t have the money for all of that. So, I just may do something for family and that’s it. Traveling is everything to me. I enjoy packing my suitcase, buying new outfits and sandals. I enjoy everything associated with it.

Its so hard making new chances when it comes to myself. Why? I don’t know. I have very high self esteem. I don’t talk about others, I uplift and encourage all.  I’ll feel as if I’m being selfish, because I’m so use to helping out others. Well its too late because I’m already in the process of working on me and my body. YesssszAAAAAAAA

I’m closing for now, chat later.

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Higher Is Waiting Hardcover – November 14, 2017

by Tyler Perry (Author)
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Losing yourself in a MAN/BLOG

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Hey!

I was talking to one of my closes friends a few days ago about how she should make it her business to be around couples who are doing well for themselves  ((mainly husband and wives)) so that she can see how it LOOKS to be happy. She’s going through a WHOLE lot with her on and off again children’s father, and it kills me to see her this way. I believe with all my heart that she has lost herself in this man, and just don’t know how to get out. She’s a beautiful person, sweet as pie, but she allows herself to be mistreated and FINALLY she’s starting to see his true colors.

I know what its like to be in a relationship with someone who doesn’t value you or what you bring into the relationship to take it to another level. Yes, I had my faults too, but in the end, I saw that he just wasn’t for me….. and that’s okay.

Coming to the conclusion that someone is not for you, is one of the hardest things for women. They know deep down in their hearts that the man they love is not for them, but they stay and HOPE things change. At some point, you gotta say this is it. That time comes when you start to feel that your self-esteem is low and not building, you cry easily, your feelings are  hurt, you find yourself wondering what he’s doing (( especially if he has a history of cheating)), you’re checking his FB page for new women or subliminal stats, going through his phone and texts. That’s not how you live life. That’s not how a good healthy  relationship should go.

If you haven’t seen your man in a few days, and  he see’s you, he starts going thorough your phone, watch out for him! Because if he feels you can and will do something sneaky within those days you both haven’t seen each other, then he needs to be VERIFIED as well.. Um cuse me! Again…… this is NOT how healthy relationships grow. Not good.

Look at Donald Trump. You see the way his wife pulled away from him as they exit the plane? Clearly a sign of manipulation going on in the relationship. She is not happy in that marriage. She probably feels that now he’s the President, he exercises even MORE Power, and feels there is no way out without retaliation from the public and especially from HIM.  Relationships and friendships should be happy. Yes, there will be problems, issues, misunderstandings and things of that nature. But to help in the loss of self-esteem, is not something ANYONE should experience.

In closing ask yourself.. DO I LOVE ME? What is it about me that allows him to treat me this way? What am I doing over and over again to allow this to continuously happen? If I leave him, what do I THINK he will do to me? Am I scared? Ask God to show you a pattern of his behavior. Tell yourself, that YES its going to be hard at first, then ask yourself can you eventually get over him? Tell and REMIND yourself that YOU WILL have to give up something (((( money, car, nice home, comfort, sex with HIM, security ))) for your PEACE. If you want to talk to me about your situation please feel free to email me DIRECTLY  longnosenikon@gmail.com  

I am LACREASE, and I dont have to do anything else!

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