I love a BEAUTIFUL KITCHEN. When I see a kitchen on a photo or a walk through, instantly I can connect to it and see myself cooking. A woman loves a pretty, clean, bright kitchen with lots of space to move around in. A beautiful kitchen can be a deal breaker in a home that has everything else. I feel at home. My Style My Taste…..
My Style – My Taste….. Bathroom/Bedroom *2*… YESSS ((((Blog))))
My Style – My Taste… Bathroom…*1* YESSS ((((Blog))))
Maya Angelou 1928-2014 (((((Blog)))))
Maya Angelou dead at 86
Memorable quotes from Maya Angelou
By HILLEL ITALIE
NEW YORK (AP) — Maya Angelou, a modern Renaissance woman who survived the harshest of childhoods to become a force on stage, screen, the printed page and the inaugural dais, has died. She was 86.
Her death was confirmed in a statement issued by Wake Forest University in Winston-Salem, North Carolina, where she had served as a professor of American Studies since 1982.
Tall and regal, with a deep, majestic voice, Angelou defied all probability and category, becoming one of the first black women to enjoy mainstream success as an author and thriving in virtually every artistic medium. The young single mother who performed at strip clubs to earn a living later wrote and recited the most popular presidential inaugural poem in history. The childhood victim of rape wrote a million-selling memoir, befriended Malcolm X, Nelson Mandela and the Rev. Martin Luther King, Jr., and performed on stages around the world.
An actress, singer and dancer in the 1950s and 1960s, she broke through as an author in 1970 with “I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings,” which became standard (and occasionally censored) reading, and was the first of a multipart autobiography that continued through the decades. In 1993, she was a sensation reading her cautiously hopeful “On the Pulse of the Morning” at former President Bill Clinton’s first inauguration. Her confident performance openly delighted Clinton and made the poem a best-seller, if not a critical favorite. For former President George W. Bush, she read another poem, “Amazing Peace,” at the 2005 Christmas tree lighting ceremony at the White House.
She remained close enough to the Clintons that in 2008 she supported Hillary Rodham Clinton’s candidacy over the ultimately successful run of the country’s first black president, Barack Obama. But a few days before Obama’s inauguration, she was clearly overjoyed. She told the Arkansas Democrat-Gazette she would be watching it on television “somewhere between crying and praying and being grateful and laughing when I see faces I know.”
She was a mentor to Oprah Winfrey, whom she befriended when Winfrey was still a local television reporter, and often appeared on her friend’s talk show program. She mastered several languages and published not just poetry, but advice books, cookbooks and children’s stories. She wrote music, plays and screenplays, received an Emmy nomination for her acting in “Roots,” and never lost her passion for dance, the art she considered closest to poetry.
“The line of the dancer: If you watch (Mikhail) Baryshnikov and you see that line, that’s what the poet tries for. The poet tries for the line, the balance,” she told The Associated Press in 2008, shortly before her birthday.
Her very name as an adult was a reinvention. Angelou was born Marguerite Johnson in St. Louis and raised in Stamps, Ark., and San Francisco, moving back and forth between her parents and her grandmother. She was smart and fresh to the point of danger, packed off by her family to California after sassing a white store clerk in Arkansas. Other times, she didn’t speak at all: At age 7, she was raped by her mother’s boyfriend and didn’t speak for years. She learned by reading, and listening.
“I loved the poetry that was sung in the black church: `Go down Moses, way down in Egypt’s land,”‘ she told the AP. “It just seemed to me the most wonderful way of talking. And `Deep River.’ Ooh! Even now it can catch me. And then I started reading, really reading, at about 7 1/2, because a woman in my town took me to the library, a black school library. … And I read every book, even if I didn’t understand it.”
At age 9, she was writing poetry. By 17, she was a single mother. In her early 20s, she danced at a strip joint, ran a brothel, was married (to Enistasious Tosh Angelos, her first of three husbands) and then divorced. By her mid-20s, she was performing at the Purple Onion in San Francisco, where she shared billing with another future star, Phyllis Diller. She spent a few days with Billie Holiday, who was kind enough to sing a lullaby to Angelou’s son Guy, surly enough to heckle her off the stage and astute enough to tell her: “You’re going to be famous. But it won’t be for singing.”
After renaming herself Maya Angelou for the stage (“Maya” was a childhood nickname), she toured in “Porgy and Bess” and Jean Genet’s “The Blacks” and danced with Alvin Ailey. She worked as a coordinator for the Southern Christian Leadership Council, and lived for years in Egypt and Ghana, where she met Malcolm X and remained close to him until his assassination, in 1965. Three years later, she was helping King organize the Poor People’s March in Memphis, Tenn., where the civil rights leader was slain on Angelou’s 40th birthday.
“Every year, on that day, Coretta and I would send each other flowers,” Angelou said of King’s widow, Coretta Scott King, who died in 2006.
Angelou was little known outside the theatrical community until “I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings,” which might not have happened if James Baldwin hadn’t persuaded Angelou, still grieving over King’s death, to attend a party at Jules Feiffer’s house. Feiffer was so taken by Angelou that he mentioned her to Random House editor Bob Loomis, who persuaded her to write a book.
Angelou’s musical style was clear in a passage about boxing great Joe Louis’s defeat against German fighter Max Schmeling:
“My race groaned. It was our people falling. It was another lynching, yet another Black man hanging on a tree. One more woman ambushed and raped. A Black boy whipped and maimed. It was hounds on the trail of a man running through slimy swamps. … If Joe lost we were back in slavery and beyond help.”
Angelou’s memoir was occasionally attacked, for seemingly opposite reasons. In a 1999 essay in Harper’s, author Francine Prose criticized “Caged Bird” as “manipulative” melodrama. Meanwhile, Angelou’s passages about her rape and teen pregnancy have made it a perennial on the American Library Association’s list of works that draw complaints from parents and educators.
“`I thought that it was a mild book. There’s no profanity,” Angelou told the AP. “It speaks about surviving, and it really doesn’t make ogres of many people. I was shocked to find there were people who really wanted it banned, and I still believe people who are against the book have never read the book.”
Angelou appeared on several TV programs, notably the groundbreaking 1977 miniseries “Roots.” She was nominated for a Tony Award in 1973 for her appearance in the play “Look Away.” She directed the film “Down in the Delta,” about a drug-wrecked woman who returns to the home of her ancestors in the Mississippi Delta. She won three Grammys for her spoken-word albums and in 2013 received an honorary National Book Award for her contributions to the literary community.
Back in the 1960s, Malcolm X had written to Angelou and praised her for her ability to communicate so directly, with her “feet firmly rooted on the ground. In 2002, Angelou used this gift in an unexpected way when she launched a line of greeting cards with industry giant Hallmark. Angelou admitted she was cool to the idea at first. Then she went to Loomis, her editor at Random House.
“I said, `I’m thinking about doing something with Hallmark,”‘ she recalled. “And he said, `You’re the people’s poet. You don’t want to trivialize yourself.’ So I said `OK’ and I hung up. And then I thought about it. And I thought, if I’m the people’s poet, then I ought to be in the people’s hands — and I hope in their hearts. So I thought, `Hmm, I’ll do it.”‘
In North Carolina, she lived in an 18-room house and taught American Studies at Wake Forest University. She was also a member of the Board of Trustees for Bennett College, a private school for black women in Greensboro, N.C. Angelou hosted a weekly satellite radio show for XM’s “Oprah & Friends” channel. She also owned and renovated a townhouse in Harlem, the inside decorated in spectacular primary colors.
Active on the lecture circuit, she gave commencement speeches and addressed academic and corporate events across the country. Angelou received dozens of honorary degrees, and several elementary schools were named for her. As she approached her 80th birthday, she decided to study at the Missouri-based Unity Church, which advocates healing through prayer.
“I was in Miami and my son (Guy Johnson, her only child) was having his 10th operation on his spine. I felt really done in by the work I was doing, people who had expected things of me,” said Angelou, who then recalled a Unity church service she attended in Miami.
“The preacher came out — a young black man, mostly a white church — and he came out and said, `I have only one question to ask, and that is, “Why have you decided to limit God?”‘ And I thought, `That’s exactly what I’ve been doing.’ So then he asked me to speak, and I got up and said, `Thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you.’ And I said it about 50 times, until the audience began saying it with me, `Thank you, THANK YOU!”‘
Read more: http://www.myfoxdetroit.com/story/25629218/maya-angelou-dead-at-86#ixzz331phkGux
Gurl Talk * wedding stress* ((((((Blog))))))
Hey!!!!
I want to Gurl Talk about Weddings. I know several good friends of mine who will be married this year and next Summer. As they plan their wedding many issues are with the Bridal Party….. but also there are many problems with GUEST.
As a person who LOVES to plan. I recommend that the Bride have someone other than herself to be in charge of the RECEPTION GUEST LIST. A good friend in boxed me tonight was in tears about this SAME topic. I wanted to cry with her, because I hear this a lot and let me say this. As the Bride, when you make up in your mind how you want YOUR WEDDING…. and what you can afford, how you want it done, how many guest you plan to invite, who are allowed and who are not….STICK WITH IT. Its your day! WHO EVA * not ever* WHO EVA don’t like it… OH WELL!
If you’re having a “no children” wedding, stick to it. No exceptions. That’s the part that bothers me, people always want to put pressure on the Bride about this policy. If the couple agree to not have children, then that’s what it means. FLAT OUT!!! THAT’S FINAL!!! When those same people who have a problem with it… go out dancing, they can’t take their kids with them. If they can’t get a baby sitter, then guess what they have to do……”sit it out”. I don’t care who you are. You wont disrespect our wedding cause you want things convenient for you. And if they get mad… get mad ON TOP OF THEIR “MAD”… and keep it moving. I love to plan, and that’s one thing I don’t play….. people wanting exceptions to benefit them.
If a couple allow kids to their wedding, with high plate prices that’s over $30.00 per head, people will bring their kids, and the kids they’re baby sitting that weekend, that summer, that month… um ummmm NOT ON MY MONEY. *blank stare*. People don’t know how to act right. So, I say as a planner myself, its best to have a person who you trust and know will communicate everything you want, to do your RECEPTION WEDDING GUEST.
My advice for a Bride who plans to gather address and names for their wedding reception. Is to let people know up front, NO CHILDREN- NO EXCEPTIONS. Please respect and honor this request and there will be ABSOLUTELY NO conversations pertaining to the matter. That’s to the point and very well communicated. Who ever doesn’t get that… just don’t care. Keep it moving, there is too much work to do. I live by that!
Be Blessed!
My Sisters/Gurl Talk/May 21 Day Challenge Update (((((BLOG)))))
Hey,
Its Memorial Day Weekend!!! Days like this, I miss having my own HOUSE. My favorite time is when everybody go home and we’re cleaning up the kitchen. I love that part for some reason. Then after wards I get to go sit down and “do me” until bedtime. Now today, my Sisters calling me on the 3-way asking “What we gon do for the Holiday?” I’m saying to myself laughing…. yall got the houses… yall figure it out!!! LOL LOL When I had the house all the gatherings was there, now we can use yall nice huge houses…. and I’m not cleaning up afterwards either. LOL LOL YESSSS!!! Feels good. I’mma sit there on the couch, talk my junk, and cross my legs for a change…. give Big Sister a BREAK LOL LOL LOL Sorry yall but this is really funny to me. So now we have a meeting at my sister house tomorrow at 4. Chile please… Imma go and listen to them work it out. I LOVE THEM SO MUCH THOUGH!!! WE HAVE A GOOD TIME WHEN WE GET TOGETHER.. LIFE IS WHAT YOU MAKE IT.. AND I CHOSE TO HAVE FUN.
Ladies we’ve got to quit frowning all the time. A man will NOT approach you with your face balled up and mouth twisted. A man who is being straight up with you, can’t stand a smart mouth either. Yes, I know we’ve been though a lot with men. I know we can take a lot. I know they can make us so mad….. but still we can’t walk around with our faces smashed up because of it. Some women loved to look like something is wrong just for the attention and to be asked “what’s wrong?”. When a man comes home from being gone all day, he want to see a smiling face, with kisses and a great day update.
I don’t even look at women who frown. Understand and know that Spirit can jump on you and have you frowning. Stop complaining all the time too. Ask yourself what percentage of happy stories come out of your mouth daily? You have the choice to share good stories or “Debbie Downers.”
My 18 year old Niece Ganell
is so funny. Whenever I go over to her house, she always sit by me. I never paid it any attention until my daughter was like “ma next time we go over to Auntie Peedie house watch Nell make sure she sits by you. She said no matter where we are, she always make sure her seat is by you, and she cant stop touching you. So, I was like okay… let me start paying attention. LOL LOL When I did, I couldn’t do nothing but laugh. I said Nell, why when I come over you gotta sit next to me? She laughed and laughed * thought I didn’t know*, she said Auntie you give out GOOD ENERGY!!!! HAHAHAH WOW What a compliment from a teenager. She loves my energy. I love that gurl. Here is a photo of her.
My May 21 day Challenge……Water, Water, Water is the word for today!!!! YESSSSSSS thatgurlhecallCree aint playing with yall. I’m bout to lose this weight.This banging curvy body “covered in food” deserves BETTER. Its a wrap.. Yes its going to take a while… but LETS GET IT CREE!!!!
* photo taken tonight in my lounge gown*
ALRIGHT BE BLESSED
Where works of the flesh exists, there is NO joy
Talk to ME :) Talk to ME :) Talk to ME :) (((((Blog)))))
Ooh, baby, baby, baby
You stand all alone on your own
Please come inside from the storm
Stand where it’s warm, I can see you’re in need
Baby, please talk to me now
Swear nothin’ is wrong, you’re so strong
Baby don’t hold this inside
Relax your pride let it go, set it free
My baby, talk to me now
What’s wrong, wrong with you?
Why don’t you tell me what you’re going through, darlin’?
What’s wrong, wrong with you?
Why don’t you tell me what you’re going through?
I can help you if you let me baby, yes I can
I understand, here’s my hand
Why stand alone in the dark open up your heart
Let this go, set it free
Now my baby, talk to me now
What’s wrong, wrong with you?
Why don’t you tell me what you’re going through, darlin’?
What’s wrong, wrong with you?
Why don’t you tell me what you’re going through?
I can help you if you let me baby, yes I can
I understand
That you’re only one man
So much you can’t take, baby
Yes, I understand that you’ve only got two hands
Stare into space
I see shadows of pain across your face
You avoid my advice
You avoid my embrace baby
What’s wrong, wrong with you?
Why don’t you tell me what you’re going through?
What’s wrong, wrong with you?
Why don’t you tell me what you’re going through?
I won’t tell a single soul
My my my baby, yeah, yeah
You got to hang on to, we got to talk about it
No doubt about it let it go, set it free, baby
I’d like to listen, I’d like to listen baby
Tell me, tell me everythin’, baby baby
I will understand, I will understand, I promise baby
Tell me now, tell me, tell me, oh
I believe, hey, hey, baby
Talk about it baby, talk to me
Don’t you hold nothin’ in baby
Don’t you hold it babe
Ain’t no reason
Ain’t no reason in the world for you to do this baby
Not like this ain’t no reason
Ain’t no reason, reason in the world
21 Day Challenge Update- R&B Divas ((((((Blog)))))))
Hey,
Angie Stone got on my nerves tonight on R&B Divas. She was out of order to call that gurl on stage like that when she KNOWSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS how she feels about singing right now. That is so disrespectful to her art as an entertainer, and as a person and friend.
When I was having my Teen group meetings, I knew the personality of all my gurls. I knew who would answer my questions, who would shy away, who would talk too long, who would want to help me every week, and so on. True enough as a leader it is my job to help get them out of their comfort zones, but I also believe that its a way of doing it. Putting people on the spot making them beg and plead for you to PLEASE take the spot light off them, is so wrong. I would have turned all of Angie’s tables over at that party, trying to put me on the spot like that * jp*. She pissed me off. I don’t like being put on the spot, and it bothered me to see LaTavia on it. That gurl begged her, swearing to God and everything for mercy…. ooooo that bothers me.
Some folks in my life feel that since I have such a huge personality that I feel like doing stuff all the time. I like to sit back in the corner with my hat over my face too. When the waitress come to the table.. I don’t like to be the one doing the talking to set the atmosphere. I like to bury my head in the menu like everybody else when they’re asked what will they be ordering. I like to chill too.. and people who know me.. KNOW THAT.. SO….. for Angie to do that while that gurl clearly had on her ” not right now, don’t go there look” on her face…. was wrong… Um um that wasn’t right.
Angie only did it because the gurl showed up late for her Birthday Party. She didn’t look like she wanted to be there any oleway. Who could blame her, when she’s feeling that she’s NOT READY TO PERFORM YET.. What is so hard about that to understand? If that was me.. I would have gave Angie Stone the look of JUDGEMENT DAY HOUR… I don’t play that. At some point you FALL BACK. Enough of that, because I’m getting mad.
Day 14 of the 21 May Challenge and I lost a total of 7 pounds!!!!! That time flew by. I love the change in my eating. I love not having the Pepsi’s… I love how I see a few of my issues with food. I sat down today and paid attention as I ate breakfast and dinner. I GET FULL FAST… I was full after a few minutes into my meal. BUT GET THIS…… I HAVE IGNORED that full feeling.. because I HAVE TOLD MYSELF FOR SO MANY YEARS….. ” YOU JUST STARTED EATING”… how could you be full? I have ignored that warning for so long that I have stretched my stomach overeating. WOW ISN’T THAT A HUGE GREAT BREAKTHROUGH? SO guess what I did when I got full? I got up and put the rest down the garbage disposal. I did hesitate, because guess why? I’m SO USE TO EATING EVERYTHING ON MY PLATE. WOW WOW WOW Something we all learned as a kid.
Okay! So, now that I know that……can’t wait until tomorrow, where I will monitor it again. I have to learn to stop eating whenever I feel full, no matter how much I’ve eaten. I can always grab an apple, or a fruit in between meals IF I FEEL HUNGRY again. I have to learn that. I HAVE TOO. I also learned that what ever I put on my plate the first time, I WILL EAT IT UP… That’s gonna stop. I have to learn portion control. I HAVE TOO. So now I have to be mindful of my portions. I hardly ever go back for seconds, because I’m so busy filling up the first time. This explains why I get full fast when I eat spaghetti.. and everything else I eat.. …..hmmmm. Wow!
I use to be able to eat a Big Mac Meal with fries and pop. For the last 5 years… all I can eat is a hamburger. N O W I K N O W WHY!!!!! I ignored it. The only thing that I’ve been drinking is WATER WATER WATER. Its not even like I’m drinking my water after each bite. I wait until I’m completely done eating before I take a drink. Which means I really get full fast.
Alright now, off to bed!
Be Blessed
Where works of the flesh exists, there is NO joy
Parenting Tips, New Apartment, (((((((Blog)))))))
Parenting Tips
When driving and coming to a ice cream truck
it is very important to treat it as if its a school bus. You may not see any children coming, but its important to slow down, then come to a stop, because you never know with kids. They’re just being kids when they dart out into on coming traffic. They are doing exactly what they’re suppose to do at their age. Especially if they are excited. We all know that feeling of seeing the ice cream truck and to be able to buy something. Its up to us to know better. You want to always be in position that if you’re riding up a residential street, and a kid dart in front of you, that they can get back up and be okay. After today’s accident here in Detroit where a young gurl was hit by a driver and KEPT GOING. It reminds me to be mindful and for you who read this as well. We are the adults, we have to be the eyes and ears for our children. Even if they’re in the wrong to dart out in front of our cars, we have the responsibility to STOP until that truck is done serving. Lets be careful.
Watch the video below
http://www.myfoxdetroit.com/story/25557467/child-critically-injured-by-hit-and-run-driver
I’m ready to move from this apartment, but I want to stay in this area. Its too small, I haven’t even unpacked all my things. Ever since being here, I haven’t really done anything. My lease is up in December, I’m out of here. I want towels, tissue, tooth paste, bleach, Ajax, brillo pads, dish towels, paper towels, bathroom smell goods, different kinds of soaps, bath oils, bath liquid, dish washing liquid, living and dinning room smell goods and things like that to TAKE OVER MY BATH CLOSETS… Here I can only buy so much. There’s no space! I don’t like that. I like to have 3 and 4 of each item. I hate looking in the cabinet and being out of something. I have so many things still in totes. Sigh …….anyway. I’m off to bed to day dream about my new apartment with everything in it.
Be Blessed
Where works of the flesh exists, there is NO joy
Conversations with friends, A Wedding Dance *tissue needed* (((((Blog)))))
Its a new week already wow!
Today I had some great conversations with 2 lovely ladies. I enjoy ministering to them. You know when life lessons come to teach you something, you have to really get into a quiet place and hear from God. God always gives us exits. Always. They both told me today that they loved me and that I am always there for them when they need to talk. They went on to say, how they appreciate me as a friend. That really felt good, because for the last few years I have really went through a life change. And it shut me down. I mean I have gotten over not living in Atlanta, its the things that happened after that, which rocked me to the core. I had SO MANY inbox messages of people wanting me to listen to them, and flat out, I said look…. I’m going through myself.. I can’t even think to help you right now.
Week after week of listening to TD Jakes LIVE on Sundays * I know I should have been in my own Church* but I know for a fact that he has helped me to know my calling. It was meant for me to be under his teachings. I am so excited. There are no hesitations on my part anymore. No more wondering, no more doubt. One thing I know I cannot do again. Is to shut down on people who need me. I can make it brief, but to never shut down like I’ve done this time. No matter what I’m going through. God has equipped me to keep it moving…. and this I know. I enjoy doing this, its what I was called to do. I finally got it. I plan to put together a Women’s Gathering and its going to be out of sight!! Life changing for many. I haven’t been this excited in years.
Later on, I received an email from someone to join her on line Ministry. I am very excited to do so, she is a very lovely lady.. I need this group very much. We’ve been FB friends for a while and not only that, but she’s written a book and when I purchased it, I WAS SO SURPRISED TO SEE MY NAME IN IT!!!! SHE DIDNT TELL ME.. HOW AWESOME IS THAT? I had asked her a question which made her really think, not knowing how it helped her. You’ll have to read it yourself…(((copy and paste)))) https://www.smashwords.com/profile/view/ayanaelon
Please watch this very touching Wedding Dance. Get some tissue…. you will cry.
I’m closing for now….. Be Blessed
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