Tag: conversations with kids

I’m always teaching my kids in school to just walk into a room and OWN it.

I wish that I could “crack” the code on why some kids and ADULTS feel as if they have to walk into a room and make grand entrances with their loud talking, music in their ears *students* loud Hellos, talking across the room, that type of attention has always got on my nerves. I just believe that a woman should walk into a room and all eyes on her without even having to say ONE word. I believe that when she walks in…. The Spirit of God will walk in first and present her. Her smile will light up a room, her fragrance of Peace will greet everyone. I love when I first enter the room at work, where we meet and talk, and at the same time ……they say ” HEY SUNSHINE”. NONE of them call me LaCrease. They gave me that name when I first started, they say I bring sunlight into the job. What an honor. Lord is my witness if they knew me back in the day… they would say…. “Here SHE come with her face all turned up”. Thank God for growth.

There’s this student name Daja… she happens to be a Virgo. Last year when she was in the 9th grade ….she HATED ME… she even told me. LOL IKR? LOL I didn’t care I wanted her to get what I was telling her about herself. Its funny because it seemed as if she wasn’t listening, but this year she’s a totally different person. She calls me Auntie now. The point I’m making is…..at first when she walked into a room, she use to walk in hollering, talking loud, cursing, letting everybody know she HAS ARRIVED. Now… she comes in and she laughs with her friends and its normal, she speaks to the adults, she smiles and its always beautiful and peaceful. Her face glows, and she goes to her table and sits down. She gets it that she doesn’t have to holler and scream across the room subliminally letting it be known that she has entered the room. I told her BOSSES walks into a room and don’t have to say a word. I gave her this example….. I said when Dr. King (Principal) walks in… does he have to say ” Quiet everybody, I’m standing here”! No he doesn’t. When he walks into ANY room, the room gets instantly quiet, and then he speaks. She got that and I’m so happy for her future.

I love getting them one on one…. that way I make our conversations PRIVATE and PERSONAL. When I try to tell them something when they’re with their friends, they know I’m talking, but they don’t seem to want to comprehend what I’m saying because its “embarrassing”…. I guess they feel that I’m singling them out. I get that….. I was a kid before. This is why one on one is good for them.

Yesterday I was sitting alone, and one of my students walked past and I had always wanted to talk to her one on one. I called her over and asked her to sit down. Its funny because you can always see the “anxiousness* in their eyes as far as what I could possibly want. LOL I said Tiffany… you know how some gurls are “cute” and “pretty”? I said well you fall in the “BEAUTIFUL” category. I said I see how all the boys like you, and talk dirty to you. I said but let me say this to you. I said you may not get it right now, you may not understand it…. I said but just keep it in your “MENTAL FILE” in your head. She said okay and she listened closely. I said boys and men are going to chase you for the rest of your life because you are beautiful… I said whatever you do…. don’t give in to them. Don’t be the talk of the town, don’t let them have their way with you. Don’t let them misuse your body. I said save yourself for marriage. I said anytime a boy/man want your body so badly that they chase you the way you do…… AT SOME POINT BOO… YOU HAVE TO ASK YOURSELF…. WHAT DO I HAVE SO GREAT? I said to her KNOW YOUR WORTH. Its your body and your LIFE.

Be Blessed

Where works of the flesh exists, there is NO joy