Love Yourself/BLOG

I’ve been spending a lot of time getting to know myself. Sometimes you need to step away from family and friends to learn YOU.

I LOOOOOOOOVE ME! I’ve never had a self esteem issue. Not sure if the reason being so that I came from a home with both parents who taught us nothing but LOVE. People always tell me that I always see the good in people (( and some have a problem with that)) because I’m not pointing out the negative. Its bad enough we tell ourselves that we’re not good enough, what good is there in pointing out the bad.

I HATE when people compare themselves to others. Stop doing that. God made us all different. You may like the same things the next person , but you are NOT that person. Enjoy your own way of life and doing things. Look in the mirror and admire yourself. Pay attention to your good qualities. Admire that, think on it, love on it, talk about it within yourself.

Let me say this. What you LOVE about yourself others will talk about. Be ware of those people.  They can work to tear down your self-esteem. God is the creator, he knows what he was doing when you made you. Get in touch with yourself, and love you to death.

I have my Mother’s nose, even if my book sells and I make lots and lots of money, I will never get my nose done so that others can say YOUR NOSE IS PRETTY, I SEE YOU GOT IT DONE. No never, because if my mother even passes away before me, I can look at my nose and say I GOT IT FROM MY MOTHER! I don’t do things to impress NOBODY! I LOVE MEEEEEEEEEEEEE! 🙂

Love yourself.. flaws and all!

I AM La’Crease and I don’t have to do anything else

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SARCASM but TRUTH/BLOG

I was in KROGER not long ago, when a customer got mad because the lines were long. He walked into the self checkout area and said to the cashier attending the machines… ” I hate these machines because they take jobs away from people.” He went on complaining that the machines are never working properly and how much he hated using them. MY gotta tell the truth self gon say…. Well, when people go through cashier ran registers, PEOPLE MISTREAT THEM, CURSE THEM OUT, AND TALK TO THEM ALL KINDS OF SIDEWAYS, I said, I think its a good IDEA machines are taking over and the cashiers don’t have to deal with unruly PEOPLE… He looked at me like… B***** where the F**K you come from? HAHAHAHAHHA….. I SAID to myself “Now shut yo ass up……… AND I walked out! 

It amazes me how people treat cashiers. They want a person to ring them up, but at the same time, they MISTREAT them so badly. But see with a machine, they can’t do that. They can’t talk back, and if so it wont be towards a real person. I’m glad people are PISSED!. Maybe ringing up their OWN items will make them appreciate cashiers. And the people who have THE DAYUM MOST to say, are the ones always giving them the most HELL! The customers who wants to be IN AND OUT with no HASSLE and no DRAMA are the ones who go to SELF CHECK OUT.

I wish people will take a moment to realize that cashiers are people too. I’m taking my own advice on this one, because I use to constantly get into it with the drive-thru person at a fast food restaurant. Seems like since I don’t eat cheese, its always on my burgers. I can stress this to them 4 times while ordering, and Ill still get it. I’d get so angry and put together a sentence that could choke a rattlesnake. BUT… I PUT AWAY CHILDISH THINGS………smile

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BE BLESSED!

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Watch yo mouth… SLICK TALKER!!/BLOG

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I was watching a clip of Jada Pinkett-Smith when she was about to be interviewed concerning the Aunt Viv video. It kinda blew me away when the reporter couldn’t get her question out fast enough, and Jada snapped her fingers and told her to “get it out”. It reminded me so CLEARLY of situations that’s happening daily to so many people.  Please click the link below to see just what I’m talking about.

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Ever since I started working at 14… I always pride myself on treating people like I wanted to be treated. That always stays on my mind, but let me be clear there have been many times, where I’ve fell short of that. I never knew what it is about me (( well I know now)) that always made members of management take a liking to me. Not only that, but my co-workers as well. I’m not saying that they favored me, but I am saying that I respect others, they respect me, and I don’t haha hehe in their faces. I talk to people with a tone of voice where they get it, and not be offended. I don’t talk side ways, and I don’t scream. I use DIRECT eye contact, and #1 I will not complain to a co-worker about something that’s management related! I go to them. I say all of this to say…..catch and check “side ways talking” on the spot. Because once it builds up, you will allow people to run all over you. Now, I know the difference in playing and acting silly, being sarcastic and having fun because you know the person. But just off rip.. HELL TO THE NAW!

 

I know a lot of people. I know how to communicate. I know how to express myself. I know how to get my point across. Yes, I may come on strong, but I enjoy working on that. I have came a long way. People, mainly coworkers have always felt that I was the favorite of management…. not true. I love myself, and I respect myself. I can see things from a level of a person with Power, and a person who has no Power. Thank you Jesus I can. I hate unfairness. I can’t stand favoritism.

 

MY POINT! To see Jada snap her fingers at the REPORTER… when she would NEVER EVER EVA EVA EVA EVA do that to Oprah, Cicely Tyson, or Denzel Washington, pisses me off to NO END!  People mistreat others according to how they SEE THEM. That’s just DISRESPECTFUL AND UNACCEPTABLE!!!

 

I have seen Celebrities on Twitter speak or hold a conversation to another celebrity… and wont that person BREAK THEIR DAYUM FINGER NAILS RESPONDING BACK,((( and will apologize if they saw it days later)))) just to not seem like they are ignoring the person. Its fu**ing sad. I listen to Steve Harvey in the morning. And when he’s talking to a Celebrity on the phone, they’ll ask how he’s doing, and its laughs and conversations. But when a non celebrity call in, he rushes to say that he’s doing fine, and if the story don’t make sense he will TALK ALL KINDS OF SIDE WAYS …. and I just be like ARE YOU SERIOUS? Could NEVERRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR BE ME!!!! I have to turn the station because I can’t stand to listen to the down talk. The interruptions, the side ways talking, the making the caller feel STUPID AND WORTHLESS. Pay attention. Thing is…. he probably has no idea he does this.  Its a AUTO-PILOT of who to talk to side ways… and WHO NOT TOO.  Publicly, celebrities don’t talk side ways to each other.

 

BEFORE CLOSING Speak up for yourself. People like me because I communicate, I don’t play games, I do my work, and I don’t stick around for “conversations that has nothing to do with me”. Know your worth. Don’t let people talk to you any kind of way. Snapping fingers and making you feel like, ((((in Jada’s case)))) if you don’t hurry up and ask the question.. THEN YOU WONT HAVE THE CHANCE TO GET YOUR ANSWER. UM CUSE ME…GURL watch out! (( move to the side))

I AM La’Crease… (((I don’t have to do anything else!)))

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My Thoughts On The #Oscars/BLOG

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For the last few years I have come to enjoy the Oscars. I don’t watch it just to see people of color, but I watch it to see great movies win awards. When I was a young gurl, my  parents would take us to the movies every weekend! Story telling in movies go hand in hand with the love I have for reading, and writing.

 

When Jada Pinkett- Smith asked for people of color to boycott the Oscars, I thought to myself is that because her husband wasn’t nominated for his role in Concussion? I found that funny because, had he been nominated or even won, she would have never went publicly with her video. Ever since I saw him in Ali on Christmas Day, I felt that the only movie of his I would ever see again would be Bad Boys, Independence Day, or movies that has to do with the survival of others. I’m just not feeling his work anymore.

 

But here is MY thing. Will and Jada sit among these people, have dinner, and let it be known… who their best friends are. Where is your influence? My ONLY job concerning this is to go in my purse and pull out money to see the work. This is how their pockets are lined… from the money that I and other like minded people give. Now, do I mind standing with others to make changes in life where it is due? NOPE… But I’m not going to do anything extra when Will and Jada laugh, haha and hehe, with these same people they can’t seem to influence. They’re only mad because their friends, people they sit around are winning awards for their work, and they now feel some kinda way, because they arent looked at in the same light. Instead of them making movies and enjoying their own work, they want pats on the back for it. Noooo, you won’t always get that. Be happy and proud of YOUR OWN work, stop waiting for these OSCAR FOLKS to pass out your AMEN.

 

Stop running and sitting with these people who look at you side ways. They walk right up pass your seat, and pick up their Oscars. That’s not my problem… that’s yours. Stop running up behind them thinking you and your husband is on the same level.. because as you see, you’re not. Now let me say this. Are your Hollywood friends the one in charge of the voting. NO… I KNOW THAT. But stop showing them that you are upset because you’re not getting your fair share, and they are. Be mad at how the voting goes. Use your influence! Don’t just sit among the rich and famous, but make what you feel is wrong…. right! I’ve done my part, and that’s go see the movies opening weekend. I’m done, my legs are crossed and comfy! You do the FOOT WORK!

I AM La’Crease and I don’t have to do anything else!

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Change over the years/BLOG

Hey Fam!

Up late cooking my Collard greens for Christmas Dinner tomorrow with my family . Reflecting on this past year, where it has been great for me. Learning about myself and realizing how much influence I have and how 2016 will be GREATER! Watching my daughter work her BUTT off for those less fortunate, feeding the homeless, working long hours, getting a promotion, encouraging and mentoring kids and teens, assisting others with food, resources and lots of love and patience.

I remember a time in my life when I was wild and use to drink and club, talk on the phone all day and night. God dealt with me. I always took pride on paying my bills  AND PAYING OFF the whole balance when it was due. I ran into some hard times when I was in my early 30’s. My lights were cut off, my car broke down, I lost my job, and my gas was turned off… ALL AT ONE TIME.  I needed to hear  from God. After a few weeks  ((which seemed forever)) he finally spoke to me and said. “The person Nesha is to be.. you are getting in the way of it”. ” You are partying, drinking, going out too much, gossiping, having all this sex, talking on the phone, being REVENGEFUL, you need to stop right now!” I was shocked that he was saying all of these things to me, because never in a million years did I think what was happening to me was RELATED TO Nesha/MY BABY.

When I surrendered to God in that moment, it was like the sky opened up and things started happening good for me. I had to change everything about the way I was living. EVERYTHING! I knew it, and for some reason I welcomed it. I stopped talking on the phone.. (( HATE THE PHONE TILL THIS DAY)) I stopped going out, having company over, having sex.. I went back to Church and started reading my Bible daily. I had to cut off people in my life that wasn’t ready to give up what I was doing new. Never knew all of this was going to be connected to my daughters future.

I say all of that to say….. People change over the years. I’m not the same person I was last year, in 2012, in 2011. I have different thoughts and different goals in life. My experiences has changed the way I think. I use to be the Queen of arguing and debates. Today almost 2016.. I don’t go back and forth with NO ONE. I say what I have to say, you say what you have to say…..and after that… its a WRAP! God said to me one day.. LA’CREASE…. in YOUR ADULT LIFE …if you don’t fall out with the SISTERS I GAVE YOU… because you learn the many experiences and personalities of them growing up while living in the same household.. DON’T YOU EVER EVER EVER EVER get into with other women . THEY ARE YOUR MINISTRY!!!!

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When I heard that, it made so much sense to me. If I don’t get into it with THEM… why  fall out with others.. NEVA AGAIN! EVA AGAIN! I’m so happy that I’m a NEW CREATURE… I think differently than I did 3 years ago, learn differently PRACTICING SELF CONTROL IS EVERYTHING :)!!!!!!. Thank you Lord for change… in 2016 I’m going to make you PROUD OF ME 🙂

I am La’Crease and I don’t have to do ANYTHING ELSE!

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Patti Labelle is so FUNNY! LOL/BLOG

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Hahahaha…Ive seen this video before and its SOOOOOO FUNNY TO ME.. Because I finally get a chance to see HOW I LOOK when someone says something stupid to me.  LOL I’ll make faces just like that, it keeps me from saying something that will offend…. YOU! Down to the word “boo” I would have explained myself using the  very same words. LOL LOL Those facial expressions are priceless. Patti wasn’t going to let the conversation go on without her EXPLAINING her part. SOOOOOOO MEEE!!! LOL

When I DON’T want to offend you, I JUST want you to UNDERSTAND. Patti was showing the audience that its paper not the actual cupcake she’s holding. OOO weee that was funny. I promise this is MEEEEEEEEEEEE ALL DAY.. My family and friends LOVE when I have to do that. I keep it friendly laughing and to the point! I don’t want anyone mad at me.. I just need you to UNDERSTAND. Take a look!

My Raisingurls All Grown Up!/BLOG

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I’m just sitting here thinking “where did the time go?” These gurls are not kids anymore, they are GROWN women!!!!! These gurls were in middle school during the time we had our meets. They came faithfully to our meetings. I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE, LOVE these gurls and they love me too. They had several seasons with Raisingurls and I’m so very proud of them. You can look in their faces and tell they are doing WELL!! AMEN!

Here is a photo of Daijah(( TOP)) and Nell ( MY NIECE.. my baby sisters daughter))in one of our meetings, also a photo of them TODAY! ((( tears of joy)) Both of my gurls GRADUATED FROM HIGH SCHOOL AND BEST FRIENDS SINCE MIDDLE SCHOOL!! They both have JOBS with no children 🙂

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My Beautiful Raisingurl/BLOG

Meet Tasia!
Yess  Tasia was ONE OF MY RAISINGURLS!!! She was one of my babies when she first joined my group of teens at my home.She had just started Junior High and was one of the last group of gurls I had before I moved into my apartment. She’s doing so well and I’m so proud of her. Her last post was this…I will cross that stage June 7th with a 4.0 GPA mark my words!!! 
 

Ummmm cuse meeeeeeeeeee! /BLOG

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When it comes to business I have to really be on my game. Sometimes you can appear friendly, too friendly, not aggressive on the surface but when it comes to business I am a beast and I know it.

In business you have to always  discuss facts and stay on the point. Because once you get off the point the other person can drive your story all over the place. Not gon happen with me. Sometimes I hate to go there because I can be very expressive in the face, because I’m always  a really nice person. I can come off as very aggressive and I don’t mean to be that way. But I find out that I let things build up and when its time to discuss it there’s no changing my mind. And I don’t if that’s a good thing.

I  Live downtown Detroit and there are a lot of new developments going on in the city. Many people are leaving the suburbs and moving to these downtown apartments which is causing the parking space to be an issue here.  In 2012 when I moved here you can park anywhere at any time inside of the gated parking lot and there was no problem. But now since the building is almost occupied which is 22 floors and 18 apartments there is no space to park. When I come home at 3 AM  I have to pray before I even get here to find a space. They tell us to park across the street which is a Hell to the NAW NAW and definitely not the back where I can’t see my car. I had my van stolen from here a few months after I moved in, and I wish I would park anywhere else except in the gate or in front of the building. They have extra security here and that’s perfect.

This morning when I got home I parked in front of the building along with seven other vehicles.  I went down this morning to run an errand ((( and to move the car))) security asked me about it and I told him there is no room in the parking lot to park anymore I will not park across the street  or in the back of the building. I will not have my car stolen like my Town & Country.He was here when it was stolen because he did the investigation on it. So he knew my frustrations, and understood. But not before I went there.

Just then the property manager came in saying that it was OK because of the issue. I really hated I had to go there but I had to let them know  there was no way I was parking in the back or across the street. Thing was when I said that my van was stolen, people looked at me like WHAT???? YOUR VAN WAS STOLEN FROM HERE? OOO weee I bet security or management wont go there with me again. They shut that conversation down in front of folks REAL QUICK!!! LOL

Now I tried to be nice about it, didn’t want to alarm others in the building, but this is the 3rd time I’ve been asked about my parking. My thing is this, you jammed packed this building knowing full well there is not enough parking for all of these people, then I will let it be known, WHERE I WONT BE PARKING AND WHY. I pay rent here and its NOT CHEAP! Don’t ask me to park across the street, where if something happen off the property they’ll say, “Well that’s not our property.” NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!! I made it short and to the point. I don’t do all that 3 minute talking especially when I’m right. Make some parking space around here….. now that’s doing business. All they care about is fulling up the apartments…. AND I AINT MAD AT THEM… BUT DON’T TELL ME TO PARK ACROSS THE STREET. GOT ME MESSED UP! The new people don’t know any better..

La’ Crease does! 🙂

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MY story of FORGIVENESS-RAPE/PART 1/BLOG

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Oct 22, 2014 I received an inbox from my ex boyfriend asking me to call him. When I first saw his message my heart started beating fast because of what happened 30 years ago. His name alone bought back memories of that night in August a month before my 18th birthday.  I was hesitate at first, but a part of me wanted and needed to talk to him. I wanted and needed answers. I ignored his messages until I had a day to think about it.

I decided to respond and leave him my number to call me. My heart was beating so fast hearing his voice over the phone, it sorta paralyzed me, but the desire to know answers to my questions made me feel much better as I got comfortable listening to the humbleness in his voice. I listened to him talk about how he loves his now grown children and more especially his grand kids. We talked about God and how being out of jail has really changed his life. He has 2 businesses and is doing very well for himself. He invited me to his job to see him, because it had been so long since we’ve seen each other. And even though it would be a huge step for me…. I went. I prayed about it, and decided that I would go and see him.

When I first walked in, my heart was beating so fast. I wondered if I made the right choice in doing this, but knew I needed answers or I may not ever get them. When I walked into the door, we spotted each other right off. He came over to me, in the humblest Spirit I’ve ever known from him, and gave me a long warm hug and kiss on the cheek. I couldn’t help but see the God in him. He was a changed man, a different person than we were 30 years ago. Still good looking, standing 6’3 and still funny as ever. I loved this man dearly once upon a time. He was my first LOVE and first boyfriend.

As we walked around and talked, he introduced me to his staff. He told them that I was his gurlfriend 30 years ago, and that we hadn’t seen each other in years. They told me how pretty and sweet I was, and how they really loved him. I can tell that he was very nervous, and so was I. But again…. it was something that I had to do. We talked about our families ((( he knows my family and friends, and I know all of his))) and our kids. After about 45 minutes I told him that I had to go, which he didn’t want me to, but I had to get alone to regroup my thoughts. I promised that I would come to see him again soon. He walked me to my car, we hugged and said our goodbyes. As I was driving, I thought about how proud of myself I was. This was a huge step for me, something I could have NEVER EVER done without God. Our meet up was the start of answers for me.

Part 2 tomorrow!

I AM La’Crease ((( I don’t have to do anything else)))

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