In 1997, I was a Cosmetics Coordinator at Arbor Drug store. I remember so clearly when a guy came up to me and started talking. He was good looking, tall, goatee, pretty teeth, great conversation, and had the prettiest eyes you ever want to see on a man. After we introduced ourselves, we exchanged phone numbers. Back then, we didn’t carry cell phones, but we did have pagers, whenever I paged him he would call right back. We would talk on the phone at night for hours and hours and hours. That was the one thing I loved about him. He spent a lot of time with me and gave me the attention I needed.
I introduced him to my daughter (( something I never did unless I REALLY like the guy)) and he introduced me to his daughter. The more we got to know each other, the more time we spent together. One day he wanted his mom to meet me over the phone, because she lived out of town. I really enjoyed talking with her. Then he wanted me to meet his sister her husband, and their kids. I knew he liked me seriously when he wanted me to meet his family. I was nervous when I met them, but once we got to talking, it was clear that his family was a very Spiritual one. They went to Church, and you can tell in their walk, that they were good people. That was the thing that attracted me to him. He loved the Lord, he knew that Bible so well, if you didn’t know any better you would have thought he was the Co-writer of it. We would talk for hours about God, and the more we talked about him, the more I liked this guy.
I loved when he came to see me, because he was so gentle and easy going, we would have so much fun together. I can’t even think of a time where we had a deep argument or disagreement.
He shared with me that all through school he was very smart. After High School he went to the Navy and after he did his years, he got out. This was the reason why he was staying with his Sister and her husband. He also mentioned he was once married, but then divorced and that his daughter was from his marriage.
I had a habit of putting my pop in the freezer and forgetting about it, and he couldn’t stand that. LOL So this one night after taking it out of the freezer, I came out with my camera to take photos. I snapped the photo as he wasn’t looking, and when he heard the snap he turned to the camera. He said did you just take a photo of me? I said yes, why you don;t like taking pictures? He said No, I hate it, he said promise me when you take them that you would give them to me. I said, I won’t take any more, but why you don’t want me to have the two I just took, he said because I need you to throw them out. He made me promise that I would get rid of them. But that only made me want to keep them for “whatever” reason. I got them back, but I couldn’t tell him so I kept the photos to myself.
One day I received a phone call from the county jail. It was him. I accepted his phone call, and was shocked to learn that he was locked up. He told me that the reason why he was in jail was because of a drug charge years prior. All I wanted to know was how long he was going to be locked up, and when can I go see him. I remember him calling me everyday all day.
He told me that he was going to put me on his visitors list so that when his day come for visits I could see him. That day came and my friend took me to see him. Once I got there, I was told that I wasn’t on his list. That puzzled me, because I had spoken with him that day. I was feeling some kind of way, I was mad. I went home and waited for his call. He finally called that day and told me that it was a mistake and that he missed me and wanted me to make sure that I saw him the following week. I had to tell my family and friends that I didn’t see him . I was feeling down, but I looked forward to the next week.
The following week came and I was dressed up ready to go and see my baby. My friend picked me up and I was on my way again. Once I got there, they told me that he had gotten into a fight and couldn’t have visitors. I was pissed!!! I kept thinking why is this grown man constantly getting in trouble? He knows how much we want to see each other, why is he letting others put him in position for trouble? Again, when he was able he called and told me about the fight, which I didn’t want to hear. That was it, I wasn’t going to see him again. We’d just have to talk over the phone, and write each other.
After so many calls, my phone went off and I wasn’t about to accept charges from my “GOOD PHONE”. We starting communicating through mail. He knew I wasn’t coming to see him again. By this time, he had been locked up for a while, and I was wondering when he was getting out?
One night, … it was after 2 am in the morning, I was sleep. My phone rang, and It was his SISTER. She said LaCrease, I’m sorry to wake you up, but God told me to call you. That got my attention, so I sat up in bed and listened to what she had to say. She went on to say… I know you’re a Christian, and I know how you feel about my brother, but I can’t rest until I tell you this. She said my brother is not in jail for drugs years ago, he’s in jail for stealing in the mall. I was shocked and ANGRY!!! I wonder why would he lie like that. She said no matter what you do.. please DO NOT tell my brother, I’m calling you with this. I told her that I PROMISE. I told her that I would never cause drama in her family like that. I Thanked her, and hung up the phone.
I was DONE WITH HIM!! DONE!
About 4 months had passed and he was STILL IN JAIL. By this time, my feelings for him was over. He lied, and anytime a SISTER CALL YOU AND WIRE YOU UP ABOUT THEIR OWN BROTHER… BELIEVE HER!
Finally the day came when he was released, he was at my job looking good. He told me that he was coming over later on that night and to be honest I was looking forward to talking with him. In my mind the relationship was over and he pretty much knew that because of the lack of communication I put in. But also for the LIE he told and what I couldn’t tell him I knew.
That night he didn’t come and he didn’t call to say why. Yes, I said to myself this was going to be even easier that I thought. As the days went by, I didn’t see him, but he would call to see how I was doing. I was happy that I was over him, and that we had drifted apart. One day he called me and told me that he met this guy in jail and that he introduced him to his cousin and that he was seeing her now that he was home. I was so happy. God has a way of separating people without saying a word sometimes.
One day, he called me and asked if he could stop by with his daughter, who was my daughters age. I told him yes. I wanted to see him and hear how he was doing. The kids were outside playing, but we went in to talk. He couldn’t keep his hands off me. He kept saying that he wanted to have sex. I told him NO! I was getting mad and he knew it, next thing I know he threw me on the couch, and was trying to take my clothes off. He was taking over me, that’s when I said.. “So you’re going to rape me while our kids are outside and can come in anytime?” That’s when he stopped and LEFT. I wonder if he would have stopped if his daughter wasn’t over?
In the days to come. He would knock on my door at night and I would never answer. I didn’t trust him at all. I didn’t want to see him again, so I moved!!!!! I moved back with my parents until I found me a place.
One day RIGHT AFTER I MOVED, I went to the store and as I was leaving, I glanced over at the Detroit News and saw his picture on the FRONT PAGE. I was SHOCKED, AND NERVOUS AT THE SAME TIME. I grabbed the paper and went to pay for it. When I got to my mom’s house I couldn’t put it down. Never in a million years did I expect this man to do what he did. I was nervous and out done at the same time. I started thinking about how I knew he was still stopping by my old apartment and I was glad I was gone. He never knew where my parents stayed and I was BLESSED ABOUT IT!
I read the paper IN PURE HORROR!!! I found out this man…… strangled his girlfriend, KILLED HER, wrapped her up in a hotel blanket, put her in the trunk of her own car, and SET IT ON FIRE! The fire department never opened the trunk, they found her body after she was reported missing. She was a 3rd grade teacher.
He was on the run! Took them a long time to catch him, but they finally did. In court his Sister said… “he made a lovely life swindling the ladies, he did what he was good at conning women.” Wow. looking back 19 almost 20 years later. He never asked me for a dime. Never showed me any signs of this behavior at all… until he tried to rape me.
This man got over $7.000 from this woman, he also took her jewelry worth over $4000.00 to the pawn shop and got money. He was with his other girlfriend when they did it. IT CAME OUT IN COURT, when he was with me… he was married to 3 WOMEN AT THE SAME TIME!!!!!!!!! I never knew that at all. When it was all said and done…. He’s in jail FOR LIFE. NEVER TO COME HOME AGAIN.
God always send people that I would never have thought, to give me a message. He has done it 3 times. They were ALL RIGHT! GOD SENT THEM TO ME…
God loves me. He LOVES ME. He has always saved me from people who meant me NO GOOD. I ASKED HIM… AM I DUMB? Why can’t I see this in these people? You think you know….. YOU HAVE NO IDEA OF THE PEOPLE HE HAS SENT MY WAY. I LOVE THEM ALL.
THANK YOU LORD, THANK YOU JESUS FOR SPARING MY LIFE. FOR SAVING ME. FOR SENDING THOSE YOU SPOKE TOO, FOR THEM OBEYING, AND FOR ME LISTENING.