I met a little girl

When my now 38 year old daughter was in elementary I loved kids so much that I worked at her elementary school from Preschool to her 4th grade.

I would work as a teacher assistant, and also the playground and gym when the teachers were on lunch. I loved how kids would run up to me and give me hugs, and tell me that I was their play mom because not only was I motherly but I listened to them. I heard everything they said.

One of the gurls would always look sad. She was well dressed and her hair was always done. She was one of my favorites. When she entered the playground she came straight to me. I could tell that something was going on with her. So one day I asked her. What’s wrong sweetie? She told me that her adoptive mother beat her. She would get in trouble a lot and this went on for a while. I would listen to her daily. I was shocked. But for the life of me the person I am today can’t understand why didn’t I do more to help her. I think about her all the time now. I wonder if she’s still alive, if she ever gotten the help she needed. Is she Okay mentally? Does she have a family?

I feel that I failed her. I feel like I was so wrapped up in the love I showed the kids that I didn’t do anything to help her. I don’t remember if I asked her if she told her teacher or others. I just remember that I didn’t help.

This stays on my mind a lot as we see so many kids abused these days. Back then there were no cellphones and no internet yet.
Please share your thoughts.

I would love to see her today, hug her and tell her how sorry I am that I didn’t do more to help her. ❤️❤️❤️

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Hey Family!

Have you ever just sat up and thought about the things people do? Sometimes, I wonder what does God think about what his kids are “down here” doing. I know I’m a handful BY MYSELF… the thing with me tho… I’m scared of CONSEQUENCES. I don’t want no trouble.

Then I sit up and think about how people treat each other. Today I was at a 4 way traffic stop, and everyone knows you take turns going. Well, instead of this one car waiting for his turn, he took off when it wasn’t even his turn. Just pissed me off. The car that was suppose to go started blowing her horn, it was funny, but the man didn’t care. As long as he went first without waiting, he was good. But then that same guy will go home, find out his house had been broken in, and will piss a fit about it. But you’re out here being disrespectful to the 4 way……ON PURPOSE!

This lady walked through the self check out at Meijer, she had to be about in her late 50’s. She walked in saying ” I don’t know how to work this”…. loud and obnoxious. The cashier said to her, come over here let me show you. The lady says ” could you just ring me up, those things frustrates me. The cashier rung up her and again, the lady is left not knowing how to do it. I’m a teacher at heart. I worked at an Elementary School for over 9 years. I’m a hands on person. I’m not going to ALLOW you to ask me 50,000 questions without me showing and teaching you.

One day my daughter surprised me with an iPhone 5, I didn’t know how to use it or anything. I would call her every 5 minutes asking questions. I knew she was getting frustrated with me because seems as if I wasn’t getting it over the phone. But the next day  in person she said I’m going to show you the basics, she said momma you have to play with the phone, make mistakes and remember what you did. I admit I was HEATED! I wanted her to show me how to do this and that, and all these things without having to do it myself. She said momma you have to learn it  for yourself. She said you can’t go around in life asking people to do things for you without you trying it first.. I WAS MADD in my mind! OOO weeeee. I was on fiyah.  She didn’t know that. But once I got to my apartment and thought about it, I said she’s right. I need to play with this phone until I can learn how to do everything. Even if I make mistakes. Even if it takes all day. I’m going to learn how to work this phone. And I did it!

That’s the attitude I have with everything now. I will get to a machine, look at it first, figure out the buttons and what does what, then I will work it. Especially in person. I’m getting older and that’s right, I dont want to be like that lady who want everyone to help her before she even TRY to work it. They don’t want to learn, or even think about it, just like I felt. They want it done for them and on to the next. NOPE… not going to watch others ask  questions all day and not try it first. My daughter has me in the iPhone forever plan where I can upgrade whenever a new phone comes out, and since then I had the 7 and the 7 plus, now I have the iPhone X and I got this!!! No help. Hands on!

So, I write this to say, if you have parents, or friends who are quick to say.. “HELP ME, HELP ME” Show them how to do it in love, and remind them to work with it first, make mistakes, then ask questions if they cant get it. Going around in life asking everybody to HELP YOU because you don’t want to learn it, don’t have time, being lazy, or intimidated is not a reason to not learn.  This is your life. I was feeling some kinda way when my daughter told me to play with things first, but I’m glad I learned that lesson from her.

My daughter and I  bought my mom a Ipad 2 last week. I showed her how to work it, she called me a few times about it, and now she got it mastered. The same thing my daughter told me, I told my mom. She lovessssssss it. My mom will be 69 in June and I don’t want her going around saying to folks….. “HELP ME DO THIS, HELP ME”.. unless she really needs it and not because SHE DOESN’T FEEL LIKE LEARNING IT.

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You are the CEO of your life!

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Hey Family!

I’m sitting here on this lovely day, I really need to be at a park this morning, we have some rainy days coming and I wanted to be near water on Belle Isle. But Summer is just around the corner and I promise myself I will be there more often than last year.

As many of you know I am deeply into the growth of  women, when it comes to Life Lessons and Experiences. Seems like there is not a day that goes by when someone needs to talk to me and ask for advice. I’m very, very, to the point and honest with my answers. That’s what people LOVE about me, but sometimes when I dish it out they have a problem with my truth and honesty. And guess what? I don’t even care.

I was speaking with someone recently and they began to tell me that whenever she hits her boyfriend and fight him, he wont hit her, but, he will push her and leave marks on her body. She justifies the fact that she fights him, but he will only push her. I told her, one day…. one day… ONE DAY, he will not stand for her putting her hands on him and he’s going to fight back. She doesn’t believe it. That’s where the LIFE LESSON will come in at. I can tell her all day, but she’ll NEVER believe me, because it HASN’T HAPPENED to her YET. This is the part of my job, where I can’t help. She has to learn the lesson herself, and I hope that it doesn’t land her in the hospital.

We.. MEN AND WOMEN have to pay attention to the signs of any and all things. People are so afraid of being alone. They cannot see themselves alone. They rather deal with fighting and arguing, instead of saying… look we cannot get alone, lets go our separate ways. This is why so many men and women have self esteem issues. They stay in relationships that they are not suppose to be in.

Why is it so hard to leave? Fear of being alone, and seeing that person with someone else. SO WHAT!!! Especially if you’re not getting alone. Who wants to wake up arguing everyday, holding grudges and CONSTANTLY talking about the same issues day after day after day? I just don’t have that kinda time. Many people don’t like the thing of meeting someone new, getting to know new families, dating, meeting the kids and those kinds of things associated with meeting someone new. But its better than being in a relationship that clearly isn’t going anywhere right? Some will say, they just don’t want to put the time into it, so they stay.

I have plenty of things to say about this topic. Stay tuned.

I am La’Crease… and I don’t have to do ANYTHING ELSE!

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Balance and Business….Crees Blog Entry

tami-romanI’m in one of my REAL outspoken moods today…. * in my Tami Roman voice and facial expression*

Beyonce is my gurl.. I love her to pieces… I’m old enough to be her mom… but that little gurl of hers…..hair needs to be done. So I’m sitting here asking myself… La’Crease what business is of yours that her daughter hair needs to be pretty in pony tails or cute braided beads? What part of this little gurls hair THAT HAS ANYTHING TO DO WITH YOU LACREASE… that you concern yourself? My answer NOTHING. But I’m so sick of tired of these celebrities breaking their neck to PLEASE THE FANS with great performances, photos, movies, singing and dancing… and have ABSOLUTELY no clue in how to raise their kids. I’m so irritated right now about this. This little gurl is a person, just like Beyonce is making history… .SHE IS TOO. Fix her up, make her look like the beautiful little gurl she is. I would have this to say about a NON CELEBRITY. This is a person we’re talking about. Don’t go out of your way to impress me ( your fan)… FIX YOUR DAYUM CHILD UP.

These celebrities KILL ME…. they know how to sell tickets, sell out a concert, dress, count their money, and throw hissy fits. Many of them are IMPRESSING the FANS and EACH OTHER….while their kids are being neglected. I hate to see people dogging out her baby….I just hope she puts the same amount of TIME AND FASHION in with her baby as she do for HERSELF and her FANS. THATS ALL IM SAYING. BALANCE BEYONCE BALANCE!

OOO LAWD… I just wish I could be a fly on the way when it comes to the parenting of these PARENTS. Today I was telling a young man to go over to his side of the room, when he began to hug me and say awwww Auntie I love you. I said I love you too , but I need you to go to your side of the room. So, when he wanted to “go do one thang” I started saying to him… now I told you nicely to go to your side and you’re still trying to do what you want to do. He was shocked at my facial expression and tone of voice * it can get rough* and he said auntie I was just hugging you, why you mad at me? I said come here, let me talk to you for a minute. I said LOOK AT MY FACE… LOOK AT IT REAL GOOD… I said I’m cool, easy to talk too, and will help you in anything… but when it come to BUSINESS… I’m zero tolerance, and NO EXCUSES for these mind games. I said you need to learn that when I mean business to read my face, and hear my voice. I said learn to FALL BACK…. See these kids think, just because you show you them LOVE.. that it’s play time, and giving them everything all the time. Its not. All the things a parent let their child get away with… they come right to school and do it to the staff. No matter how nice we say something, they still want to challenge it. But when the police stop them for doing nothing…. they cant even put together a intelligent sentence to get themselves out of trouble. Then the parent march herself up to the school with her face all bald up and disfigured ready to “get with” somebody over her child. That’s when you see where it starts.

I’m not going to give up on these kids because I love them so much, but SERIOUS about my BUSINESS…… I AM.

Be Blessed

Where works of the flesh exists, there is NO joy

Money can’t buy you everythang… LADY….Crees Blog Entry

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Its been a minute but ………IM HERE!!!!

I didn’t know why then, but ever since I was a young gurl I’ve always studied the behavior of people. I believe I did it because people would make me SO UPSET by the way they treated others. Instead of getting upset, I decided to STUDY why people did the things they did. This has also helped me to understand the thought process of a child. It is GOD GIVEN trust me, no school could ever teach me what God gave to me naturally. In having this gift it has helped me to understand what people go through, and how they come to the conclusion they do in life. With that said…. read this story.

This lady I work with she’s about 57 and has everything you can think of. She and her husband owns a night club, MANY rental properties, car wash, hair salon* aint no telling what else* they both drive nice trucks and have one grown son with a wife and family. I love this lady, and I truly don’t believe that she knows half the stuff she says that MAKES THE OTHERS want to scratch the chalk board non stop. LOL I have to write about her, because there are many others out there just like her. Its sad… so sad.. but hopefully this will make you ask yourself….Am I this woman?

My coworker wants EVERYTHING MONEY CANT BUY. Instead of her saying to herself…. Okay… I can buy that on my own, so I won’t take it… she will anyway. She says she does it because.. SHE PAYS TAXES AND HAVE A RIGHT TO get things free. Every month there is this fruit truck and many other things on it, that if you pull up, sign your name while they load up your car… its yours free. The school we work at is in a poor neighborhood and many people drive up and get these things because they need them. She asked me why aren’t you going to get a food box? I told her let people who need it get it, we don’t need it. I said there may be times in life when we may need it, and then you wont feel bad about having to get it. If she has to ever be in this position to have to get these things… I BET SHE WONT EVEN GET THEM.. BECAUSE SHE’S TOO PROUD. When you brag about things you have, and then they’re taken away from you… you feel bad about having to have to get it. But to take from those people who can’t afford it IS A DAYUM SHAME. That bothers me so bad. Then I ask her… what do you do what that stuff, because you don’t need it…. she says… “I give it to my son for my grandsons” *smh*

There is this counselor who dress very nice and every time my coworker sees her, she has to ALWAYS look at what she has on. One day she had on a nice blouse… I told her how pretty it was, don’t you know my coworker ASKED HER where she got it from, and then went out that SAME DAY and bought it? She came to work and talked about it nonstop. and I’m looking at her like are you serious? Friday, our security team ordered some wings from Coney island. My coworker was eating something she had just bought in from a restaurant. When she found out they were ordering food she asked them why didn’t yall ask me to order, they said they didn’t think about it and it would have not been a problem… she turned to me and said…. I’m going up stairs and getting one of those wings as soon as its delivered. And so I said to her…. why would you want a wing ding… she said because they didn’t ask me. WOW WOW WOW. She wants everything HER money cant buy at the time. I never met anyone like this.

We have these carrying cases for your books. And when the kids play games and win, they get it free as a prize. Well she ask one of the teachers can she have one, so they gave it to her. THEN SHE WANTED ANOTHER ONE FOR HER GRANDSON. This is so unreal to me. She can’t sit anything out. She has to have everything that’s not for sale. She asked me for mines, I TOLD HER NO, and I don’t even want mines. We have many different things going on at school, and when someone pulled out the schools camera…. she kept talking about how hers is just like it. It was a long nose Nokia. Now she’s going to bring hers to school. I’m looking at her like gurllllllllllllllllll this is not that serious. The others are fed up with her…. but to me… she’s interesting.

But this is the biggest. The women and men who works in the kitchen often times take home food before it goes bad. And since it can’t be heated or re cooked, they’ll give it away, take it home, or throw it out. She feels that SINCE SHE AND HER HUSBAND PAY MORE TAXES THAN EVERYONE ELSE, THAT …. she’s entitled to have the privileges of taking home food like the kitchen workers. The nerve of her. What they do in the kitchen has nothing to do with her. And what burns her up so bad, is that they ALWAYS ask me what do I WANT? They tell me “Sunshine you don’t have to pay for anything, if you want something TELL ME”. She gets SO mad, and ask what about me? She don’t get that nobody likes when she sit up and brag, when she want some of everything everybody has because she cant buy it. When they call me PRIVATELY in the kitchen…. she watches me like a hawk. She wants to know what they said to me, what are they giving me… then when I come out with something she doesn’t EAT.. she’ll say… I DON’T EAT THAT MESS. But when I come out with something good and she wants it… she’ll say… I’m going back there to see if they have any thing left… I WANT SOME TOO. Her facial expression is ANGRY…. just because they didn’t ask her for anything. Then she’ll pout if she sees all of them eating together and they not offer her FREE LUNCH. One day I bought several kids some candy bars for helping me out….. when one of the students didn’t come to school, she asked me could she have the SNICKER. It killed her that I bought candy bars for the students and not have one for her. IT KILLED HER TO SEE ME PASSING THEM OUT. WOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOW!!!

I came to the conclusion just by listening to her and not dismissing her behavior. She loves her life, but she’s very ungrateful. She loves to brag, and if someone says that something is nice and pretty… she’ll make sure to run out and get it…..and tell you about it in the morning. She won’t admit how blessed she is until someone shows up and have something she can’t buy….. NO MATTER WHAT. She brags about what she has, and she TRIES HER BEST TO gets things that CANT BE BOUGHT OR SOLD.

Are you this person? Just because something is free doesn’t mean you have to be apart of it, especially if you don’t need it. Save it for those who do. Let people see what you have… DONT BRING IT UP… Keep some things to yourself…. everybody don’t have to know your business just because its true. New Living Translation
Get wisdom; develop good judgment. Don’t forget my words or turn away from them. Proverbs 4:5

Where works of the flesh exists, there is NO joy

“Behind the Scenes~ what’s going on at your childs School” CREES BLOG ENTRY

KIMPERSHINGIts no secret… I LOVE KIDS. I love listening to them talk, I love the way they express themselves, I adore the way they hear things, how innocent they are when they feel that “their truth” is THE TRUTH. LOL I know that one of my gifts from God is working with them, and being their voice…. because I truly UNDERSTAND them….whether I agree with them or NOT.

There are a lot of things that kids, hear, do, see and BE when they’re in school, and not around their parents. They can have straight A’s and all 1’s in citizenship, but THAT IS ONLY ONE PART OF WHO YOUR CHILD REALLY IS. Education and CHARACTER are 2 different things. Your child can be well EDUCATED but have ABSOLUTELY no sense of direction, understanding AND WHO THEY ARE.

Understand that even though your child may act like they don’t hear you…. THEY DO. When I’m talking to them, the first thing they say is ” My momma always told me……….”. So trust me they hear you.

So with that said…. since I work at a High School here in Detroit that goes to school ALL YEAR ROUND this year being its first year… YES ….all year round. I have decided that I would keep ALL OF MY PARENTS AND GUARDIANS up on how our children think, act and tips on what can be done so that our children can grow up to be Successful PRODUCTIVE Adults. Many parents have NO IDEA the influence that is taking hold of our children when they’re not around. I DO.. AND I SEE IT.

So join me every Tuesday and Thursday on my BLOG page for “Behind the Scenes~ at School”. I’m going to post TIPS, QUESTIONNAIRES, IDEAS, HOT TOPICS, and lots of other goodies. It’s going to be very good, and very informative.

Photo is of Kimberly on of my students.

Where works of the flesh exists, there is NO joy

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