Ok family, I need to talk for a minute.
Lets say you meet this guy/gurl and they are cool, attractive , have good personality a job. You like this person, but its something about them, but you just cant place your finger on it yet. So you keep talking to them over the phone, seeing them in person.
Then……………you find out what it is about them.
You see that they are a person who go out of their way to do things for people. They will offer to take you home, they will offer to give you money, they will offer to buy you lunch, they will offer information to you, they will run to the store for you wayyyyyyy cross town. They will help you out on a bill, they will cook for you. They are willing to do all these things at the drop of a hat.
One day they ask you, can you go the to store and pick up some bread for them, you cant right now because you are sitting with your grandma until a family member comes to relieve you. They ask you for $29.00 but you are short $4.00 to buy the groceries you HAVE to pick up in a few hours, and you can\’t give it to them. They ask you to bring them some greens to work , but you don\’t have any left. Then their back ache and they need you to rub them down. They run of out cigarettes and they need you to bring them some, they have a headache, with no Advil, they want you to go get that too.
Have anyone ever been trying to get to know somebody like this? A person who will out the blue volunteer their services, so that when they need you to do something for them, they would have all this extra credit built up? How could someone spend their whole life purposely doing for others, just so when hard times fall on them, they can throw up in your face, all they\’ve done for you? How can someone date, someone like this? You will find yourself spending your whole life owing them trying to playing catch up from all the things they did for you. And Lord forbids if they see that they are slipping and haven\’t been doing much for you. That\’s when the catch up game begins. They feel that they have to start doing more for you!! Then when you don\’t break your neck getting to this person so that you could \”do\” for them, they start whining who they can and can\’t depend on. Blaming you for not being there. Questioning your sincerity in the relationship/friendship. Throwing up in your face, how much they have done for you.
So my question to you? Have you ever dated a person like this? Or are you this person? If you are this person, please explain the motivation behind your behavior. What would you do if you met a person like this, who you have been trying to get to know and love?