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Cree’s Ramblings….Cree’s Blog Entry

ImageHey,
 
 
 
Soooooo, I’m trying to get in the habit of writing daily. When you live alone you really don’t talk that much. LOL I don’t like talking on the phone, so writing is my new friend.
 
 
 
When I get in my quiet moods, I like to watch house hunters it really soothes and calms me all the way down. The part that bothers me is that the women always debate the men when it comes to them having a “man cave” or a room where they can go and “do them”. I’m a woman and when I’m married, I want my own room where I can read, think, watch my favorite shows too. I see so many women on this show who really don’t want their men to have their own special room. Why is that? Are they afraid that they may go to their men cave and never come out? LOL Today this man wanted a pool table room, he had to remind her about 5 times on the 30 minute program… then she said “I guess you can have a room”. *rolls my eyes at her*
 
 
 
Men love to shop and have nice clothes, but the women make a big deal over that too. They want the man to have the smallest closet. I know we have our boots, shoes, coats and all these purses and everything, but really women need to stop being so funny acting when it comes to men having space for their favorite things when buying a new house. Then when they divorce, she has to find a smaller place anyway. WOW WOMEN REALLY?
 
 
 
Guess what? I’ve been doing soooooo good when it comes to my ANGER. If you haven’t read my blog entries on ANGER. I was watching Iyanla Fix My Life and realized that my anger stems from several things. Bullying, watching people be mean to others, people talking to others all kinds of ways, mostly social issues. I felt that my dad was a bully to me, because I was different, and saw a lot of his manipulating ways early on. As I got older, I’ve always felt like a “misfit” .Even though I had a lot of friends, I didn’t always run with them. I’m the kind of person that would talk to you everyday, and not share with you the fact that I’m planning a women’s gathering, you would get the invite the same day as the others. Leaving you asking me…… why didn’t you tell me about it, I just talked with you this morning? I’m such a behind the scenes person who keep stuff to myself. This has always made me different the way I do things and set myself apart.
 
 
 
But anyway, getting back….As I was watching the first scenes of Lee Daniels The Butler… I felt anger coming on, my legs get to jumping, and while I’m in the middle of the anger, I ask myself what part of the anger is bothering me. And in soooooo many of my anger moments, its always because someone is mistreating someone, or intimidating them in some kinda way. I DO NOT LIKE THAT!!!!!!!!!!!!! The thing that’s helping me is when I allow God to ask me in the middle of my outbreak… ” WHAT ARE YOU FEELING”? After I answer the question, immediately I feel better, because I have identified with my problem/issue. Hopefully someday I can help others to get over their issue of ANGER… Wow for that to happen… I would be in a GREAT PLACE. YESSS!!!!
 
 
 
I have a friend who has been sharing some things with me, and when they shared them with me, I wasn’t getting it. There are so many things they said… that I get now. Like I really get it. We have a strange friendship but it works.
 
 
 
Be Blessed
 
 
 
 
 
Where works of the flesh exists, there is NO joy
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Bullies…..Cree’s Blog Entry

Hey Fam!!!

Thank you Lord for all the Lessons I’ve learned from the Oprah’s Life Class from OWN and the LIVE WEBCAST. I have learned so much about myself, and about others that I couldn’t even write it down right away I had to let it sink in my mind, and had to think about it over and over. I really LOVED and appreciated the time she made for us to “to get it” and that’s what I did. I got it!!!

Anger~ In middle school…I use to hang with bullies so that I wouldn’t be bullied. But truth was, I was being bullied from people that I grew up with at home. I hated it too. But now I ask myself…well why did you hang with them? A part of me found some things they said to others were funny, and I love to laugh. But as I got older I realize that I laughed on account of someone being bullied and hurt.

Today, in my life I CANT STAND BULLIES!!!! I will mentally ( in such a nice way) tear away at someone who commits this act in from of me. I found out by watching Oprah’s Life Classes that this is were 95% of my anger comes from WHEN I do get it. When I see people knocking over the next person to be first in line, that’s a bully. That bothers me because it tells me that its ALL ABOUT YOU. Selfish acts bothers me. I know this gurl who is always asking someone to buy her something, but when she’s in position to buy and help out someone, she can’t do it. That’s a bully to me. This is how she lives her life. I see this a lot, and it really bothers me. But now since I realized where my anger was coming from, I have the power to control it. It was hard for me because I wouldn’t understand why I was feeling that way. I use to be a bully in my own way,

I hung out with them to keep from being bullied, then I saw that I was being bullied from the people that was outside of my school.

Its funny now how the table has turned. No matter what I do, or where I go, I am a pretty popular person. I come in contact with a lot of people. And I will NOT TOLLERATE any bullying at all!!! I understand that I have a lot of influence over people, I see a lot, I hear a lot and this is probably the reason why I HATE GOSSIP. I stand up for the underdog. I fight ( not physically) for them all the time. I’m so glad that I have a voice, and is known for telling the truth and taking up for others. I don’t stand around and watch someone go Hungary, being talked about, being bullied. I have learned too, that a lot of times I have to fall back, and that’s okay. But I’m glad that I had that experience growing up, so now I understand getting bullied, and taking up for the person being bullied. To me bullying is as simple as someone who CUTS in front of 8 people saying……… I HAVE TO GO, AND I DONT HAVE TIME TO STAND IN THESE LONG LINES, TAKE MY ORDER SO THAT I CAN GO!!! I will get FIRED and walk out before my HANDS take that customer. I will never tolerate that kind of behavior.

I’m really happy that by watching that show on Anger it has showed me an area of my life that I never understood. Now, I have a grip on these kinds of issues, when they are presented I know how to handle them without getting upset.

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