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Yesterday 3/19…. I was scrolling through my FB timeline and came across this Woman Pastor * won’t say her name* and her post about her lovely step daughter who had just purchased a new truck, not only brand new… but she purchased it herself! Now for those who have been reading my post for years know when it comes to our children doing well… I AM THE MOST PROUD.

I started Raisingurls to Women in my home in 2006 and have helped groomed many young teens over the 8 years to become the women they are today. So, when I read her post.. I was so geeked.. saying to myself  YESSSS YOUNG GURL YESS! As the Leader I am.. I have always admired other GREAT LEADERS. Even though I don’t get to comment on her post or others on FB as much as I would love.. I ENJOY reading success stories of those under them as well. This is why I have my Raisingurls to Women site and THIS ONE to upgrade the success of my gurls as they become women. I follow them on FB and see them all the time. They look up to me, they listen to me and I have to ALWAYS make sure that I’m not nutting up on people BUT representing God at ALL times.

Going back to the post. My comment to her was YES!!! I LOVE LOVE LOVE IT! I see that you and your family are doing well, I would love to know how your congregation is doing as well. SHE WENT OFF ON ME!!!!

I have seen a few times where she INDIRECTLY went off on people on FB who she knew was reading her page. I asked that question on her FB page because as a LEADER.. I am always INTERESTED in how others under that Leadership are doing. This is why I always update stories 9 years later on my Raisingurls. I was their Leader for a while. I’m doing fine, and I’m GLAD to see that they’ve ALL GRADUATE FROM HIGH SCHOOL, a few with children..one married, and the others GRADUATED FROM COLLEGE. It interest me in that area. It tells a lot for me, and who I am as a LEADER. I was just looking for feed back from other leaders such as herself. If I didn’t know God.. she would have left a sour taste in my mouth for The Church, Women, and Leaders. But my skin is TOUGH.. the oldest of 4. I’m good! LOL That was the reason why I asked her that question. I have been following her FB page for 4 years..  she is AWESOME. I admire her. She’s a GREAT LEADER and SPEAK WITH BOLDNESS.. just as myself . I’ve never inboxed her, spoken with her over the phone, or met her.  We don’t talk PERIOD! So when she posted 3 comments on her page that  her daughter is a Virgin, she’s in college full time, then she started saying that she could post anything on her FB page she wanted, and started on herself on how successful she was, and that if I wanted her to coach me she could, other than that sit back and watch her family as closely as I have been. She wrote 3 different post from my question above. I was like WHOA!  What type of people does she mess with? How many people/women have turned on her? What type of people are in her circle? She went completely into left field…. I WAS HEATED..  AND READY TO GET WITH HER….DETROIT MICHIGAN MURDER CAPITOL OF THE WORLD STYLE!

I just sat there in shock and shook my head remembering a post I had written on my FB page  March 10, 2015…..”Look at everything as positive, Until it proves itself negative.”SHE PROVED EXACTLY THAT!. Does she care? Nope probably not.. I DO.. and here’s why. I RESPECT LEADERS. I ADMIRE THEM.. I LEARN FROM THEM….I would never ever want to go off like she did to me IN FRONT OF HER CONGREGATION, FAMILY AND FRIENDS ON FACEBOOK. AND ON MY PAGE.. I DON’T PLAY THAT PERIOD!!  I would never cripple another member of Christ.. especially on FB, in front of people who they influence everyday.  WHAT?? NEVER THAT!!! That will 50/50 turn people away from God. OH NO NO!!!! NEVER NAW! People who admire them, people who respect them, people who report to them. I would never want that in front of my Raisingurls. HOW DOES THAT LOOK? What does your response say? A WHOLE LOT!!!!!!! I AM NOT YOUR ENEMY PASTOR!

As I sat there and talked myself out of going “Mack and Bewick” on her on FB…. I saw the big picture. God spoke to me * so glad I can hear his voice*. He said La’Crease don’t take her comment to heart. It wasn’t even about you. She gets lots of emails, phone calls, in boxes of how she brags. Women cling to her just because they think her anointing can “jump on them”. She’s been hurt by so many women family and friends that she doesn’t know how/who to trust. That these things has made her defensive and she’s very territory about everything she love and built. Every so often she has to make it known that she knows who the people are that hurt her,  that talks about her, that talk about her family, she has to prove that she is strong…God-made, and nothing will stop her. PUBLICLY OR PRIVATE.She knows they are watching. She will let it be known.  He said your comment…unleashed what she was due to say anyway to anyone/those * THEY KNOW WHO THEY ARE*  who have a problem with her and anything she says or does. Under all of that is a woman who loves ME.., and want to see everyone succeed. I GOT THAT! I’LL PAY FOR IT!

After hearing that…. I decided to post a  comment basically saying…Wait wait… I admire you as a leader…. I just wanted to know how your congregation is doing… which like I said before I always update my pages on how my Raisingurls are doing. Off course everything was erased. I always feel that GREAT LEADERS can always report great things about those who they influence. Another thing that really made me mad was that I never ever ever go back and forth with FB people. That is so childish to me. I have 2 sisters.. same mother same father, married and grew up in the same home. We weren’t allowed to fight and that’s the reason why we are close today. We never ever ever ever EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER get mad and stay mad with each other.. and we never, EVER, EVER, EVA FALL OUT with each other. So all my life my motto is… ” If I don’t get into it with MY SISTERS  WHO  I SEE EVERYDAY.. I WILL NEVER, EVER, EVER GET IN TO IT WITH ANOTHER WOMAN.. OR FB PEOPLE… NOT IN THIS LIFE.” I’ll disconnect from you first. I’m 2 years from 50…..In not spending the last days in FOOLISHNESS… back and forth with folks who I don’t know .. and don’t know me. I just can’t. My thought is this.. how bout we disconnect FOR NOW  and hook back up on JUDGEMENT DAY? Getting into it with women.. is just not on my “TO DO LIST”.

Sad thing is… her Church folks were commenting saying that I was jealous. Her husband and daughter checked in. Aw… man. If I was having words with someone on my FB page.. I would hope a friend would in box me and say… CREE STOP IT!!!!! STOP IT NOW!!! Disconnect from this person and keep it moving.  I DONT NEED ANYONE COMING TO MY OFFENSE AND ME… saying ‘ Thank you to other subliminal messages/postings pertaining directly to the original post.” . DO NOT RESPOND HARSHLY!!! DO NOT DO IT!!!! I would be so MAD.. to see others chime in on a post where they don’t even know this other party.  Assuming that I was right!  Assuming that I could never do no wrong! Assuming that its OKAY TO COMMENT ON SOMETHING THAT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH THEM. As a LEADER I THINK THAT WAY. Because in the end.. LaCrease is going to find the peace with that person. But  the ONLOOKERS AND COMMENTORS wont be so quick to get over it. So sad.

Its amazing how petty we can become when we feel someone is coming after us, our kids especially….when its not even like that. In her post she talked about how great her step daughter was doing. She’s beautiful too. Now.. had I took the post as bragging and sarcastic…. we could have had a pissing contest all day about how GREAT her step daughter is and my ONE AND ONLY CHILD/DAUGHTER . But God stopped me.. that’s how WOMEN OF GOD GET CAUGHT UP. They listen to the enemy one hot second and that’s how it changes everything. End up having to erase the post, and the part I hate… people asking questions after wards.. UGH…

Even though I wanted to let her know… sister… I am not jealous as someone on your FB page said… MY daughter graduated from Wayne State with HONORS .. working on her masters. Living in her own apartment Downtown, make so much money she gives it away. Work with Judges and PROSECUTORS at the Wayne County Prosecuting Office, meeting and working with many city leaders to strengthen our Youth. Working daily  with Social Workers * INTERVIEWING AND HIRING THEM* . In charge of programs in the city to help those in need for food stamps and to help with Electric/Gas Bill payment plans. Board of Directors, worked in soup kitchens weekly.. too many things to even think about. So.. we could have pissed that thread out all day. Showed her photo and LOOKED IGNORANT AFTERWARDS FOR DOING IT.. People can see for themselves.

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Her dad at her downtown apartment!

But that childish. I rather for a person to meet HER in person, find out what SHE DOES, and who SHE IS .. RATHER than to read about it on FB.. ANY DAY!ANY DAY! ANY DAY! ANY DAY! ANY DAY!

In closing… Here’s what I learned. When you’re a person of INFLUENCE.. and a LEADER… never get into a pissing contest with folks in front of them. You may have to apologize later for being wrong. But if you’re prideful and arrogant.. you will find that their PRESENCE IS THE ROAR/LOVE OF YOUR LIFE.

I also learned to never ever, ever EVER  fall out, bicker with OTHER women… IT GOES AGAINST WHAT I TEACH MY RAISINGURLS , its petty, childish, ignorant and ungodly. I don’t do this with MYYYYYYY 2  SISTERS I lived and grew up with since they were born….I  WONT  DARE WASTE time and energy doing it with other women/people PERIOD! EVA. IMG_0803peed

Look at everything as positive, Until it proves itself negative.

I learned that people pay close attention at how you handle conflict, offense, problems, issues, and debates. If you’re a LEADER, you’re graded HARDER, you have to be mindful of who is watching, what are they learning from this. Am I showing them who I am? Do I have to work harder to gain that persons trust in me over my mistake? What did THEY take from this? Are their any enemies here, or just a misunderstanding? You cannot be a LEADER and nut up on folks just because you think they are coming after you, your family and those you LOVE.

In closing…  If you want to know the Spirit of that person go to their FB page and look at what is on their mind.GO BACK YEARS IF YOU WANT.. SEE WHAT KIND OF PERSON THEY ARE.  Look at what they write, what their mindset is. What keeps their attention. God, Peace, Money, Stuff/Things, LOVE, KINGDOM BUILDING, Inspiration, bickering, conflict, debates, TEST THE SPIRIT. You should know better than that.. to think I would come for your family… when I have both parents alive and married. all my siblings well and doing well. All my nieces and nephews are ALIVE AND well, graduated, and not in jail. All of my cousins are alive… 1st and 2nd sets! All of my aunts are ALIVE on both sides and my parents are in their 60’s.. and I only lost a uncle. I’m blessed.. and if I love  AND RESPECT my family.. I love AND RESPECT yours too. God Bless You !

Be Blessed!

If you want to be a great leader, remember to treat all people with respect at all times. For one, because you never know when you’ll need their help. And two, because it’s a sign you respect people, which all great leaders do.

Simon Sinek

 

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Things to know for PLANNING…….Crees Blog Entry

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For the last 5 years I’ve put together Feeding the Homeless for Thanksgiving, and people always ask me is it hard to plan and what does it take to pull it off? So in this blog entry… I’ll share everything you need to know in order to make things go just as planned.

Patience.. it takes a lot of patience. When you’re dealing with many different personalities, you HAVE to be a person who is very understanding of things that come up. I LOVE working with children.. so you can say that I have more patience in this area than many.

Leader…. you have to be a person who can multitask, and know what to do “next” if something goes wrong. Remember people are always looking at your facial expression, your mood change, your tone of voice, your body language….. everything. If you show any signs of “getting frustrated”… just know it could effect your whole team. Many times there could be things going on with your team players, and if that’s the case, if you break down over any thing, this could easy shift their personal issues into your FUNCTION. People feel that if the Leader experience a break down, then that’s a time where they feel that its okay to focus on their own personal issues. I say this because I can clearly remember being apart of something, when the Leader had a moment where they storm off, became upset and argumentative… and I thought to myself…. “I can be at home sitting on the couch eating ice cream for this mess”. People ask a lot of questions…..as a Leader you have to know what you want, and how you want it done. People look to you for answers….always.

Visualize…. you have to already have a visual of how you want things to go. If you don’t others will “gladly” tell you how you should do this and do that, confusing the project with different kinds of opinions and ideas. There is NOTHING wrong with feedback, but YOU have to know what you want before you present it to your team.

Expect for things to go wrong…. I say this because “THIS IS REAL LIFE”. Even if its the smallest thing…. expect for something to go wrong… so that you can always be on guard * with a smile* TO FIX IT!!!! The worst thing to see is a Leader who runs into a problem, panic, get an attitude, changing the whole atmosphere of the team players, just because that person didn’t have a plan B. As we were opening the 7-8 huge cans for the string beans, the can opener didn’t want to work at all. We didn’t have time to go out and buy another one, so what my friend did was….. opened them all with a knife…..with a smile. Now had I panicked and started getting frustrated about it…. it could have easily changed the working atmosphere of others. No one wants to work around a person who can’t control themselves when something goes wrong.

Do what it takes to MAKE IT HAPPEN…. I had to meet so many different people when it was time to pick up items for the Homeless Project. It was challenging traveling on different days and times to meet people all over the city. But it was something that I “mentally prepared” myself to do. I couldn’t quit in the middle of it, and I didn’t whine. I JUST DID IT! I had to put gas in my van 3 days in a row. You have to have that “make it happen” mentality to pull off anything that YOU plan. When your team see that you’re putting in the work…. they will too.

Email….. People will make you want to pull out your hair. BUT DONT. 🙂 I had several people to email me and say…. “why didn’t you call and remind me that the project was here?”….that’s a NO-NO for me. People expect for you to call them and send messages reminding them to be apart. I don’t do that. I’ll post it on face book SEVERAL TIMES, private emails to those who ask for reminders, and that’s it. I found out that people who want to be a part and who cant be part…… WILL CONTACT YOU AND LET YOU KNOW. I love people who communicate with me. Its okay either way… but to say to me… “why didn’t you remind me”…. is disrespectful to MY TIME. I received another email from someone wanting to drop off can goods , a pie, and a pack of dinner rolls. When I explained to her that we make dinners, and all 150 people get the same thing. Well, she looked at it as if I was “lecturing” her, she got mad said her feelings were hurt… and that was it. I tried telling her… its OKAY.. if you can’t help out this year…. ITS OKAY. Its like going to a all black party… and you “TRY” to get in with red… then when the owner of the house stops you and say “hey….. why didn’t you wear black… its a all black party? The person answers…. “well I didn’t have any black to wear”. OKAY WELL……. YOU CANT COME TO THIS FUNCTION. WHEN WE HAVE A RED PARTY… THEN YOU CAN COME… ITS ALRIGHT IF YOU CANT MAKE IT THIS TIME.*quit trying to make a dollar out of .15* ITS OKAY IF YOU HAVE TO SIT THIS ONE OUT. SIT IT OUT… ITS OKAY. I WILL NOT LET YOU IN MY DOOR. People will try to fit your “already” planned function… and make it apart of their pity party. I HAVE ZERO TOLERANCE FOR THOSE PEOPLE….NONE. I’m sweet as PIE. But I WILL NEVER CALL YOU AGAIN, IF YOU HAVE A HARD TIME UNDERSTANDING THE RULES.

Have fun and laugh during the preparations of your function. Make sure that your people eat… who wants to put together a function and there’s no food? I learned that real quick when I put my first one together. LOL My people were mad at me for “making dinners” and not having food for them. So, always make sure there is something to eat.

Where works of the flesh exists, there is NO joy
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Behind the Scenes~ Your Kids at School * A Parents MUST READ* Crees blog entry

KENNYBehind the Scenes~ Your Kids at SchoolMy first weeks working at my High School, I truly got the shock of my LIFE. When I say to you all, that it was the SHOCK of my LIFE believe me!!!

I work in the lunchroom, deans office, security team, and when ever the teachers need me. One of my first days working, I went up to a table where about 7 or 8 students were sitting….. and asked them a question…… THE LEADER of the GROUP OF GURLS said to them… DON’T SAY ANYTHING TO HER, DON’T SPEAK TO HER, DON’T TALK TO HER, DON’T LOOK AT HER……IGNORE HER!!!! And here’s the kicker….. THEY DIDN’T SAY ONE WORD!!!! I was SO outdone… I just walked away. #numb

Out done and out numbered… I went into the corners of MY MIND and did some negotiating with myself. First, I had to negotiate with the “TEENAGER SIDE” of ME ….because for a MOMENT… the ADULT in me “LEFT THE BUILDING”. LOL LOL But the MOTHERLY side of me kicked in, and had to come up with a solution AS TO HOW I WAS GOING TO HANDLE THIS!!!

I remembered something the DEAN of STUDENTS told me on DAY ONE. He said these kids will DOUBLE TEAM you, HE SAID but…..once you get the LEADER…………. you got the WHOLE CREW * on your side*!!!

EVERYDAY I studied each table and found out who was the LEADER, male and female. Your child can/will sit between 2-3 tables with different friends, but the LEADER of any table….. always sit in their place. Between classes in a weeks time, I found each LEADER ALONE in the hallways and pulled them to the side.

I said… “Hey” can you come here for a minute boo * boo, sweety, honey are words of endearment, kids/teens always respond to these words*, I want to talk to you. I smiled and said what’s your name? I introduced myself and said this. I know YOU are the LEADER of your table. I said…. all I ask is that you and your friends clean up your mess in the lunchroom, stay on your side, and go to class before the second bell rings. I said to them… by you clearly being the LEADER ……… understand that you have the POWER to steer YOUR GURLS, and YOUR BOYS to do bad things OR good things. I said I see this in YOU… and I get that. I said USE YOUR INFLUENCE to do GOOD. I said to the one LEADER,* who told the others not to talk to me* ANY TIME YOU CAN GET 7 OR 8 GURLS TO NOT TALK TO AN ADULT….. YOU DA BADDEST GURL/CHICK * we laughed.. I had to go to her level on that part* !!! I said IM GOING TO BE WATCHING YALL EVERYDAY. I said I want you to use that POWER for GOOD!!! I said God gives INFLUENCE to some…. its a gift. You are chosen to LEAD. Be a GOOD LEADER. I said encourage your “team” to go to class, clean up after themselves, graduate, stop cursing… I SAID YOU HAVE THE POWER, THESE GURLS LISTEN TO YOU!!! They all got it, and walked away with smiles, feeling good about themselves.

Here I am 3 MONTHS into MY JOB and I can’t get those same GURLS AND THEIR LEADERS to call me MS. WALKER…. its auntie this, auntie that, auntie, auntie, auntie AUNTIE. LOL LOL Auntie can you buy me this, auntie do you have this, auntie take our photo, auntie buy me some chips, AUNTIE COME HERE, AUNTIE LISTEN TO THIS…. AUNTIE I NEED YOUR ADVICE, AUNTIE WHY THIS, WHY THAT.. BUT I LOVE IT. LOL

Training up Leaders
Proverbs 22:6
New King James Version (NKJV)

6 Train up a child in the way he should go,
And when he is old he will not depart from it.

HOMEWORK for TONIGHT WITH YOUR CHILD/CHILDREN IS THIS…. For a FUN and positive way to get to know your child EVEN BETTER… ask them these questions.

1. Ask your child how many people do you sit with at lunch. *NOTE* the same people sit together at the same TABLE … EVERYDAY.

2. Ask them… If I asked you who* NAME ONLY ONE PERSON* at YOUR table can get the others to do ANYTHING… who would that person be? And then ask…. why did YOU chose them?

3. Ask them… when lunch period comes, what is the thing you LOVE most about it.

Then explain to them the IMPORTANCE OF BEING A POSITIVE LEADER.

Where works of the flesh exists, there is NO joy

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  • MzLela P Tucker Cree girl you are an inspiration , a Gem those girls are lucky to have you by their side, you were right this is your calling you are going to change alot of kids lives for the better just watch and see we need more positive role models like you in our community I wish there was one of you in each school. / High school, middle school, even elementary schools cause this is where the real nitty gritty starts love you Cree keep doing what your doing and may god continue to bless you and bless the kids threw you this has certainly made my day.
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  • Tonya Mitchell Wow that’s crazy
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  • S Atiya Simm Wil Good good stuff! I am reposting! I talk to my daughter about this all the time! She is a leader by nature and I tell her what a huge responsibilty that is. It is hard being a leader especially as a child because most adults don’t know how to handle kids with these qualities. I cannot tell you how many teachers I see getting offended because their students who are leaders take charge! You have to be careful with these type of kids because people are always trying to break them down. That is why kids who are leaders usually wind up using their influence in the wrong way because they struggle to try to fit in. It takes a strong person to lead in the right way. Good for you for identifying these kids and helping them lead in the correct way!
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  • Charlene Hayes Very deep ..and your the woman for the job keep shining your lite the kids need it ..
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  • MzLela P Tucker Hey Anderson I think that’s a good career path for her was just thinking the same thing Cree you should look into that for your future I can see you opening up your own youth center too that would be so good for the kids and you…..
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  • Lacrease Walker MzLela P Tucker gurlllll yes thats my dreammmmmm. Thanks sooo much for the encouragement
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  • MzLela P Tucker Your welcome sweetie anytime….
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  • Betty Williams God is qualifying you to do this job and you are doing it well.
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  • Rose Hicks @Lacrease, I love the way you were able to change that groupthink from negative to positive. Group think is something that can destroy, kill, and take over the minds of those when they look up to cetain individuals.
  • Lacrease Walker Yes it can take over their minds. Once I was able to talk to the “leaders” of the group I was able to know the other gurls and I TALK THEM TO them and encourage them to use their own minds.. and do their own thing.
    Kimberly Cook Amen!!!! Lecrease Thanks!!!! FOR THE advice. I Have a 14yrs old SON going to H.S. THIS school year talking about peer pressure its ON got heads up NOW. Then I have a soon to be 13yrs.Old Son in middle school. I PRAY MY BOY’S UP EVERY DAY BECAUSE THE DEVIL IS A LIAR
    I TELL MY BOY’S TO MEDITATE & SAY PHILIPPIANS 4:13
    AS A MATTER OF FACT IT’S POSTED ON THERE DOOR WITH OTHER ENCOURAGING Prayers TO BLOCK ANYTHING TRYING TO COME Against THEM.
    AGAIN THANKS!!! EVERYONE NEEFDS TO BE MINDFUL AND MAKE SURE YOU HAVE YOUR HOUSE IN ORDER. BUT, Let ME SAY THIS NO MATTER WHAT YOU teach YOUR child IT’S UP TO them TO choose to MAKE THE right choice. GOD knows I instill IT THE word INTO MY BOY’S LIFE.
    THE Choices THEY MAKE WILL DETERMINE THERE outcome Positive OR Negative AS a MOTHER I’M was praying Blessing & favor.

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