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Yesterday 3/19…. I was scrolling through my FB timeline and came across this Woman Pastor * won’t say her name* and her post about her lovely step daughter who had just purchased a new truck, not only brand new… but she purchased it herself! Now for those who have been reading my post for years know when it comes to our children doing well… I AM THE MOST PROUD.

I started Raisingurls to Women in my home in 2006 and have helped groomed many young teens over the 8 years to become the women they are today. So, when I read her post.. I was so geeked.. saying to myself  YESSSS YOUNG GURL YESS! As the Leader I am.. I have always admired other GREAT LEADERS. Even though I don’t get to comment on her post or others on FB as much as I would love.. I ENJOY reading success stories of those under them as well. This is why I have my Raisingurls to Women site and THIS ONE to upgrade the success of my gurls as they become women. I follow them on FB and see them all the time. They look up to me, they listen to me and I have to ALWAYS make sure that I’m not nutting up on people BUT representing God at ALL times.

Going back to the post. My comment to her was YES!!! I LOVE LOVE LOVE IT! I see that you and your family are doing well, I would love to know how your congregation is doing as well. SHE WENT OFF ON ME!!!!

I have seen a few times where she INDIRECTLY went off on people on FB who she knew was reading her page. I asked that question on her FB page because as a LEADER.. I am always INTERESTED in how others under that Leadership are doing. This is why I always update stories 9 years later on my Raisingurls. I was their Leader for a while. I’m doing fine, and I’m GLAD to see that they’ve ALL GRADUATE FROM HIGH SCHOOL, a few with children..one married, and the others GRADUATED FROM COLLEGE. It interest me in that area. It tells a lot for me, and who I am as a LEADER. I was just looking for feed back from other leaders such as herself. If I didn’t know God.. she would have left a sour taste in my mouth for The Church, Women, and Leaders. But my skin is TOUGH.. the oldest of 4. I’m good! LOL That was the reason why I asked her that question. I have been following her FB page for 4 years..  she is AWESOME. I admire her. She’s a GREAT LEADER and SPEAK WITH BOLDNESS.. just as myself . I’ve never inboxed her, spoken with her over the phone, or met her.  We don’t talk PERIOD! So when she posted 3 comments on her page that  her daughter is a Virgin, she’s in college full time, then she started saying that she could post anything on her FB page she wanted, and started on herself on how successful she was, and that if I wanted her to coach me she could, other than that sit back and watch her family as closely as I have been. She wrote 3 different post from my question above. I was like WHOA!  What type of people does she mess with? How many people/women have turned on her? What type of people are in her circle? She went completely into left field…. I WAS HEATED..  AND READY TO GET WITH HER….DETROIT MICHIGAN MURDER CAPITOL OF THE WORLD STYLE!

I just sat there in shock and shook my head remembering a post I had written on my FB page  March 10, 2015…..”Look at everything as positive, Until it proves itself negative.”SHE PROVED EXACTLY THAT!. Does she care? Nope probably not.. I DO.. and here’s why. I RESPECT LEADERS. I ADMIRE THEM.. I LEARN FROM THEM….I would never ever want to go off like she did to me IN FRONT OF HER CONGREGATION, FAMILY AND FRIENDS ON FACEBOOK. AND ON MY PAGE.. I DON’T PLAY THAT PERIOD!!  I would never cripple another member of Christ.. especially on FB, in front of people who they influence everyday.  WHAT?? NEVER THAT!!! That will 50/50 turn people away from God. OH NO NO!!!! NEVER NAW! People who admire them, people who respect them, people who report to them. I would never want that in front of my Raisingurls. HOW DOES THAT LOOK? What does your response say? A WHOLE LOT!!!!!!! I AM NOT YOUR ENEMY PASTOR!

As I sat there and talked myself out of going “Mack and Bewick” on her on FB…. I saw the big picture. God spoke to me * so glad I can hear his voice*. He said La’Crease don’t take her comment to heart. It wasn’t even about you. She gets lots of emails, phone calls, in boxes of how she brags. Women cling to her just because they think her anointing can “jump on them”. She’s been hurt by so many women family and friends that she doesn’t know how/who to trust. That these things has made her defensive and she’s very territory about everything she love and built. Every so often she has to make it known that she knows who the people are that hurt her,  that talks about her, that talk about her family, she has to prove that she is strong…God-made, and nothing will stop her. PUBLICLY OR PRIVATE.She knows they are watching. She will let it be known.  He said your comment…unleashed what she was due to say anyway to anyone/those * THEY KNOW WHO THEY ARE*  who have a problem with her and anything she says or does. Under all of that is a woman who loves ME.., and want to see everyone succeed. I GOT THAT! I’LL PAY FOR IT!

After hearing that…. I decided to post a  comment basically saying…Wait wait… I admire you as a leader…. I just wanted to know how your congregation is doing… which like I said before I always update my pages on how my Raisingurls are doing. Off course everything was erased. I always feel that GREAT LEADERS can always report great things about those who they influence. Another thing that really made me mad was that I never ever ever go back and forth with FB people. That is so childish to me. I have 2 sisters.. same mother same father, married and grew up in the same home. We weren’t allowed to fight and that’s the reason why we are close today. We never ever ever ever EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER get mad and stay mad with each other.. and we never, EVER, EVER, EVA FALL OUT with each other. So all my life my motto is… ” If I don’t get into it with MY SISTERS  WHO  I SEE EVERYDAY.. I WILL NEVER, EVER, EVER GET IN TO IT WITH ANOTHER WOMAN.. OR FB PEOPLE… NOT IN THIS LIFE.” I’ll disconnect from you first. I’m 2 years from 50…..In not spending the last days in FOOLISHNESS… back and forth with folks who I don’t know .. and don’t know me. I just can’t. My thought is this.. how bout we disconnect FOR NOW  and hook back up on JUDGEMENT DAY? Getting into it with women.. is just not on my “TO DO LIST”.

Sad thing is… her Church folks were commenting saying that I was jealous. Her husband and daughter checked in. Aw… man. If I was having words with someone on my FB page.. I would hope a friend would in box me and say… CREE STOP IT!!!!! STOP IT NOW!!! Disconnect from this person and keep it moving.  I DONT NEED ANYONE COMING TO MY OFFENSE AND ME… saying ‘ Thank you to other subliminal messages/postings pertaining directly to the original post.” . DO NOT RESPOND HARSHLY!!! DO NOT DO IT!!!! I would be so MAD.. to see others chime in on a post where they don’t even know this other party.  Assuming that I was right!  Assuming that I could never do no wrong! Assuming that its OKAY TO COMMENT ON SOMETHING THAT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH THEM. As a LEADER I THINK THAT WAY. Because in the end.. LaCrease is going to find the peace with that person. But  the ONLOOKERS AND COMMENTORS wont be so quick to get over it. So sad.

Its amazing how petty we can become when we feel someone is coming after us, our kids especially….when its not even like that. In her post she talked about how great her step daughter was doing. She’s beautiful too. Now.. had I took the post as bragging and sarcastic…. we could have had a pissing contest all day about how GREAT her step daughter is and my ONE AND ONLY CHILD/DAUGHTER . But God stopped me.. that’s how WOMEN OF GOD GET CAUGHT UP. They listen to the enemy one hot second and that’s how it changes everything. End up having to erase the post, and the part I hate… people asking questions after wards.. UGH…

Even though I wanted to let her know… sister… I am not jealous as someone on your FB page said… MY daughter graduated from Wayne State with HONORS .. working on her masters. Living in her own apartment Downtown, make so much money she gives it away. Work with Judges and PROSECUTORS at the Wayne County Prosecuting Office, meeting and working with many city leaders to strengthen our Youth. Working daily  with Social Workers * INTERVIEWING AND HIRING THEM* . In charge of programs in the city to help those in need for food stamps and to help with Electric/Gas Bill payment plans. Board of Directors, worked in soup kitchens weekly.. too many things to even think about. So.. we could have pissed that thread out all day. Showed her photo and LOOKED IGNORANT AFTERWARDS FOR DOING IT.. People can see for themselves.

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Her dad at her downtown apartment!

But that childish. I rather for a person to meet HER in person, find out what SHE DOES, and who SHE IS .. RATHER than to read about it on FB.. ANY DAY!ANY DAY! ANY DAY! ANY DAY! ANY DAY!

In closing… Here’s what I learned. When you’re a person of INFLUENCE.. and a LEADER… never get into a pissing contest with folks in front of them. You may have to apologize later for being wrong. But if you’re prideful and arrogant.. you will find that their PRESENCE IS THE ROAR/LOVE OF YOUR LIFE.

I also learned to never ever, ever EVER  fall out, bicker with OTHER women… IT GOES AGAINST WHAT I TEACH MY RAISINGURLS , its petty, childish, ignorant and ungodly. I don’t do this with MYYYYYYY 2  SISTERS I lived and grew up with since they were born….I  WONT  DARE WASTE time and energy doing it with other women/people PERIOD! EVA. IMG_0803peed

Look at everything as positive, Until it proves itself negative.

I learned that people pay close attention at how you handle conflict, offense, problems, issues, and debates. If you’re a LEADER, you’re graded HARDER, you have to be mindful of who is watching, what are they learning from this. Am I showing them who I am? Do I have to work harder to gain that persons trust in me over my mistake? What did THEY take from this? Are their any enemies here, or just a misunderstanding? You cannot be a LEADER and nut up on folks just because you think they are coming after you, your family and those you LOVE.

In closing…  If you want to know the Spirit of that person go to their FB page and look at what is on their mind.GO BACK YEARS IF YOU WANT.. SEE WHAT KIND OF PERSON THEY ARE.  Look at what they write, what their mindset is. What keeps their attention. God, Peace, Money, Stuff/Things, LOVE, KINGDOM BUILDING, Inspiration, bickering, conflict, debates, TEST THE SPIRIT. You should know better than that.. to think I would come for your family… when I have both parents alive and married. all my siblings well and doing well. All my nieces and nephews are ALIVE AND well, graduated, and not in jail. All of my cousins are alive… 1st and 2nd sets! All of my aunts are ALIVE on both sides and my parents are in their 60’s.. and I only lost a uncle. I’m blessed.. and if I love  AND RESPECT my family.. I love AND RESPECT yours too. God Bless You !

Be Blessed!

If you want to be a great leader, remember to treat all people with respect at all times. For one, because you never know when you’ll need their help. And two, because it’s a sign you respect people, which all great leaders do.

 

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