When you walk into a HOME….. Â the ATMOSPHERE should ALWAYS grab you at the front door. Allow God to quiet your Spirit so that you can discern what you’ve just entered.

















Living to Learn Life Lessons


























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Friday night my 2 sisters and I went out to dinner at Applebees…. we sat for 5 hours talking and catching up on our lives. We were having many conversations but the one that stood out the most was the fact that we’re not jealous when it comes to being in a relationship. For me I was never a jealous person until I met my daughters father. Before him I was never insecure. I knew I was pretty, had a great family, nice personality… but when I met him and having to deal with all the women. It made me a bitter person. It took me years to get over him and over the way the relationship made me feel. Over the years I met some pretty good men, that always made me feel so loved and so wonderful. I never had to deal with jealousy again.
The reason why I’m writing this is to say to my Sisters out there. Know you’re beautiful. Know that you are loved by God no matter how a man make you feel. Know that if you have to be in a relationship that makes you have to always look over your shoulders because of other women, or have to fight or go back and forth…. please don’t waste anytime getting help, or leaving that relationship. What woman in their right mind want to feel jealous and insecure of another woman? Women these days lose themselves in a marriage or in a unmarried relationship. You have to still love your life and enjoy it.
Let me say this too…. Sisters, you have to do your part in making your man feel secure. When you start trying to make him jealous, then one day down the line, it just maybe you….. who gets jealous . That’s a dangerous game to play. Find ways to entertain yourselves while he’s not around. Visit family and friends….. Don’t build your life around him…. that when he wants and needs a break, you find yourself whining and bored. Many women push themselves away from their family and friends when they get married or enter a relationship. Never do that. You never want to look up and have no one….but him. Down the line it makes him uncomfortable, and he’ll have to always find ways to entertain you. That’s not fair. Build your own life, and at the end of the day… Â go home to the LOVE OF YOUR LIFE.
Be Blessed!
Listen to yourself and in that quietude you might hear the voice of God. – Dr. Maya AngelouÂ


Communication, Personality, Keeping it moving
Finding my purpose in life.
What is my calling? What are my gifts?
Communication– I found out early in life that when I spoke…. people listened. I never found myself to be an interesting person at all, but I knew that the way I expressed myself in Honesty and in Truth people trusted me. When I speak, I aim to get right to the point. I learned that in order to be a great communicator, you have to use different tones of voice. My dad use to always scream at us to get his point across, and I HATED THAT. So when I had my daughter, I screamed at her. But what I found out is, just like me, she didn’t require that tone of voice. She was just like me a gentle gurl, all we needed was to be told once, in a nice tone of voice and we got the point. I’m glad I learned that before she got in her teens. Because there’s no telling how her communications skills would be today. I thought I was good at communicating, she may have me beat….. and I’m good!!!
When dealing with people, communication is one of my best traits. I always make sure my facial expression is approachable. That’s very important because who wants to hold a conversation with someone whose face is twisted and unpleasant? It goes both ways, when I want something, and I have to approach a person in charge, I always make sure my smile is on, and my body language and face expression is not defensive. That’s important because these are people who are in position to give you either an answer you’re looking for, or one you have to negotiate. I have gotten myself out of plenty of situations by being able to communicate and use facts that will give me a desired out come. I use to feel that you have to “get with people” in order to get what you want. I found out very quickly that people who have attitudes, have the most drama stories to share. My goal in life is to have the most success stories to share. I know for a fact, that communication is apart of my calling.
Personality– Growing up, I felt that I was a complete “nerd”. I was always in my room alone reading. But when I got in my 20’s, I knew I had a huge personality when, if there was 9 of us in the room, I would get into it with all 9 people before the night was over. LOL That’s bad. I didn’t know how to control my mouth, or my behavior. All I knew was that I had this huge personality, and for some reason when the night was over, I knew how to make up with EVERY person in the room. And I did…. every single time. I admit my personality always got me in trouble with my family, friends, and my jobs. I had no control of something so powerful. My strong personality got me in trouble, but my even stronger communication skills got me out of it. Once I knew I had these gifts, I started using them for good. Not to argue or debate with anyone, but to inspire, uplift and encourage people. I combine my gifts to be a great listener by using Godly wisdom, and reading my bible daily. I knew how to love and to receive love because that’s all my parents showed me growing up. By reading and writing, I studied the behavior of people, and by communicating I was able to get things in my FAVOR. Once I realized the Power my personality had, I wanted to do right. I wanted to be a better person because people listened to me. They wanted me in their presence. I made them smile, laugh and look at life in a different light. When before I made them angry and mad at me. I lost a lot of friends and jobs because of my personality, and I’m still learning.
When I was in my teens I would read my bible every day. I was addicted to the stories and to the Love God have for us. I would find interesting Scriptures and write them down, go through the white pages and mail them to people. I have this desire to see people go to Heaven (((make it))), then and more especially now. When I moved out on my own, I had more money to buy postage stamps. I never told anyone, I just did it. I would pray over the stack, and take them to the mailbox which was at the corner of my apartment. I know for a fact, that having a strong personality is apart of my calling.
Keep it Moving– This is one gift that I knew I had, but hated using it. I associated it with being mean or funny acting. But I NEVER, EVER, EVER, EVER, EVER, knew that it was needed to go with my personality. I now realize that I attract a lot of people, and for the people who aren’t good for me…. I need the gift of keeping it moving. I have absolutely no problems with letting people go. It takes my two Sisters to sit and tell this story about me. They say I don’t give chances I just cut people off. I do give chances, they just see when I’m done. God has always, always showed me who was for me and was not, it was always my choice to keep them in the picture. I always knew that when I cut you off, it was a WRAP!!! IM DONE.
I love people, but I’m not attached to anyone on this earth. God gave me the Entrance to Love everyone, but he also showed me the Exit to keep it moving. ITS ONE OF MY FAVORITES TOO. I know for a fact, that the gift of keeping it moving is apart of my calling.
Tomorrow * Final* – Travel, Business, Entertainment
A few weeks after that, I was looking into the parking lot from my window, when I noticed that the 24 hour security guy had the gate opened. Every time someone has to come through the gate, he has to push the button to let them in. Well, I was heated that it was open. I want that gate to be closed at all times. To go outside to your car and its not there is a terrible feeling, and I don’t wish that on anyone. So, I marched down stairs like I was the POLICE and asked him why did he have that gate open? He said “I have it open sometimes because its not a lot of traffic at night and I’m facing them anyway. I said … SO WHATS YOUR PUPOSE OF EVEN BEING HERE THEN? I said … my van was stolen on this shift and I feel that it should be closed and when someone pull up then you open it. I guess he saw that I was mad. LOL He was blunt and truthful too. He said.. if they wanted to steal a car in here, all they have to do is what they did to you. Come in through the gate, one on the passenger side and one driver. Pull up to the car and hop in it. He said all I can do is call the Police . I was so irritated when he said that… but he was telling the truth. I went up to my apartment and was on FIRE.
Through the night I had time to think about it , he was right. That’s what made me question myself and ask…. was I mad at what he said, or how to the point he said it? I guess my answer would be…. to the point. So, the next day as I was leaving the building, I wanted to make friends with him, because I was wrong, and he knew I was 15 seconds away from turning into the Incredible Hulk in that lobby. LOL This is how I approached him. I said… Wasn’t I mad at you last night and you still didn’t close the gate”? He laughed!!! HE said yes… all I was doing was telling you that if they wanted to steal a car they’ll get it anyway. He said I’m right here watching the gate and cameras, and still all I could physically do is call the Police. Once he started talking, and I listened…. I knew it was something about him that reminded me of MEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE.. I asked him…. when is your birthday? He said Sep 6. I knew it.. I knew it.. He’s a VIRGO just like me. He said yess, people get mad because I’ll tell the truth. I couldn’t do anything but laugh. Now he’s my boy. LOL
Yesterday I call my self chatting with him for a few minutes before I went to my apartment, even though I had groceries in my hands. Whew Chile…. he can GO!!! Baaaaaby I thought my ice cream was never going to make it to the freezer. LOL It never fails… whenever I meet a MALE VIRGO.. we always get into it. Never fails. Then once we start to talking and understanding each other …. we find out that were so much alike.
I still think the MEN are crazy… the women are SWEET LOL
Be Blessed
Where works of the flesh exists, there is NO joy