My Virgo Sister @demimckinney RHOA/BLOG

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First question? Why are we so nice? What is it about us that makes us care free, friendly and sweet? And I ask this question because people can see it on our faces. Most of us don’t have attitudes… we have to be pushed to that limit. Now, don’t get me wrong or mixed up. I don’t read horoscopes daily * haven’t in years as a matter of fact* and I can’t remember the last time I did. But I’m writing this because I see a pattern of good women being thrown shade and all kinds of debree. That’s when I find out their sign and YUP…. they always come back as a VIRGO.

Sunday night I was watching RHOA…..but a few weeks ago they introduced Demetria McKinney. She played in Tyler Perry’s House of Payne. The gurl is beautiful,  and has such a sweet and loving Spirit about her. So nice.  I cant stand when women don’t want to get to know you… they start asking offensive questions, instead of listening to her share stories and speak. Its  so sad because as Demetria answered their IGNORANT QUESTIONS she was trying desperately to read the faces of these cut throat goons. I felt so bad for her in the beginning, because she came in PEACE. She really * well maybe not frfr* thought that she could meet some ladies that were on the same level as herself and be cool. It killed me to see Demetria’s smiling face and nice attitude knowing they were talking about her behind her back and being FAKE….. while trying to please them with a trip and personal rooms. Many of them complained about how small it was. * blank stare* She was so sincere.

Then I thought about me. How sweet I can be and mean well with what ever I’m doing for someone, but always in the back of their mind…. its not enough. I cant stand ungratefulness. As they sat at the dinner table and chatted.. Phaedra and her had a conversation about throwing shade and asking….. were she ever on drugs… not to mention her relationship with Roger Bobb. I could see the heat on Demetria’s face, and I can see that she knew for the first time… how she’s gotta handle these goons.

A Virgo woman is nice, sweet, and sorta naive. Yeah…. we may act dumb… but we don’t miss a beat.. and if we do.. trust me we’ll go into our heads and PULL THAT FILE… And once we read it.. and remember how shady, slick, funky acting, you were…. its on and poppin. See, you can catch us off guard the first time, but once we realize what’s going on….we cut all games short. I was so heated.. I could see myself flipping the table over on those heffas. Just being disrespectful and mean. All in the name of “somebody has to leave next season and it aint me…cause I bring the drama”. That’s all… come on now.

So… I’m sitting there waiting for the Virgo to come out in Demetria.. and it peaked… but she didn’t get a chance to really get out everything she wanted to say because other women got into it. But as the weeks go on….. these goons are going to see the real her… and she’s going to have to give them that Virgo stare… eye to eye… and rip them apart LYRICALLY SPEAKING. That’s the only way those goons will stop coming for her.

See.. these group of reality stars don’t fight. You have to use your mouth and do plenty of homework on them. Meeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee… I can’t do all that talking…. Um um… nope can’t do it. I been done turned over ALL the tables, smack one so hard.. 5 will feel it. This is the very reason why I don’t have many female friends.. I HATE DRAMA.. I can’t stand women getting into it. If I can get alone with the 2 Sisters I grew up with in the same home for 22 years….. then I WISH THE HELL I WOULD… fall out with some “fighting for a season heffas”. Never that. Eva that!

Demetria boo, you aint gotta lay hands on these non fighting goons… but you gotta go there and let them know…. they got you messed up. And you know we Virgos.. we let stuff build up, THEN we nut up.SOMETIMES… not all the time. We do carry “on the spot checks”…..but don’t let it get to that point. I can already see your smile is going to change real quick as the episodes play….All I say is… stay classy… no fighting…. and check em on the spot. Don’t let a conversation go till the next meet up… tell them how you feel on site. Like my gurl Lisa Wu said….. “where you give it, is where you get it”.

Be Blessed!

Cree

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Behind the Scenes~ Your Kids at School * A Parents MUST READ* Crees blog entry

KENNYBehind the Scenes~ Your Kids at SchoolMy first weeks working at my High School, I truly got the shock of my LIFE. When I say to you all, that it was the SHOCK of my LIFE believe me!!!

I work in the lunchroom, deans office, security team, and when ever the teachers need me. One of my first days working, I went up to a table where about 7 or 8 students were sitting….. and asked them a question…… THE LEADER of the GROUP OF GURLS said to them… DON’T SAY ANYTHING TO HER, DON’T SPEAK TO HER, DON’T TALK TO HER, DON’T LOOK AT HER……IGNORE HER!!!! And here’s the kicker….. THEY DIDN’T SAY ONE WORD!!!! I was SO outdone… I just walked away. #numb

Out done and out numbered… I went into the corners of MY MIND and did some negotiating with myself. First, I had to negotiate with the “TEENAGER SIDE” of ME ….because for a MOMENT… the ADULT in me “LEFT THE BUILDING”. LOL LOL But the MOTHERLY side of me kicked in, and had to come up with a solution AS TO HOW I WAS GOING TO HANDLE THIS!!!

I remembered something the DEAN of STUDENTS told me on DAY ONE. He said these kids will DOUBLE TEAM you, HE SAID but…..once you get the LEADER…………. you got the WHOLE CREW * on your side*!!!

EVERYDAY I studied each table and found out who was the LEADER, male and female. Your child can/will sit between 2-3 tables with different friends, but the LEADER of any table….. always sit in their place. Between classes in a weeks time, I found each LEADER ALONE in the hallways and pulled them to the side.

I said… “Hey” can you come here for a minute boo * boo, sweety, honey are words of endearment, kids/teens always respond to these words*, I want to talk to you. I smiled and said what’s your name? I introduced myself and said this. I know YOU are the LEADER of your table. I said…. all I ask is that you and your friends clean up your mess in the lunchroom, stay on your side, and go to class before the second bell rings. I said to them… by you clearly being the LEADER ……… understand that you have the POWER to steer YOUR GURLS, and YOUR BOYS to do bad things OR good things. I said I see this in YOU… and I get that. I said USE YOUR INFLUENCE to do GOOD. I said to the one LEADER,* who told the others not to talk to me* ANY TIME YOU CAN GET 7 OR 8 GURLS TO NOT TALK TO AN ADULT….. YOU DA BADDEST GURL/CHICK * we laughed.. I had to go to her level on that part* !!! I said IM GOING TO BE WATCHING YALL EVERYDAY. I said I want you to use that POWER for GOOD!!! I said God gives INFLUENCE to some…. its a gift. You are chosen to LEAD. Be a GOOD LEADER. I said encourage your “team” to go to class, clean up after themselves, graduate, stop cursing… I SAID YOU HAVE THE POWER, THESE GURLS LISTEN TO YOU!!! They all got it, and walked away with smiles, feeling good about themselves.

Here I am 3 MONTHS into MY JOB and I can’t get those same GURLS AND THEIR LEADERS to call me MS. WALKER…. its auntie this, auntie that, auntie, auntie, auntie AUNTIE. LOL LOL Auntie can you buy me this, auntie do you have this, auntie take our photo, auntie buy me some chips, AUNTIE COME HERE, AUNTIE LISTEN TO THIS…. AUNTIE I NEED YOUR ADVICE, AUNTIE WHY THIS, WHY THAT.. BUT I LOVE IT. LOL

Training up Leaders
Proverbs 22:6
New King James Version (NKJV)

6 Train up a child in the way he should go,
And when he is old he will not depart from it.

HOMEWORK for TONIGHT WITH YOUR CHILD/CHILDREN IS THIS…. For a FUN and positive way to get to know your child EVEN BETTER… ask them these questions.

1. Ask your child how many people do you sit with at lunch. *NOTE* the same people sit together at the same TABLE … EVERYDAY.

2. Ask them… If I asked you who* NAME ONLY ONE PERSON* at YOUR table can get the others to do ANYTHING… who would that person be? And then ask…. why did YOU chose them?

3. Ask them… when lunch period comes, what is the thing you LOVE most about it.

Then explain to them the IMPORTANCE OF BEING A POSITIVE LEADER.

Where works of the flesh exists, there is NO joy

  • Anderson Woodard Jr. miss social worker
  • MzLela P Tucker Cree girl you are an inspiration , a Gem those girls are lucky to have you by their side, you were right this is your calling you are going to change alot of kids lives for the better just watch and see we need more positive role models like you in our community I wish there was one of you in each school. / High school, middle school, even elementary schools cause this is where the real nitty gritty starts love you Cree keep doing what your doing and may god continue to bless you and bless the kids threw you this has certainly made my day.
  • Tonya Mitchell Wow that’s crazy
  • S Atiya Simm Wil Good good stuff! I am reposting! I talk to my daughter about this all the time! She is a leader by nature and I tell her what a huge responsibilty that is. It is hard being a leader especially as a child because most adults don’t know how to handle kids with these qualities. I cannot tell you how many teachers I see getting offended because their students who are leaders take charge! You have to be careful with these type of kids because people are always trying to break them down. That is why kids who are leaders usually wind up using their influence in the wrong way because they struggle to try to fit in. It takes a strong person to lead in the right way. Good for you for identifying these kids and helping them lead in the correct way!
  • Charlene Hayes Very deep ..and your the woman for the job keep shining your lite the kids need it ..
  • MzLela P Tucker Hey Anderson I think that’s a good career path for her was just thinking the same thing Cree you should look into that for your future I can see you opening up your own youth center too that would be so good for the kids and you…..
  • Lacrease Walker MzLela P Tucker gurlllll yes thats my dreammmmmm. Thanks sooo much for the encouragement
  • MzLela P Tucker Your welcome sweetie anytime….
  • Betty Williams God is qualifying you to do this job and you are doing it well.
  • Rose Hicks @Lacrease, I love the way you were able to change that groupthink from negative to positive. Group think is something that can destroy, kill, and take over the minds of those when they look up to cetain individuals.
  • Lacrease Walker Yes it can take over their minds. Once I was able to talk to the “leaders” of the group I was able to know the other gurls and I TALK THEM TO them and encourage them to use their own minds.. and do their own thing.
    Kimberly Cook Amen!!!! Lecrease Thanks!!!! FOR THE advice. I Have a 14yrs old SON going to H.S. THIS school year talking about peer pressure its ON got heads up NOW. Then I have a soon to be 13yrs.Old Son in middle school. I PRAY MY BOY’S UP EVERY DAY BECAUSE THE DEVIL IS A LIAR
    I TELL MY BOY’S TO MEDITATE & SAY PHILIPPIANS 4:13
    AS A MATTER OF FACT IT’S POSTED ON THERE DOOR WITH OTHER ENCOURAGING Prayers TO BLOCK ANYTHING TRYING TO COME Against THEM.
    AGAIN THANKS!!! EVERYONE NEEFDS TO BE MINDFUL AND MAKE SURE YOU HAVE YOUR HOUSE IN ORDER. BUT, Let ME SAY THIS NO MATTER WHAT YOU teach YOUR child IT’S UP TO them TO choose to MAKE THE right choice. GOD knows I instill IT THE word INTO MY BOY’S LIFE.
    THE Choices THEY MAKE WILL DETERMINE THERE outcome Positive OR Negative AS a MOTHER I’M was praying Blessing & favor.

    Students above 2013 Graduates

#darkgirls Dark girls a true story…..Crees Blog Entry

cresterI was talking to one of my co-workers yesterday, when she asked me have I seen the previews of “Dark girls” premiering on OWN Sunday night at 10pm.

 

I told her yes, as a matter of fact, I tweeted about it and got a retweet from OWN. She went on to tell me that when she was growing up her grandmother use to tell her how dark she was, and that it made her self-esteem low. I was really shocked by this, because she’s 44, have a live personality, and is very pretty. She told me horror stories about having dark skin and growing up. I was like WOW… and all my life I grew up being asked ” how does it feel to be light-skin”? I didn’t like that!!!

 

What I found out is, many parents are responsible for building a child up or tearing them down. Me and my sister who is under me are light skin, but my brother and baby sister are dark skin. WE didn’t grow up comparing skin color with each other. We weren’t even allowed to fight, only debate. So when we all left home and went out on our own, we were like “strangers” when it came this topic. This was foreign to us. I HATED when people always wanted to talk about skin color, in my mind we are all people. Then to make matters worse for me, I had a beautiful shape and very popular because of my friendly and outgoing personality.

 

This Sunday its going to “kill” me to watch this show. I hate to see people, friends, and family divided over their skin color. My coworker told me that no matter how pretty people tell her she is, she still feels that her being dark skin has a lot to do with her self esteem issues. That just does something to me. I kept asking her… “who told you, that dark skin is not pretty”? Its the parents telling their children this mess, then its bad enough that they go to school and are being teased by other kids.

 

Some people are so quick to blame “white” people, but its not them, its our own people pumping this “dark skin, light skin”, into our children. Stop that MESS!!! Looking back at my first weeks at my job at the school, I think the reason why we didn’t hit if off right away, is because of this issue. By me not being a person who “just go with the flow” all the time, by me being standoffish and trying to learn my job, it probably to “her” made it seems as if I’m funny acting. Wow, talking to people and getting to know them for THEM and not for “who they seem to be” is the best thing 2 people can do. I hope that by watching “Dark girls” this Sunday can really shed some light on things.

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Where works of the flesh exists, there is NO joy