Hey ( Sigh)
To all my single sisters/brothers. Do you ever wonder why you are single sometimes? I know there are some areas that I need to brush up on, but I really wonder why I am still single.
Maybe Im too hard on men. I must admit, when I hear guys say “she cooked for me” and Im like saying to myself ” nicka what have you done so great to deserve a home cook meal’? Did you work today and tell me of the plans you made for a week in Florida? Did you take one of my phone bill stubs and paid my bill? Did you go to the grocery store and buy dinner “on the strength of”? Did you come over my house and clean up while I wasnt feeling well? Im just trying to understand the motivation of why women cook for men they just meet?
Now dont get me wrong. I can see it in a relationship. But men love home cook meals and they are like cats in the department…………………..they will come back. I mean, I just cant see myself going in my refrigerator looking at my steaks, salad and bake potatoes offering it to him, when he can at ANY TIME say to me~ when I ask him to do something special …….WE DONT GO TOGETHER…….WE AINT A COUPLE……….I AINT YOUR MAN……..WE AINT SLEPT TOGETHER……..AINT NO RING ON MY FINGER.
For now, I rather let the resturants cook for us. After he is my husband……………………its on and poppin! Until then, I’ll by dinner day, he;ll buy the other, he’ll buy another day, and I’ll buy…..and so on and so on.
Making dinner, eating home cook meals for a man should be personal. Not for ALL the men we meet and date.
What are your thoughts?
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Inside the mind of cree 
One reason I’m still single is because I’ve experienced so much that I refuse to experience again that I subconsciously push people away if things get too good. Every time I really think I should be married by now, I see something in myself that shows me I’m really not.
I told a friend just last week who told me her matrimonial clock was ticking. I asked how she was so sure it wasn’t a timebomb? Be patient, God will bless you with HIM when He knows you’re ready.
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It’s funny you should post this yesterday when part of my Pastor’s message yesterday consisted of this…People come for a reason or a season and we need to discern which one that is. We need to stop extending our permanent resources on temporary people.
It has been my experience too that men don’t mind asking you to cook them a meal (esp. when they know you can throw down in that dept) or share with them with some other comfort that a home provides. However, rarely do you see a man come to your door with a bag of groceries, get up and wash the dishes after eating a meal, pick up a broom much less a mop, or just plain take the initiative to do something for you on the basis of “just because.”
I’m not married yet either and I would like to be. But I have wasted so much time playing house and wife and have been doing all the wrong things that now I just want to straighten it all out and get “me” right before I can do anything else. We have so many examples in the Bible on the importance of waiting for God. Hannah is an example of what happens when we wait and let God. I’m going to wait.
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I’m single cause I got a hard head and I seem to always choose the wrong guy. I can hear that voice saying “J keep going keep going wrong one” but I just disobey and stop and do wrong anyway then go crying to God and repenting. I know my faults and he is delivering me one step at a time I aint half as bad as I used to be so I can see the change taking place… I just have to hold to my deliverance… nice post Cre!
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The main reason why I’m single at this point right now is just to get my mind clear and get myself right. In order for God to bless me with a man that will love me unconditionally I have to forgive myself and those that hurt me. All the things that happen to me in love happened for a reason and it made it better for the next man. I can’t divulge in the past because the past is a forgotten memory in my mind. Ima keep the faith until then God is gonna be my main focus. This was a good topic Crease!!!
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