My New Nephew
Meet my new Nephew!!!
My brother had his first baby on Jan 25, and I’m so happy for him. I picked them up from the hospital on Tuesday, and I was so happy to finally meet him. They live directly around the corner from me, so I will be seeing him again soon. I looooove this little boy. I had a instant connected to him as soon as I saw a photo of him. I wanted to kiss him, but you cant be kissing on peoples baby when their brand new. Goodness, I think about this boy everyday. LOL LOL My one and only brother is 41. He loves this little boy so much. I love his gurlfriend she is sooooo prefect for him too. Okay.. Im rambling, but look at my baby.. I call him baby bobby!!!
* my screen saver* lol
PEACE in the WORKPLACE/BLOG
Hey Family!!! Whats going on? I’ve been working a lot lately so I haven’t been on as much…but I have got to share this.
When your at work.. do everything in your POWER to mind your own business. There are so many people who have no PEACE… and will do everything in their power to make sure you don’t either. Its unreal how much DRAMA women start in the work place. Me…. I watch that mess from the side lines. Then guess what? They see me with all this PEACE on my face, and they want to come to me for advice and to listen. Yall know me…. Imma tell you the truth., CAUSE I HAVE NOTHING TO LOSE -EVER, EVER, EVER when it comes down to it. I promise about 5 people have sat with me for my breaks to tell me whats going on with them. Its something about me that draws people to me. I don’t even know these people, but they see something in me. Most times, I’m just listening…. you know people are going to do what they want to do anyway. But why me all the time? I want to sit on my break and do me, go through my phone, read messages and just think for a few minutes. ALONE!!!
I hate that its so much drama at the job that you can cut it with a knife. I mind my own business *when they let me* and punch out when its time to go. PRAISE GOD THANK YOU JESUS …BECAUSE WHEN I TURN THE KEY TO MY APARTMENT.. ITS SO LOVING AND SO PEACEFUL…. I CREATED MY OWN ATMOSPHERE!!!
My words for today are….. FIND YOU SOME PEACE AND KEEP IT~ BE BLESSED
A FACEBOOK CRY FOR HELP/BLOG
Woman Found Stabbed To Death After Posting Facebook Warning, Ex-Boyfriend Arrested
Less than one week after Michelle Rowling, 25, of East Saint Louis, posted a cryptic Facebook status alluding to her death, she was found fatally stabbed in her apartment and her newly paroled ex-boyfriend, Montrell Cooper, 25, has been arrested in connection with the crime, reports The Belleville News Democrat.
“So, if anything happens to me tonight just let my kids know I loved them dearly and tell my momma I love her,” Rowling posted on Nov. 25 at 9:49 p.m.
On Dec. 1, East Saint Louis police responded to a disturbance call at approximately 9:00 p.m. and discovered the young mother of two stabbed several times on the floor of her apartment, reports KSDK.com.
She was rushed to a local hospital where she was pronounced dead on arrival.
In response to concerned friends commenting on her Facebook status, Rowling would share no details other than she had received horrible news. That news was that Cooper had been released from jail where he had been serving time since assaulting Rowling in August, said St. Clair County State’s AttorneyBrendan Kelly.
“From what I understand from others in jail with him that was his word, he was going to kill her,” said Rowling’s grandmother Diane Simmons.
The August incident was not Cooper’s first time assaulting Rowling.
In 2012, he served a year in jail for stabbing her in the neck; upon his release, he assaulted her again.
Rowling testified on Cooper’s behalf in the 2012 incident, so he received probation. In a court appearance on Monday, Cooper was released again after Rowling allegedly refused to testify against him.
“We often move forward with charges even when victims are not cooperative, hoping that if they see us standing up for them, they will stand up for themselves,” said Kelly, who had pushed for prison time in both incidents. ”The victim in this case actually testified in favor of the defendant.”
Cooper, who had been on the run in a Black SUV that was later found abandoned, turned himself in to East Saint Louis police Tuesday night and is being held on $200,000 bond.
He has not been charged and is being held on a probation violation.
“We want to question him about the stabbing death of Michelle Rowling,” East St. Louis Police ChiefMichael Floore said.
A candlelight vigil was held on Sunday night for Rowling.
“I don’t know which way to turn,” said her mother Cathy McGloson.
Rowling’s cousin, Danielle Lane, said that Cooper was always “quiet” around their family. When she spoke to Rowling on Thanksgiving Day she said that she was trying to leave him for good.
“She was happy, but she looked worried,” Lane said. “She told me about the domestic abuse with him. She wanted to be with him, but they weren’t getting along, so she was trying to leave him,” Lane said.
“I didn’t see her for about three weeks. When I saw her, I told her she needed to get out of that relationship because that wasn’t love. I tried to get her to meet up with me and do some things, but she wouldn’t,” Lane said.
“We need to put a stop to women being abused. No matter what your family or friends say or think, speak out. There is always help out there,” Lane said.
Rowling and Cooper have a 5-year-old daughter together, reports CBS News.
According to a recent report by the The Violence Policy Center (VPC) in Washington, D.C. Black women are about three times more likely to die at the hands of a current or ex-boyfriend than members of other races.
- In 2011, 492 black females were murdered by males at a rate of 2.61 per 100,000, compared to a rate of 0.99 per 100,000 for white females.
- Where the relationship could be determined, 94 percent of black females killed by males knew their killers. Nearly 15 times as many black females were murdered by a male they knew than were killed by male strangers.
- Of the black victims who knew their offenders, 52 percent were wives, common-law wives, ex-wives, or girlfriends of the offenders. Ninety-three percent of the homicides were intra-racial.
Read full report here.
See Rowling’s Facebook status below:
Being OUTSPOKEN… A WRONG AND RIGHT TIME/BLOG
I was talking to a friend last night, and our phone call conversation trigger several thoughts about being OUTSPOKEN at the wrong time. This is a subject that’s very serious to me, and I speak in COMPLETE BOLDNESS when it comes to it. I touched on this in the last blog entry…. but this one.. I’m going in.
Everyone who knows me know that when you call me, email, text, or we talk FACE TO FACE…I’m going to give you the real. I don’t add sugar to my conversations, ONLY salt. I’m not going to short cut you, or baby you. I can feel when you’re leaving something out, and I can tell when you’re adding to it.I ask a lot of QUESTIONS… you already know. Many people come to me for advice because I can see the bigger picture. I use Godly Wisdom, and not worldly tickles. I’m not her. Period.
If I feel you’re holding back the complete truth, I’m going to shut down the conversation completely, and keep it moving. I will NOT hold a conversation with anyone, who doesn’t tell the full story…. it’s a waste of my time. I will never again hold 1 and 2 hour conversations just to listen * especially if the story is stupid and doesn’t need to be told* just because you want me to listen and not comment. FIND ANOTHER FRIEND FOR THAT. FIND A FRIEND WHO WILL LISTEN ONLY.. IM NOT HER…… AT ALL… PERIOD. I don’t have time to say.. “yeah, um um, I understand, right, yes, okay… all through the conversation without any input. I refuse to spend that kinda time on those conversations…. phone a friend who will. I’m not mad or anything… I’m just not that friend. PERIOD.
Listen.. as Christians we have to learn when to speak and when to fall back. When to stay in our own lanes, and when its okay to share lanes. Its very ignorant to be “OUTSPOKEN” on the wrong things. Its very ignorant to tell a friend… those shoes are ugly, where you get that ugly red hat from? Why you have on those pants, the style is ugly. When are you going to comb your hair? What time are you getting in the tub… I smell something? But then…. when its time to pay a bill and negotiate with someone.. you can’t do it. When you need to tell someone to stay out of your room, you can’t tell them. When you need a neighbor to turn down their music you can’t knock on their door. When you need to get pass someone and you can’t say excuse me, you rather wait until they notice you’re standing there. When you need to ask for a loan and SCARED of hearing NO.. or I DON’T HAVE IT. Instead of being able to ask these things… the excuse is ALWAYS…. “I don’t want nobody telling me NO… and If I say it, its going to come out wrong”. What is that? That’s stupid as hell to me. You can open your mouth and put your 2 cents into everybody else’s conversation, but don’t know how to work your own lane.
You can tell someone what their job is, and what they need to do, when they need to do it and why…. but you can’t knock on a neighbors door and tell them the’re too loud watching a Football game? That &&&& is retarded to me!! You rather tell a friend their shoes are ugly…. IN THE NAME OF BEING HONEST. * because/whether they asked.. OR NOT”… but wont use that same honestly…. to knock on someone’s door and ask them to turn down their TV because its too loud.
As Christians.. we have to learn how to talk to people. The only reason why you feel its not going to “come out right” is because you catch attitude from people when they get mad at you for being in their business when you wasn’t invited. So now that its your business and its time for you to be a Boss, you can’t. We have to learn how to look at people in a non confrontational manner when speaking to them about an issue that would other wise cause conflict. We have to learn how to use voice control and direct eye contact with others. We have to usher in a Spirit of Peace when we speak. We have to go to God and ask him to calm us down before we ask a question or deliver a message to someone who may not take it well. This is a part of growing up, getting off milk and eating meat. You cannot be afraid “it won’t come out right”.. but at the same time… claiming how outspoken you are. Stop speaking when not asked., stop being so opinionated on things that doesn’t matter. Learn to pay attention to how things come on * a friend told me this*…. many times when you need an answer or something done, you need to learn how not to offend, so that the person can get it. That’s the whole key….. for them to GET IT. Stop feeling as if you have to say everything since its true….. when its not your story, important or necessary to say. Ask God to calm your storm before going to someone if you feel its going to lead to an argument or debate. Take YOU out of the situation and get things done people!!!
I know “outspoken” people who will tell you how dirty your car is….. but scared to ask the cashier for more ketchup because 1 isn’t enough. SMH!!!!
If we all told what we know of one another, there would not be four friends in the world- Blaise Pascal
Be Blessed!
Communication is Everything!/BLOG
Hey Family
Yesterday my mom invite me, my daughter, and niece over for dinner. We had a really good time talking and laughing at the dinner table. We got on the subject of being outspoken.
My niece was sharing the fact that she’s outspoken, but as she shared more conversations I realized that she was more outspoken when it came to asking questions about things she wanted to know. For example giving advice, and sharing personal stories. But when it came down to things that she really needed to outspoken in, she wasn’t. I taught her how to weed out things that wasn’t necessary to be outspoken and so drawn into, so that she could focus on the things that she needed to be outspoken in.
She shared with me that at her dad’s home she has her own bedroom. Someone went into her bedroom and took a few items out, that she saw else where in the home. There are only 2 people who live in the home. When I asked her why didn’t she confront the person* dad’s girlfriend* who went into her room and removed the items…. she felt that since she’s outspoken that it wouldn’t come out right, and that it would end up in an argument. I shared with her… see that was the time to be OUTSPOKEN. Someone went into your room and removed your items without your knowledge and consent. Instead of her being “outspoken” and to the point… but also direct to the person who did it to let them know that its not okay….. she didn’t say a word. This is a problem so many people like her have.
I find people to be outspoken, are outspoken about the wrong things!
I know because I use to be the same way. You cant go into a grocery store and go off on a cashier just because she tells you she can’t help you because she’s on lunch break, but at the same time offered to get you help. But then you get to the register to pay for your things, you stand there for 15 minutes waiting for a cashier to acknowledge your presence while her face is turned towards her coworker talking it up. That’s crazy to me. So many people do this and it drives me crazy. There reason for not saying anything is because ” if they say something ” THAT CLEARLY NEEDS TO BE SAID”, may not come out right”. These people want to say what they want to say… but don’t want to face confrontation when its something personal. Well this is something you need to speak up on. Its stupid to stand there for 15 minutes while someone talks while you need your merchandise rung.
Then I realized….. some people don’t know how to talk to others without offending. They’re so use to being outspoken, they never learned to speak in a tone where people “get it”. They try their hardest not to offend people WHEN IT COMES TO THEIR PERSONAL ISSUES. Its easier for them to be outspoken when it comes to issues that is not their own. I know so many people like this. They look at it this way…. if I tell this person how I feel about my things and I know that I’m “out spoken” even though I’m right, this could end in a heated confrontation. They don’t want that to happen, so they shut down. But when it comes to someone else’s issues and story, they feel its important to be “honest” and out spoken, not caring how the person feels because “they’re telling the truth about it.To them….. when they’re honest its okay to be “outspoken”. But when it comes to their issue, they’re scared it may offend someone. Wow!
The point I’m making is… learn how to talk to others so that they can “get it” and not be offended. Erase the word “outspoken” from your mind. It keeps you in a box to only be that way… when it comes to everybody else’s issue. Learn how to communicate, so that you can get your point across directly, clearly and in a non confrontational way..
Communication is Everything!
Be Blessed!
My Virgo Sister @demimckinney RHOA/BLOG
First question? Why are we so nice? What is it about us that makes us care free, friendly and sweet? And I ask this question because people can see it on our faces. Most of us don’t have attitudes… we have to be pushed to that limit. Now, don’t get me wrong or mixed up. I don’t read horoscopes daily * haven’t in years as a matter of fact* and I can’t remember the last time I did. But I’m writing this because I see a pattern of good women being thrown shade and all kinds of debree. That’s when I find out their sign and YUP…. they always come back as a VIRGO.
Sunday night I was watching RHOA…..but a few weeks ago they introduced Demetria McKinney. She played in Tyler Perry’s House of Payne. The gurl is beautiful, and has such a sweet and loving Spirit about her. So nice. I cant stand when women don’t want to get to know you… they start asking offensive questions, instead of listening to her share stories and speak. Its so sad because as Demetria answered their IGNORANT QUESTIONS she was trying desperately to read the faces of these cut throat goons. I felt so bad for her in the beginning, because she came in PEACE. She really * well maybe not frfr* thought that she could meet some ladies that were on the same level as herself and be cool. It killed me to see Demetria’s smiling face and nice attitude knowing they were talking about her behind her back and being FAKE….. while trying to please them with a trip and personal rooms. Many of them complained about how small it was. * blank stare* She was so sincere.
Then I thought about me. How sweet I can be and mean well with what ever I’m doing for someone, but always in the back of their mind…. its not enough. I cant stand ungratefulness. As they sat at the dinner table and chatted.. Phaedra and her had a conversation about throwing shade and asking….. were she ever on drugs… not to mention her relationship with Roger Bobb. I could see the heat on Demetria’s face, and I can see that she knew for the first time… how she’s gotta handle these goons.
A Virgo woman is nice, sweet, and sorta naive. Yeah…. we may act dumb… but we don’t miss a beat.. and if we do.. trust me we’ll go into our heads and PULL THAT FILE… And once we read it.. and remember how shady, slick, funky acting, you were…. its on and poppin. See, you can catch us off guard the first time, but once we realize what’s going on….we cut all games short. I was so heated.. I could see myself flipping the table over on those heffas. Just being disrespectful and mean. All in the name of “somebody has to leave next season and it aint me…cause I bring the drama”. That’s all… come on now.
So… I’m sitting there waiting for the Virgo to come out in Demetria.. and it peaked… but she didn’t get a chance to really get out everything she wanted to say because other women got into it. But as the weeks go on….. these goons are going to see the real her… and she’s going to have to give them that Virgo stare… eye to eye… and rip them apart LYRICALLY SPEAKING. That’s the only way those goons will stop coming for her.
See.. these group of reality stars don’t fight. You have to use your mouth and do plenty of homework on them. Meeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee… I can’t do all that talking…. Um um… nope can’t do it. I been done turned over ALL the tables, smack one so hard.. 5 will feel it. This is the very reason why I don’t have many female friends.. I HATE DRAMA.. I can’t stand women getting into it. If I can get alone with the 2 Sisters I grew up with in the same home for 22 years….. then I WISH THE HELL I WOULD… fall out with some “fighting for a season heffas”. Never that. Eva that!
Demetria boo, you aint gotta lay hands on these non fighting goons… but you gotta go there and let them know…. they got you messed up. And you know we Virgos.. we let stuff build up, THEN we nut up.SOMETIMES… not all the time. We do carry “on the spot checks”…..but don’t let it get to that point. I can already see your smile is going to change real quick as the episodes play….All I say is… stay classy… no fighting…. and check em on the spot. Don’t let a conversation go till the next meet up… tell them how you feel on site. Like my gurl Lisa Wu said….. “where you give it, is where you get it”.
Be Blessed!
Cree
Daddy’s Little Gurl/BLOG
Just a moment to share how important it is for a daughter to have both parents in her life. I grew up with both parents married before I was even born… and I’m the oldest. I never knew how important it really was.. until my daughter turned 12. Her dad was always in her life, and it became a joy to watch them talk, laugh and enjoy each other as she became an adult.
For the Christmas Holiday they went to Ohio, where he was born to enjoy family time. She stayed for 2 weeks, but he was back and forth. I love how she talks about him and the love they have for each other. They are so much alike its funny. He says she looks like me and built like me. I say she acts like him, talks like him, and loves to dress like him. Not to mention some days, she’s his twin!!! I can see him clear as day in her. He always speak well of me when they’re together sharing stories of our teenage years. That’s funny because I do the same thing when I’m with her. LOL
But there is one thing.. I tell her time and time again. Make sure that when you decide to get married and have a family that you chose a good man who loves you, and not for foolishness because YOUR DAD DOES NOT PLAY when it comes to you and his family. I tell her this all the time, and she knows this to be true. He may love his women.. but he’s not a fighter, he’s not into debates and arguments. He’s straight up and will not play about his 2 kids (son). He’ll want to meet him, grill him, look him in the eye and baaaaaaaaby have that talk with him. I told Nesha… make sure he come correct….because your daddy… IS NOT HAVING IT… So.. please don’t bring trouble to his door step by way of a nothing man who mean you no good.
*cousin in the middle*
That’s another main reason why I love their friendship/relationship because she knows he mean business. She knows this. Even though she’s a classy gurl…. these men can be tricky. It also makes me smile knowing that her dad will make sure she’s okay…this is one area of her life….. that is out of my jurisdiction. Her dad has her back!!! She betta chose wisely. Because her dad loves her, treats her like a Princess, and adores her dearly . * Click on the photos for a closer view*
Be Blessed!
Yes…/BLOG
Today, Lacrease, we believe God wants you to know that …
nothing is exciting if you know what the outcome is going to be.
You keep wanting to know how things will play out, keep asking to see the future. God doesn’t give anyone the power to know the future, because life becomes maddeningly boring when you know everything upfront. So, instead of struggling, enjoy the uncertainty – to be alive means to not know.
Can’t sleep and scared/BLOG
Just before Christmas I was given the keys to my new apartment. I had seven days to move out and I love the fact this apartment is still in the same building. I had to work that night so I didn’t go up to the apartment to make sure that everything was good before the leasing department was gone for the Christmas and New Year break. It was no big deal when I finally went up and realize that there were a few things that needed to be done. I decided to go ahead and move my things in anyway, plus I hadn’t signed the new lease yet. I was good.
After moving in *except the couch I slept on* and realizing that once you move into an apartment sometimes it’s hard to get maintenance to fix the things you need. I told them that I had asthma and that I needed the heating and cooling system sealed up from the wall before I slept there. They told me that they were waiting on a part, and for me to keep the keys to my old apartment to sleep in but at the same time to keep the keys to both apartments .
So I get that approval from the property management and all was well. There’s this guy in his early 50s who liked me. But I like his friend/his Boss. Who is also the head maintenance guy for as long as I’ve been here. And even though we don’t have each other phone numbers, we flirt every now and then with each other. We have fun talking and laughing. He would always tell his friend that I’m off-limits to him…. and everyone on his staff. Even though we laughed about that I didn’t take it serious because we never talked outside of the job.
Last week The friend knocked on my door one morning so hard and so loud it woke me up. My first response was who is it? Very loud and very angry. When he told me his name I asked him what did he want? He said oh I’m sorry I didn’t know you were in here. I was told that you had moved out this past weekend. So I’m thinking to myself if you thought I moved out why are you knocking on my door for one, and for two who did you expect to answer if you thought I moved already? So I said…. “I already talked to the leasing department I’m not moving until some work is being completed in my apartment”. I can tell he wanted me to open up the door but I didn’t .He had never did that before and it raised my suspicions about him.
So the very next day I put out an old dresser, a table, and a table I use for my computer in the hallway to be taken out the next morning to the dumpster. While I slept someone was banging on my door. I jumped up off the couch walked up to the door asking who is it? Before I can put my hand on the doorknob he was coming into my apartment. I pushed the door back on him and closed it. I was horrified to think that I slept overnight with my door unlocked. After I got my thoughts together, I opened the door to see what he wanted. Again he said I thought you moved into your new apartment? I was still trying to figure out how could I be so careless and leave my door unlocked? I’m very careful. I locked everything, and I check it always. Even when I get in the car, I check the back seat and everything. I was out done by him walking into my house and it was early morning.
I remember him asking me was those my things out in the hallway and I said yes. I can tell he wanted to make small talk with me and to flirt as always. I brushed off the flirting, and he eventually left.
Later on that day I went downstairs to the convenient store. As I was about to get on the elevator to go back to my apartment, he caught the door at the last minute and got on with me. Once the elevator doors closed… all of a sudden he grabbed me… and pulled me near him and started feeling it all over my body mainly my behind. I was so shocked I pushed him off me and ask him why did he do that ? He said…… I’m so sorry every time I’m around you I can’t help myself you turn me on, you’re so sexy to me. I got off the elevator and walked quickly to my door…… and as I stuck the key in, he was standing in the elevator door saying look what you did to me? You made me hard. And I’m saying to myself you just grabbed me in the elevator felt me all over my body and blame me for what you’re feeling? I close the door and went to my apartment. I couldn’t Believe what just happened. I was really really shocked and didn’t really eat much for the next few days.
On Sunday my brother came over to help me move my TV because Comcast was coming out between two and four. When he was done….I walked my brother to the lobby and thanked him for coming. Before heading back to my apartment I stopped and talked to security. He told me that the guy that I liked *Boss* no longer worked for the company. That was a shock to me too because he was the boss and knew everything in the building.
So I went back to my apartment and I sat down and started thinking. Now I know the reason why his friend was coming on to me like that. He was in charge now and he’s free * in his mind* to say and do what ever he wanted to do to me. As long as his friend was there which was his boss he kept to himself. Then I start thinking my door probably WAS locked through the night, he PROBABLY OPENED MY DOOR THAT DAY. He is way out of character and his behavior is really bothering me.
So today Wednesday January 7…… I’m in my old apartment lying on the couch just thinking. I hear a loud “let me in” kinda knock on my door. I knew it was him. My heart start beating fast because this man wants me . He can’t stop knocking on my door. He wants a reaction out of me. He wants to see my face and my face expression. He wants to tell me how he wish I was his wife and that I’m going to marry him. By me not opening up the door he’s feeling some type of way. I started not to say anything but then if I didn’t say anything in his mind he’d figure he’ll use his key to come in and once he sees me he’ll say I THOUGHT YOU MOVED OUT ALREADY!!!! I heard his keys jingling. If I didn’t say who is it fast enough he was going to come in my apartment on me. And I know it now.
This is really really really really bothering me. I’m not sleeping at all during the night . I told my daughter about it and she is very angry she told me if anything else happens I better report him. Then I start thinking am I overreacting? But I ‘m really going to pay attention if I have to report him I will I just don’t need any drama. Some days I feel like I am so close to the edge. I really don’t need this right now. I just want to be left alone. Now that I’m thinking back on a lot of stuff that I ignored he really really wants me. And the more I resist him the more aggressive he is the next time. It’s after 3 o’clock in the morning and I have to be up at eight going to try to sleep.
Inside the mind of cree 