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Why You Mad?? My @tylerperry Response/BLOG

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Hey Family!!!! 🙂 🙂

Tyler Perry wrote-May 27, 2015

I was talking to a friend of mine the other day, and she was explaining to me how disappointed she was in people and the things that they do and have done to her. She went on and on about how upset and heartbroken she was, and has been, about some of her family and friends. She talked about how they hurt her and how she wished they would change and be better people. She wanted them to be different than the people they were.

Halfway through this complaint-a-thon, I asked her to take a walk with me in the backyard. Now, you have to know this particular friend of mine. She hates the heat, and it was a hot day. I said, “come on” so she reluctantly came with me.

We got outside and it was steaming hot. I could see that she was uncomfortable. Nevertheless, we kept walking around my backyard. As she was still complaining about people, I asked her what she thought of my grass. Mind you, in order to appreciate the grass you had to stand in the direct sunlight. She said “Wow, I love your grass. It’s beautiful, but it’s hot right here. Let’s cool off under that oak tree over there.”

So, as she started to walk to the tree I said, “No no, let’s stay here in the grass and cool off.”

She turned to me quickly and said, “We can’t cool off on this grass.”

Right then, I said to her, “But you just said the grass was beautiful.”

“I did” she replied. Then, I asked her, “Why won’t you stay here?” She said, because she was hot and the grass couldn’t cool her off. So, we walked over to the oak tree and sat there.

She said, “Now you see? This is what I needed.”

Then I asked her this question. “The grass was beautiful. You loved it. Why didn’t you get mad with the grass because it couldn’t provide the shade you wanted?

She was confused, so I went on to explain myself. “People in this world, whether they were created a certain way or became that way through life’s circumstances, are who they are. Stop wishing they will be someone else.”

I said, “The next time you get upset with someone because they can’t do, or can’t be what you want them to be, remember the grass. Never get mad at a blade of grass because it’s not a tree. Appreciate the grass for what it is. Let it provide to you what it can, but don’t expect more. Your life will get so much easier when you start letting people be who they are and stop expecting them to give you what they don’t have or don’t know how to give. Just like that grass couldn’t provide shade because it wasn’t made to, some people are not made to give you what you’re asking for. So, stop looking for it. You will be shocked at how much peace you find when you really get this.”

And the last thing I said to her was this. “You wouldn’t be so frustrated with people who are like the grass if you had more people who are like trees in your life.”

I could really go deep into this, but I gotta go back to work. Talk to me. What do you think?

Love y’all. Talk soon

My Response:

I love Tyler Perry’s messages because they always make ME think. I wake up everyday to learn a new lesson, I may not get it sometimes, but trust me.. I FILE EVERYTHING IN THE BACK OF MY MIND, BECAUSE I KNOW ONE DAY, ONE DAY.. IM GOING TO NEED TO PULL IT OUT, EXAMINE IT, AND FINALLY GET THE LESSON.

In this lesson, it took me a long time to get how people were. I use to get mad at people for not acting the way I felt they should act, and I would be done with them. I learned that you have to meet people where they are!!! In this life you’re going to meet a lot of people,  we all have different personalities. When we meet someone ((( IN PERSON))), they are exactly who they act out. That’s who they are…. and its okay… BUT CAN YOU DIG IT? I learned that I didn’t have to stay in that persons life because they didn’t act how I felt they should have. I don’t have to be their enemy, or be angry/mad with them either. There is always a lesson and reason why we come face to face with people who do things differently and act differently. Some people try to put a size 10 shoe on a 5 feet. Meaning, you can’t make people fit into what you feel they should be. Take them for face value,  get the lesson you need from them, and KEEP IT MOVING. I’m so glad that I came to a place in my life where I can get along with ANYONE…. its so crazy because in my 20’s and early 30’s…. Um Um…. NOPE! LOL In my late 40’s…… listen… I come to your life for LIFE LESSONS… not to talk on the phone all day, not to gossip, but to exchange stories and life experiences that we may have that can heal us together, or even make us laugh.

For Example: My Sister Peedie…IMG_2134 is always late for EVERYTHING. It use to BURN me up when we would all meet over to our parents house for pizza and laughs, she would plan the party for 5.. but always be there after 6. She does this  for every function we have. If I say the gathering is at 4, she’ll blow my phone up asking me what time am I leaving, that way she would know how long she has to BS before leaving out her house. LOL.. I use to be MADDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDD at her. On fire. I use to wish that just one time, she would be on time. When God bought me to really examine this situation that bothered me so much… it BLESSED ME. He said.. your sister has been doing this for as long as you can remember. This is who she is. She won’t be on time, stop looking for her to be. This is your sister and how she does things. Get over it. Then I thought its OKAY.. ITS OKAY…. its funny now, because we make jokes and laugh about how late she’s going to be. I get it. I can’t make her to be a person on time, she’s always been this way. This is apart of her personality. ((( She’s always on time for work tho))) LOL LOL  I no longer “wish” she would be on time… I Thank God that she always shows up  ALIVE AND WELL

Now let me add this… I can call that SAME SISTER…. ask her for $20.00, she’ll bring me $40.00. One day I needed to borrow $20.00 she put a $100.00 BILL in my hand, we were talking so much, when she left, I realized what it was. If you call her for money SHE IS ALWAYS THERE. If you need a ride, she’s there ** late of course lol **, if you need to talk, she’s always there. If you need a favor or anything… she’s there. She always have it and if she don’t she’ll get it for you. God had to me to see that. I learned to look FOR STRENGTHS IN OTHER AREAS of a person, instead of focusing on their weakness. She wont be on time for anything, but if you EVER EVER EVER NEED HER… SHE IS ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS THERE FOR ME AND ANYBODY ELSE!!!! So, after thinking about it…. ITS OKAY… IT REALLY IS OKAY.. that she’s not a person to be on time, because she has so many other things about her that I LOVE. I LOVE MY BABY SISTER.

I AM La’Crease ((I don’t have to do anything else))

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Why I Say I AM La’Crease/BLOG

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Hey Family! 🙂

In today’s Blog entry I want to explain why at the end of my post I write, I AM La’Crease and I don’t have to do anything else. After thinking about it  deeply, well…… read it for yourself.

For as long as I can remember I’ve always been a person that’s very protective over the ones closes to me. I’m the kind of person who LOVES EVERYBODY. I’ve never been the one to play favoritism with my friends or family, and I’ve always kept it real. But I noticed that I was doing too much. Thinking too much, talking to much, just DOING TO MUCH. I had to find out what is it that makes me do what I do? I’m the oldest of 4  and I’m working on learning to STOP having a OVER protective Spirit. Now, its okay too have a Protective Spirit, but not OVERLY protective. In order to get it under control, I had to disconnect the phone calls with people EVERYDAY. I was one who could talk on the phone all day, everyday. Thing was, I was the one doing the listening. I realize that a lot of people come to me because of my motherly personality, the Godly advice I give, and for the fact that I treat everyone the same. I try to be the same person everyday. But I realize that I was doing too much. I realize that I over do it to make people COMFORTABLE… when they’re really just fine. I found out that I AM La’Crease and I don’t have to do anything else.

For example: If I’m at my mothers house, I will ask her 100 times if she’s okay? Does she need me to go to the store, does she needs to run errands, if she needs me to do anything. Even if she says no, I’ll ask one last time before I leave. I can talk to a friend about an issue, I have to keep checking up on that person, texting and making sure everything is okay. But I found out that… everything IS OKAY… I don’t have to do all of that. Its OKAY.. I have to tell myself that its okay, everything is fine, I don’t have to do anything else. We are GOD’S KIDS…. Why am I doing extra work? LOL  I’m always asking people “Are you Okay boo?” I’m always genuinely concerned.. but shoooooooooooooooooo after years and years and years…. I’m wore out from that. I have gotten to the point, where I don’t want to waste a lot of MY time “catering” to folks when THEY’RE NOT EVEN ASKING FOR ME TOO. Its me that has taken this too far. Everyone is okay, except me, who is trying to make sure they are.  LOL Now, I can sit back and really enjoy my life, without feeling that I have to take on others burdens or constantly ask or wonder if my loved ones are okay… GOD HAS THEIR BACK… THEY ARE JUST FINE….

SO…I say…. I AM La’Crease, and I don’t have to do anything else. Because I DON’T!

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Crees Ramblings/BLOG

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Hey Family!!!

I’m here getting over a cold, haven’t had one in a long time, so I’m okay with it…. I guess. LOL

On Mothers Day, my baby daddy ** I love saying that** sent me a message and called…. something he always does.IMG_2336 But its so funny how long I’ve come  (((MENTALLY speaking)))  from  back in the day at age 18 when I met him.martonenecree I really really love him today, because of the relationship he has with our daughter. She loves that man. I talk to women all the time about the importance of making sure that they don’t run the fathers of their children away. Even if they have broken up, its important, and even more when they’re grown and need that adult/father/child advice on life. I’ll never stop talking about that. Now, I see why I went through so much, because God knew that one day when I was healed from it all, that I would talk to others about my experience till I’m blue in the face. And there is NEVER  a day where I am not doing just that.

 Last night at work, one of the Supervisors took me there. I’m a person that  does my work, anything asked… I’m doing it without any attitude, talking smart or eye rolling. Managers notice that. Why this one feel like, just because I make my job look easy, without complaints, minimum questions, with a smile on my face ALL NIGHT… that I want to do extra work that has nothing to do with me ? That burns me up. He made me so mad that I had to pull him to the side. And this is the reason why I don’t run behind, talk on a personal level, laugh and play with managers. Because just as they mean business…. LA’CREASE WALKER does too. The less I have to say about something that goes on, the more they want to know.. WHAT LACREASE THINK? Ummmm….. I think nothing, not going to empty my opinions and thoughts out to anyone on anything that has ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to do with me. #sostoplookingatme #waitingonaresponse #nothoughtsonthematter #asksomeoneelse #thankyou  MY FACE

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Okay… I’m getting sleepy, off tonight.

I AM La’Crease (((  I don’t have to do anything else)))

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Baltimore Mom/ My FB Post/ HULK/BLOG

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Hey,

I was having heated debates with my friends on FB about the Baltimore Mom who “snatched” her son up  because she didn’t want him out rioting. Many of them felt like “why is it news that she did that”, and that the Media had an agenda behind it, because they felt that had it been under other circumstances, she would have be arrested.

Well.. for me I didn’t agree. First of all, if it was a LAW and if she was breaking it, she would have been charged, no matter what the MEDIA reported. The MEDIA has nothing to do with the LAW. So if she was breaking the LAW she would have been charge or at least investigated. Why is it news? Well, its up to you how you see things. For me, I saw it as positive. There are so many “PUNK PARENTS” these days, that they let THE MEDIA… PLANT MANAGE AND SUPERVISE how they discipline their kids. For this case, TO ME…. the Baltimore Mom’s attitude about it, it was made it news. She didn’t have an attitude when she was doing interviews, she wasn’t offended by how others felt she should have handled it. And you knew not to get in her way that day when she met up with her SON.  She was true to how she loved and raised him, and also how she felt about HER son rioting. She did say she was angry and that she would have done things differently. Give her that. I feel that when you stay true to what you believe people will pick up on that. Especially if you’re not rolling your eyes,  having attitudes, or being defensive about it. When you are genuine sure about how you handled things, people are most likely to back off and RESPECT YOU EVEN MORE.

When it came to the rioting, I posted how I felt about that… and some people were mad at me. Here is that post….“I hate to see whats going on in Baltimore. This is their own neighborhoods that they’re stealing and burning. Now I see why God said Vengeance is mines. He can take care of anything better than we can…we anger to fast. After the destruction will come consequences. No buses, no stores, no groceries, no pharmacies, nothing. So sad people don’t see further than right now.” When I wrote… we anger to fast.. Oh boy what I say that for? LOL Only 2 friends come for me when it comes to these types of post. And I was ready for them!  I understand ANGER.. I DO. But I also understand CONSEQUENCES… I hate facing those… with a passion. When you’re angry and you do things before you think them though, you pay for that either now or later. All I was saying is, when its all over said and done. Who will take your grandparents to the store to buy grocery’s when there is no car, and not a store to walk too? Where are they going to get their prescriptions from, when the next CVS, WALGREENS is 20 minutes away? What about the gurl who was just about to move and needed her check before she lost her job at CVS? People don’t care when their mad. At some point in your life you have to learn how to handle ANGER. Its hard, yes it is, but you’ll pay consequences for your actions if you don’t. Sons and Daughters are in jail because either their parents didn’t teach them about ANGER and consequences, they were taught and still did things their way, or they just didn’t care. So now, the parents have to suffer, if they have children, they will have to suffer, their siblings, nieces, nephews,  and grandparents. Everyone pays. So, my post was to show that you have to think things all the way through before you start to do things that will effect you later. They didn’t see it that way.  They felt that since I have influence, and use FB as a podium to write about important issues that I should have used that time and energy to write about charges to the officers involved in the case. And let me say this.. I AM FOR ACCOUNTABILITY for those involved…  remember …I RAISED A LAWYER…. but if my post wasn’t about that, then fall back. I’m not a person who writes things ahead of the process. I like to watch, read and gather more information before I write. I’m not going to post every 7 minutes my feelings and thoughts just because I’m watching CNN. Oh well.. I’m the Boss of my FB page!

Last week, I was standing in line to deposit a check into my account. I was with my Sisters who were waiting patiently in the truck. The line was so long, and after a while I was getting irritated because the teller had to keep leaving her booth to get answers from a supervisor about the customer at the counter. After about 30 plus minutes , I had it. I was about to go into Incredible Hulk mode, I CAN FEEL THE GREEN MONSTER RISING UP IN ME. Now, I know why I have always had a connection to him as a child. LOL LOL  I want to be nice and sweet, but that ANGER is something else. Let me explain. I have a lot of patience with people and situations, because God gave me this great gift of Understanding.. but BAAAABY.. every now and then….. I will cut lose. What happens is.. my leg starts shaking, my body gets hot, I have to hold my head in my hand to look away from the situation. I have this urge to have a OUTBURST. As I got older I learned how to pray to control it. I know once I have this outburst… I’m going to want to turn over something ( I have never) , not to mention scream out…… “HURRY-UPS.”. “WHATS TAKING SO LONG?”, “GET SOMEBODY ELSE OVER HERE TO HELP”, “WHY ARE YOU SO SLOW?” So, what I do is pray, pray, pray, I say God please, please, please, please, please, please don’t let me have an outburst. Lord, please help me not to say anything, to stay calm. Please Lord, let this heat in my body go down. Lord, help me right now to calm down. I’m a Christian woman I don’t want to nut up.. I KNOW THAT THERE WILL BE CONSEQUENCES IF I DO. Let me show you step by step. 

  • have this outburst and people are staring at me ((( hate attention)))
  • the manager is called and Im asked to calm down
  • I am asked to leave since I didn’t calm down , and I STILL DONT GET MY BUSINESS TAKING CARE OF
  • if Im too out of order, then the POLICE may be called on me
  • I will have to go elsewhere to be served

As people we have to think everything through before we do things. I personally don’t like to pay for consequences. God calmed me down, and when it was my turn, me and the teller were so cool. We talked and even laughed as she took care of me. I was so happy that I LET GOD COME INTO MY HEART AT THAT TIME AND CALM ME DOWN… no telling what would have happened and what I would have said, if I hadn’t. Thank God for Jesus!

I AM La’Crease (( I don’t have to do anything else)))

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Crees Ramblings/BLOG

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Hey Family!!!

I guess this will be one of my rambling blogs. Yesterday morning I got up and went to the movies. My plan was to see Get Hard with Will Ferrell and Kevin Hart, then to go home. But after that was over, I decided to see Unfriended. I’m starting to think that no one can come up with good story lines anymore, people are just making movies just to make movies. Now Get Hard was funny, and unfriended had a great message, but we need better writers. A few weeks ago, I went to see I Believe, now that was a good movie. I’m waiting to see Avengers…. my Favorite Super Hero is The Incredible Hulk. I hope this time that he has more time on the screen.

 OMG… I cannot do anymore Bridal Showers, Weddings or Baby Showers this year, until my gurl Rana gets married in September. Those things will wear you and your wallet out!!! Not only do I work on most Saturdays when most are happening, but I cannot afford to do MEEEEEEE.. and these parties …….not this Summer. I’m apartment shopping and Cree shopping. Its my time and as a matter of fact May 1, I’m on a mission to lose 30 pounds by July 1. I have enough clothes to last me a whole summer without wearing twice that I need to get in and LOOK comfortable in. One thing I love about myself is that when I set my mind to do something it GETS DONE. So that’s my new goal for myself.

I was sitting here thinking about Tyler Perry who I LOVE dearly and how on FB you see a lot of people posting photos of their children and new babies. People post photos of their kids report cards, and school friends. They post graduation photos, grandkids, prom, dads and moms with their kids… oh yeah and the dogs. Sharing photos of your family is a wonderful feeling. Makes you feel this certain way about LIFE and the blessing that God gave you. I can only imagine how sad it must feel for him not to do that. Yes, he can he has the choice, but for whatever reason he chose not too, that’s cool too. Sometimes being a celebrity doesn’t give you the FREEDOM to appreciate publicly small things like that. I can see him now, sending photos to close family and friends, making them promise ,or sign NOTES AND DOCUMENTS not to release them to the public. SHIT that must sucks!!!! Of your own child. Ah… HELL NAW!  Wow, I cannot imagine not sharing photos of my Princess with the world, especially when I’m feeling some kinda PROUD OF HER that day. Especially doing the work that she does. I remember when he first had his baby,  the sister of his gurlfriend GB posted on Instagram * don’t know her name* how happy she was about being an aunt and some other things  that she tweeted. Next thing it was reported that she took it down. That’s messed up!! She can’t even express her LOVE publicly about this baby, because who she’s connected too. That’s must be so hard… we’re talking about a new born baby. Babies bring a certain joy to our hearts like nothing else in this world. Ahhh, I felt so bad for her during that time. As far as GB the mom, shout out to her for not sharing, DAYUM now that has got to be even harder. Women love showing off their kids. We feel special, we are proud. This is the day of social media, and YES.. IM THE QUEEN OF PRIVACY ((( trust me, you think you know me.. you have no idea ))) but not to be able to post of your first/only child has got to kill her at times.  Not sure when Tyler will post photos of his beautiful baby… but this is his LIFE -his BABY, and whenever he’s ready to share his LOVE with us.. it shall be done.

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And on that note… Here’s MY PRINCESS!!

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THANKS FOR THE LOVE/BLOG

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Hey Family!!!

Just stopped by to show some love!!! Thanks for always stopping by to view my page. Feels good to know people are reading, and I hope to spread some of this LOVE ..God gave me with you.

I’ll be back later on this week to catch up!!! Remember FAMILY IS EVERYTHING!

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A Phone Call I Had To Make/ BLOG

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Last Monday I called my daughter’s dad and told him how much I loved the fact that he and Neisha are so  close. He has 2 kids, Neisha the oldest, and a son 15, by his now separated wife. I never thought a day would exist to see them as close as they are. She loves that man, and he loves her. They are BEST FRIENDS. She told me that she has 2 Best Friends as her parents.

 I’m so happy about the amount of time they spend together, they go out of town together, they go to dinner and lunch all the time, he even goes to her job just to take her lunch. I told her that when she was younger and we’d get into it, he had to have prayed to God that one day he wouldn’t have to communicate with me in order to be close to her. LOL LOL That when she was old enough, he could build his own relationship with her. And that’s exactly what happened. He told me that he loved me and that he is so proud of the way that I raised her. I told him I loved him too, and that I was so happy that he is the Father of my only child.

One thing that’s for sure, and we both tell her all the time. Whatever you do.. make sure you marry a decent man who loves and respect you. A man who doesn’t fight, or mental abuse you, because you know your dad loves you with everything in him, and he will NOT tolerate anything less.

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I wrote this to say… sometimes you have to make a phone call to those who are important, to tell them how you love and appreciate them. Things change, and people change. If anything ever happen to me or him, we both know that we LOVE each other and that whatever happened in the past between us is over and done with.

Thank you Jesus for LOVE AND UNDERSTANDING. 🙂

I AM La’Crease

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Places Where My Scenes Take Place/BLOG

Hey Family! 🙂

I enjoy browsing the bedrooms, kitchens, living rooms, dining rooms and other rooms online. When I come up with stories that I write…. I have to vision a room where it takes places and it allows me to write FROM THERE. Here are some of my FAVORITE photos.

This contemporary striped bedroom has glass doors that open out to a balcony with a view.

The photo above is from a scene  *He Cried*. This is so perfect for the characters. Ahhh…. I am LOVING this view.

The headboard of this master bedroom is backlit and connects to the nightstands on either side.

The photo above is from a scene  *Off Guard*.

Dark bedroom design with wood walls, wood flooring and dark wood furniture

The photo above is from a scene * Aunties House*

Be Blessed

I AM La’Crease

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I’m a family gurl/BLOG

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Hello Family!

Sitting here enjoying my night off. Just thinking about how God will turn things around in your life. I’m so happy that I wrote down everything that I was going through, so now when I go back and read it, it makes me feel so good that I stayed in the race. I’m living each day with a different mind set. In 2013 I packed up and moved to Georgia. I wanted a new life, wanted to move into an apartment somewhere tucked near water and trees. Sorta like isolate myself. Boy did God have another plan for me. And even though I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE, LOVE ATLANTA…. I’m so glad I moved back home. I’m a family gurl. Raised with both parents in the home, I’m VERY close with my brother and my 2 sisters, not to mention the love I have for my nieces and nephews. Thing is…. I can drive/fly to Atlanta anytime, and stay as long as I want. Wow… no one told me that. LOL Atlanta will always be my second home. But NOTHING beats this DOWNTOWN DETROIT LIVING!!! I’M IN LOVE 🙂

I get to spend lots of time with my parents. When I came home, I found a 7 floor Senior Apartment * they live separately in the same complex* that is directly around the corner from me. Yes! If I leave my apartment right now, I will be at theirs in 2 minutes. I take them * my siblings as well* to the grocery store, to their doctors appointments, to dinner and other outings. They need me and I need them. My daughter lives around the corner from me, and its funny because my brother does too. My street is my brothers SIDE STREET. My daughter street is MY SIDE STREET. Yea we all live downtown and around the corner from each other. Wow God… never seen that in my forecast. We always get together for dinner and birthdays and of course just because days. Family is everything. If you can get alone with your family you can get alone with ANYONE!

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I Am … La’Crease

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Being OUTSPOKEN… A WRONG AND RIGHT TIME/BLOG

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I was talking to a friend last night, and our phone call conversation trigger several thoughts about being OUTSPOKEN at the wrong time. This is a subject that’s very serious to me, and I speak in COMPLETE BOLDNESS when it comes to it. I touched on this in the last blog entry…. but this one.. I’m going in.

Everyone who knows me know that when you call me, email, text, or we talk FACE TO FACE…I’m going to give you the real. I don’t add sugar to my conversations, ONLY salt.  I’m not going to short cut you, or baby you. I can feel when you’re leaving something out, and I can tell when you’re adding to it.I ask a lot of QUESTIONS… you already know. Many people come to me for advice because I can see the bigger picture. I use Godly Wisdom, and not worldly tickles. I’m not her. Period.

If I feel you’re holding back the complete truth, I’m going to shut down the conversation completely, and keep it moving. I will NOT hold a conversation with anyone, who doesn’t tell the full story…. it’s a waste of my time. I will never again hold 1 and 2 hour conversations just to listen * especially if the story is stupid and doesn’t need to be told* just because you want me to listen and not comment. FIND ANOTHER FRIEND FOR THAT. FIND A FRIEND WHO WILL LISTEN ONLY.. IM NOT HER…… AT ALL… PERIOD. I don’t have time to say.. “yeah, um um, I understand, right, yes, okay… all through the conversation without any input. I refuse to spend that kinda time on those conversations…. phone a friend who will. I’m not mad or anything… I’m just not that friend. PERIOD.

Listen.. as Christians we have to learn when to speak and when to fall back. When to stay in our own lanes, and when its okay to share lanes. Its very ignorant to be “OUTSPOKEN” on the wrong things. Its very ignorant to tell a friend… those shoes are ugly, where you get that ugly red hat from? Why you have on those pants, the style is ugly. When are you going to comb your hair? What time are you getting in the tub… I smell something? But then…. when its time to pay a bill and negotiate with someone.. you can’t do it. When you need to tell someone to stay out of your room, you can’t tell them. When you need a neighbor to turn down their music you can’t knock on their door. When you need to get pass someone and you can’t say excuse me, you rather wait until they notice you’re standing there. When you need to ask for a loan and SCARED of hearing NO.. or I DON’T HAVE IT. Instead of being able to ask these things… the excuse is ALWAYS…. “I don’t want nobody telling me NO… and If I say it, its going to come out wrong”. What is that? That’s stupid as hell to me. You can open your mouth and put your 2 cents into everybody else’s conversation, but don’t know how to work your own lane.

You can tell someone what their job is, and what they need to do, when they need to do it and why…. but you can’t knock on a neighbors door and tell them the’re too loud watching a Football game? That &&&& is retarded to me!!  You rather tell a friend their shoes are ugly…. IN THE NAME OF BEING HONEST. * because/whether they asked.. OR NOT”… but wont use that same honestly…. to knock on someone’s door and ask them to turn down their TV because its too loud.

As Christians.. we have to learn how to talk to people. The only reason why you feel its not going to “come out right” is because you catch attitude from people when they get mad at you for being in their business when you wasn’t invited. So now that its your business and its time for you to be a Boss, you can’t. We have to learn how to look at people in a non confrontational manner when speaking to them about an issue that would other wise cause conflict. We have to learn how to use voice control and direct eye contact with others. We have to usher in a Spirit of Peace when we speak. We have to go to God and ask him to calm us down before we ask a question or deliver a message to someone who may not take it well. This is a part of growing up, getting off milk and eating meat. You cannot be afraid “it won’t come out right”.. but at the same time… claiming how outspoken you are. Stop speaking when not asked., stop being so opinionated on things that doesn’t matter. Learn to pay attention to how things come on * a friend told me this*…. many times when you need an answer or something done, you need to learn how not to offend, so that the person can get it. That’s the whole key….. for them to GET IT. Stop feeling as if you have to say everything since its true….. when its not your story, important or necessary to say. Ask God to calm your storm before going to someone if you feel its going to lead to an argument or debate. Take YOU out of the situation and get things done people!!!

I know “outspoken” people who will tell you how dirty your car is….. but scared to ask the cashier for more ketchup because 1 isn’t enough. SMH!!!! 

If we all told what we know of one another, there would not be four friends in the world- Blaise Pascal

Be Blessed!

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