Losing yourself in a MAN/BLOG

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Hey!

I was talking to one of my closes friends a few days ago about how she should make it her business to be around couples who are doing well for themselves  ((mainly husband and wives)) so that she can see how it LOOKS to be happy. She’s going through a WHOLE lot with her on and off again children’s father, and it kills me to see her this way. I believe with all my heart that she has lost herself in this man, and just don’t know how to get out. She’s a beautiful person, sweet as pie, but she allows herself to be mistreated and FINALLY she’s starting to see his true colors.

I know what its like to be in a relationship with someone who doesn’t value you or what you bring into the relationship to take it to another level. Yes, I had my faults too, but in the end, I saw that he just wasn’t for me….. and that’s okay.

Coming to the conclusion that someone is not for you, is one of the hardest things for women. They know deep down in their hearts that the man they love is not for them, but they stay and HOPE things change. At some point, you gotta say this is it. That time comes when you start to feel that your self-esteem is low and not building, you cry easily, your feelings are  hurt, you find yourself wondering what he’s doing (( especially if he has a history of cheating)), you’re checking his FB page for new women or subliminal stats, going through his phone and texts. That’s not how you live life. That’s not how a good healthy  relationship should go.

If you haven’t seen your man in a few days, and  he see’s you, he starts going thorough your phone, watch out for him! Because if he feels you can and will do something sneaky within those days you both haven’t seen each other, then he needs to be VERIFIED as well.. Um cuse me! Again…… this is NOT how healthy relationships grow. Not good.

Look at Donald Trump. You see the way his wife pulled away from him as they exit the plane? Clearly a sign of manipulation going on in the relationship. She is not happy in that marriage. She probably feels that now he’s the President, he exercises even MORE Power, and feels there is no way out without retaliation from the public and especially from HIM.  Relationships and friendships should be happy. Yes, there will be problems, issues, misunderstandings and things of that nature. But to help in the loss of self-esteem, is not something ANYONE should experience.

In closing ask yourself.. DO I LOVE ME? What is it about me that allows him to treat me this way? What am I doing over and over again to allow this to continuously happen? If I leave him, what do I THINK he will do to me? Am I scared? Ask God to show you a pattern of his behavior. Tell yourself, that YES its going to be hard at first, then ask yourself can you eventually get over him? Tell and REMIND yourself that YOU WILL have to give up something (((( money, car, nice home, comfort, sex with HIM, security ))) for your PEACE. If you want to talk to me about your situation please feel free to email me DIRECTLY  longnosenikon@gmail.com  

I am LACREASE, and I dont have to do anything else!

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Meet 6 Beautiful Married Couples/BLOG

Proverbs 18:22 He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the LORD.

I absolutely LOVE the way these couples LOVE EACH OTHER.

I decided to put this together because I enjoy looking through the photos of these COUPLES FB pages, just to get a glance of what we all want………. LOVE.  I learned  that ALL of  these couples…LOVE THEIR FAMILIES, LOVE to travel with EACH OTHER, and most importantly, they all LOVE GOD.

These beautiful couples can tell you for themselves the rode to LOVE has not been easy. They will even tell you they’re NOT PERFECT, but they made it. They did the work, they put in the time, they compromised, they put each other first, they will probably tell you, they had to let some people go, and that’s why these marriages are alive and well. NOT ONLY ARE THEY MARRIED, but notice they ALL are WEAR THEIR WEDDING RINGS. WOW.. AMAZING!

I wanted to show the world that REAL LOVE still exist. You don’t have to settle down with just anyone. The person God made for you is out there, and until you get out of these “no-where-going” relationships you’ll NEVER experience the love that these couples share. They should all give us HOPE that one day we too can experience LOVE IN THIS WAY.

My personal thought on all of the couples.

Tim and Karen-I LOVE the way Tim speak on his wife Karen. I LOVE how he LOVES GOD for BLESSING him with HER. I love the way she LOOKS at him when they’re doing videos together. And mostly, I LOVE how he says “MY WIFE”… he makes it SO PERSONAL. They also do videos for married couples and also for singles to learn from them on how to have a Happy Marriage. (( His movie “A Mother’s Love is also on NETFLIX)) Blessing and LOVE to you both.

Toure and Kim- I’ve been knowing Kim since we were teenagers * I’m 49*, she has gone through a lot. And when she told me she had went to school to become a nurse, and later got married to someone she met. I was so happy for her. Even though I’ve never met her husband… I know she’s happy IN LOVE. I love when she post photos of them before Church. They look so good together, and please focus on my favorite photo of her pouring him a drink in his cup. Look at the intense way he LOOKS AT HER.. OMG.. BEAUTIFUL!!! Blessings and LOVE to you both.

Darren and Electria ( Peedie)- My  baby Sister. When I tell you I LOVE THIS MAN for MY sister…no words. He takes care of her, he’s the most attentive man I know. When he comes home from work, he showers, change clothes and want to “hit the streets” with his Wife. Dinner, movies, out of town, cruises… you name it, he wants her right by his side. He loves being with her. He will get up in the middle of the night to buy her soda or juice if she wants. I use to worry about her a lot because of the men she dated, but when she met and married him….those fears went out of the door. He LOVES to travel, and when he does.. SHE’S RIGHT BY HIS SIDE.  My aunt use to tell her all the time, when you get married and stop living in Sin, is when all the blessings will come from GOD… AND OMG… I am a witness to it ALL. Blessings and LOVE to you both.

Wood and Dar’Cella- Wood is not only my first cousin, but he is my favorite. When I first met his girlfriend Dar’Cella (( they were high school sweethearts)) I really liked her. They started coming over to my place and I fell in love with her.I call them… “MY COUSIN WHO MARRIED MY COUSIN.” LOL When I tell you, they’ve been through it all, YOU BETTER HEAR ME WITH YOUR HEART. They stuck by each other through the thick and thin. When he was hospitalized she was with him the whole time, he KNEW, he KNEW, HE KNEW… that he had a WINNER, and that she wasn’t going anywhere. I was so happy to be witness to their wedding ceremony and its been UP FOR THEM EVERY SINCE! Blessings and LOVE to you both.

Vee and Boodang- Boodang is the BROTHER of Dar’Cella. We’ve all always called each other cousins because my cousin married his sister. When I met his wife Vee, and started working with her, I found out she was the sweetest person ever. I love this couple!  By him being a public figure I know it hasn’t always been easy. But let me tell you, one day she was venting on FB, and he commented on her post, saying something like… baaaby we good over here, don’t entertain that… It was the most beautiful thing. Let me tell you why? He did it in LOVE, it wasn’t mean, it wasn’t embarrassing, it was out of the LOVE he have for them, their family, their marriage. She took down the post and THANKED HER HUSBAND….Ahhh it was so beautiful. She respects HIM.. and he respects HER. Blessings and LOVE to you both.

Chauncey and Lakisha-  I met Chauncey many years ago because we lived on the same block. He had to be in high school at that time, but I knew his younger sister because I worked at her and my daughters elementary school.  It was years when I saw him again, grown up and with Lakisha in my line at Walmart. I knew he loved her then, ( they wasn’t married yet)) because of the way they talked to each other. (( Yes, I pay attention to everything)).  They invited me to their wedding and to this day, I’m still mad I couldn’t get the day off. But this is what she wrote  in her “notes” section of FB………I WILL NEVER LOVE NO OTHER MAN THE WAY I LOVE CHAUNCEY. I AM HAPPILY MARRIED .I NEVER THOUGHT I WOULD FIND SOMEBODY THAT LOVE ME LIKE CHAUNCEY DO  .I WANT TO STOP BEING SHY WITH CHAUNCEY..I LOVE ME!!!!!!!!! When she looks at him, you KNOW that they’re ONE. I LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE… how they always spend time with their kids and take family trips. And… Oct 2017, her hubby and friends are going on another cruise. Blessings and LOVE to you both.

My prayer is that the couples will do even more to strengthen their marriages. I pray that you remember the times you took these photos and smile. If you are lacking in any area of your lives, I pray that you DO THE WORK to keep your marriage ALIVE. You all give us hope. You all set the atmosphere. We see you. We live through you. We see God in your marriages. In your eyes, in the time you MAKE for each other. We know that LOVE works as long as we do the work. THANK YOU ALL🙂 God Bless You

Before you scroll down to MEET THE COUPLES…. Know this…. To interfere, cause trouble, and to come in between ANY MARRIED COUPLE…. IS A NO -NO TO GOD…

Mark 10:9 Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.

While putting this together.. I HAD to listen to some inspirational songs filled with LOVE to complete this. Here is a list of songs I used.

Syleena Johnson-All This Way For Love

Stevie Wonder-Sign Sealed Delivered

Pebbles- Always

Phil Perry- Forever

Vaults-One Last Night

To set the MOOD in your VIEWING… here are TWO OF MY FAV. (( PRESS PLAY))

 

Lets MEET THE COUPLES!

Tim and Karen #MEETTHEALEXANDERS

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She writes everything in her journal, I have no idea what is in it, and I will never look. It is her secret place, and I respect it. 🙂

 

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He wrote…. “My Beautiful, Lovely, Adorable wife Karen on her way to work at the ESPY Awards yesterday, she sent me this message from work…
“I LOVE YOU so much for being my HUSBAND and I have NEVER felt like that EVER in my life!!!! Everyone says “I look so happy!” This is because of YOU. Thank you my King! Can’t wait to see how sexy you will look in your new glasses!!!” —– I LOVE THIS WOMAN!!!! ❤ PRAISE GOD SHE IS IN MY LIFE – FOREVER!”

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He wrote.. “Man this woman is beautiful! Wow! I married that! 😀 THANK YOU BABY FOR MARRYING ME!!!!!!!”

 

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He wrote…”This was our last dinner at our favorite Cafe in Paris, and she loves this photo of us the most.”

Toure and Kim #MEETTHEKELSEYS

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Punta Cana, Dominican Republic

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He wrote” Celebrating life with my wife.”

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Waikiki, Hawaii.

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He wrote: “Found and save my bby, Kim.

Darren And Electria #MEETTHEJOHNSONS

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He wrote “Love this beautiful woman”

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She wrote “US”

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Wood and Darcella #MEETTHEWOODARDS

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Boodang and Vee #MEETTHEMADISONS

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She wrote…”13 years Married~”

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She wrote…. “Day 3 of Love Your Spouse Challenge…promoting love and unity💕Me and the hubby in Florida~@Ritas getting some of the greatest ice! Lol”

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Chauncey and Takisha #MEETTHEMITCHELLS

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She wrote ” Had lunch with my husband and havin a bad hair day and he didn’t care, he still wanted to take me to lunch!! I love that man”

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She wrote” 😂😂😂 I’m fixin myself & he’s fixing himself

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She wrote” Awww he missed him wife, soon as I got n the bed he got right under me 😍😍

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Special……./BLOG

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Hey Family!

So this morning, I was downstairs of my apartment building admiring our brand new fitness center, the business area, 24- hour security area, the new ” man cave” that is currently being built in our lobby. Not only that, but our convenience store is expanding, and its looking good.

I sat in awe as I watched the workers work, when a resident who was sitting next to me got my attention by asking did I remember him from the other day. I told him yes I did. I remember that day clearly because we were on the elevator just he and I, when he told me that I had the sweetest Spirit that he’s have ever felt on a woman, and told me that every time he sees me that I’m always smiling and for me to always stay that way. But this morning, he told me that after seeing me that day he went home and prayed. He told God that I was beautiful and lovely and asked him was I the one for him. God told him No. That the man for me is still out there, tall and perfect for me. That he will LOVE everything about me, he said that God told him that I was Special. Very special. And that I had to be handled as such. God told him that I loved him very much and it takes someone special to understand me. WOW.. WOW… WOW!!!

I just sat there like wow. I knew that it takes a special man to “get me”. And its so cute that he asked God was I the one for him. Awwww. Well, I’m glad that he obeyed God because people think just because folks are nice and friendly to them, they’re the one. No, no, no.. and yess its going to take someone SPECIAL to hook up with this SPECIAL woman. I do know this… when that man first lay eyes on me, HE will know.

LIFE LESSON:  16 In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven. Matthew 5:16

Women wait on God. I know it may be hard sometimes with all the men that we meet daily and with all the sex that we feel our bodies are craving. Hold out. When a man (((total stranger))) can feel your Spirit, and have no idea what kind of relationship you have with God, and can tell you how Special you are. When  GOD HAS ALREADY SPOKEN THIS VERY SAME WORD to you…. you know its confirmation. Stay in the race…

Know your worth.

I AM La’Crease

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Places Where My Scenes Take Place/BLOG

Hey Family! 🙂

I enjoy browsing the bedrooms, kitchens, living rooms, dining rooms and other rooms online. When I come up with stories that I write…. I have to vision a room where it takes places and it allows me to write FROM THERE. Here are some of my FAVORITE photos.

This contemporary striped bedroom has glass doors that open out to a balcony with a view.

The photo above is from a scene  *He Cried*. This is so perfect for the characters. Ahhh…. I am LOVING this view.

The headboard of this master bedroom is backlit and connects to the nightstands on either side.

The photo above is from a scene  *Off Guard*.

Dark bedroom design with wood walls, wood flooring and dark wood furniture

The photo above is from a scene * Aunties House*

Be Blessed

I AM La’Crease

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SOLID AS A ROCK!/BLOG

Today was a good day. Even though I had a breakdown … whew.. um um um. God always knows.. I mean not only knows… but ACTS ON IT when you’re on the ledge. I knew I wasn’t going over, but I sure stood on it today baaaaaby. Yes the gurl did. But he came through for me and I’m happy. I can’t even make up the things I’ve been through this year. Things always get better when you believe.

Saw a old friend today who knows me like he knows himself, told me that he loved me and that God is his witness, I’ll be his wife before he dies. Wow that is POWERFUL! Too bad I can’t have who I LOVE.

Before I close I just want to say to all those who are reading. Love each other, don’t take friendships for granted. Be there for that person as well, its not all about you. Because one day, you’ll go looking for your friend, and they’ll be gone. Keep promises and stay in touch, not only when you need to be heard, but just because you LOVE THAT PERSON.

Here is one of my favorite videos***SOLID*** from husband and wife Damion and ( my gurl) Maria Brumfield.

Be Blessed!

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Dear Husband/BLOG

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Dear Husband,

Today was a good day. I watched Football, made chicken and fries…. nothing big. I did my hair and lashes… preparing for the week and whatever it brings.

For the last 2 years its been rough on me. Wow, never in a million years did I see my life today in this forecast. But I can’t ignore the fact that God has still kept me living and wanting for anything. If you only knew my story …. I’m still holding on to God’s hand, because there is more. And If I just stay focus on him… this all will come to pass. I’m looking forward to that sunny day.

Having Faith for these last few years…. whewwwww….. um um um…. has been a ride. But what keeps me in the race, is that I know God’s track record when it comes to my life. Sometimes I get so down in my Spirit.. that I have to pray the thoughts away. I would hate for him to Bless me in the way that he does * HUGE*.. then have flash backs of when I wanted to give up on him and everything else. I want to enjoy my Blessings knowing I waited and didn’t faint.

 Your Loving Wife

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My ONE ((thing)) HUSBAND wish list/BLOG

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 Dear Husband,

I hope you LOVE…… FOOTBALL. We don’t have to be on the same team, but …you must be a SPORTS FAN. I love BASKETBALL, BASEBALL, AND #1 FOOTBALL. I love to scream, curse (( I can’t help it)) when I watch FOOTBALL  (only). I turn into a totally different person. I’ve tried to calm it down…. sometimes it works.. somethings it don’t. I scream loud, stand up, walk around the house taking junk at the players. I sometimes think that I’m the only person in the world… my screams are THAT loud.

I live DIRECTLY across the street from FORD FIELD…. I can see the building from my apartment…. but I’m too scared to go to a game (( like I do concerts)) because of the things that come out of my mouth. I might embarrass myself and who ever is with me. I can’t control my feelings when I’m watching the LIONS .  I even LOVE the way the DRIVE of the game makes me FEEL. I’m sure you’ll be turned on!!! ((( Can’t tell me NOTHING when I’m in my LIONS zone.)))

I promise to make you and your friends (( and my gurls)) dinner, snacks, and drinks for our  Super Sports Sunday Dinners. I promise to set the atmosphere for a wonderful day of Sports to entertain our family and friends. The house will be cleaned and smelling good. Dinner will be of your choice. Husband listen…. you won’t have to get up for nothing…. I got you boo…….. and your friends for whatever…..

Your Loving Wife

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