Men who WORK-WORK-WORK TOO MUCH!/BLOG

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Meet … MY GOD NIECE.. MY GOD SISTERS DAUGHTER, AND ONLY CHILD!

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Her parents met in High School got married and had my niece. They were both smart, she got her Masters in Accounting, and he went to school for Heating and Cooling! They built 2 business together and own a total of 13 homes. All while growing up he told my niece that he wanted to pass the business down to her. He taught her how to open a bank account and save money. He taught her about buying homes and selling them. He taught her about how people are, and to be careful of shady business deals. How to mingle and rub arms with people who could help her with her business.

My niece dad thought he was spending “quality” time with the family,  my niece grew up (( grown woman)), they all grew apart, and my sister divorced. He wanted to work all day and night, weekends too.. to “build” the family business, but my sister wanted time, love and trips together as a couple and a family while they grew old. My niece dad felt it was best to build up, then take trips later in life. All through the years of my niece’s dad wanting her to take over the family business, she didn’t want that for her life.  But she couldn’t tell him because this was HIS dream and it would break his heart. Stop putting pressure on your kids… STOP IT!!! Just because you found something that worked for you, don’t pressure your kids to follow your footsteps, when they want to do something DIFFERENT. It only makes sense to YOU that you built something that’s solid. And that’s OKAY..but your child doesn’t want that for their lives.. Deal with it. Yes, its a great idea, yess you struggled and sweated, but this is NOT your child’s dream.

 How does a child tell her parent/s  (( in this case the dad, because her mom saw it coming))… THANK YOU for grooming me for the family business since BIRTH… but UM NO THANK YOU… this is not MY career path or MY DREAM?

I have seen it first hand. I knew it all along. My niece wants a family with a husband, both have jobs, meet up at evening, have dinner , talk, family time, and then bed time. My niece dad spent all day and night even Sundays building the “business”… and no one wanted it but him. He became selfish, at first it was the money, then it was the POWER now its the INFLUENCE of the LOCAL AND WORLD WIDE LEADERS IN HIS FIELD AND OUT. He’s now engaged, and guess who will spend all the money… HIS NEW WIFE.. HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHHA. AND HER NEW MAN! HAHAHAHHAHHAHAH..  THE MOMENT HE DIES! ((( YALL GON LEARN))) A woman who hasn’t spent a DAY in the building of the process. My sister is happy, and  gladly to pass on the money without the MAN. HAHAHAHAHAHHA

The relationship of that dad -daughter is little to none. This is how men are disappointed, and in their feelings about their kids, because they spent their whole lives DREAMING , HOPING, WISHING AND GROOMING their kids would follow their footsteps.

Meet Jenae from Sweetie Pies and her new FIANCEE

 

I was just Congratulating Jenae Wallick on her engagement this weekend to her trainer Arthur Shivers III. I’m so happy for them and especially her. She’s the mother of Tim from Sweetie Pies on the OWN Network. Jenae was once engaged to Tim, but things didn’t work out between them. It was so hard to watch. She really loved him, but he wanted to move out of town to expand the family business. I believed he knew she didn’t want to leave St. Louis, because she wanted to be near her family, but he went anyway. They broke up, and shortly after he moved to California.

I really hope that Tim slows down enough to enjoy LIFE and HIS ONLY CHILD/SON. People like him who work, work, work, swears up and down they enjoy their lives. They’ll be the same ones when they’re in their 60’s saying how much they wish they had slowed down to enjoy family and friends more. I personally don’t want to hear that mess.  Because along the way, people have constantly beat it in their heads, but all they could see is the “business”. I see it ALL THE TIME ON UNDERCOVER BOSS. I have watched every episode, and that is one of the #1 thing these men say… yessss and even the women bosses. They always thought they were spending time with their kids, when really they weren’t doing anything but MISSING OUT… providing, giving kisses, hugs, a few down to earth conversations.. AND THE REST OF THEIR TIME.. BUYING THEM THINGS, AND TELLING THEM THEY WANT THEM TO TAKE OVER THE COMPANY WHEN THEY’RE OLDER… UM excuse meeeeeeee..  BUT your kids don’t want to do that SHIT! That’s YOUR dream! And don’t you DARE be DISAPPOINTED when they tell you this!

I AM La’Crease.. and I don’t have to do anything else.

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Why I Say I AM La’Crease/BLOG

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Hey Family! 🙂

In today’s Blog entry I want to explain why at the end of my post I write, I AM La’Crease and I don’t have to do anything else. After thinking about it  deeply, well…… read it for yourself.

For as long as I can remember I’ve always been a person that’s very protective over the ones closes to me. I’m the kind of person who LOVES EVERYBODY. I’ve never been the one to play favoritism with my friends or family, and I’ve always kept it real. But I noticed that I was doing too much. Thinking too much, talking to much, just DOING TO MUCH. I had to find out what is it that makes me do what I do? I’m the oldest of 4  and I’m working on learning to STOP having a OVER protective Spirit. Now, its okay too have a Protective Spirit, but not OVERLY protective. In order to get it under control, I had to disconnect the phone calls with people EVERYDAY. I was one who could talk on the phone all day, everyday. Thing was, I was the one doing the listening. I realize that a lot of people come to me because of my motherly personality, the Godly advice I give, and for the fact that I treat everyone the same. I try to be the same person everyday. But I realize that I was doing too much. I realize that I over do it to make people COMFORTABLE… when they’re really just fine. I found out that I AM La’Crease and I don’t have to do anything else.

For example: If I’m at my mothers house, I will ask her 100 times if she’s okay? Does she need me to go to the store, does she needs to run errands, if she needs me to do anything. Even if she says no, I’ll ask one last time before I leave. I can talk to a friend about an issue, I have to keep checking up on that person, texting and making sure everything is okay. But I found out that… everything IS OKAY… I don’t have to do all of that. Its OKAY.. I have to tell myself that its okay, everything is fine, I don’t have to do anything else. We are GOD’S KIDS…. Why am I doing extra work? LOL  I’m always asking people “Are you Okay boo?” I’m always genuinely concerned.. but shoooooooooooooooooo after years and years and years…. I’m wore out from that. I have gotten to the point, where I don’t want to waste a lot of MY time “catering” to folks when THEY’RE NOT EVEN ASKING FOR ME TOO. Its me that has taken this too far. Everyone is okay, except me, who is trying to make sure they are.  LOL Now, I can sit back and really enjoy my life, without feeling that I have to take on others burdens or constantly ask or wonder if my loved ones are okay… GOD HAS THEIR BACK… THEY ARE JUST FINE….

SO…I say…. I AM La’Crease, and I don’t have to do anything else. Because I DON’T!

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I’m a family gurl/BLOG

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Hello Family!

Sitting here enjoying my night off. Just thinking about how God will turn things around in your life. I’m so happy that I wrote down everything that I was going through, so now when I go back and read it, it makes me feel so good that I stayed in the race. I’m living each day with a different mind set. In 2013 I packed up and moved to Georgia. I wanted a new life, wanted to move into an apartment somewhere tucked near water and trees. Sorta like isolate myself. Boy did God have another plan for me. And even though I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE, LOVE ATLANTA…. I’m so glad I moved back home. I’m a family gurl. Raised with both parents in the home, I’m VERY close with my brother and my 2 sisters, not to mention the love I have for my nieces and nephews. Thing is…. I can drive/fly to Atlanta anytime, and stay as long as I want. Wow… no one told me that. LOL Atlanta will always be my second home. But NOTHING beats this DOWNTOWN DETROIT LIVING!!! I’M IN LOVE 🙂

I get to spend lots of time with my parents. When I came home, I found a 7 floor Senior Apartment * they live separately in the same complex* that is directly around the corner from me. Yes! If I leave my apartment right now, I will be at theirs in 2 minutes. I take them * my siblings as well* to the grocery store, to their doctors appointments, to dinner and other outings. They need me and I need them. My daughter lives around the corner from me, and its funny because my brother does too. My street is my brothers SIDE STREET. My daughter street is MY SIDE STREET. Yea we all live downtown and around the corner from each other. Wow God… never seen that in my forecast. We always get together for dinner and birthdays and of course just because days. Family is everything. If you can get alone with your family you can get alone with ANYONE!

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I Am … La’Crease

King Solomon….. TRUTH….. Crees Blog Entry

So, its late, and I’m sitting here reading the Bible. I figured my “wondering mind” would pay more attention if I listened to the audible version on Ecclesiates.
I’m sitting here CRACKING UP.. God knows how to make me laugh.. when really I feel like “can’t even put it into words” right now. Here Solomon is the WISEST man of us all. And after building, doing, and drinking everything he could…. he still felt like… THIS IS meaningless. He said no matter what…. its like chasing the wind. No one is ever satisfied. Try to imagine HIM as it is read to you. Set up  the scene in your head.. Enjoy
 
 
Read it in DRAMATIC FORM AS YOU HEAR IT.
 
 

Ecclesiastes 2

New International Version (NIV)

Pleasures Are Meaningless

2 I said to myself, “Come now, I will test you with pleasure to find out what is good.” But that also proved to be meaningless. 2 “Laughter,” I said, “is madness. And what does pleasure accomplish?” 3 I tried cheering myself with wine, and embracing folly—my mind still guiding me with wisdom. I wanted to see what was good for people to do under the heavens during the few days of their lives.

4 I undertook great projects: I built houses for myself and planted vineyards. 5 I made gardens and parks and planted all kinds of fruit trees in them. 6 I made reservoirs to water groves of flourishing trees. 7 I bought male and female slaves and had other slaves who were born in my house. I also owned more herds and flocks than anyone in Jerusalem before me. 8 I amassed silver and gold for myself, and the treasure of kings and provinces. I acquired male and female singers, and a harem[a] as well—the delights of a man’s heart. 9 I became greater by far than anyone in Jerusalem before me. In all this my wisdom stayed with me.

10 I denied myself nothing my eyes desired;
I refused my heart no pleasure.
My heart took delight in all my labor,
and this was the reward for all my toil.
11 Yet when I surveyed all that my hands had done
and what I had toiled to achieve,
everything was meaningless, a chasing after the wind;
nothing was gained under the sun.

Wisdom and Folly Are Meaningless

12 Then I turned my thoughts to consider wisdom,
and also madness and folly.
What more can the king’s successor do
than what has already been done?
13 I saw that wisdom is better than folly,
just as light is better than darkness.
14 The wise have eyes in their heads,
while the fool walks in the darkness;
but I came to realize
that the same fate overtakes them both.

15 Then I said to myself,

“The fate of the fool will overtake me also.
What then do I gain by being wise?”
I said to myself,
“This too is meaningless.”
16 For the wise, like the fool, will not be long remembered;
the days have already come when both have been forgotten.
Like the fool, the wise too must die!

Toil Is Meaningless

17 So I hated life, because the work that is done under the sun was grievous to me. All of it is meaningless, a chasing after the wind. 18 I hated all the things I had toiled for under the sun, because I must leave them to the one who comes after me. 19 And who knows whether that person will be wise or foolish? Yet they will have control over all the fruit of my toil into which I have poured my effort and skill under the sun. This too is meaningless. 20 So my heart began to despair over all my toilsome labor under the sun. 21 For a person may labor with wisdom, knowledge and skill, and then they must leave all they own to another who has not toiled for it. This too is meaningless and a great misfortune. 22 What do people get for all the toil and anxious striving with which they labor under the sun? 23 All their days their work is grief and pain; even at night their minds do not rest. This too is meaningless.

24 A person can do nothing better than to eat and drink and find satisfaction in their own toil. This too, I see, is from the hand of God, 25 for without him, who can eat or find enjoyment? 26 To the person who pleases him, God gives wisdom, knowledge and happiness, but to the sinner he gives the task of gathering and storing up wealth to hand it over to the one who pleases God. This too is meaningless, a chasing after the wind.

Where works of the flesh exists, there is NO joy