Men who WORK-WORK-WORK TOO MUCH!/BLOG

Hey,

 

Meet … MY GOD NIECE.. MY GOD SISTERS DAUGHTER, AND ONLY CHILD!

Her parents met in High School got married and had my niece. They were both smart, she got her Masters in Accounting, and he went to school for Heating and Cooling! They built 2 business together and own a total of 13 homes. All while growing up he told my niece that he wanted to pass the business down to her. He taught her how to open a bank account and save money. He taught her about buying homes and selling them. He taught her about how people are, and to be careful of shady business deals. How to mingle and rub arms with people who could help her with her business.

My niece dad thought he was spending “quality” time with the family,  my niece grew up (( grown woman)), they all grew apart, and my sister divorced. He wanted to work all day and night, weekends too.. to “build” the family business, but my sister wanted time, love and trips together as a couple and a family while they grew old. My niece dad felt it was best to build up, then take trips later in life. All through the years of my niece’s dad wanting her to take over the family business, she didn’t want that for her life.  But she couldn’t tell him because this was HIS dream and it would break his heart. Stop putting pressure on your kids… STOP IT!!! Just because you found something that worked for you, don’t pressure your kids to follow your footsteps, when they want to do something DIFFERENT. It only makes sense to YOU that you built something that’s solid. And that’s OKAY..but your child doesn’t want that for their lives.. Deal with it. Yes, its a great idea, yess you struggled and sweated, but this is NOT your child’s dream.

 How does a child tell her parent/s  (( in this case the dad, because her mom saw it coming))… THANK YOU for grooming me for the family business since BIRTH… but UM NO THANK YOU… this is not MY career path or MY DREAM?

I have seen it first hand. I knew it all along. My niece wants a family with a husband, both have jobs, meet up at evening, have dinner , talk, family time, and then bed time. My niece dad spent all day and night even Sundays building the “business”… and no one wanted it but him. He became selfish, at first it was the money, then it was the POWER now its the INFLUENCE of the LOCAL AND WORLD WIDE LEADERS IN HIS FIELD AND OUT. He’s now engaged, and guess who will spend all the money… HIS NEW WIFE.. HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHHA. AND HER NEW MAN! HAHAHAHHAHHAHAH..  THE MOMENT HE DIES! ((( YALL GON LEARN))) A woman who hasn’t spent a DAY in the building of the process. My sister is happy, and  gladly to pass on the money without the MAN. HAHAHAHAHAHHA

The relationship of that dad -daughter is little to none. This is how men are disappointed, and in their feelings about their kids, because they spent their whole lives DREAMING , HOPING, WISHING AND GROOMING their kids would follow their footsteps.

Meet Jenae from Sweetie Pies and her new FIANCEE

 

I was just Congratulating Jenae Wallick on her engagement this weekend to her trainer Arthur Shivers III. I’m so happy for them and especially her. She’s the mother of Tim from Sweetie Pies on the OWN Network. Jenae was once engaged to Tim, but things didn’t work out between them. It was so hard to watch. She really loved him, but he wanted to move out of town to expand the family business. I believed he knew she didn’t want to leave St. Louis, because she wanted to be near her family, but he went anyway. They broke up, and shortly after he moved to California.

I really hope that Tim slows down enough to enjoy LIFE and HIS ONLY CHILD/SON. People like him who work, work, work, swears up and down they enjoy their lives. They’ll be the same ones when they’re in their 60’s saying how much they wish they had slowed down to enjoy family and friends more. I personally don’t want to hear that mess.  Because along the way, people have constantly beat it in their heads, but all they could see is the “business”. I see it ALL THE TIME ON UNDERCOVER BOSS. I have watched every episode, and that is one of the #1 thing these men say… yessss and even the women bosses. They always thought they were spending time with their kids, when really they weren’t doing anything but MISSING OUT… providing, giving kisses, hugs, a few down to earth conversations.. AND THE REST OF THEIR TIME.. BUYING THEM THINGS, AND TELLING THEM THEY WANT THEM TO TAKE OVER THE COMPANY WHEN THEY’RE OLDER… UM excuse meeeeeeee..  BUT your kids don’t want to do that SHIT! That’s YOUR dream! And don’t you DARE be DISAPPOINTED when they tell you this!

I AM La’Crease.. and I don’t have to do anything else.