Love/Bored/Chill (((((((Blog)))))))

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Hey Yall!!

I’m so bored tonight. Came home from running some errands, took a nap, ate dinner and now I know I’m up for a while. I thought about going to the casino, but I didn’t want to go alone. I enjoy sitting at the bar, and listening to the bands play. Im directly down the street from Greektown, but my favorite is Motor City and MGM. I’m just a boring nerd.  You can really tell how bored I am.. I’m taking quizzes on line.

I had a good time with my family yesterday.

I’m all over the place, but I wish that I had a coupla thousands, I would go to Walmart and house shop till I drop. I get in those moods where I want to spend lots of money on my apartment. Even though I’m ready to move out of this one ( not the building). I love to late night shop, but after getting rob… I don’t go out after 10 anymore. I would get up around 4-5 in the morning with my sister and friend, and we would hit Kmart, and Walmart. Too many goons out these days. Anyway.. I’m closing this blog…guess.. I’ll watch TV and chill out.

 

Your spiritual power is:

 

Love

 

You are a true lover and an ambassador of love. You spirit and persona can allure and absorb anyone. You are so real and raw that your imperfections make you even more lovable.

 

 

Be Blessed 

Listen to yourself and in that quietude you might hear the voice of God. – Dr. Maya Angelou

 

How to deal with family on HOLIDAYS/Rough Look/My Boo (((((Blog)))))

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* All photos are of MY family*

As a Woman… I LOVE LOVE LOVE to look rough, or have bad days. Because I know when I do my hair…… and put on some clothes…. Baaaaaaaaby….head spins. LOL Ladies its okay to have those days. I know people who would never get caught looking “rough”… but to me THEY LOOK THE SAME EVERYDAY. I hate to see a ” ON PURPOSE SAME FACE” …. looking person. I love seeing a man with different looks. I love seeing his facial hair growing out and looking dirty because of WORK… then goes into the bathroom to shower, and shave looking like a totally different person. I LOVE THAT. TURNS ME ON….. LIKE REALLY TURNS ME ON REAL HARD. LOL As a woman I never want to look the same EVERDAY ALL DAY… these types of people…. you can tell love to POWER CONTROL their atmosphere and would DIE.. if they’re caught looking any other way.

Saw my boo today… I just LOVE a man who speaks my language * talking junk*… loving and sweet at the same time. Side ways talking…. HATE IT. There is a difference.

In other news. The holiday weekend is approaching, and I hope that FAMILIES can come together and have a good time. There is nothing wrong with FRIENDS hanging out, but FAMILIES are so important. As I study human behavior, I’m finding that people who don’t get along with FAMILY.. cling to FRIENDS… and found that they have more tolerance for them. I wish that people would understand…. that its okay if you have a family member who gossip and talk to much. Thing is LEARNING how to deal with them. Learn how to work their personality. Its okay to give your family members a few days or weeks off.. but don’t let it go on for years. Don’t let another family functions come up and YOU don’t want to go because YOU don’t want to have to deal with AUNTIE BETTY. Learn how to chose your lanes…

Let me give you an example: My auntie loves to drink, and when she does, she don’t get drunk. SHE’LL JUST HEM YOU UP and talk for hours about things that happened to her when she was younger, and how to deal with it, in case it happens to you. Now me… when I’m at FAMILY FUCTIONS I like to work the room, talk to this person, laugh with this person, dance with that person, cry , talk JUNK * cause that’s what I do in LOVE AND FUN*. But at the same time my Auntie needs someone to listen to her stories. So, instead of saying.. I’m not coming to the FUCNTION because Auntie Betty is going to get me in the corner and I’ll be force to listen to her stories for hours. I’ll say hey auntie….listen for 10 minutes, and tell her… I’ll catch up with you later going over to talk to Lisa. People have to learn how to talk to others to get your point across KNOWING you’re not offending. If you have a BIG MOUTH COUSIN who sits up and brags about what she have, what she’s trying to get, what she want and all this other stuff…. speak and chat a little…. THEN KEEP IT MOVING…. don’t become a AUDIENCE MEMBER TO HER. See this is the reason why people act a FOOL at FAMILY FUCTIONS…. they HAVE YOU AS A audience member. Being a member allow these people to DO AND SAY WHATEVER….. LISTEN LOVES…… ALL SHOWS GET CANCELLED WHEN RATINGS ARE LOW!!!! * WINK* SHUT FUNNY ACTING FAMILY MEMBERS DOWN AND still enjoy them. After a while, they’ll come around and be your BEST FAMILY MEMBER.

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Enjoy your JULY 4TH HOLIDAY WEEKEND!

Be Blessed!

Listen to yourself and in that quietude you might hear the voice of God. – Dr. Maya Angelou

Weddings, Weddings, Weddings….. (((((Blog)))))

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Hey

Just checking in.. 

Photos below are of my Ex- Walmart Co-workers Diane and Ommunad.  Can you believe they met at work? I went to their wedding Sunday June 15, 2014. I had the best time. And I caught the bouquet. Yeaaaa. lol lol

Guess what? Okay so after realizing that this is what I want to do.. part time, and  eventually having my own business as a Wedding/Event Planner… I remember a good friend of mines is getting married next year. I asked her if I can come along to meet her vendors, cake tasting, wine, dress fitting,  meetings with her wedding party and all the things associated with her wedding. She said yess.. the more the merrier. I just want to come along and get a feel of actual conversations that goes on. I want to learn about contracts, and the process of making a wedding come to life. I’m so excited. I’m coming along to learn, not to take away, but to observe and write down everything I can. Matter of fact it has already started. 

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Ms. Cree a Wedding /Events Planner? ((((((((Blog))))))))

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Hey Yall ( In the voice of CCain68—-Youtube)

For a while now I’ve been thinking about going back to school this fall to become a Therapist . I’m a great listener, give wisdom advice, and to top that off, I’m very private when it comes to other people’s business. As I’m thinking about that. I vision myself sitting in a room listening to my clients. But then out of the blue…. I remembered that I was to go to the web site of a photographer to see photos of a wedding I went to last Sunday of my friends Diane and Ommunad. While viewing them something just clicked in my head. I mean it hit me hard. Very hard. HAMMER HARD… A light bulb went off. I heard sirens, bells and WHISTLES in my head. …….To become a Wedding/Event Planner.

It just makes so much sense. I have the patience to deal and work with different personalities from working 10 years at Walmart * smile*, I love making business calls, and making things happen. I love to meet in person to have all my questions answered and direct communication taken care of. I know how to market myself , on social sites, and in person. I have the gift to console. And the biggest thing I thought about…..I have planned so many events… that THIS MAKES EVEN MORE SENSE TO BECOME A WEDDING/EVENT PLANNER. WHY DIDNT I THINK OF THIS BEFORE? I’m laughing so loud right now!!! HAHAHAHAHA

Now I know why every time a birthday comes up or something that cause for a celebration… people always call me to plan it. I’m just thinking they call me because I love doing it.. .But somewhere in these people minds…. they must feel that I’m good at it. Wow. I never looked at it like that.

I started thinking about the time when I was in my 20’s I’d throw backyard parties for our neighborhood. I became so known for throwing them, that people off the street would ask me… when is the next time you’re throwing another party? After doing that in the summer. I remember planning a coming home party for my brother in the Marines. As time went on, I threw gurl talk parties in my apartment all the time. They were so popular, I would throw them out of the blue all year. We’d eat, talk, laughing, drink and have a good time. Wow, now I know my fascination with  cameras.

I also planned and spoke at my A Virtuous Woman Dinner Gathering that was more on a Spiritual Level, I had close to 50 guest with gifts and a lovely dinner. Several times( about 8 times) I gathered my family and friends on Thursday Nights to the premiere of a Tyler Perry movie.  I always gathered 15 or more to the midnight showing . Even when people had to work the next morning…. I knew how to get them to come out. When that went well…. I planned For Colored Girls Movie and Dinner on a Saturday afternoon and dinner  at Ruby Tuesday… I had a turn out of 32 women at the same movie theater… at the same time. I started my own Youth group called Raisingurls to Women, and also Sistergurls, which was over 100 people in attendance combined. For over a period of 5 years.

In 2008 I started Cree’s feeding the Homeless for Thanksgiving. Every year on that Wednesday before we  pass out dinners. This year 2014 will be our 6th year . I enjoy putting together a menu, plan and a vision to complete it. We also put together Valentines Gift Bags for the homeless and pass them out on that day. I’ve also put together sandwiches and dinners in the summer that we pass out to the Homeless as well.

As I’m typing I’m thinking of more events I put together. I’m apart of Anita Baker and Maxwell Fan sites.. and when they came to Detroit in the past… I helped schedule events for our out of town guest. I was also the Mistress of Ceremonies for the Anita Baker Crew…. yes it was nice!!! I also put together with my cousin Gus, our FAMILY DINNERS AND FAMILY REUNION GATHERING with so much food, fun and love . LOL LOL Wow I forgot all about this. I also helped my BFF Gloria put together her mom and her kids mom birthday party program book…which was very elegant. I’m laughing so hard right now…. LOL LOL I almost forgot.. I WAS THE WEDDING COORDINATOR/PLANNER for my brothers Wedding. OMG. He ask me to do it, because I loved to plan. I’ve never done a wedding before and it was challenging. I bought a book to help me plan and I also looked to the Internet for help. Looking back I left out a few things, but you better believe I KNOW WHAT THEY ARE NOW!!! I forgot all about that. Thank you Jesus for answering my prayers and showing me what I know I CAN DO…. Now its time to do the work * in my Iyanla voice*

For the life of me.. I can’t understand how I didn’t know that this is what I want to do. It has crossed my mind many years ago, but today after looking at those photos, its very clear to me…. that this is who I am. My communication skills, business, marketing, close attention to details … research, writing and planning skills. And guess what? I STILL GET TO BE A THERAPIST/Counselors TO ALL THE PEOPLE INVOLVED WITH THE WEDDING/EVENTS. YEAAA #WINNING

Okay … yall I have work to do!!! Lots of research, classes , and seminars in my area.

Be Blessed!

Listen to yourself and in that quietude you might hear the voice of God. – Dr. Maya Angelou

 

 

6 Signs of a Good Woman…. * MEN PAY ATTENTION* (((((Blog)))))

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6 Signs of a Good Woman

All a man really wants is a good woman by his side. Men have just as hard of a time trying to find a good woman as women have trying to find a good man. Women have to kiss frogs in order to find a Prince and men have to wade through pools of women, who for the sake of the cleanliness of this article we will just say crazy women, worthless woman, b’s, h’s, gold diggers, and you fill in the blanks.

A good woman is comprised of much more than being a woman who keeps a clean house and puts a hot meal on the table.. Things like that are nice and pretty much a necessity depending on the relationship, but they are only the basics. Many women say they want a good man but have you asked yourself if you’re a good woman?

Here are a few traits of a good woman:

1.Encouraging/Supportive/Motivates – A good woman isn’t quiet with no input. She’s full of ideas to help improve your business, outlook in life and overall health. She supports her mans ideas and motivates him to accomplish his goals. A good woman is a good listener. Ultimately she is able to change you without trying. A good woman makes you a better man.

2.She Keeps Him Honest – A man is not allowed to be lazy when he’s in a relationship with a good woman. She makes him honest. If you tend to make excuses for why you can’t do something a good woman will call you out on your bs and make you shape up.

If you want a promotion, but claim to not be able to get one she will quickly let you know that in all honestly you’re not doing enough. A good woman will always encourage her man to make an honest living that he can be proud of. Most importantly she knows how to talk to him and tell him these things without being down on him.

3.King Him – Feeding your man grapes, strawberries and parading around in little enticing outfits is delightful, but what about providing him with some mental stimulation. A good woman not only speaks to the King in her man, but she also treats him as such. She sees potential in him. She treats you like he is the most capable and deserving man in the world, in addition to spoiling and catering to him in the most feminine way.

A good woman will often make a man feel like he’s the only man who exists in her eyes. There is power in a good woman who can push her man to new heights.. A good woman sees greatness in her King. She thinks he’s amazing and makes him feel as such. A good woman is so amazing that she will have a man feeling like Nas, when he made “If I Ruled The World.” She will have him feeling like anything is possible, like he could actually change the world.. Imagine that, or simply google Barack Obama.

4.SHE’S SECURE – A good woman is secure within herself and not easily jealous over other women. She’s not quick to put the next woman down just because she thinks the woman looks good and provides competition to her own looks. No man wants an insecure woman who is always messing up his business deals because she thinks he’s flirting with or having sexual relations with the women he works with.

5.STABILITY – Women often look for stability in a man. What they don’t know is that it’s their characteristics as a woman that cause a man to become stable. Most relationships are temporary, you actually know they will expire any minute.

She makes him think about a future with her.

A good woman will make you think of your goals and plans and make sure they are in alignment with what you want out of life. If a woman wants a stable man then she needs to be stable herself. That’s one of the top signs of a good woman.

6.ALLERGIC TO GOLD DIGGING – A good woman doesn’t require that you buy her expensive gifts in order to obtain or maintain her affection. She’s just as happy with sentimental gifts from a man as she would be with a gift of Louboutin shoes. It’s not all about money with her, it’s all about you and the man whom you are.

When a man finds a good woman that’s when those wedding bells start to ring.

BY FG FARRAHGRAY

Mystery Millionaire * got me feeling some kinda way* (((((Blog)))))

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Tonight I watched one of my FAVORITE shows Mystery Millionaire. (google it)

I love this show because I enjoying seeing how these women will react when they find out that the guy they’ve been seeing is actually a Millionaire. The millionaire goes on 3 dates with different women, but the one he connects the most with, he’ll ask out for a second. During these dates, he’s given a house, car and fake occupation. He has to keep up with the lie until the end of the show where he will then tell the person, who he really likes, that everything about what she knows about him is a LIE.

The show is really good. I must admit I love it. But the down side of it is that the woman always walk away “feeling some kinda way”… because while he got to “know her”…. she doesn’t know a thing about him. Everything was a lie. So now she has to regroup and ask him questions all over again, while he breaks his neck “being himself”…. gladly. Bragging and boasting about what he has, and where he’s been, who he knows.

As she begins to know more about him, she has to ask herself “will I be able to deal with him flying in and out of town every week, or wonder how many women are still attached to him?” How does he get along with his parents and siblings? We all know Millionaires cling to their friends, the ones who are publicly known. They separate themselves a distance from FAMILY… because they always “have their hands out”. These are important questions when dating a Millionaire. If they talk side ways about their family members, and PRAISE their FRIENDS… trust me…. you’ll be on his lips too and not in a positive way.

Millionaires ALWAYS feel that it PROTECTS THEM * SMH* when they go  “undercover” to find out who are for them, and who is not. That’s fake to me, and if I’m ever tested in LOVE this way, I’ll never ever in my life talk to him again. EVER. I’m to straight a person to give him the “REAL ME” while he feed me lies on a bed of shrimp…. got me messed up. I don’t play games like that. Just stop talking to me because its a wrap. His heart is “protected”…. but mines is all over the place.

Again, I LOVE the show, but while the men search to find someone who will LOVE them for them, its the women who get played in the end. Mind games, and LIES don’t mix with LOVE.

Be Blessed

LOVE is not a POWER STRUGGLE ……(((((BLOG)))))

 

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Hey

I had a wonderful last few days. Sometimes you just gotta make moves in order to feel good about yourself or a certain situation. There is nothing wrong with it either.

There’s this guy that I’ve been feeling for a long time that I get to see daily. I pay attention to consistency in a man. This person is the same every time I see him. He always have a pleasantness about him that I just love. He doesn’t even have to say much, he’s a doer. He’s one of those type of guys that enjoys to cook and have family barbecues at his house, family or a park. I always admire that in a man. When he speaks I listen, he’s so interesting, so helpful. So sweet, so honest and truthful.

These days some MEN are motivated by having MONEY, BIGGER AND “BETTER”. Some will never enjoy life in a family way, because they’re too busy either chasing MONEY…. OR/AND OOOOS AND AHHH’S. Sad part is, many of them don’t know how to LOVE. They’ve never experienced real love, because they’re so busy trying to impress people. Real love is displayed by dinners, seeing each other, walks on the beach, good mornings and good nights. Spending time taking rides together, small talk between being busy. Communication, agreements, compromise and understanding Not POWER STRUGGLING, demanding, one way conversations, side talking, and broken ” I’ll get back to you in a moment” and never do situations. Be done with those types of BUMS.Catch them on JUDGEMENT DAY and not a hour before.

I come from a family who LOVE TO LOVE on each other. WOMEN KNOW YOUR WORTH!

Be Blessed

Jealousy………… ((((((((((Blog))))))))))

Friday night my 2 sisters and I went out to dinner at Applebees…. we sat for 5 hours talking and catching up on our lives. We were having many conversations but the one that stood out the most was the fact that we’re not jealous when it comes to being in a relationship. For me I was never a jealous person until I met my daughters father. Before him I was never insecure. I knew I was pretty, had a great family, nice personality… but when I met him and having to deal with all the women. It made me a bitter person. It took me years to get over him and over the way the relationship made me feel. Over the years I met some pretty good men, that always made me feel so loved and so wonderful. I never had to deal with jealousy again.

The reason why I’m writing this is to say to my Sisters out there. Know you’re beautiful. Know that you are loved by God no matter how a man make you feel. Know that if you have to be in a relationship that makes you have to always look over your shoulders because of other women, or have to fight or go back and forth…. please don’t waste anytime getting help, or leaving that relationship. What woman in their right mind want to feel jealous and insecure of another woman? Women these days lose themselves in a marriage or in a unmarried relationship. You have to still love your life and enjoy it.

Let me say this too…. Sisters, you have to do your part in making your man feel secure. When you start trying to make him jealous, then one day down the line, it just maybe you….. who gets jealous . That’s a dangerous game to play. Find ways to entertain yourselves while he’s not around. Visit family and friends….. Don’t build your life around him…. that when he wants and needs a break, you find yourself whining and bored. Many women push themselves away from their family and friends when they get married or enter a relationship. Never do that. You never want to look up and have no one….but him. Down the line it makes him uncomfortable, and he’ll have to always find ways to entertain you. That’s not fair. Build your own life, and at the end of the day…  go home to the LOVE OF YOUR LIFE.

Be Blessed!

Listen to yourself and in that quietude you might hear the voice of God. – Dr. Maya Angelou 

Sistergurl Talk *woman to woman* ((((((Blog))))))

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So, I just finished watching Kandi’s Wedding. I’m just outdone by the disrespect and the lack of common sense used. I see clearly the drama that will eventually end in divorce if Kandi don’t get a grip of her mothers behavior. It kills me to see her going through this and not have a clue to how to stop her mother for just saying whatever she wants to say. My daddy is the same way, took me forever to learn how to deal with him. I’m so glad that I learned it before I got married.

Kandi has to say: Momma, I understand that you don’t too much care for Todd. I get that. So for now on to respect how you feel, I will ask you NOT to ask me about him, and I will NOT bring up his name. Not only that, but since you feel this way, I would appreciate if you NOT discuss him with anyone else, because I would hate to HEAR that you’re mentioning his name to anyone when you’ve expressed the way you feel. I feel that if you’re not feeling a person, then their name should never come out of your mouth.

I know and understand that Kandi have hope that each time she brings up Todd’s name that her mom would eventually come around…its not going to happen unless she tries something different. Its not even important why Momma Joyce feels the way she does, what’s important is that Kandi “gets it” before Todd gets fed up. I understand that she looks at her mother as her best-friend…. I get that. But some of the things that Momma Joyce says about Todd  is disrespectful and unacceptable. If Todd at A N Y T I M E feel that its gone to far, and feels that he can’t talk to Kandi as his best-friend and his WIFE …. there is no telling where this marriage will end. A man/woman can only take so much in a relationship when they’re not being heard.

 

Kandi needs to get a grip of what’s going on here with her mom disrespecting Todd ( her husband) in the way that she does, she’s going to lose him. I’m going to say this- When a man feels the need to TALK and VENT with someone who “understands” even if it means meeting a new woman who totally can be a friend without being in his immediate circle… he will. Todd goes out of town a lot early in the marriage, while she’s in Atlanta.. and if she’s calling him “filling” him in on what’s “said” and its drama from her mom, he’s going to eventually get tired of it. At some point, he’s going to feel that he needs to “talk” with that person who loves to listen and understand. That’s how outside relationships start. Those talks are going to show him that he’s in a marriage that will always be filled with drama. If he ever decides to leave Kandi. he will NOT fight for anything monetary or”stuff” (( material things)), he will walk away with his FREEDOM AND PEACE OF MIND…… and what can beat that? My prayer is that Kandi… get it. I just love Todd for her… and I love me some Kandi as well.

 

 

 

Listen to yourself and in that quietude you might hear the voice of God. – Dr. Maya Angelou

 

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