Ok yall this is going to be real quick. I need to know what you would have done in this situation. Be honest okay? Real real real honest. I need you to look at this situation as the person you are today………..right now. Okay?
First let me tell you about the people in this story. my CO WORKER is a sweet person, she has some kids and a man.
A few times she has came to me and said Lacrease do you have $20.00 to borrow until such and such. And I have loaned her the money several times. As a matter of fact she asked at the right time. Because I was getting child support checks weekly and working checks so I was straight Okay? So…………………………………….
Whenever she got paid she alwaysssssssssssssssssss paid my money back the same day, I didn’t have to ask her for it, nor did I have to throw out hints. She alwayssssssss pay people back.
So last week (not even a week ago) it was me her, and our other coworker standing around because we didn’t have any customers, and she was about to buy something with her bridge card (food stamps) and I was like ooooo yeah ? buy me this with your card it was a bottle of water and a slim Jim. So she was like all I got is enough for my kids, and NOBODY I MEAN NOBODY COMES BEFORE THEM! So I looked. and I was like danggggggggg ? where that come from? And she was like I didn’t mean it like that, Im just saying I have to buy some food with this and it aint enough. So me being the person I am, Im like okayyyyyy I aint mad cause you aint gonna buy it for me, because I have some money. She still my gurl. I know that she is going through some things, and I can tell that she KNOWS that she shouldn’t have said that, I can tell that if she could take it back she would.
But ? was like dang ? you just could have said Lacrease I have just enough for my kids, you didn’t have to say all that other stuff. ?was really mad at her for saying that to me. The more ? kept talking about it, I think that my feelings was hurt a little bit. Because I started thnking about all the times I was there for her. And the thing about it is. ? dont know that when ? needs money she comes to me. Had ? known that she would have really been able to argue that case. I looked over at ? and I can tell that what ? was saying she was feeling. Then I said, thats okay ? when you sell stuff Im always supporting you. So she went to her register looking down.
Later on that day I knew that she was feeling funny. So I went up to her and started talking to her, and she said you aint mad at me? And Im like gurllllllllllllllll naw. I aint thought about that stuff. So the next day I hugged her as usual when I got to work. And that was that.
Now read this real close because I need your true thoughts on this.
Today I got to work and was standing at the podium to check in, when ? another coworker came up to me and hugged me, then she said I want to ask you something. So im like okay gurl what???? She said someone wants to know if you had $10.00 to borrow? So Im like whooooooo ?. She said they didn’t want to ask, so Im asking for them. I made her tell me who it was. It was ?! I said nope I dont have any money on me. She said okay and left.
Now I didn’t have $10.00 on me AT ALL. I really didn’t. But I keep asking myself if I did have the $10.00 would I give it to her.
So let me ask you this: If you were Lacrease and you had the $10.00 would you give it to her to borrow BASED ON THIS STORY???
Be honest.
Waiting…………….Lacrease
“It aint what they call you, its what you answer to”~ Tyler Perry~ Madea Goes To Jail~June 17, 2005 Detroit, Michigan
Inside the mind of cree 
Hell to the NO!!!!! Your gurllllllll as you call her is a selfish ith. She did not have to act a fool with you about 2.00 and some change, cause that is what your items would of added up too. If someone was always leaning me money when I needed it, that would have been the least I could have done. If she had a food stamp card and she had children, she had $$$$ on her card. When you have more then one child you got more stamps. I would still be nice to her but the bank would be close. So called friend get on my last nerve!!!!
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yes i would have
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Brown Sugar I m so feeling you on that thing. See your way takes me out of her even asking me that question again. I don’t think I feel comfortable with her asking me. I don’t feel as if she is using me, that’s far from it. But I cant get out of my head how she said “Dont nobody come before my kids.” So Im like to myself, I know they don’t because when I was getting child support checks I took from mines to help yours eat. But see I would have been wrong for saying that? Right? Wrong in the Christian eye. But at the same time its the truth.
And the strange thing about it is, when she looks at me I can tell she feels funny/But this is a lesson learn, people burn their own bridges with other people. I am a very low maintenance person. I don’t like attention, and what she said, I don’t require all that. All she had to say is Lacrease I don’t really have it, because I have to get some groceries for my kids. And I know her struggle, so I would have been like okayyyy gurl cool. And left it at that. Maybe my feelings was hurt. I dunno.
Milton, to be honest. I really think that I would have given it to her, because that’s just how I am. I think that if I had the money and told her no I don’t have it, I don’t think that I could have went to my register, ran it, and not think about it. Because its deeper than just “dont nobody comes before my kids,” its about her kids. She needs help, she pays back, and she is sweet as pie. We don’t go out or anything, but she is a good person. Her kids need food, and if I say no to her knowingly all of this. Then I knowwwwwwww God is going to ask me …………..Lacrease why didn’t you help her. God stays on my heels. lol He does. He is always on me about something.
Thanks I really needed to hear from you all.
“It aint what they call you, its what you answer to”~ Tyler Perry~ Madea Goes To Jail~June 17, 2005 Detroit, Michigan
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Hmmm, ok, I’ve been out and about all day so I am just getting to blog a little. Let me first say that there are always gonna be people like that. People who take advantage of another persons niceness and generosity. I believe we are to help others in times of need. It’s up to you to discern whether it’s really needed and you know her better than we do. I was able to visualize the conversation when you asked her to buy you something..simply because I’ve had friends who are “ghetto like that”. I don’t like saying it but it’s true. People can be quite selfish. Also, eliminate any further drama buy not discussing it with your other friends at work. That’s a no-no. Personally, I wouldn’t have any money to lend, even if it’s asked for on a payday because the fact of the matter is that you need your money as well. And you don’t need to be lending it to somebody who can’t even sacrifice a mere $2 on you. As if $2 was going to buy a meal for her kids anyway. What was she going to feed them…some oodles and noodles? Girl, that’s why I pray to God every day to help me continue to be self sufficient so that I don’t have to ask a friend for a dime. Because those are the ones that won’t be in your corner when you need them but will be the first to ask for your help when they need it. Be smart about it. Continue to be friendly. But never be used.
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Furthermore…nice, sweet people would have said, “I’m sorry but I really don’t have it.” PERIOD. No other explanation needed. I think that because another person was there, she said it the way that she did and later felt bad about it. But it’s time to be grown up about everything. You don’t talk to people like that in any situation and you don’t send another to do something for you because you’re embarrassed to. That’s my 4c for the night. Happy Mother’s Day Ladies.
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I love my yahoo 360 family! heheh
thanks
crease
Happy Mothers day to you tooooooo
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Ms. Dee I sooooooooooooooooooooooo received this. Also, eliminate any further drama buy not discussing it with your other friends at work. That’s a no-no.
“You got Gold at home, but you go out and get Rhinestones?”~~ Mrs. Charlene Hayes ( on men who cheat)
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Yeah i would have. from this story it seems like she’s a single parent. I can tell you from personal experience being a single parent is stressfull. sometimes we say and do things we don’t mean or without looking at the bigger picture. While she probably “didn”t”t have the money to get you those items there was a better way to say it. but she obviously regretted it you could tell by the vibe. now if she went on like nothing happenned or you better get over it and moved on without remorsem i may think different. but that’s not the case the situation obviously bothered her. Money truly is the root of all evil. But love conquers all. be loving. Just my 2 pennies worth.
Oh BTW Cavs 86 pistons 77…lol
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Yes I would have because you would have made a point just by doing so. Crease that girl just need prayer sounds like she going thru something and I think you need to be the “Cre” that you are and show her some support and at the same time show all the people WWJD
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Yes I would have we have to be Christ like even when we don’t want to and what a better witness to her than being there for her. As Lady J said she needs prayer and who knows maybe there are others pulling on her for a handout and you are the other salvation she sees. It was wrong of her to get the other young lady to ask you for the $10.00 the less people are in the business the better.
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I think that I would have had to say no to this one simply becasue of the fact that she wasn’t able to come ask on her own so why would you help her through proxy. She wasn’t afraid to ask you before she clowned you in public like that so she shouldn’t have felt bad about asking you after. Especially becasue of the fact that you told her that you where not upset about the situation.
No if she was to come to you directly then maybe but sending someone else nope not at all.
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I agree with KD if you not comfortable enough to ask for what you need on your own then I couldn’t see myself giving her 10.00 Well let me take that back I would give it to her… But not through someone else. I would approach her and let her know that if she needed something from me , she should come to me. I think that’s a lesson in ” don’t bite the hand that feeds you”… You were put in her life for a reason, and now she should realize that. It’s not about do for me and I’ll do for you .. Its about appreciating the blessing that are before you….
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I love you guys sooooo much! I appreciate all of the comments. Thats what I really love about God. He gave us all different personalities to enjoy each other.
Thank you so much
Lacrease
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((If I had it on me, I would have given it to her.))
I may be wrong for thinking and doing things to prove a point. But, honestly… I would have given it to her Thinking (See I’m not like you).
~ T
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lol @ T. YEsterday at work I was having problems on the computer putting in my vacation days, she saw me and came over and helped me. So I see that she really didnt mean to hurt my feelings and that she used a bad choice of words to get her point across that day. EVeryday she is showing me in her own little way that she is sorry. So alls forgiven. End of this subject. Thanks everyone. Lacrease loves ya.
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yea i would have given it to her.
Sometimes u just have to answer people, WITH LoVE.
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i hope she didnt think that u DIDNT wanna give it to her……b.u.t. it is what it is….. its so difficult dealing with people personalities…isn’t it Cre? lol
Stay Blessed my sis!
I’m Bakkkkkkkkkkkkkkk!!
😉
~NYC~
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