The Six Deadly Dating Sins
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Forced Family Ties: Kyle met Lecia at a weight-loss support goup. He found her lighthearted, and he laughed when she poked fun at the “CIA conspiracy against carbs.” At the end of the evening, he askes her out. When he picked her up for their first date, Lecia introdued him to Johnathan, her teenage son. A couple of weeks later when Kyle arrives to take her to a movie, she gleefully announced that she’d gotten tickets for him and Johnathan to go to a basketball game together instead. She said she wanted the two men in her life to get to know each other. Kyle found it a bit overzealous of her, but well-intententioned. Days later a frantic Lecia called Kyle: I need you to come over right away. Johnathan stayed out past his curfew, and I told him you’d be coming by to tell him what his punishment will be.” They had only four dates. There was never a fifth.
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What went wrong: Too often women find a man they think is wonderful and immediately start folding him in with their children, their mother, the people at the office–all in an effort to test the strength of the relationship. But with each premature introduction comes all kinds of presure-packed expectations (and opinions) of their romance at a time when he’s still trying to wrap his brain around her.
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Solution: Let him develope a bond with your peeps at his pace, not yours. Men love to purse a prospective mate but hate feeling rushed to sign on for a package deal when they aren’t ready. And if you have kids, neither they nor your man should be expected to interact like parents and child until after you two are husband and wife.
However, if he’s moving at a pace that’s much slower than yours–and its clear that he isn’t going to speed up– it’s okay to break off the relationship and look for someone whose timetable is closer to yours.
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By Dr. Ronn
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Inside the mind of cree 
Wow, now let me say this. I have invited my male friend over and I introduced my daughter to them. But! Not like that. I introduced them because we were at my house, but my daughter don’t stay around or like to be around like that. So I wonder was that even wrong now. 😦
What are your thoughts on this DDS?
Lacrease
Where works of the flesh exists, there is NO joy
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Nice post…very interesting…
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well dear this may sound crazy but i would not date a sista unless she does have kids i like kids matter of fact i want 1 more [listening to see if anyone wants to help a brotha out my email addy daspotmusic@aol.com]…. Kids can be a great bonding act for men that want kids if you allow the man to bond with your kids at his pace and the kids pace!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Secret your daughter will love any man that the mommy loves 99.9% of the time .Sons bond differently much differently you have to give them time to like the dude nd dude time to find a common point that they can agree on because very rarely do sons enjoy like or give up their mother to another man.On sin #1 i was guilty sin #2 i am clean i am offically in Purgatory scared of day 3
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this one was right on the money…i have never look -d for a baby daddy i have always look-d for a soul mate for myself…
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Whoa! best one in a long time Ma u hit the nail right on the head wit that. sometimes a fella wants to take his time to make sure that this the ideal woman 4 him, think about it for u not to do the same is to cheat ur self out of what that can possibily turn into true romance. Holla at ur Phat Daddy Boo.
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Women have FMD – Futuristic Mentality Disease…az soon az we meet someone who ‘fits’ the mold of what were seeking…..we fast forward to the comfort zone….
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The gall of her!! I don’t have any children but if I did, I would never make a man I’m dating or getting to know assume a fatherly role. First off, I believe you need to be getting the know the man in depth before introducing the children into the mix. You have to be careful with who you bring into your children’s lives. Not only for their safety but also for their feelings. Children can get attached very easily and the way some people go through relationships, it can make a child very unstable.
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