Thank you Lord for waking me this morning and starting me on my way. Thank you for keeping my family and friends safe. Thank you for showing me who I am. I can\’t say that enough. I don\’t care how right I seem to myself, you always show me when I\’m wrong, and I just love you for that.
Today was one of those days where I\’m in the house looking * ugly*, thinking, and wondering what in the world is wrong with me? I have those days sometimes, when I\’m just too connected to people. Gosh I hate that. Sometimes I wish I could be one of those people that say * oh well too bad for them*. I\’m just not that way. As a matter of fact, let me share what I found out about myself.
I was going through my manual for my Teens group for ideas and work sheets, when I came across the word Empathy. I had heard the word many times before and known it had to do with an emotion, but I never really gave it any thought.
Empathy means: That you can sense, identify with, and understand what another person is feeling. You can almost get inside the person\’s head and heart. You have a shared communion with him or her. If you have empathy, you have compassion for others.
Empathy is the capacity to recognize or understand another\’s state of mind or emotion. It is often characterized as the ability to \”put oneself into another\’s shoes\”, or to in some way experience the outlook or emotions of another being within oneself.
So when I read it, I was just blown away. All of these years and I was wondering what in the world is wrong with me? Why do I cry when someone is talking to me, and they are telling me something that happened * to them*.? Just today, my best friend called me and told me about her friends wedding on yesterday. She was her Matron of Honor and the Bride was so nervous that she was dis taught. As my best friend was explaining every emotion there is for a Bride, in the middle of no where…….. I breaks out and start crying. WTH? Now at this time, I realized that God has given me a triple dose of Empathy, and so I start to clear up my face. I mean I was visualizing every WORD she was saying. After a few minutes I had to push the mute button on my phone, that\’s when my best friend couldn\’t hear me anymore, she said Lacrease Walker, I know you ain\’t crying? She already know! LOL I told her the truth, and asked myself……..gurl what is wrong with you? You were not there, you did not witness this situation, why are you crying? I didn\’t come up with an answer, but I got on line and took an Empathy Test. Are you ready for my results?
Your score: 68
0 – 32 = low (most people with Asperger Syndrome or high-functioning autism score about 20)
33 – 52 = average (most women score about 47 and most men score about 42)
53 – 63 is above average
64 – 80 is very high
80 is maximum
So then I took another test. Here are those results.
Your result for The Empathy Test …
The Kind Heart
Congratulations. You know that by helping other people, you really do make the world a better place for them AND for you! You know what it feels like to put your feet in someone else\’s shoes. Be careful not to let others take advantage of you, though; not everyone is as kind-hearted as you. Otherwise, keep up the good work!
I can be in a movie, watching it, and as soon a song come on, my mind starts to put the scene together with the music, and bam……crying like a dogone baby.This middle age white lady and her mother came through my line one day, the lady was hollering so bad at her mother, it was a shame. I love kids,teens and old people. When she did that I was so mad at her, I just bust out and started crying. Now I know why I\’m this way. Someone could be talking to me and need ministering too, once I hear their story and begin to picture it, oh my goodness, its over. That visual makes me cry. And here I\’m thinking to myself * gurl if you don\’t clear up your face while this lady tell her story*. LOL I\’m suppose to be ministering to someone and here I am crying more than they are about their own story. What kind of stuff is that?
For this last past week or so, I\’m trying to not be so connected with people. Now that I know about my gift a little deeper. I realized that when I give heavy eye contact, I become deeply connected to them. So now when I scan their items, I look away more quickly and then talk to them looking up once, and then as they are exiting my line. I can read body language, facial expression, voice tone everything. That\’s a huge deal to me. I gotta stop this. LOL Once we lock eyes, I GOTCHA, I\’m the spider and your the fly! If Neisha has something to tell me, and she knows Imma cry about it, she\’ll say…….. momma I got something to tell you and don\’t cry okaaaay? LOL
Even tho me and Neisha were born on the same day, we are so different. She is more the person that WONT cry, she will sit with you, comfort you, show the best hospitality, and ask questions to come up to a solution. Ill do that as well, but first I gotta get my cry out with the person. hehehe. Anyway, I can finally rest that nothing is wrong with me, I just got doused with a triple dose of Empathy and there is nothing I can do about it. When I learn to use it without crying all the time, I am going to be one powerful Sister. Can you imagine how many people I can relate too? Now I know why so many people come to me for advice, and conversation. Now I know!! Now I know why. Sometimes I feel like:
Everything is good.
Guess what? Ive been at Walmart for 5 years, and guess what they\’ve announce this year for OUR store? To be open on Thanksgiving!!! I said to myself……yall got thatgurltheycallCree messed up!! That is disrespectful to the employees, and the customers. From what I hear, they are taking volunteers first, then they are putting you on the schedule. Well, Ive been there for 5 years and I have never been wrote up for my attendance, I have been called to the office for a warning, and that was it. Lets just say that\’s the end of this conversation.
I\’m gone to bed, gotta get up and go to work at 8:30. Then I have the next 2 days off. Yea, I gotta focus on me right now. I\’m going to share that this week what I\’m talking about………its a good thing too.