Living to Learn Life Lessons
Today, Lacrease, we believe God wants you to know that …
You keep wanting to know how things will play out, keep asking to see the future. God doesn’t give anyone the power to know the future, because life becomes maddeningly boring when you know everything upfront. So, instead of struggling, enjoy the uncertainty – to be alive means to not know.
So I get that approval from the property management and all was well. There’s this guy in his early 50s who liked me. But I like his friend/his Boss. Who is also the head maintenance guy for as long as I’ve been here. And even though we don’t have each other phone numbers, we flirt every now and then with each other. We have fun talking and laughing. He would always tell his friend that I’m off-limits to him…. and everyone on his staff. Even though we laughed about that I didn’t take it serious because we never talked outside of the job.
Last week The friend knocked on my door one morning so hard and so loud it woke me up. My first response was who is it? Very loud and very angry. When he told me his name I asked him what did he want? He said oh I’m sorry I didn’t know you were in here. I was told that you had moved out this past weekend. So I’m thinking to myself if you thought I moved out why are you knocking on my door for one, and for two who did you expect to answer if you thought I moved already? So I said…. “I already talked to the leasing department I’m not moving until some work is being completed in my apartment”. I can tell he wanted me to open up the door but I didn’t .He had never did that before and it raised my suspicions about him.
So the very next day I put out an old dresser, a table, and a table I use for my computer in the hallway to be taken out the next morning to the dumpster. While I slept someone was banging on my door. I jumped up off the couch walked up to the door asking who is it? Before I can put my hand on the doorknob he was coming into my apartment. I pushed the door back on him and closed it. I was horrified to think that I slept overnight with my door unlocked. After I got my thoughts together, I opened the door to see what he wanted. Again he said I thought you moved into your new apartment? I was still trying to figure out how could I be so careless and leave my door unlocked? I’m very careful. I locked everything, and I check it always. Even when I get in the car, I check the back seat and everything. I was out done by him walking into my house and it was early morning.
I remember him asking me was those my things out in the hallway and I said yes. I can tell he wanted to make small talk with me and to flirt as always. I brushed off the flirting, and he eventually left.
On Sunday my brother came over to help me move my TV because Comcast was coming out between two and four. When he was done….I walked my brother to the lobby and thanked him for coming. Before heading back to my apartment I stopped and talked to security. He told me that the guy that I liked *Boss* no longer worked for the company. That was a shock to me too because he was the boss and knew everything in the building.
So today Wednesday January 7…… I’m in my old apartment lying on the couch just thinking. I hear a loud “let me in” kinda knock on my door. I knew it was him. My heart start beating fast because this man wants me . He can’t stop knocking on my door. He wants a reaction out of me. He wants to see my face and my face expression. He wants to tell me how he wish I was his wife and that I’m going to marry him. By me not opening up the door he’s feeling some type of way. I started not to say anything but then if I didn’t say anything in his mind he’d figure he’ll use his key to come in and once he sees me he’ll say I THOUGHT YOU MOVED OUT ALREADY!!!! I heard his keys jingling. If I didn’t say who is it fast enough he was going to come in my apartment on me. And I know it now.
This is really really really really bothering me. I’m not sleeping at all during the night . I told my daughter about it and she is very angry she told me if anything else happens I better report him. Then I start thinking am I overreacting? But I ‘m really going to pay attention if I have to report him I will I just don’t need any drama. Some days I feel like I am so close to the edge. I really don’t need this right now. I just want to be left alone. Now that I’m thinking back on a lot of stuff that I ignored he really really wants me. And the more I resist him the more aggressive he is the next time. It’s after 3 o’clock in the morning and I have to be up at eight going to try to sleep.
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(IJReview) — A woman named Candice Curry wrote a letter to her ex-husband’s new wife Ashley Parish, and the reception of the letter has been off the charts.
Here is the full letter from Curry’s Women With Worth blog via our friends at Young Cons. Take a look for yourself.
To My Daughter’s Stepmom,
I never wanted you here. You simply were never part of the plan. Growing up and dreaming of my family I never included you. I didn’t want help from another woman to raise my child. The plan was for my family to include me, daddy and our children, not you. I doubt you ever wanted me in your life. I doubt you planned to mother a child that you didn’t give birth to. I can bet that your plan for your family included you, daddy and your children together, not me or my daughter. I can almost bet that when you dreamed of becoming a mother it would be the day you gave birth and not the day you married your husband. I’m pretty sure you never planned on me being here.
But God has plans that far exceed our own and when my little family dissolved to form two families I knew you would be coming.
In my mind you would be a terrible beast and my daughter would not want you to mother her at all, ever! I was hoping that you would be semi unattractive and prayed my daughter wouldn’t look up to you. Her daddy would know that he was settling for second best. Evil swirled in me because I never wanted to face the fact that another woman would mother my child in my absence.
Then you arrived.
When I first met you I’ll admit you weren’t what I had in mind and a twinge of jealousy shot through my body. You were supposed to be hideous, remember? But you weren’t, you were stunningly beautiful. You were supposed to be a mean old hag, remember? But you weren’t, you were a young, sweet woman.
My plans were foiled.
I realized by the look on your face that meeting me was just as hard as it was for me to meet you. My heart immediately softened. Dang your kind smile! I was planing on really hating you. Why are your ruining my plan?!
I wanted to resent you but you made it impossible and I quickly grew thankful for you.
You’ve accepted our daughter from the very start and have unconditionally loved both her and her daddy, that’s a true gift to all of us. You’ve included our daughter in everything you do and make her feel loved and accepted. You put her relationship with her daddy above yours and only a brave and courageous woman knows how to do that with such grace.
I knew when her daddy and I decided to divorce and live in separate homes there would be times when she would need me, her mommy, and I wouldn’t be there. I’m so thankful that you are there in my absence. I’m grateful that you have mercy on her teen years and never reject her. She needs a mommy at your house and you’ve done an amazing job being that for her.
You’ve respected my position as mom from the very start. I appreciate that you always check with me when you question if you are making the right decision with her. I know our situation is rare. It’s not often that a mom and stepmom text each other to remind each other that they love and respect each other. You are a gift.
Because of you and your courage to mother our daughter the way that you do, she will be a better woman. She will grow up with more love than I could have ever imagined. It wasn’t her choice to have divorced parents and even though I wouldn’t wish that on any child I am so thankful that she now has 4 parents who love and respect her and each other. She’s compassionate because of it and understands that a failure in one area can turn into a blessing in another.
I don’t see you as a fill in for when I’m not there. You are her mother when she’s with you and when she’s with me. She’s excited to call you and tell you her stories when she’s at my house and that makes my heart want to jump from my chest with joy. I fill with pride when you wrap your arms around me and squeeze for a genuine and loving hug each time we see each other.
I am extremely aware of what it looks like when a mother cannot emotionally accept her childs stepmother in their life. Gratefulness pours heavily from me that we are able to rise above anything like that and do what is truly right for our daughter. Thank you for being mature enough and respectful enough to co-parent with me.
I promise to always respect your input for our daughter. I promise to never lessen the position you hold in her life or make you feel like you are not her mother. I promise to raise her to be grateful to have two strong and brave women in her life that have the courage to mother her together. Even though our situation is peaceful I pray that she is never in it, but if she ever finds herself here I promise to set an example for her of what co-parenting should look like.
Precious woman, you are a rare and beautiful gem.
God bless you and I love you.
Millions of people read the letter, and then the stepmom replied:
“Candice, I don’t know what to say. I am not good with words like you are and the way you express yourself. All I can say is I am crying like at the end of The Notebook … you make me feel so special … Thank you for this letter. It made my day and I will keep it close to my heart always. Love you.”
Be Blessed!
Hello Family
Today was a great day!!
Yesterday was different.
I went up to my job to pick up the check that wasn’t right…. THE FOLLOWING WEEK …… And almost had to put on my “clown suit”. My check still wasn’t there and will be cut on the regular day… which I know they knew. See, that’s the kinda stuff that makes me want to go back to the old LaCrease. When you work with people all they see is your good side, and they think since you’re a Christian, that your patience is longer. I’m still a person boo… and I will nut up every now and then. Please don’t push me.
So, when I got off work (current job), I called the front desk and told them to tell the manager that LaCrease was on her way up there ( former job). When I got there, the gurl at the desk told me that he came out of the meeting for a brief moment but she didn’t get a chance to tell him I called. I said.. guuuuuuuuuuuurl I called up here 1000 times, you see his face and not once think to tell him that I was coming ? She said well he was in a meeting earlier, and on his way back to another one. Im looking at her like OKAY….AND….. She said I wouldn’t bother him in a meeting anyway…. Lord.. why she say that? I said I know YOU wouldn’t bother him in a meeting….cause you want your job.. I DON’T WORK HERE… Before I knew it I said.. I’ll walk in that meeting and set if off. Everybody walking around there with THEIR checks and I not have mines.. I know you wouldn’t bother him in a meeting.. HEFFA YOU STRAIGHT. I heard God say.. Cree go sit down and wait on the man. LOL LOL Mannnnnnnnnnnnnnnn people are so BLESSED.. that I’m not the same person I use to be. Make me not even want to be nice.. Goodness why does it have to be like that? Just let me be nice!!!
Anyway…… I’m just going to let this story go.
Today was a GREAT DAY!!!
Today, Lacrease, we believe God wants you to know that …
A flower starts deep under the dirt and has to fight against gravity in the darkness before finally breaking free and opening its bloom to the sun. You may feel like you’re in darkness and everything around you is muddy, but keep pushing toward the Light and when the time is right, you will burst into blossom.
Hey Yall!! 
. So now I have a nephew and a niece born on that day. Yall know I’m geeked right? LOL Congratulations Tyler!!! 
Inside the mind of cree 