I was just in the bathroom thinking as I always do… too much sometimes. About all the mistakes I made in my teens and in my 20’s and early 30’s. The things I did, said. I will continue to give my advice, and I will always TELL THE TRUTH AND I DON’T CARE HOW MAD A PERSON GET AT ME… (( cause at the end of the day that’s YOUR story and NOT LACREASE ( mines)) .Forgive me.. but I say that with GREAT ARROGANCE! FRFR Because at the end of the day, I’m going to my apartment, CLOSE MY DOOR, cross my legs turn on the TV, and that will still be YOUR story.
I came to the BIGGEST CONCLUSION…. looking back at MY life. I have absolutely NO ROOM AT ALL PERIOD… to JUDGE anyone ever!!! I really had my share of making bad decisions. I’m also happy that I can share them with others going through the same things. All I ask is that you TAKE WHAT YOU NEED FROM MY CONVERSATIONS and ADVICE.
I ask that you go down memory lane of all the things you did wrong IN YOUR EARLY DAYS, and ask yourself…. DO I HAVE ROOM TO JUDGE? Just remember this is NOT your story anymore, you are only a coach to someone.
I AM La’Crease and I don’t have to do ANYTHING ELSE
Today I decided to call off from work. Its been a while since I did that, because when I do I feel so guilty. But tonight I’m glad I did. Today was one of those days where I’m feeling some kinda way. So many questions to God and things that I have learned about myself. I really needed this day off.
I challenge you to get to know yourself, think about YOU, realize and come to some conclusions about things. Think about consequences YOU had to deal with because of YOUR immature decisions. Its okay. Cry, laugh, and think about things in the past. I did and I’m glad. I want to share them with you.
I find myself often asking God, why do we have to stay “down here” with people who just want to kill and hurt others? Yes, I know Jesus will come for us, and I look forward to that day. But I still ask, because I often wonder if I could survive if some of the things that happen to others, would happen to me. That’s so scary to me.
I realize that once upon a time.. I cared what people thought about me. I cared about the wrong things. Recently a coworker came to me and told me that she was pregnant with her 3rd baby, at 19. She was feeling some kinda way, because she and her kids father were already having a hard time with a baby sister while they work, not to mention the fact that she was embarrassed, and ashamed that she was pregnant again. I was so happy she came to me, because of my experience I was able to help her come to her conclusion. I was so glad that I am a person who can share my experiences (( because I revisited them and healed)) with others, and I don’t GIVE A DAM about what people think ANYMORE. I told her how I had my daughter at 19 and 3 months later I was pregnant again. I was too embarrassed to tell anyone except her dad. I was ashamed and VERY AFRAID WHAT OTHERS WOULD THINK OF ME. I decided very quickly that I would have an abortion. I was especially afraid of what my parents would think of me. At 3 months I had an abortion and never thought about it again until I was in my 30’s. I shared my story with my co-worker and told her this: This is YOUR baby, yes you may be ashamed, but at the end of the day….. if you decide to have an abortion it will be with you for the rest of your life. You can raise this baby, you can do it. When you lay eyes on your baby for the first time, you’re going to ask yourself…. how could I ever consider killing you? I told her don’t care or worry about what the next person has to say about you, because at the end of the day this is your baby, YES THE ONE GOD GAVE YOU. And with that, her baby boy will be born sometimes this summer. Amen!
I realize that I enjoy being alone more that I ever thought. My personality attracts a lot of people. No matter where I go someone always have a story for me. I don’t mind because God wired me up to be a listener and a person who gives good GODLY advice. I’ll be 50 this year, and with my age comes a lot of experience and WISDOM. With that being said.. so when I’m home, I like to chill out. I don’t talk on the phone unless its my parents or my siblings. (( and I have the nerve to have the iPhone 7 PLUS)) I hate talking on the phone. So I write a lot and that’s my personal therapy. Now don’t get me wrong. I LOVE being around people, I love going to the movies, or my favorite mall. I love get to gethers to play cards, laugh and talk junk. I LOVE to travel, and I LOVE ENTERTAINMENT. Its just that when I’m HOME… that’s my place of PEACE.. AND I LET NO ONE DISTURB THAT LIFE!
I’m very territorial when it comes to my daughter, my family and a few friends.
I HATE when women talk about other women. I just HATE it. What they don’t realize is, when you do that, you’re only making your OWN self esteem go down. What you think about others, you FEAR others think about you. FLAT OUT! Stop that. Build! Find something about her that stands out in a good way and focus on that in your mind. Trust me, she has something way more valuable than you. God made her differently.
I love about myself is the fact that I don’t have to look cute everyday. I can throw on some clean clothes and just run my errands looking ruff in the face. And, I know that I can throw on some clothes and as soon as I hit the outdoors MEN ARE STARING AND SMILING.. I love this about myself. LOVE IT. I DO ME DAILY! ME ME ME… now do YOU YOU YOU!
Take a inventory of yourself and discover you all over again!
I AM La’Crease and I don’t have to do ANYTHING ELSE!
I’m sitting here on this lovely day, I really need to be at a park this morning, we have some rainy days coming and I wanted to be near water on Belle Isle. But Summer is just around the corner and I promise myself I will be there more often than last year.
As many of you know I am deeply into the growth of women, when it comes to Life Lessons and Experiences. Seems like there is not a day that goes by when someone needs to talk to me and ask for advice. I’m very, very, to the point and honest with my answers. That’s what people LOVE about me, but sometimes when I dish it out they have a problem with my truth and honesty. And guess what? I don’t even care.
I was speaking with someone recently and they began to tell me that whenever she hits her boyfriend and fight him, he wont hit her, but, he will push her and leave marks on her body. She justifies the fact that she fights him, but he will only push her. I told her, one day…. one day… ONE DAY, he will not stand for her putting her hands on him and he’s going to fight back. She doesn’t believe it. That’s where the LIFE LESSON will come in at. I can tell her all day, but she’ll NEVER believe me, because it HASN’T HAPPENED to her YET. This is the part of my job, where I can’t help. She has to learn the lesson herself, and I hope that it doesn’t land her in the hospital.
We.. MEN AND WOMEN have to pay attention to the signs of any and all things. People are so afraid of being alone. They cannot see themselves alone. They rather deal with fighting and arguing, instead of saying… look we cannot get alone, lets go our separate ways. This is why so many men and women have self esteem issues. They stay in relationships that they are not suppose to be in.
Why is it so hard to leave? Fear of being alone, and seeing that person with someone else. SO WHAT!!! Especially if you’re not getting alone. Who wants to wake up arguing everyday, holding grudges and CONSTANTLY talking about the same issues day after day after day? I just don’t have that kinda time. Many people don’t like the thing of meeting someone new, getting to know new families, dating, meeting the kids and those kinds of things associated with meeting someone new. But its better than being in a relationship that clearly isn’t going anywhere right? Some will say, they just don’t want to put the time into it, so they stay.
I have plenty of things to say about this topic. Stay tuned.
I am La’Crease… and I don’t have to do ANYTHING ELSE!
Wow, I know I should be ashamed of myself for having not written since Jan. I guess I haven’t been in a writing mood, not to mention working a lot lately. But one thing I did do this year, and that was take my first cruise April 2-9 2017 on The Norwegian Breakaway!
Yes, I took a 7 Day Norwegian Cruise to the Bahamas with my MOTHER, daughter, sister and her husband. WE had a ball!!!
First of all we drove to New Year to Embark. I love to drive. I did the first 6 hours, my sleeping sister did a few, and her husband finished it off. LOL We dropped off our rental at Enterprise (( the nicest people)) in New York and were met with a beautiful driver by the name of Maria to take us to the ship. Once we checked our luggage and selves in, we were ready for a shower, eat and a nap. We were so tired after the shower, we were suppose to meet with all the travelers for a brief safety meet, but we were sleepy and didn’t go. Ill never do that again, because we had some storms come our way during the 7 days, and had something serious happened, I wouldn’t know what to do. I’ll never skip a safety meeting again on a cruise. My mother and daughter also fell asleep, but it was shown on our TV’s, they watched it, but still I didn’t. Not good.
The entertainment on the Norwegian Breakaway was soooooooooooo fun!!! They had a lot of things planned for the guest to enjoy. I really loved the unlimited drinks and eating. I thought I would eat a lot, but it wasn’t like that. But I sure tore that BAR UP. I don’t drink “in real life at home”, but on that cruise..it went down!!! LOL Those daiquiris was the bomb! The people were so nice. OMG! The waitress and waiters were the best. The food was delicious, everything was so perfect. I really really enjoyed myself.
Then… I got sick. Caught a cold being in that night air, and taking showers. That has never mixed well with my body. I have to take showers at night before bed unless its hot outside, and on the boat everyday we all wore sweaters because the waters were HYPED! LOL
I would NEVER EVER take a cruise less than 7 days. Ever! I was okay with dealing with the fact that it was time to go home, but a 3-4 is not enough for me. I like to chill, and if I want to chill in my room for a day, so let me do it. If I want to party and be apart of all the entertainment… so let me be. I say that to say…. I need 7 plus days on a cruise.
I enjoyed getting up at 5;30 in the morning and headed down to breakfast while everyone slept. I took a seat by the window for 2 and just enjoyed watching the sun come up. That was one of my favorite things to do.
Being on a cruise made me feel that there is MORE to life than just working and paying bills. So many people get into the habit of saying and BELIEVING that they dont have the money to cruise, or that they have too many bills, or dont have a baby sitter. LIES, LIES LIES! I came home and told my co-workers all about the cruise and they also had a hard time believing that it wasn’t expensive. I have a travel agent with Norwegian, and its all about paying your deposit and having 8 months to pay it off!!! You can pay any day and time you want! No one calls you and say… um cuse me, but when are you going to make a payment? You pay when you can as long as you meet the deadline.
The night before the cruise we had to set our suitcases outside of the door for pickup for Disembarkation in the morning. We put our s out late because we were out and about, but it was cool. I didn’t want to go home. My brother -n- law drove all 12 hours plus home from New York. Once I got home I still felt as if I was on the boat. I didn’t like that at all, I had to lay down. LOL The next day I was fine and on online looking for OUR next cruise!
And with that said… WE have already booked another 7 day CARIBBEAN CRUISE NEXT YEAR!!! My co-workers are going with us this time, plus many others!!! Yes, I plan to cruise every year!!! If I can cruise you can TOO!!
I know its been a while since I’ve blogged, been regrouping myself knowing that this year is going to be my year of $$$. There are so many things I want and need. Places I want to go. I turn 50 this year and I want to go someplace special. I already know what that is, I just need to focus and make it happen.
I know when its time for me to switch up and do things differently because I start to feel differently about my job. I can do it in my sleep, but I am growing, and I want to do something else. I feel as if I’m at a stand still and when I feel like that I start feeling some type of way. My mind always tell me when its time to keep it moving. So with that said, its time!
Proverbs 18:22 He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the LORD.
I absolutely LOVE the way these couples LOVE EACH OTHER.
I decided to put this together because I enjoy looking through the photos of these COUPLES FB pages, just to get a glance of what we all want………. LOVE. I learned that ALL of these couples…LOVE THEIR FAMILIES, LOVE to travel with EACH OTHER, and most importantly, they all LOVE GOD.
These beautiful couples can tell you for themselves the rode to LOVE has not been easy. They will even tell you they’re NOT PERFECT, but they made it. They did the work, they put in the time, they compromised, they put each other first, they will probably tell you, they had to let some people go, and that’s why these marriages are alive and well. NOT ONLY ARE THEY MARRIED, but notice they ALL are WEAR THEIR WEDDING RINGS. WOW.. AMAZING!
I wanted to show the world that REAL LOVE still exist. You don’t have to settle down with just anyone. The person God made for you is out there, and until you get out of these “no-where-going” relationships you’ll NEVER experience the love that these couples share. They should all give us HOPE that one day we too can experience LOVE IN THIS WAY.
My personal thought on all of the couples.
Tim and Karen-I LOVE the way Tim speak on his wife Karen. I LOVE how he LOVES GOD for BLESSING him with HER. I love the way she LOOKS at him when they’re doing videos together. And mostly, I LOVE how he says “MY WIFE”… he makes it SO PERSONAL. They also do videos for married couples and also for singles to learn from them on how to have a Happy Marriage. (( His movie “A Mother’s Love is also on NETFLIX)) Blessing and LOVE to you both.
Toure and Kim- I’ve been knowing Kim since we were teenagers * I’m 49*, she has gone through a lot. And when she told me she had went to school to become a nurse, and later got married to someone she met. I was so happy for her. Even though I’ve never met her husband… I know she’s happy IN LOVE. I love when she post photos of them before Church. They look so good together, and please focus on my favorite photo of her pouring him a drink in his cup. Look at the intense way he LOOKS AT HER.. OMG.. BEAUTIFUL!!! Blessings and LOVE to you both.
Darren and Electria ( Peedie)- My baby Sister. When I tell you I LOVE THIS MAN for MY sister…no words. He takes care of her, he’s the most attentive man I know. When he comes home from work, he showers, change clothes and want to “hit the streets” with his Wife. Dinner, movies, out of town, cruises… you name it, he wants her right by his side. He loves being with her. He will get up in the middle of the night to buy her soda or juice if she wants. I use to worry about her a lot because of the men she dated, but when she met and married him….those fears went out of the door. He LOVES to travel, and when he does.. SHE’S RIGHT BY HIS SIDE. My aunt use to tell her all the time, when you get married and stop living in Sin, is when all the blessings will come from GOD… AND OMG… I am a witness to it ALL. Blessings and LOVE to you both.
Wood and Dar’Cella- Wood is not only my first cousin, but he is my favorite. When I first met his girlfriend Dar’Cella (( they were high school sweethearts)) I really liked her. They started coming over to my place and I fell in love with her.I call them… “MY COUSIN WHO MARRIED MY COUSIN.” LOL When I tell you, they’ve been through it all, YOU BETTER HEAR ME WITH YOUR HEART. They stuck by each other through the thick and thin. When he was hospitalized she was with him the whole time, he KNEW, he KNEW, HE KNEW… that he had a WINNER, and that she wasn’t going anywhere. I was so happy to be witness to their wedding ceremony and its been UP FOR THEM EVERY SINCE! Blessings and LOVE to you both.
Vee and Boodang- Boodang is the BROTHER of Dar’Cella. We’ve all always called each other cousins because my cousin married his sister. When I met his wife Vee, and started working with her, I found out she was the sweetest person ever. I love this couple! By him being a public figure I know it hasn’t always been easy. But let me tell you, one day she was venting on FB, and he commented on her post, saying something like… baaaby we good over here, don’t entertain that… It was the most beautiful thing. Let me tell you why? He did it in LOVE, it wasn’t mean, it wasn’t embarrassing, it was out of the LOVE he have for them, their family, their marriage. She took down the post and THANKED HER HUSBAND….Ahhh it was so beautiful. She respects HIM.. and he respects HER. Blessings and LOVE to you both.
Chauncey and Lakisha- I met Chauncey many years ago because we lived on the same block. He had to be in high school at that time, but I knew his younger sister because I worked at her and my daughters elementary school. It was years when I saw him again, grown up and with Lakisha in my line at Walmart. I knew he loved her then, ( they wasn’t married yet)) because of the way they talked to each other. (( Yes, I pay attention to everything)). They invited me to their wedding and to this day, I’m still mad I couldn’t get the day off. But this is what she wrote in her “notes” section of FB………I WILL NEVER LOVE NO OTHER MAN THE WAY I LOVE CHAUNCEY. I AM HAPPILY MARRIED .I NEVER THOUGHT I WOULD FIND SOMEBODY THAT LOVE ME LIKE CHAUNCEY DO .I WANT TO STOP BEING SHY WITH CHAUNCEY..I LOVE ME!!!!!!!!! When she looks at him, you KNOW that they’re ONE. I LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE… how they always spend time with their kids and take family trips. And… Oct 2017, her hubby and friends are going on another cruise. Blessings and LOVE to you both.
My prayer is that the couples will do even more to strengthen their marriages. I pray that you remember the times you took these photos and smile. If you are lacking in any area of your lives, I pray that you DO THE WORK to keep your marriage ALIVE. You all give us hope. You all set the atmosphere. We see you. We live through you. We see God in your marriages. In your eyes, in the time you MAKE for each other. We know that LOVE works as long as we do the work. THANK YOU ALL God Bless You
Before you scroll down to MEET THE COUPLES…. Know this…. To interfere, cause trouble, and to come in between ANY MARRIED COUPLE…. IS A NO -NO TO GOD…
Mark 10:9 Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.
While putting this together.. I HAD to listen to some inspirational songs filled with LOVE to complete this. Here is a list of songs I used.
Syleena Johnson-All This Way For Love
Stevie Wonder-Sign Sealed Delivered
Pebbles- Always
Phil Perry- Forever
Vaults-One Last Night
To set the MOOD in your VIEWING… here are TWO OF MY FAV. (( PRESS PLAY))
Lets MEET THE COUPLES!
Tim and Karen #MEETTHEALEXANDERS
She writes everything in her journal, I have no idea what is in it, and I will never look. It is her secret place, and I respect it.
He wrote…. “My Beautiful, Lovely, Adorable wife Karen on her way to work at the ESPY Awards yesterday, she sent me this message from work…
“I LOVE YOU so much for being my HUSBAND and I have NEVER felt like that EVER in my life!!!! Everyone says “I look so happy!” This is because of YOU. Thank you my King! Can’t wait to see how sexy you will look in your new glasses!!!” —– I LOVE THIS WOMAN!!!! PRAISE GOD SHE IS IN MY LIFE – FOREVER!”
He wrote.. “Man this woman is beautiful! Wow! I married that! THANK YOU BABY FOR MARRYING ME!!!!!!!”
He wrote…”This was our last dinner at our favorite Cafe in Paris, and she loves this photo of us the most.”
Last night I was in bed thinking back on some of the things I did as a teenager and in my 20’s and early 30’s and some of those things shock me. But you know I was Thanking God that I have lived long enough to ask for forgiveness and to change my ways. Just think had I died in the mist of that mess. Some people do. They don’t get a chance to ask God for forgiveness, because they were still doing wrong before they died. To me that’s one of the hugest blessings, that you can receive. To live long enough to repent of your wrong doings.
When I was dating my daughters father, we would be upstairs in his room when his mother was at Church all day. We knew she didn’t want him to have company when she wasn’t home, but we, being teenagers did it anyway. Well, she use to come home and I’d be up stairs. Even though she never came up there, she would holler up the stairs to let him know she was home. That’s when we knew he had to either sneak me out of the house when her bedroom door was closed, or I had to jump out of his bedroom window and he’d catch me at the side door. LOL Yea….. thinking back on that. The person I am today, FIRST of all, I would never be in another woman’s home without her consent, for NO REASON. For TWO, I’m not jumping out of nobody’s window!!! We both laugh about that to this day, and we’ve shared this with our daughter, who knows the person I am today and she CANNOT BELIEVE that I jumped out of a window. LOL LOL Me either!!!!
I remember another time, one night I had lots of company over playing cards and drinking with my friends. I knew my landlord was coming over the next morning to collect rent. I lived in an upstairs flat and my friend lived downstairs. I would often leave my door unlocked because it connected to hers and we had kids that loved to play together. Well, after I let my company out that night, I meant to lock my door. I was so drunk that next morning. I woke up to my landlord standing over me trying to get me to wake up!!! I had puke all over the bed and floor, I was HORRIFIED TO SEE HIM. When I share this story with people for a life lesson, they always ask… was he trying to do something to you? And the answer is NOPE, not at all. He was trying to wake me up, because my door was wide open.He thought something was seriously wrong with me. I learned a GREAT LESSON that day. I don’t ever remember getting that drunk again! I was done with that life!
A few nights ago, I had this craaazy dream that I was at my mothers house, a house that’s not in real life at all. But I went to go see her, and when I got up to her apartment, I looked out of the window at my car as I always do. After a few hours had passed, I looked out again and it was gone!!! I was horrified and crying at the same time. We went to look around and to see was it any broken glass anywhere and it wasn’t, So we went back in the house. I couldn’t stop looking out of the window hoping that it would be there, or that I would wake up. Well, after a few hours had passed, I looked out the window again and it was there! In the very same spot. I told my mother and we went to look in it. We were so surprised that it was very brand new in the inside. The car looked the same on the outside, but it was clean inside out. Brand new stereo system, new seats, it even had a sun roof, it was beautiful.I took it for a ride and everything. In the dream we found out that a group of guys were going around taking people’s cars and fixing them up brand new, just to be helpful. They had done many others the same way, be we didn’t know about it. I was happy that everything was nice and new, but hated the fact that I thought I wasn’t going to see it again. Wow, I have the craziest dreams~!!
“We build deep and loving family relationships by doing simple things together, like family dinner and family home evening and by just having fun together. In family relationships love is really spelled t-i-m-e, time. Taking time for each other is the key for harmony at home. We talk with, rather than about, each other. We learn from each other, and we appreciate our differences as well as our commonalities. We establish a divine bond with each other as we approach God together through family prayer, gospel study, and Sunday worship.”
Of Things That Matter MostDieter F. Uchtdorf
How you measure success is by how many people u bless….. 😢😢😢😢
Ten things I learned in my life (( I’ll be 50 next year))
1. Opinions are NULL AND VOID, when it’s not your story to begin with. Opinions are conversations about something that always pertain to others and not YOU. Opinions are a voice of hot air, that holds no truth. Opinions often comes from people who don’t share their own personal experiences, because they don’t want you to form one about them.
2. Peace is something you DEMAND! You have the power to transfer it to others. Peace is something you work at, a goal, a daily mindset. If you don’t have Peace at home, its because you cater to chaos, and it will show up in your personal life. Ask God for it, I DEMAND it for MYSELF!
3. If you raise your child by the standards of God, when they’re older, you won’t have to worry so much about the choices they make, because you taught them well. Don’t give them “the world” because they’ll expect the world to owe them something when you’re no longer raising them.
4. Each friendship and each relationship is here to teach you a LESSON. Ask God why so much pain? Ask him why so much happiness? Never regret who came into your life. Experience is better than OPINIONS any day. Carry the lessons into all your relationships and make better choices.
5. Love is everything. If we work at a job for years, or a few days, be nice and kind to another…. WE ARE JUST PASSING THROUGH. I want to see God face to face for MYSELF, and if he says I’m going to bring you all the people you came in contact with in your whole life, and based on how YOU MADE THEM FEEL, that’s your JUDGEMENT… HEAVEN OR HELL, what would it be… Oh yes.. you know the answer right now. So, I say Love each other, be mad for a moment if you need too, but make up. Love and family is Everything.
6. Holding grudges or not forgiving someone is like carrying the person/issue around in your purse or pocket. Its not going anywhere. Until you change your purse ((heart)) and decide to leave it out ((forgive)), that’s one thing you wont have to carry. I had to learn that. Now, don’t fool YO SELF, if you say you’re not carrying it around, but haven’t forgiven that person, ITS THERE! And whenever you need to make it known, you know just where to start.
7. There is so much hate, discord, dysfunction going on in the world. I asked God what are you going to do about this? Don’t you see this? He said yes, I do. People look to MAN (( POLICE)) to send their friends to jail, (( not going to happen)) to the lawyers to send them to jail (( not going to happen)) but its MEEEEEEEEEEEEE, who have the final say. Don’t look for Justice in the court system, I’ll take care of that. Now, LaCrease, do you trust me? Yes, I do!
8. I learned how to use my mind and a different way of thinking to come to conclusions that fit my situation.
For example: When I was in a relationship that wasn’t for me, I imagined eating hair grease whenever I thought about him. I knew he was not the one for me, so at SOME POINT, I had to ask MYSELF… everyday I’m eating this hair grease, its not healthy, it doesn’t taste good, and its making me sick, if eating this gives me the same effects of this man, then I will no longer be in his life. Now, if you’re in a good relationship, and you love cake (( for example)) it taste good, it smells good, it looks good, and its affordable….. then that’s what you eat! Use your mind!!!
9. I realized that I’m almost 50 and half way through. I know that God will be calling me HOME… OOO yall there is NO PLACE LIKE HOME… death will NOT scare me. I HAVE NO CHOICE but to get right, cause this “down here” aint what I want. All the arguing, debating, fussing and nutting up I do from time to time…. yea I cuts up. lol will be coming to an end. I don’t want God saying to MEEEE, um yeah.. Imma need you to step to the side cause I have to re review “your tape”. I want him to say Creeee come on IN, we’ve been waiting on you! There are some things I need to work on and I’m doing that now. I want him to say “Well done my good and faithful servant”.
10. Growing up my momma use to share all her childhood secrets with me and I use to LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE that time she shared with me. I use to love waking up knowing that her secret was safe with me. She trusted me, and till this day, that means everything to me. I never in a million years would know that started something within me. People come to me all the time and talk to me as if they know I know how to keep their business PRIVATE. Its a disrespect for you to come ask me about MYYYYYYYY friends, and what they shared with me. I never knew that I would talk to so many people about so many different things. And I love it because it was already in me from growing up. I am a listener, I give advice and I love helping people solve their own issues. I know this is what I’m here to do.
I don’t know what it is about MEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE, that makes people feel some kinda way. If/When I stay to myself and mind my own business, something is wrong. because I get along with everyone and have a strong personality, but it seem “off” that I’m not talking. If I’m talking to everyone, then someone always feel that I’m leaving them out.No matter what I do, I can’t win, and with WOMEN… I don’t try too.
My managers like me because I do my work and don’t talk back. I don’t want trouble. I LOVE PEACE. Its disrespectful to talk back to those who are in charge. If I don’t want to work, ILL CALL IN. Simple! I don’t go to work to throw fits, or look sad to get asked ” what’s wrong” so that I can complain. I don’t have sad stories or a funky attitude when I walk in the door. I don’t talk about people and be clicked out. I don’t run behind managers and try to be their pet. People like me, because I can talk to them, KEEP EVERY WORD PRIVATE, and keep it moving. I don’t like drama, or confusion…. because I DON’T HAVE IT IN MY PERSONAL LIFE. If I don’t have those issues with my family and friends at home, AIN’T NO WAY IN HELL.. am I going to have it with co-workers who I see more than 9 hours a night.
It bothers me to no end when someone pulls me to the side and say” I’m acting different”. Then when I asked well how, and they say because its favoritism and division.Just say…. that me and my manager get along very well. I have my own area where I AM ALONE until a coworker come and talk to me. I CANNOT LEAVE MY AREA AT ALL. So, when people come to my area, of course we’re going to talk. Thing is, its always PERSONAL home matters, people feel they can talk to me, and THEY KNOW ITS GOING TO STAY WITH ME.So, I guess that looks like Im apart of a clique because I talk to several people and get alone with them. I don’t fall out with coworkers, but I did last night/this morning because of how she feels that I changed. Thing is, she is the one who is always always complaining, so of course Im the yes manager, I’ll do it, it makes me look like Im the favor worker.
Another thing, I’ll be 49 in a few weeks. I’m older, people look at me as a AUNTIE, and a Sister. People enjoy talking to me about personal and serious issues. I’m east to talk with. NO ONE calls me because I’m very guarded with my personal life. No visiting me at home and no calling my phone. At work, Ill do my work and be a listening ear and I love to laugh and talk mess. Nobody is the boss of me. I do my own thing, and I’m cool with everybody. So what you don’t get along, deal or talk to everybody. That’s cool, that’s fine, but don’t say me, this person that person, her, her and her are close because we talk the most. And maybe so… SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO WHAT! But you are quick to say… I don’t mess with nobody in her like that.
But I thought about it driving home… I know what it is. My boss is a VIRGO just like me. We can laugh with you one minute and the next say.. “Okay I need for us to get back to work, you do this, you do that, and you come with me.” People DO NOT like that!!!! I’m the same way. You wont see me laughing all the time. I know how to have my boss as my friend and as MY BOSS. I know how to separate business from friendship.She gets with me too. If she tells me to do something, so expects for me to do it. You won’t hear of us falling out, because we are both private, and we know how to conduct ourselves.
My BFF (( she works with me)) says I’m mean when I’m working.. no its not that, its that I’m not smiling and laughing like she’s use to me doing. This is BUSINESS. I need to speak in a different tone (( not bossy or disrespectful)) but in a way people get it. I make my job look easy, because I don’t complain or ask for help… I JUST GET IT DONE!!!
People DO NOT like 2 LEADERS walking, talking, laughing, and having fun together. Its intimidating to them. They always feel like others are talking about them, when truth be told …..Its enough going on in MY life (( good)), to NEVER mention you/anybody EVER!!! But oh I can’t say that because feelings would be hurt. Even though that’s MY TRUTH . If La’Crease say’s something, I’m hurting their feelings, if La’Crease order lunch with someone who went to pick it up, ITS… they didn’t ask me. PETTY SHIT. I cant stand pettiness. If Lacrease take her lunch first, its because the manager want to take it with her. If LaCrease take her lunch last, then that means she wants to take hers last so that it would be almost time to punch out. It all boils down to 2 Leaders in our own right vibing together, DOING OUR WORK, without complaining and whining. We just DO IT! So its going to always look to the whiner, that she plays favoritism when I’m doing my work, and they’re whining. Its unreal how people can be so jealous. But instead of saying…. I wish we could spend more time, they use the favoritism card.But then in the same breath…. say… I don’t talk to nobody around here anyway like that…((rolls eyes)).
Thats the same reason why I deal with a few people outside of my workplace. Women are so jealous and petty. SMH
I can give you silly.
and I can give you BUSINESS
Any typos.. I’ll fix later.. Im sleepy and cross-sided
God Bless You
Of Things That Matter MostDieter F. Uchtdorf
Inside the mind of cree 