Learning your kids PERSONALITY!/BLOG

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When my daughter was a young gurl, I use to always scream like most parents when they lose it. But after a short while, I realize that she was JUST LIKE ME, she didn’t require screaming. She required that “come here, let me look you in the eye” kinda speech. Screaming made me nervous as it does most kids. It made me cry, and to this day…. I will NEVER tolerate A N Y  O N E screaming at me, if you can’t talk to me in a pleasant tone of voice, then WE’RE DONE!!!. I don’t play that, at all.. PERIOD!

I found out with kids, you HAVE to learn their personality. That’s part of being a parent. Every child is different, and based off how they take things, and how they receive, you have to parent based upon that. When my daughter got home from school. She would speak and go straight to her room. But me as a parent made sure, I called her down to my face and I asked her how was your day? She’s just like me, so you’ll only get what you ask for, you have to ask her specifics… WHAT DID YOU DO TODAY? LOL If I’m talking to her over the phone, that’s even worst, Again, its something I learned about her. So, I found out that if I want to know about the mercury scare she had in high school (( real life)). I have to ask her, what floor was it on? Where we’re you? Did you exit out of the front door, side or back door? Was anybody hurt? We’re you scared? What was your thoughts? Do you feel staff handled it properly? This series of questions gets her talking, and she’ll feel compel to share more of what happened once she see’s how it interest me. I had to learn that about her. The point I’m making in all of this is, you have to ask your kids questions. If you don’t they will go to their rooms, hop on their phones and BLOCK YOU OUT OF THEIR WORLD. As they get older, you’ll KNOW NOTHING! Start early, so they know that you’re that kinda parent that ask questions.

Kids already look at us as “OLD” so in order to keep up with them, we have to go to “their world”, we have to learn a few songs of their generations, we have go to see “their” movies, we have to meet their friends, and build our own relationship with them. We have to take them on family trips… out of town. They will remember this when they’re older. Kids take money and time. You want to know you did your best, so that when they’re grown, you won’t have to worry about them taking care of themselves.

Be Blessed!

laporsharenae A WORD TO WOMEN/BLOG

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Something told you to sexually assault me, try to take my life as if you were the one who gave it to me, cheat on me with ANYTHING that walked and tell me that's what love was all about, plead guilty to domestic violence, watch me via you and your next victim's TV rise above your failed attempts to devour and depreciate my mind and spirit, and  then try to come back in Gods name and do it all over again. You have no place in my life. Your tongue is that of a snake, your eyes are dark and manipulative, and your voice reaks of evil. I will raise my daughter to despise false representations of a God-fearing man such as you. You can try your tired, manipulative tricks, but mind you, I'm not alone as I was before. I have the support of my family, fans, and the motivation of my daughter this time.  Your chapter of MY book is closed and will NEVER be opened again for anything other than you answering to God on judgment day for your sinister doings against me and MY daughter.To my former abuser and EX husband, Michael Devin Jennings, your time of mentally, physically and emotionally torturing me has long passed. I have earned the title "SURVIVOR" and will never recede to being a VICTIM EVER AGAIN. I will live the rest of my life surrounded by real love. Enjoy watching me succeed and rid myself of any memory I've ever acquired of you. Enjoy watching me LIVE despite you wanting me DEAD. May God Be with you and have mercy on your soul. ~La'Porsha Renae ~ aka SURVIVOR
#DONTEVERTRYITAGAIN #FINALWARNING
#NotThisTime #LAPORSHAJENNINGSisNOmore #NeverGoingBack #AbusersNeverChange

To any woman in an abusive situation, I plead with you to #GETOUT before it's too late. You can do it!! I stand by you!! I believe in you!! Even if you have children, #GETOUT!! #GETHELP #TELLSOMEONE Don't make them victims too!! To any men or children in those situations, #GETOUT!! NO ONE has the right to abuse you!! #NoYourWorth #YourLifeHasPurpose 
#GOODWOMAN #TakingOutTheTrash
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  • laporsharenaeSomething told you to sexually assault me, try to take my life as if you were the one who gave it to me, cheat on me with ANYTHING that walked and tell me that’s what love was all about, plead guilty to domestic violence, watch me via you and your next victim’s TV rise above your failed attempts to devour and depreciate my mind and spirit, and then try to come back in Gods name and do it all over again. You have no place in my life. Your tongue is that of a snake, your eyes are dark and manipulative, and your voice reaks of evil. I will raise my daughter to despise false representations of a God-fearing man such as you. You can try your tired, manipulative tricks, but mind you, I’m not alone as I was before. I have the support of my family, fans, and the motivation of my daughter this time. Your chapter of MY book is closed and will NEVER be opened again for anything other than you answering to God on judgment day for your sinister doings against me and MY daughter.To my former abuser and EX husband, Michael Devin Jennings, your time of mentally, physically and emotionally torturing me has long passed. I have earned the title “SURVIVOR” and will never recede to being a VICTIM EVER AGAIN. I will live the rest of my life surrounded by real love. Enjoy watching me succeed and rid myself of any memory I’ve ever acquired of you. Enjoy watching me LIVE despite you wanting me DEAD. May God Be with you and have mercy on your soul. ~La’Porsha Renae ~ aka SURVIVOR
    #DONTEVERTRYITAGAIN #FINALWARNING
    #NotThisTime#LAPORSHAJENNINGSisNOmore#NeverGoingBack #AbusersNeverChange

    To any woman in an abusive situation, I plead with you to #GETOUT before it’s too late. You can do it!! I stand by you!! I believe in you!! Even if you have children,#GETOUT!! #GETHELP #TELLSOMEONEDon’t make them victims too!! To any men or children in those situations, #GETOUT!! NO ONE has the right to abuse you!!#NoYourWorth #YourLifeHasPurpose
    #GOODWOMAN #TakingOutTheTrash

AMEN!!! AMEN!!

@BEYONCE /BLOG

The anti-Beyhive is planning a rally on Feb. 16 after Beyoncé's Super Bowl 50 performance, which they say had ties to the Black Panthers and Black Lives Matter.

When I tell you I LOVE this lil gurl (( old enough to be her mom))… I LOVE HER! I ask myself, La’Crease what is it that you LOVE about her? Let me tell you.

The gurl is BAD! She’s the BEST ENTERTAINER IN THE WORLD! Don’t get mad at her, she’s all she asked God for. God said yes and BLESSED HER TO DO WHAT SHE DO BEST. How can one be mad about that?

She rarely does interviews and rarely go deep on FB and Twitter. She barely talks, what are people mad about? She doesn’t have your phone number and played on your phone. She didn’t wear your shoes and messed them up. She didn’t use your debit card without permission. But see what people don’t know about a VIRGO is.. we are very silly.. mines 9/3, funny and loving people. People will be shocked to know that she’s very down to earth, and will say stuff that will have you saying ” Did Beyonce just say that?” She has so much influence on people that she has to be very careful what she say in public. Even though NO MATTER what she says, she will always be criticized about it. Don’t sweat it B,  still get your 6-8 ((hours of sleep)).

When she was pregnant, some people didn’t even believe it. Are you SERIOUS in this world? Are you serious? Goes to show you how BIG she really is. Anytime you believe a person here on EARTH didn’t have a child, I wouldn’t trust them to place a pizza order for me ONLINE WITH PHOTOS. Um cuse me… watch out ((( get out of my way))).

I went to see her in concert and I was amazed at her energy, her performance, her stage presence, her style, her SPIRIT. That was the moment I said… Beyonce is my daughter. I just LOVE HER! I have one, a 29 year old Virgo 9/3, who loves her sister ( lol) .

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I guess people feel that she should do more interviews, but no matter what she does, it will never be enough for folks. Virgos are very private people. I get her, I understand her. When it comes to her, I’m very territorial. People are BULLIES and they will find anyway to be mad at her ESPECIALLY  since they never had a face to face, eye contact conversation with her.  She’s a human being just like the rest of us. I love her last CD because she gave us more of who she is. I wish people would allow her to be A PERSON.

Who can drop an album over night, while you sleep? LOL Beyonce. She Gotta TEAM SO OUTCOLD AND LOW KEY….don’t make sense! That’s a BAD CHICK RIGHT THERE!! RESPECT IT… or I’m gon ask that you clear the room! Because no matter if you like her or not… BEYONCE’S HERE TO STAY! When she hits the stage, she’s at her best. She performs for the THRILL, you can tell, look in her eyes. She loves her husband, and the beautiful daughter God gave them.

For all the people who don’t like her…. Go get you some LOVE AND PERSONAL time with God.. so you can experience your own BLESSING TOO.

BEYONCE…..SEE YOU AT FORD FIELD MAY 29 ! I be DAYUM IF FORD FIELD IS DIRECTLY ACROSS THE STREET FROM ME AND I NOT BE THERE! LOL (( BLUE BUILDING))

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I AM La’Crease.. and I don’t have to do anything else!

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Need to VENT!/BLOG

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Sorry, but I need to VENT!! A little while ago, I went to Walmart (I know….I know…)to get some stuff . I noticed this lady was staring at me on the same aisle I was on. No biggie. I moved to the next aisle and here she comes again…STARING! So now I’m like, WTH, but finish up my shopping and head to the check out line. Of course this same lady was ahead of me…starts staring again. So I start playing with my phone so I don’t have to look at her. Finally she says “I want to apologize for staring at you, but you look just like my daughter who just passed away.” I felt really bad after that and gave her my condolences. She says “thank you…but I have a favor to ask. I understand if you don’t want to. Can you give me a hug and say ‘bye momma’ to me?” Inside I was like WHAT?!?!, but, me being the softie that I am, I went ahead and did it. She smiles, thanks me, and leaves. The cashier rings up my stuff and the total comes out to $100.87. I knew something wasn’t right, because it should have been like $40.00 or so. The girl tells me that my total was included with my mom’s. I’m like, “What?!!!” she said, “Your mom said you were paying for her last few items along with your things. I said, “That aint my momma!!” She said, “Well I saw you hug her and heard you call her momma?!” I flew out of the store looking for this woman, ready to beat her behind, and i see her loading up her car! She saw me and jumped in her car, but I got to her as she was putting her leg in, and I started pulling her leg…JUST LIKE I’M PULLING YOURS!!!HAHAHA
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My story of FORGIVENESS-RAPE 3/BLOG

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One day he came over and couldn’t find me, so he went a few doors down to my friends house (((his now sister -n- law))) and found me there. He was mad at me for not wanting to have anything to do with him. No matter how much he apologized to me, I didn’t want to hear it. He was really irritated with me, and decided that he was going to rape me again while my friend outside and her mother not home. How disrespectful is that?

He threw me down on the couch and tried his best to get my pants down, this time it was not going to happen. We then got into a fight. He pushed me and I pushed him back. My Sisters and friend heard it and went and told my dad, by this time I was able to get out of the house and go home. My dad was FURIOUS!!  He told my ex boyfriend to never come over here again. AND HE DIDN’T. My dad said to me…. and I’ll NEVER EVER FORGET……. WE’RE moving, and when it happen.. HE BETTER NOT HAVE MY NEW ADDRESS!!!!! My daddy meant that.

Just before we moved , I met a new guy. He was everything all in one. Tall, handsome, sweet as pie, nice, and crazy about me. We hit it off  well. I knew it was too early to start a new relationship, but I had to get over the last one, and this new guy helped me. I went to school everyday praying that I wasn’t pregnant by my ex boyfriend. How does a woman have a baby by the man who raped her? That means I would have to love the baby no matter what. I prayed and prayed. I worried everyday. How do I tell my parents? Why does a 17 year old have to deal with this? Everyday I woke up, it was the first thing on my mind. I came on and was so relieved.

Then I faced another problem. I hated the fact that my ex boyfriend raped me, and didn’t want him to be the last person inside me. After 3 months of seeing my new boyfriend I had sex with him. I wasn’t ready for that at all, but in my mind I had to do it. I became mean, and evil to everyone. I had MAJOR TRUST ISSUES,  I hated myself and others too. I never associated my anger with the rape until years and years later. On Dec 4 1985, I got pregnant with my first and ONLY child.  I had my daughter ON MY BIRTHDAY… September 3, 1986. martonenecree

Years and years had passed, before I saw my ex boyfriend again. When I first laid eyes on him, the rape was the first thing that came to mind. I hated him even more, and hoped to never ever run into him again. In my late 20’s I was having the time of my life. Me and my daughters father had broken up and I was meeting new guys. Funny thing looking back. Mainly Police Officers. I wonder what was my attraction to them. Security? I’m not sure. By the time I was in my early 30’s and I started slowing down, the night I was raped started coming back to my mind. Late 30’s I started eating more and picking up lots and lots of weight. Early 40’s  it was on my mind EVERY DAY. God always told me that it was going to come back like throw up. Everything that happened that night was going to come up. Because I had not dealt with it. I pushed it out of my mind for years. It was time….. and He was right!

One day God told me loud and clear, that when my ex boyfriend get out of jail he was going to come to my job at Walmart and through my line. For me to not be afraid. It happened just like he said. I even blogged about it on this site.. the same night GOD TOLD ME. When I saw him I froze, caught me off guard, couldn’t stop thinking about that night as he stood there waiting for his turn. I was so nervous, but my power never left from me. I was in control and I made it through the transaction.  I had been hearing over the years that he believed my daughter was his.  He told his family, his kids and our friends that I had his daughter. I never told anyone what he did to me, so it made me MAD!!!!!!!!!. Then people would think that we had consensual sex… WHEN WE DIDN’T. He’s the bold type to tell them how young he was , but raped and got me pregnant. Either way, it wasn’t true and I wished he would stop telling people that. I wanted to brush him and the whole story UNDER A RUG or BED SOMEWHERE!!!! Just as he was leaving my line, he said to me… Tell my daughter I said Hi, and I want to meet her. I know she’s my daughter. I WAS SO MAD AND SO ANGRY!!! I let him walk out of the store without saying a word. My daughter was in her teens by this time, and all the talk of my daughter being his, ….. PISSED ME OFF TO NO END!!!

PART 4 TOMORROW!

I AM CREE (( I don’t have to do anything else))

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To My Daughter’s Stepmom,/BLOG

Here is a article that someone shared on Face Book. Had me in tears.. This letter is so beautiful. Father God…. your face is shown in this. 

(IJReview) — A woman named Candice Curry wrote a letter to her ex-husband’s new wife Ashley Parish, and the reception of the letter has been off the charts.

Here is the full letter from Curry’s Women With Worth blog via our friends at Young Cons. Take a look for yourself.

To My Daughter’s Stepmom,

I never wanted you here. You simply were never part of the plan. Growing up and dreaming of my family I never included you. I didn’t want help from another woman to raise my child. The plan was for my family to include me, daddy and our children, not you. I doubt you ever wanted me in your life. I doubt you planned to mother a child that you didn’t give birth to. I can bet that your plan for your family included you, daddy and your children together, not me or my daughter. I can almost bet that when you dreamed of becoming a mother it would be the day you gave birth and not the day you married your husband. I’m pretty sure you never planned on me being here.

But God has plans that far exceed our own and when my little family dissolved to form two families I knew you would be coming.

In my mind you would be a terrible beast and my daughter would not want you to mother her at all, ever! I was hoping that you would be semi unattractive and prayed my daughter wouldn’t look up to you. Her daddy would know that he was settling for second best. Evil swirled in me because I never wanted to face the fact that another woman would mother my child in my absence.

Then you arrived.

When I first met you I’ll admit you weren’t what I had in mind and a twinge of jealousy shot through my body. You were supposed to be hideous, remember? But you weren’t, you were stunningly beautiful. You were supposed to be a mean old hag, remember? But you weren’t, you were a young, sweet woman.

My plans were foiled.

I realized by the look on your face that meeting me was just as hard as it was for me to meet you. My heart immediately softened. Dang your kind smile! I was planing on really hating you. Why are your ruining my plan?!

I wanted to resent you but you made it impossible and I quickly grew thankful for you.

You’ve accepted our daughter from the very start and have unconditionally loved both her and her daddy, that’s a true gift to all of us. You’ve included our daughter in everything you do and make her feel loved and accepted. You put her relationship with her daddy above yours and only a brave and courageous woman knows how to do that with such grace.

I knew when her daddy and I decided to divorce and live in separate homes there would be times when she would need me, her mommy, and I wouldn’t be there. I’m so thankful that you are there in my absence. I’m grateful that you have mercy on her teen years and never reject her. She needs a mommy at your house and you’ve done an amazing job being that for her.

You’ve respected my position as mom from the very start. I appreciate that you always check with me when you question if you are making the right decision with her. I know our situation is rare. It’s not often that a mom and stepmom text each other to remind each other that they love and respect each other. You are a gift.

Because of you and your courage to mother our daughter the way that you do, she will be a better woman. She will grow up with more love than I could have ever imagined. It wasn’t her choice to have divorced parents and even though I wouldn’t wish that on any child I am so thankful that she now has 4 parents who love and respect her and each other. She’s compassionate because of it and understands that a failure in one area can turn into a blessing in another.

I don’t see you as a fill in for when I’m not there. You are her mother when she’s with you and when she’s with me. She’s excited to call you and tell you her stories when she’s at my house and that makes my heart want to jump from my chest with joy. I fill with pride when you wrap your arms around me and squeeze for a genuine and loving hug each time we see each other.

I am extremely aware of what it looks like when a mother cannot emotionally accept her childs stepmother in their life. Gratefulness pours heavily from me that we are able to rise above anything like that and do what is truly right for our daughter. Thank you for being mature enough and respectful enough to co-parent with me.

I promise to always respect your input for our daughter. I promise to never lessen the position you hold in her life or make you feel like you are not her mother. I promise to raise her to be grateful to have two strong and brave women in her life that have the courage to mother her together. Even though our situation is peaceful I pray that she is never in it, but if she ever finds herself here I promise to set an example for her of what co-parenting should look like.

Precious woman, you are a rare and beautiful gem.

God bless you and I love you.

Millions of people read the letter, and then the stepmom replied:

“Candice, I don’t know what to say.  I am not good with words like you are and the way you express yourself. All I can say is I am crying like at the end of The Notebook … you make me feel so special … Thank you for this letter. It made my day and I will keep it close to my heart always. Love you.”

A parent and HER daughter ^SMH^

whoopingAs I sit here and become OBSESSED with the turning events concerning the Boston Marathon Bombers, I can’t help but think of what happened? What would make these 2 young brothers do something so evil? And then I think about my Students in school.

 

Today as I stood in the office doing paperwork….. a parent waltz in with an attitude, wearing shades in 46 degrees weather with NO sun…. asking where is her daughter. As I type this and let out a long sigh….. it would have killed me to finish my paperwork and leave THAT OFFICE before I got to see WHO HER DAUGHTER WAS. 100 POLICEMEN could have came in and shot me…. but I would have REFUSED to die until THIS GURL WALKED INTO THE OFFICE!!! *lol*

 

The lady in the office asked her who was her daughter so that she could call her down, she also told the parent that she needs to speak to someone in AUTHORITY about the situation. The parent went on and on saying, that she was tired of this school calling her about her daughter, saying that she has to work, and that she can’t wait to speak to someone. I wanted to look up at the parent one more time, but I didn’t want to give her any more attention than she was trying to get. She was really pissing me off, because she has no idea how these kids are when they’re not around. When she asked who did she have to speak too, the guy * he’s a story in its own* said to her… “you’re going to need to whosah”. I looked at him, with the look on my face like “NO YOU DIDNT”just geek her up even more. Not only that, why are you causing discord? So now all eyes are on the office door for the person he’s referring too and is going to walk through the door at any time to talk with this parent. Now just by saying that, she couldn’t wait to see who this person was. None of us couldn’t. The more she kept saying how she cant wait to talk to this person, and how she’s about to go off, was making me so mad. She kept looking at me, and I made sure I gave her NO attention, NO eye contact, NOTHING!!!! She wanted me to LOOK AT HER SO BAD!~! People like her I REFUSE to give them the floor. She knew everybody in that office * about 5 of us* was listening to her, and I was the only one who didn’t look her way, or give her the attention she WANTED BADLY FROM ME. She kept looking at me, and I could feel her eyes begging me to give her approval, so that when this person walks in, she could chew her up.

 

When the Assistant Principal walked in to take the parent to her office. I was so shocked and so sad that this guy would create an atmosphere with this parent to upgrade her attitude with our AP. Little did the AP know she was being “side swiped” by her own coworker. The AP asked the parent to come into her office, the parent said… “I’m waiting on my DAUGHTER FIRST”. The AP not knowing where this attitude came from, said.. okay…. we’ll wait. She kept on getting smart with the AP. It made me so sad, but in the meanwhile, it was killing me not to look over at this parent and give her the LOOK OF DEATH. Had I looked at her, she would have felt my wrath.

 

About 3 minutes later, her daughter walked through the office door, and when I laid eyes on this lil heffa…. I said to myself……”Oh that’s her daughter SMH” I see why the daughter act the way she does. She’s just like her mother. It amazes me how the parents have no idea that their behavior is what causes the students to behave the way the do. Like I told this student today. I said I LOVE YALL. I LOVE WORKING WITH TEENS…. I told him that I could be at home, sitting on the couch with my legs and arms crossed, watching TV, and snacking on my snacks….. but instead I applied for this job…..just to be close to you all. He got it.

 

But my issue is with the parents. Now, that parent went into that office and chewed out the AP, when in REAL LIFE…. that gurl is her CHILD, We are only doing our jobs, we have better things to do, than to purposely pick out a child from the crowd and cause problems. When its all said and done, that parent will be the one who suffer the consequences WITH HER CHILD as she gets older and live her life.

 

Be Blessed