She wrote on her FB page today: The older I get, the less I care about who likes me and who don’t. I’m almost certain I don’t have as many “FRIENDS” as I thought and I’m perfectly fine with being the outcast. I never blended well with regular ppl anyways..just don’t be fake with it.. anywho back to bed I go! Have a good day ppl (p.s. Plz utilize the unfriend button so I can add new ppl I’m at capacity) 😑 thank you
I’m so happy she finally got it!!! When I first met this young lady at my old job…. it was something about her. I told her… you are a LEADER… you have the POWER to change things, and lead people. As I looked at the “puzzled” look on her face… I knew she wasn’t getting it. She even admitted that she felt there was nothing special about her. That was just fine with me, because I knew one day she would get it. I see her growth with each stat she post…… she is discovering sooner than later what I told her. I’m so proud of where she is in her life today, and I’m going to enjoy seeing her grow to the FULL BLOWN FLOWER God wants her to be.
I woke up today with a terrible headache. So much was on my mind. But after Church and a nap… I’m good. I went to the movies on Friday, but I stayed in the whole weekend. Glad I did too. Plus I caught up on some much needed rest. Sometimes its good to just relax on the couch, to watch a movie. I never do that. I’m not a TV person at all. This winter I’m going to detach from the computer and just relax on the couch. I have to tell myself its okay. I never talk on the phone, so that’s a PLUS. You’d be surprised that the most I talk on the phone is less than an hour a WEEK. I hate talking on the phone. But I can write your eyes off. LOL I spend a lot of time with my friends, siblings and parents, so in person I gets my talking in. LOL
Tonight I found out one of my kids ((students)) in school is being charged with MURDER. I’m seeing these kids DIE or GOING TO JAIL. Everyday last semester I would find out that he was in trouble and would hem him up in the corner and tell him if he don’t stop being bad, he’s going to end up dead or in jail. This last time, we talked for a good 10 minutes, he didn’t want to hear a word I said, but he listened anyway. Promised that he would be good… but it was something in his eyes that told me different. I loved him because if he could just get that “life” out of him, he could be a good person. He always listened to what I had to say, and he always, always respected me. I can see that day so clear, like it was yesterday. Every time I saw him, I had a urge to get him in the corner and talk some sense into him. Its so hard seeing your kids going out like this, especially when you can see their future either way. So sad. Here is his story…. he’s the one in the middle. We have to KEEP on our kids. Even in passing and seeing teens on the streets…. speak life into their lives.. no matter what you see in their eyes. Speak life and pray for the best. So sad. CLICK ON THE LINK BELOW.
I cried today watching this video. This is happening to so many people and its time parents are truthful to their children no matter how “hard” it may be. No child/adult should be this devastated over a decision that the parents/parent was scared to make as a child. It’s not right and its not fair. Children need to be told the truth as they are growing up, so that they can grow with the situation. That would prepare them to be able to handle the truth of rejection or death of their family members, then they go out to find them. This is so sad. Please watch this video.
For 5 years I was mentoring my Teen gurls group, Raisingurls to Women in my home, when I started to realize that while the teens were being part of a group that helped them to deal with issues, the moms were still working out of the same mentality. That bothered me and I never knew how I could bridge the gap, especially when many of them felt that only the teens were having issues, and not themselves. I get so many emails from parents who seek my advice in this area that it amazes me. Which leads me to focus more on parents/women.
When MarNesha was growing up, she was mostly like me, never cared about going over to people’s house. I rather sleep on my own bed at night, and had company at my house. But when she had boyfriends, she bought them over for me to meet. I’m not one of those parents/momma’s that would say yes to her going to their place without meeting them. I want to know names, phone numbers * yes I had her boyfriends number in my cell phone.. sure did*, address, who else they know associated with this person. I didn’t play that. See many parents don’t start off early about letting their kids know how they are. We know our kids like the back of our hands, we as parents need to let our kids know WHO WE ARE! WHAT WE WILL DO ,AND WHAT WE WONT TOLERATE as THEY’RE GROWING UP…. I ask questions. If you had a problem with me asking questions, let me know NOW, so we can shut this down and talk about something else.
Today my cousin La’Tisha ( my cousins Wife in above photo) posted this on her FB page. Oh its so funny. Parents beware….. these kids are starting off early!!! LOL This is a good one!!! Hahahaha * Get em gurl*
So riding in the car with my son and the conversation goes: Son: Hey mom can I go over my friend’s house Me: Where does your friend live. Son: Oh just two blocks over. Me: Let me ride by and see exactly where. I need to talk to his parents. Me: Oh who is this friend? Son: Well I’m actually going to see THEIR brother Me: THEIR??? Me: Who is your friend? You didn’t answer my question. Son: Sam Me: What’s SAM’S full name Son: Samantha. Son: Oh she’s not going to be there. Me: And neither are you!!! #notgonnahappen #nicetry #only12 #wrongmomma
Listen to yourself and in that quietude you might hear the voice of God. – Dr. Maya Angelou
When driving and coming to a ice cream truck it is very important to treat it as if its a school bus. You may not see any children coming, but its important to slow down, then come to a stop, because you never know with kids. They’re just being kids when they dart out into on coming traffic. They are doing exactly what they’re suppose to do at their age. Especially if they are excited. We all know that feeling of seeing the ice cream truck and to be able to buy something. Its up to us to know better. You want to always be in position that if you’re riding up a residential street, and a kid dart in front of you, that they can get back up and be okay. After today’s accident here in Detroit where a young gurl was hit by a driver and KEPT GOING. It reminds me to be mindful and for you who read this as well. We are the adults, we have to be the eyes and ears for our children. Even if they’re in the wrong to dart out in front of our cars, we have the responsibility to STOP until that truck is done serving. Lets be careful.
I’m ready to move from this apartment, but I want to stay in this area. Its too small, I haven’t even unpacked all my things. Ever since being here, I haven’t really done anything. My lease is up in December, I’m out of here. I want towels, tissue, tooth paste, bleach, Ajax, brillo pads, dish towels, paper towels, bathroom smell goods, different kinds of soaps, bath oils, bath liquid, dish washing liquid, living and dinning room smell goods and things like that to TAKE OVER MY BATH CLOSETS… Here I can only buy so much. There’s no space! I don’t like that. I like to have 3 and 4 of each item. I hate looking in the cabinet and being out of something. I have so many things still in totes. Sigh …….anyway. I’m off to bed to day dream about my new apartment with everything in it.
Went to Red Lobster with my Sisters and God Sisters last Friday, then to a bar for Karaoke. I was feeling good that night never knew I was about to catch a cold. I knew as soon as the weather broke this was going to happen. I knew something was wrong because I kept on having sleeping spells. I’ll get real sleepy and have these sudden “gotta lay down NOW” episodes and will have them all day. That next day… I was sick. OH well its not that bad, because I kept an eye on it. When I get like this.. I hate talking, and being around people. I have to get myself together. I think I become mean, and outspoken…. * not good* Anyway, this guy sung to me.. omg.. I was so embarrassed. I’m shy, and my sisters took photos of me while they enjoyed the moment.. I wanted to disappear and be home. LOL I can’t take attention. Its enough my personality is bubbly, but that’s controlled ATTENTION… he caught me totally off guard. He sung the whole song to me, spot light was on and everything, after wards he brought us all a beer. So sweet. 🙂
There are a lot of home invasions going on here in Detroit. People are tired of this, they have license to carry a concealed weapon, not only that BUT THEY ARE POPPIN THESE INTRUDERS left and right. These young men are dying in these peoples home. There was a time when break ins were happening, and the intruders were doing the killing or leaving them for dead. More people are on the look out, and when they hear something strange, they’re not waiting to see what’s going on. They’re pulling the trigger on these young goons. I don’t blame them. I hate that these kids don’t know consequences. Some were never taught, and they’re dying right in their victims homes. These parents are going to LEARN. Quit taking up for your bad kids.
Here’s the story. The part that killed me was when the boy’s God mother spoke…
Stop being so quick to say ” Cant nobody Judge Me”… people are only trying to help you. Trust me LaCrease won’t be knocking on your door setting appointments for me to talk you out of stupid mess. But I will see you in passing and run some sense in your head….. after that… there is nothing I can do to save you. I’ve had this same talk with plenty of people, and they always come back and say…. “I should have listened to you”.
I hope this serve as a lesson to these young teens…. “Aint NOBODY playing no more”.
When you buy your sons and daughters the best clothes, latest gym shoes, making them the best dressed in school. People always telling you ” your kids stay fresh” Every new electronic device that comes out… YOUR CHILD gotta have it, the latest phones and designer clothes. That’s ALL GOOD.. AND THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT……
BUT YOU BETTER remember and KNOW for a fact. That when YOU stop taking care of them because they’re “18” and GROWN. They have to keep up with that LIFESTYLE that YOU provided for them. TRUST AND BELIEVE… they’re either going to go to college and make a good hard working living for themselves….. or they’ll make fast money ON the streets!!! No kid wants to turn 18 and can’t keep up with what they were use to. People will talk about them and dog them out. And trust me… they’re not having that!!!
Remember you have to set the atmosphere for LATER when it comes to the mind set of your kids. They really don’t need all of that growing up….let them set their own goals of having the best of everything by working for it, not just by being YOUR child.
Yesterday when I was in Meijer, I met these 2 lovely young ladies who was stacking salad and other items in that area. I was instantly connected to them because they were friendly and very helpful. Somehow we got on the subject of their mothers. One gurl moved here from Indiana and said she missed her mother so much. But the other gurl went on about how she felt her mom didn’t show her love at all growing up, and that when she have her baby she’ll show her baby much LOVE. So, I said… Let me ask you this: To your knowledge what have YOUR mother been through as a child? She said… my mother was poor, she went through a lot growing up. And after she had me, she got on drugs, couldn’t keep a job, she shared many things with us.
I told her sometimes after a woman has been though a lot, she doesn’t KNOW HOW to build a relationship with her children, she doesn’t KNOW HOW to love you like you should be loved. Sometimes a woman don’t know where to start with building a relationship with her children. She could be so hurt and so far gone IN HER DYSFUNCTION, that she doesn’t even recognize that she’s wrong even after hearing it all of her life. I said but do you have any children? She said I’m pregnant now. I told her, well this is YOUR chance and time to CHANGE THE CYCLE. Change the atmosphere, change the story, change your story with your mom. Do things YOUR way, be different, think different.
I told her, in NO, NO, NO, NO, NO, NO, NO way am I saying that YOUR MOM was right. * she wasn’t* … but I AM saying since you cannot change that….. YOU must change the atmosphere of that dysfunction. I told her and when you do… don’t rub it in your mothers face how much better of a mother YOU ARE, because when you think you’ve done everything so perfect and different from your mom…. you daughter/son will get grown and TELL YOU how she/he felt YOU COULD HAVE DONE BETTER. She got it. I planted a seed. My work was done. Thank you Lord for placing me at the right place at the right time.