For 5 years I was mentoring my Teen gurls group, Raisingurls to Women in my home, when I started to realize that while the teens were being part of a group that helped them to deal with issues, the moms were still working out of the same mentality. That bothered me and I never knew how I could bridge the gap, especially when many of them felt that only the teens were having issues, and not themselves. I get so many emails from parents who seek my advice in this area that it amazes me. Which leads me to focus more on parents/women.
When MarNesha was growing up, she was mostly like me, never cared about going over to people’s house. I rather sleep on my own bed at night, and had company at my house. But when she had boyfriends, she bought them over for me to meet. I’m not one of those parents/momma’s that would say yes to her going to their place without meeting them. I want to know names, phone numbers * yes I had her boyfriends number in my cell phone.. sure did*, address, who else they know associated with this person. I didn’t play that. See many parents don’t start off early about letting their kids know how they are. We know our kids like the back of our hands, we as parents need to let our kids know WHO WE ARE! WHAT WE WILL DO ,AND WHAT WE WONT TOLERATE as THEY’RE GROWING UP…. I ask questions. If you had a problem with me asking questions, let me know NOW, so we can shut this down and talk about something else.
Today my cousin La’Tisha ( my cousins Wife in above photo) posted this on her FB page. Oh its so funny. Parents beware….. these kids are starting off early!!! LOL This is a good one!!! Hahahaha * Get em gurl*
So riding in the car with my son and the conversation goes:
Son: Hey mom can I go over my friend’s house
Me: Where does your friend live.
Son: Oh just two blocks over.
Me: Let me ride by and see exactly where. I need to talk to his parents.
Me: Oh who is this friend?
Son: Well I’m actually going to see THEIR brother
Me: Who is your friend? You didn’t answer my question.
Me: What’s SAM’S full name
Son: Oh she’s not going to be there.
Me: And neither are you!!!