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My niece baby shower/BLOG

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My niece had a baby shower on Sunday and it was so nice.  I can’t believe she’ll be 22 years old this year. I witness her BIRTH, and its hard to fathom that she has graduated from high school, working a good job, AND A GROWN WOMAN!!!!!

This was her boyfriends first time attending a shower , but what’s funny is that he didn’t think they would get ANY gifts . He thought that because he had no idea how baby showers went, that people wouldn’t bring anything. So when he first found out he was going to be a dad, he went out and bought EVERYTHING.  When I say everything, I mean EVERYTHING. Not only him, but his mom. They for real, REAL lost their minds buying gifts. When he saw all the gifts they had gotten, not to mention take home, he was so HAPPY and so SURPRISED. He had no idea how many people would show up and buy so many gifts. I’m happy for them both.

It was my second time meeting him and I really like him. I can see them marrying in the future. She really loves him and he loves her. They have the best chemistry. I really enjoyed watching them open gifts together.

Here are some photos from their shower.

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Her Mom, ( my baby sister) and her BFF

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I AM La’Crease and I don’t have to do ANYTHING ELSE

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I challenge you to get to know YOURSELF… all over again!/BLOG

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Today I decided to call off from work. Its been a while since I did that, because when I do I feel so guilty. But tonight I’m glad I did. Today was one of those days where I’m feeling some kinda way. So many questions to God and things that I have learned about myself. I really needed this day off.

I challenge you to get to know yourself, think about YOU, realize and come to some conclusions about things. Think about consequences YOU had to deal with because of YOUR immature decisions.  Its okay. Cry, laugh, and think about things in the past. I did and I’m glad. I want to share them with you.

  • I find myself often asking God, why do we have to stay “down here” with people who just want to kill and hurt others? Yes, I know Jesus will come for us, and I look forward to that day. But I still ask, because I often wonder if I could survive if some of the things that happen to others, would happen to me. That’s so scary to me.
  • I realize that once upon a time.. I cared what people thought about me. I cared about the wrong things. Recently a coworker came to me and told me that she was pregnant with her 3rd baby, at 19. She was feeling some kinda way, because she and her kids father were already having a hard time with a baby sister while they work, not to mention the fact that she was embarrassed, and ashamed that she was pregnant again. I was so happy she came to me, because of my experience I was able to help her come to her conclusion. I was so glad that I am a person who can share my experiences (( because I revisited them and healed)) with others, and I don’t GIVE A DAM about what people think ANYMORE. I told her how I had my daughter at 19 and 3 months later I was pregnant again. I was too embarrassed to tell anyone except her dad. I was ashamed and VERY AFRAID WHAT OTHERS WOULD THINK OF ME. I decided very quickly that I would have an abortion. I was especially afraid of what my parents would think of me. At 3 months I had an abortion and never thought about it again until I was in my 30’s. I shared my story with my co-worker and told her this: This is YOUR baby, yes you may be ashamed, but at the end of the day….. if you decide to have an abortion it will be with you for the rest of your life. You can raise this baby, you can do it. When you lay eyes on your baby for the first time, you’re going to ask yourself…. how could I ever consider killing you? I told her don’t care or worry about what the next person has to say about you, because at the end of the day this is your baby, YES THE ONE GOD GAVE YOU. And with that, her baby boy will be born sometimes this summer. Amen!
  • I realize that I enjoy being alone more that I ever thought. My personality attracts a lot of people. No matter where I go someone always have a story for me. I don’t mind because God wired me up to be a listener and a person who gives good GODLY advice. I’ll be 50 this year, and with my age comes a lot of experience and WISDOM. With that being said.. so when I’m home, I like to chill out. I don’t talk on the phone unless its my parents or my siblings. (( and I have the nerve to have the iPhone 7 PLUS)) I hate talking on the phone. So I write a lot and that’s my personal therapy. Now don’t get me wrong. I LOVE being around people, I love  going to the movies, or my favorite mall. I love get to gethers to play cards, laugh and talk junk. I LOVE to travel, and I LOVE ENTERTAINMENT. Its just that when I’m HOME… that’s my place of PEACE.. AND I LET NO ONE DISTURB THAT LIFE!
  • I’m very territorial when it comes to my daughter, my family and a few friends.
  • I HATE when women talk about other women. I just HATE it. What they don’t realize is, when you do that, you’re only making your OWN self esteem go down. What you think about others, you FEAR others think about you. FLAT OUT! Stop that. Build! Find something about her that stands out in a good way and focus on that in your mind. Trust me, she has something way more valuable than you. God made her differently.
  • I love about myself is the fact that I don’t have to look cute everyday. I can throw on some clean clothes and just run my errands looking ruff in the face. And, I know that I can throw on some clothes and as soon as I hit the outdoors MEN ARE STARING AND SMILING.. I love this about myself. LOVE IT. I DO ME DAILY! ME ME ME… now do YOU YOU YOU!

Take a inventory of yourself and discover you all over again!

I AM La’Crease and I don’t have to do ANYTHING ELSE!

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You are the CEO of your life!

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Hey Family!

I’m sitting here on this lovely day, I really need to be at a park this morning, we have some rainy days coming and I wanted to be near water on Belle Isle. But Summer is just around the corner and I promise myself I will be there more often than last year.

As many of you know I am deeply into the growth of  women, when it comes to Life Lessons and Experiences. Seems like there is not a day that goes by when someone needs to talk to me and ask for advice. I’m very, very, to the point and honest with my answers. That’s what people LOVE about me, but sometimes when I dish it out they have a problem with my truth and honesty. And guess what? I don’t even care.

I was speaking with someone recently and they began to tell me that whenever she hits her boyfriend and fight him, he wont hit her, but, he will push her and leave marks on her body. She justifies the fact that she fights him, but he will only push her. I told her, one day…. one day… ONE DAY, he will not stand for her putting her hands on him and he’s going to fight back. She doesn’t believe it. That’s where the LIFE LESSON will come in at. I can tell her all day, but she’ll NEVER believe me, because it HASN’T HAPPENED to her YET. This is the part of my job, where I can’t help. She has to learn the lesson herself, and I hope that it doesn’t land her in the hospital.

We.. MEN AND WOMEN have to pay attention to the signs of any and all things. People are so afraid of being alone. They cannot see themselves alone. They rather deal with fighting and arguing, instead of saying… look we cannot get alone, lets go our separate ways. This is why so many men and women have self esteem issues. They stay in relationships that they are not suppose to be in.

Why is it so hard to leave? Fear of being alone, and seeing that person with someone else. SO WHAT!!! Especially if you’re not getting alone. Who wants to wake up arguing everyday, holding grudges and CONSTANTLY talking about the same issues day after day after day? I just don’t have that kinda time. Many people don’t like the thing of meeting someone new, getting to know new families, dating, meeting the kids and those kinds of things associated with meeting someone new. But its better than being in a relationship that clearly isn’t going anywhere right? Some will say, they just don’t want to put the time into it, so they stay.

I have plenty of things to say about this topic. Stay tuned.

I am La’Crease… and I don’t have to do ANYTHING ELSE!

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Balance/BLOG

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Back in the day, I would be the LAST person to write on this subject, because I had the biggest attitude in the world. My own mother told me.. ” If you don’t change your attitude someone is going to kill you one day.” For some reason I believed her. I had a FUNKY attitude.

Today… I just can’t walk around like that. I can’t do it. I see so many young gurls walk around with their faces disfigured from frowning, from being mad and angry. So, one day I said God, why is it that I’m connected to these frowns? Am I being paid back for how I use to be? Sometimes I can’t stand to see it, but he always remind me that I was once that same way. I have to deal with it. Thing is…. these days, I most likely know why they are having these issues.

For me it was the stress of my daughters father, my job, whether it was low paying,  or not enough hours, transportation, or babysitter. It was bills, friends getting on my nerves, falling out with neighbors, deciding what to cook or simple as not getting enough sleep. Didn’t matter I always had an attitude. I was mad at the world.

I realized that I didn’t have balance. I didn’t know how to balance my family, job, friends, bills, male friends, any of those things. I didn’t have order. Each day came and did what it wanted to do with me and I had no control. I didn’t have a “to do” list, I just got up out of bed and lived.

Today, I am so well balanced. Of course Im going to always feel that I can do more with my time, but I finally learned how to balance. Its so important. You have to have God time, that’s where your strength come from. You must spend time with your family, your siblings, parents, and friends. It has to be a balance. But whenever you do, make sure you spend time with yourself.

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A few QUICK words/BLOG

Women know your worth. Stop letting these men treat you any kinda way. Stop it. God loves you and he is NEVER pleased when you allow someone to mistreat you. He won’t do you that way BECAUSE he CREATED you, don’t allow anyone else to do it.

Take time to be alone. Stop saying that you HATE to be alone. Stop saying being alone makes you think of your past. Maybe you need to face your past. The more time you spend alone the less drama you become apart of. Invite God into your space. Feel HIS LOVE.

Listen to others their trials and life lessons. Stop feeling that since this is THEIR story, it won’t happen to you one day. LISTEN to them, learn from them so if that storm do come your way, you will have knowledge of it and watch it past right over your house ((life))

Stop judging others, the more you judge someone else, THE HARDER YOU ARE ON YOURSELF!!! Because what you see in them, you will surely see in yourself and then START TO FEEL SOME KINDA WAY. STOP that!

Find out what it feels like to LOVE and be LOVED. Once you get a glimpse of REAL LOVE, you won’t tolerate anything else.. I PROMISE YOU THAT. Ask God to show you that kinda LOVE, be persistent with your prayer about it. Allow him to wrap his arms around you.Embrace it. Feel it. Enjoy it, and DONT EVER FORGET IT.

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Love Yourself/BLOG

I’ve been spending a lot of time getting to know myself. Sometimes you need to step away from family and friends to learn YOU.

I LOOOOOOOOVE ME! I’ve never had a self esteem issue. Not sure if the reason being so that I came from a home with both parents who taught us nothing but LOVE. People always tell me that I always see the good in people (( and some have a problem with that)) because I’m not pointing out the negative. Its bad enough we tell ourselves that we’re not good enough, what good is there in pointing out the bad.

I HATE when people compare themselves to others. Stop doing that. God made us all different. You may like the same things the next person , but you are NOT that person. Enjoy your own way of life and doing things. Look in the mirror and admire yourself. Pay attention to your good qualities. Admire that, think on it, love on it, talk about it within yourself.

Let me say this. What you LOVE about yourself others will talk about. Be ware of those people.  They can work to tear down your self-esteem. God is the creator, he knows what he was doing when you made you. Get in touch with yourself, and love you to death.

I have my Mother’s nose, even if my book sells and I make lots and lots of money, I will never get my nose done so that others can say YOUR NOSE IS PRETTY, I SEE YOU GOT IT DONE. No never, because if my mother even passes away before me, I can look at my nose and say I GOT IT FROM MY MOTHER! I don’t do things to impress NOBODY! I LOVE MEEEEEEEEEEEEE! 🙂

Love yourself.. flaws and all!

I AM La’Crease and I don’t have to do anything else

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Men who WORK-WORK-WORK TOO MUCH!/BLOG

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Meet … MY GOD NIECE.. MY GOD SISTERS DAUGHTER, AND ONLY CHILD!

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Her parents met in High School got married and had my niece. They were both smart, she got her Masters in Accounting, and he went to school for Heating and Cooling! They built 2 business together and own a total of 13 homes. All while growing up he told my niece that he wanted to pass the business down to her. He taught her how to open a bank account and save money. He taught her about buying homes and selling them. He taught her about how people are, and to be careful of shady business deals. How to mingle and rub arms with people who could help her with her business.

My niece dad thought he was spending “quality” time with the family,  my niece grew up (( grown woman)), they all grew apart, and my sister divorced. He wanted to work all day and night, weekends too.. to “build” the family business, but my sister wanted time, love and trips together as a couple and a family while they grew old. My niece dad felt it was best to build up, then take trips later in life. All through the years of my niece’s dad wanting her to take over the family business, she didn’t want that for her life.  But she couldn’t tell him because this was HIS dream and it would break his heart. Stop putting pressure on your kids… STOP IT!!! Just because you found something that worked for you, don’t pressure your kids to follow your footsteps, when they want to do something DIFFERENT. It only makes sense to YOU that you built something that’s solid. And that’s OKAY..but your child doesn’t want that for their lives.. Deal with it. Yes, its a great idea, yess you struggled and sweated, but this is NOT your child’s dream.

 How does a child tell her parent/s  (( in this case the dad, because her mom saw it coming))… THANK YOU for grooming me for the family business since BIRTH… but UM NO THANK YOU… this is not MY career path or MY DREAM?

I have seen it first hand. I knew it all along. My niece wants a family with a husband, both have jobs, meet up at evening, have dinner , talk, family time, and then bed time. My niece dad spent all day and night even Sundays building the “business”… and no one wanted it but him. He became selfish, at first it was the money, then it was the POWER now its the INFLUENCE of the LOCAL AND WORLD WIDE LEADERS IN HIS FIELD AND OUT. He’s now engaged, and guess who will spend all the money… HIS NEW WIFE.. HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHHA. AND HER NEW MAN! HAHAHAHHAHHAHAH..  THE MOMENT HE DIES! ((( YALL GON LEARN))) A woman who hasn’t spent a DAY in the building of the process. My sister is happy, and  gladly to pass on the money without the MAN. HAHAHAHAHAHHA

The relationship of that dad -daughter is little to none. This is how men are disappointed, and in their feelings about their kids, because they spent their whole lives DREAMING , HOPING, WISHING AND GROOMING their kids would follow their footsteps.

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I was just Congratulating Jenae Wallick on her engagement this weekend to her trainer Arthur Shivers III. I’m so happy for them and especially her. She’s the mother of Tim from Sweetie Pies on the OWN Network. Jenae was once engaged to Tim, but things didn’t work out between them. It was so hard to watch. She really loved him, but he wanted to move out of town to expand the family business. I believed he knew she didn’t want to leave St. Louis, because she wanted to be near her family, but he went anyway. They broke up, and shortly after he moved to California.

I really hope that Tim slows down enough to enjoy LIFE and HIS ONLY CHILD/SON. People like him who work, work, work, swears up and down they enjoy their lives. They’ll be the same ones when they’re in their 60’s saying how much they wish they had slowed down to enjoy family and friends more. I personally don’t want to hear that mess.  Because along the way, people have constantly beat it in their heads, but all they could see is the “business”. I see it ALL THE TIME ON UNDERCOVER BOSS. I have watched every episode, and that is one of the #1 thing these men say… yessss and even the women bosses. They always thought they were spending time with their kids, when really they weren’t doing anything but MISSING OUT… providing, giving kisses, hugs, a few down to earth conversations.. AND THE REST OF THEIR TIME.. BUYING THEM THINGS, AND TELLING THEM THEY WANT THEM TO TAKE OVER THE COMPANY WHEN THEY’RE OLDER… UM excuse meeeeeeee..  BUT your kids don’t want to do that SHIT! That’s YOUR dream! And don’t you DARE be DISAPPOINTED when they tell you this!

I AM La’Crease.. and I don’t have to do anything else.

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Wise Words From This Man Of God/BLOG

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“Fellas, Stop putting your faith and trust..in women that doesn’t know God (I grew up Christian so Dont want to go back and forth about religion..my preference) Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, but sometimes the beholder needs some “Reality Glasses” on. Shes “Fine”, got a banging body ETC. will have you confused, twisted and lost. Whats her HEART Like?? Seriously Many can’t see it now, but don’t wait to late to find out that its rotten, shallow, bitter and empty. Notice the signs Bro’s..Notice the signs. Let God LEAD you down the right lane to a woman that Loves God, genuinely cares for you, and has YOUR BACK NO MATTER WHAT!! Your eyes lie..your heart doesn’t. Trust him as the source.. 😎✌

AMEN!!

I AM La’Crease… and I don’t have to do anything else

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@KIMVFIELDS KENYA NEEDS YOU/BLOG

Hello Kim,

After watching RHOA last night and me needing a bottle of high blood pressure pills from watching Kenya . (( Ooo Jesus)) I finally came to the conclusion as to why you are on the show.

Everyone can see that you’re a praying woman. Not only one who reads her bible, but one who practice it. I watch you closely. Your facial expressions, the words you use, the calm tone of voice, the “gotta go” exits, and ahhh your beautiful Spirit. You are a woman who loves the Lord. A woman who practices self control. A woman who can walk in and set the atmosphere at any meet, and one who truly will NOT conform to the ways of this world. I LOVE YOU GURL!!!!

I myself have a very deep personal relationship with the Lord. He speaks to me so clearly. A few weeks ago as I was picking up my keys off the counter to leave my apartment. I heard him loud and clear when he said, “Cree take those quarters,” (( they were next to my keys)) because you’re going to need them. I answered him right away saying.. Oh no, I’m okay, I have my debit card. Just then I realized that it was him, and I picked them up. I took my mom to her doctors appointment, came out.. AND MY TIRE WAS ON A FLAT! The gas station was right across the street. That’s the kind of relationship I have. So, I shared all of that to say…….

After seeing last nights episode.  And allowing Kenya to give me the headache of my life. I asked God why is Kim Fields on this show Lord? I know you. I know you have a reason as to why she’s here. I know your Character. I know you Lord. This gurl does not even fit in with these women style of life. I told him ” I know you’re up to something?” I know you Lord!

Its to get you out of your comfort zone, and to be the ONE WHO HELP KENYA!

God sent you to help Kenya. You may not know it, or maybe this is conformation. The way you handled yourself when she pulled your seat back, ONLY GOD COULD ALLOW YOU TO GO THROUGH THAT ON TV WHILE THE WHOLE WORLD WATCH AND YOU NOT CHOCK HER OUT WITH YOUR BARE HANDS!!!! Only God! You showed the WORLD.. how to reframe from ANGER! You showed us, not only do you read your bible, but you practice it. Then you went home to a loving HUSBAND who not only allowed you to VENT.. using all  the colorful words you wanted…. THEN HE bought YOU WAY BACK DOWN .. UM UM UM UM FATHER GOD IN THE NAME OF JESUSSSSSSSSSS YESSS!!!! That’s what Im talking about!

Kenya needs you. She’s been hurt. Deeply hurt by her mom. Hurt people hurt people. God is allowing you to see how truly strong you are. Be there for her when she comes.
Open your arms out to her. Be the loving person you are to your children … to her. She needs your strength. She’s not mad or angry with you, its her situation. Of course I know you know that. Deep down she admires you. Loving mom, loving wife, family, loves the Lord, faithful. Show her love when she comes. Cry with her, love her, take her under your wings. And one thing is for sure, she will NEVER EVER EVER EVER had to worry about you repeating anything that she’s shared with you. If you decide to come back for a Season 2, know that you are on assignment…. because I know in order for you to agree, you’ve already checked in with DADDY!

LOVE YA GURL

La’Crease

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Thank you Jesus, Joyous Flame/BLOG

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In 1980 I was 13 years old  when this song came out. When I first heard it I was blown away.  I instantly fell it LOVE with the lyrics and the way it was sung. Back then when you listened to the radio you never really knew who sung the song unless you catch the DJ saying it before or after …..IF he did. Now you can use your iPhone to ask Siri  LOL

This song has been in my iPod for years, and also on heavy rotation on my YouTube channel. I have to hear this song EVERYDAY. Recently I found the lyrics and decided to post the video to go along with it. Its Spiritual,  and it shall be played in my Wedding. Jesus… I LOVE THIS SONG!

 

Joyous Flame

Da da da, da da

da da da

Into my my life you came

And now I know I’ll never be the same

I know that you and love are one in the same

You gave your life to be a joyous flame

Thank you Lord

Youre my reason why I live

You’ve got the only thing that I can’t give

With you I know, I know, I know, I know I can’t survive

You made me feel the joy of just being alive

Today I heard your voice, it came to say

From the fear and doubt in your life, you’ve just got to walk away

Be thankful that you’re here, never goin away

I sing and shout at what you’re saying today

Everybody’s gonna feel His love in this old world

Cause it’s about time for this old world

Everybody’s gonna feel His love in this old world

Cause it’s about time, don’t you think for this old world

You are my joyous flame

Joyous flame, I gonna praise your name

Life’s a chain, but you remain the same

I have been…born again

It’s you I claim

I need your love, wanna praise your name

Joyous flame, gonna praise your name

Thank you Lord

Life’s a chain, but you remain the same

Born again, it’s you I claim

In your love

Thank you Jesus

I need your love, I’m gonna praise your name

You are my joyous flame

Joyous flame, I’m gonna praise your name

Thank  you , thank you, thank

Life’s a chain, but you remain the same

I’ve been

Born again, it’s you I claim

Thank you, thank you, Jesus

I need your love, I’m gonna praise your name

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