6 Signs of a Good Woman…. * MEN PAY ATTENTION* (((((Blog)))))

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6 Signs of a Good Woman

All a man really wants is a good woman by his side. Men have just as hard of a time trying to find a good woman as women have trying to find a good man. Women have to kiss frogs in order to find a Prince and men have to wade through pools of women, who for the sake of the cleanliness of this article we will just say crazy women, worthless woman, b’s, h’s, gold diggers, and you fill in the blanks.

A good woman is comprised of much more than being a woman who keeps a clean house and puts a hot meal on the table.. Things like that are nice and pretty much a necessity depending on the relationship, but they are only the basics. Many women say they want a good man but have you asked yourself if you’re a good woman?

Here are a few traits of a good woman:

1.Encouraging/Supportive/Motivates – A good woman isn’t quiet with no input. She’s full of ideas to help improve your business, outlook in life and overall health. She supports her mans ideas and motivates him to accomplish his goals. A good woman is a good listener. Ultimately she is able to change you without trying. A good woman makes you a better man.

2.She Keeps Him Honest – A man is not allowed to be lazy when he’s in a relationship with a good woman. She makes him honest. If you tend to make excuses for why you can’t do something a good woman will call you out on your bs and make you shape up.

If you want a promotion, but claim to not be able to get one she will quickly let you know that in all honestly you’re not doing enough. A good woman will always encourage her man to make an honest living that he can be proud of. Most importantly she knows how to talk to him and tell him these things without being down on him.

3.King Him – Feeding your man grapes, strawberries and parading around in little enticing outfits is delightful, but what about providing him with some mental stimulation. A good woman not only speaks to the King in her man, but she also treats him as such. She sees potential in him. She treats you like he is the most capable and deserving man in the world, in addition to spoiling and catering to him in the most feminine way.

A good woman will often make a man feel like he’s the only man who exists in her eyes. There is power in a good woman who can push her man to new heights.. A good woman sees greatness in her King. She thinks he’s amazing and makes him feel as such. A good woman is so amazing that she will have a man feeling like Nas, when he made “If I Ruled The World.” She will have him feeling like anything is possible, like he could actually change the world.. Imagine that, or simply google Barack Obama.

4.SHE’S SECURE – A good woman is secure within herself and not easily jealous over other women. She’s not quick to put the next woman down just because she thinks the woman looks good and provides competition to her own looks. No man wants an insecure woman who is always messing up his business deals because she thinks he’s flirting with or having sexual relations with the women he works with.

5.STABILITY – Women often look for stability in a man. What they don’t know is that it’s their characteristics as a woman that cause a man to become stable. Most relationships are temporary, you actually know they will expire any minute.

She makes him think about a future with her.

A good woman will make you think of your goals and plans and make sure they are in alignment with what you want out of life. If a woman wants a stable man then she needs to be stable herself. That’s one of the top signs of a good woman.

6.ALLERGIC TO GOLD DIGGING – A good woman doesn’t require that you buy her expensive gifts in order to obtain or maintain her affection. She’s just as happy with sentimental gifts from a man as she would be with a gift of Louboutin shoes. It’s not all about money with her, it’s all about you and the man whom you are.

When a man finds a good woman that’s when those wedding bells start to ring.

BY FG FARRAHGRAY

Jealousy………… ((((((((((Blog))))))))))

Friday night my 2 sisters and I went out to dinner at Applebees…. we sat for 5 hours talking and catching up on our lives. We were having many conversations but the one that stood out the most was the fact that we’re not jealous when it comes to being in a relationship. For me I was never a jealous person until I met my daughters father. Before him I was never insecure. I knew I was pretty, had a great family, nice personality… but when I met him and having to deal with all the women. It made me a bitter person. It took me years to get over him and over the way the relationship made me feel. Over the years I met some pretty good men, that always made me feel so loved and so wonderful. I never had to deal with jealousy again.

The reason why I’m writing this is to say to my Sisters out there. Know you’re beautiful. Know that you are loved by God no matter how a man make you feel. Know that if you have to be in a relationship that makes you have to always look over your shoulders because of other women, or have to fight or go back and forth…. please don’t waste anytime getting help, or leaving that relationship. What woman in their right mind want to feel jealous and insecure of another woman? Women these days lose themselves in a marriage or in a unmarried relationship. You have to still love your life and enjoy it.

Let me say this too…. Sisters, you have to do your part in making your man feel secure. When you start trying to make him jealous, then one day down the line, it just maybe you….. who gets jealous . That’s a dangerous game to play. Find ways to entertain yourselves while he’s not around. Visit family and friends….. Don’t build your life around him…. that when he wants and needs a break, you find yourself whining and bored. Many women push themselves away from their family and friends when they get married or enter a relationship. Never do that. You never want to look up and have no one….but him. Down the line it makes him uncomfortable, and he’ll have to always find ways to entertain you. That’s not fair. Build your own life, and at the end of the day…  go home to the LOVE OF YOUR LIFE.

Be Blessed!

Listen to yourself and in that quietude you might hear the voice of God. – Dr. Maya Angelou 

May 21-Day Challenge Update……. (((((Blog)))))

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So…. yesterday was the last day of the May 21 Day Challenge. I have lost a total of 10 pounds!!! Yeaaa Cree! I have decided to keep going. I really love the fact that I can get into these Capri’s that I bought several years ago, as a matter of fact when I put them on today they slid down my waist. LOL My attitude was oh well…. I have no problem in being out of them just as quick as I got into them.

I love this challenge because it forces to me to be conscience of everything I put in my mouth. To be honest, right now I don’t miss the Pepsi’s, the chocolate, fast food, candy, ice cream, cookies, juice. Today I went down to the store in the lobby and I looked at a snickers, and said wow, I know I would have picked you up if it wasn’t for this challenge, thing is… you are one of my emotions. I eat snickers, reese cups and chunkys when I’m in thinking mode. Same way with food. I don’t even need it , especially when I don’t crave it. I just see it and want it. Now I look at that stuff and stand there and think on WHY… why would I chose you? Its never because I want it, but because its there and available.

 

 

I have learned quite a lot about myself during this time. When I work out, I count backwards. Yes, it simple, but usually the counting in my head drives me nuts.. So when I count, I start with 100 and work the numbers up to 1. I get so pumped as I’m getting to the last numbers to start another exercise. Before when I would do the normal 1,2,3,4,.. in my mind I’m like… hurry up 35-50 or whatever I’m counting to!!! LOL Its amazing how differently you can see food, when you FOCUS on it. Emotional eaters see food as comfort. A go – to type of thing. I eat to feed my thoughts. When I have ideas and great thoughts and solutions… I’ll over eat dinner and kill it on deserts. When I feel depressed or down…. I never eat. If during that time, its been a while since I had something to eat, I’ll come to a conclusion that everything will work itself out, then I’ll eat just from those “comforting thoughts”. It’s deep.
I have a lot to share, and plan to do so as time go on.

 
Be Blessed
Listen to yourself and in that quietude you might hear the voice of God. –

Dr. Maya Angelou

My Sisters/Gurl Talk/May 21 Day Challenge Update (((((BLOG)))))

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Hey,

Its Memorial Day Weekend!!! Days like this, I miss having my own HOUSE. My favorite time is when everybody go home and we’re cleaning up the kitchen. I love that part for some reason. Then after wards I get to go sit down and “do me” until bedtime. Now today, my Sisters calling me on the 3-way asking “What we gon do for the Holiday?” I’m saying to myself laughing…. yall got the houses… yall figure it out!!! LOL LOL When I had the house all the gatherings was there, now we can use yall nice huge houses…. and I’m not cleaning up afterwards either. LOL LOL YESSSS!!! Feels good. I’mma sit there on the couch, talk my junk, and cross my legs for a change…. give Big Sister a BREAK LOL LOL LOL Sorry yall but this is really funny to me. So now we have a meeting at my sister house tomorrow at 4. Chile please… Imma go and listen to them work it out. I LOVE THEM SO MUCH THOUGH!!! WE HAVE A GOOD TIME WHEN WE GET TOGETHER.. LIFE IS WHAT YOU MAKE IT.. AND I CHOSE TO HAVE FUN.

Ladies we’ve got to quit frowning all the time. A man will NOT approach you with your face balled up and mouth twisted. A man who is being straight up with you, can’t stand a smart mouth either. Yes, I know we’ve been though a lot with men. I know we can take a lot. I know they can make us so mad….. but still we can’t walk around with our faces smashed up because of it. Some women loved to look like something is wrong just for the attention and to be asked “what’s wrong?”. When a man comes home from being gone all day, he want to see a smiling face, with kisses and a great day update. DSCN1619 I don’t even look at women who frown. Understand and know that Spirit can jump on you and have you frowning. Stop complaining all the time too. Ask yourself what percentage of happy stories come out of your mouth daily? You have the choice to share good stories or “Debbie Downers.”

My 18 year old Niece Ganell NELL 4 is so funny. Whenever I go over to her house, she always sit by me. I never paid it any attention until my daughter was like “ma next time we go over to Auntie Peedie house watch Nell make sure she sits by you. She said no matter where we are, she always make sure her seat is by you, and she cant stop touching you. So, I was like okay… let me start paying attention. LOL LOL When I did, I couldn’t do nothing but laugh. I said Nell, why when I come over you gotta sit next to me? She laughed and laughed * thought I didn’t know*, she said Auntie you give out GOOD ENERGY!!!! HAHAHAH WOW What a compliment from a teenager. She loves my energy. I love that gurl. Here is a photo of her.

My May 21 day Challenge……Water, Water, Water is the word for today!!!! YESSSSSSS thatgurlhecallCree aint playing with yall. I’m bout to lose this weight.This banging curvy body “covered in food” deserves BETTER. Its a wrap.. Yes its going to take a while… but LETS GET IT CREE!!!!

* photo taken tonight in my lounge gown*

 

ALRIGHT BE BLESSED

Where works of the flesh exists, there is NO joy

21 Day Challenge Update- R&B Divas ((((((Blog)))))))

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Hey,

Angie Stone got on my nerves tonight on R&B Divas. She was out of order to call that gurl on stage like that when she KNOWSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS how she feels about singing right now. That is so disrespectful to her art as an entertainer, and as a person and friend.

When I was having my Teen group meetings, I knew the personality of all my gurls. I knew who would answer my questions, who would shy away, who would talk too long, who would want to help me every week, and so on. True enough as a leader it is my job to help get them out of their comfort zones, but I also believe that its a way of doing it. Putting people on the spot making them beg and plead for you to PLEASE take the spot light off them, is so wrong. I would have turned all of Angie’s tables over at that party, trying to put me on the spot like that * jp*. She pissed me off. I don’t like being put on the spot, and it bothered me to see LaTavia on it. That gurl begged her, swearing to God and everything for mercy…. ooooo that bothers me.

Some folks in my life feel that since I have such a huge personality that I feel like doing stuff all the time. I like to sit back in the corner with my hat over my face too. When the waitress come to the table.. I don’t like to be the one doing the talking to set the atmosphere. I like to bury my head in the menu like everybody else when they’re asked what will they be ordering. I like to chill too.. and people who know me.. KNOW THAT.. SO….. for Angie to do that while that gurl clearly had on her ” not right now, don’t go there look” on her face…. was wrong… Um um that wasn’t right.

Angie only did it because the gurl showed up late for her Birthday Party. She didn’t look like she wanted to be there any oleway. Who could blame her, when she’s feeling that she’s NOT READY TO PERFORM YET.. What is so hard about that to understand? If that was me.. I would have gave Angie Stone the look of JUDGEMENT DAY HOUR… I don’t play that. At some point you FALL BACK. Enough of that, because I’m getting mad.

Day 14 of the 21 May Challenge and I lost a total of 7 pounds!!!!! That time flew by. I love the change in my eating. I love not having the Pepsi’s… I love how I see a few of my issues with food. I sat down today and paid attention as I ate breakfast and dinner. I GET FULL FAST… I was full after a few minutes into my meal. BUT GET THIS…… I HAVE IGNORED that full feeling.. because I HAVE TOLD MYSELF FOR SO MANY YEARS….. ” YOU JUST STARTED EATING”… how could you be full? I have ignored that warning for so long that I have stretched my stomach overeating. WOW ISN’T THAT A HUGE GREAT BREAKTHROUGH? SO guess what I did when I got full? I got up and put the rest down the garbage disposal. I did hesitate, because guess why? I’m SO USE TO EATING EVERYTHING ON MY PLATE. WOW WOW WOW Something we all learned as a kid.

Okay! So, now that I know that……can’t wait until tomorrow, where I will monitor it again. I have to learn to stop eating whenever I feel full, no matter how much I’ve eaten. I can always grab an apple, or a fruit in between meals IF I FEEL HUNGRY again. I have to learn that. I HAVE TOO. I also learned that what ever I put on my plate the first time, I WILL EAT IT UP… That’s gonna stop. I have to learn portion control. I HAVE TOO. So now I have to be mindful of my portions. I hardly ever go back for seconds, because I’m so busy filling up the first time. This explains why I get full fast when I eat spaghetti.. and everything else I eat.. …..hmmmm. Wow!

I use to be able to eat a Big Mac Meal with fries and pop. For the last 5 years… all I can eat is a hamburger. N O W I K N O W WHY!!!!! I ignored it. The only thing that I’ve been drinking is WATER WATER WATER. Its not even like I’m drinking my water after each bite. I wait until I’m completely done eating before I take a drink. Which means I really get full fast.

Alright now, off to bed!
Be Blessed

 

Where works of the flesh exists, there is NO joy

21 Day -Challenge Updates/Women * get it together* ((((((BLOG))))))

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Hey,

Its day 9 into the 21- Day May Challenge, and I lost a total of 6 pounds!!! Yeaaa. I’ve been drinking lots and lots of water, no juice or pop. For the last few days I’ve been eating strawberries and kiwi. Surprisingly, lots of corn on the cob and raw broccoli out of the bag too. OOO, its so good. I have a bag of apples I have yet to touch. I have to be in a mood for apples and oranges and when I do, I go weeks having it for breakfast daily. I must have ice cold water, I keep them in the freezer. So, yeah I’ll keep updating, it seems to help me on this journey.

Yesterday I was watching ID and wow, there are so many gullible women out there. We have to do better with meeting men, because after 4 weeks declaring that its okay to move them in is not cool. If a man or woman don’t have themselves together, stop trying to date them. Let them get on their feet first. A real man or woman wouldn’t even want to start a relationship until they get themselves in order. By the time the woman realize the “nothing nut” aint no good, he has gotten so comfortable that he doesn’t want to leave. Then the kids are involved and its a big ole mess. Stop being so needy!!! This is one thing that kills me about women. Instead of enjoying peace in your own place, some rather move in a man so that they can “watch” them, make sure they’re not cheating. Its hard to keep watch on a married man these days, so stop trying to keep it on a 4 week old “boyfriend”.

These days people feel pressured to do something, to fit in with what everybody else is doing. Stay in your own lane, do your own thang. Stop always looking over seeing what others are doing, just to desire if for yourself. Now if it motivates you do it… but be your own woman.

Be Blessed
Where works of the flesh exists, there is NO joy

Finding My * your* Purpose in Life 4 ~ La’Crease’s Blog

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Entertainment, Business, Women and Teens

Finding my purpose in life.
What is my calling? What are my gifts?

Entertainment- When I was 14 years old I was IN LOVE with Prince. I told my mom when he come to Detroit, I wanted to be there. She took me, not once, but twice. What a dream come true. Ever since then I fell in love with Entertainment. Not only was I enjoying Prince, but I love the live experience, the back ground singers, and especially the musicians. I love the way it made me feel. I felt so alive. When I moved out on my own I started going to more and more concerts. I would win concert tickets off the radio, and when I went to pick up my tickets, I met a wonderful Radio Personality for WJLB name Janet G. She was so nice and sweet to me. I love her to this day!!! There were many times when she would call me down and she would just give me concert tickets, that was often. I believe that she played a huge role in me loving entertainment as much as I do. I enjoyed going to see the Male Dancers as well 4-5 times a week, just to see them do routines fast and slow.

I missed a lot of concerts waiting on others to go with me, or to get their money together, so I started going alone. It was hard in the beginning. I started buying tickets without telling anyone. Seem like every time I went with others, I was getting seats way in the back, but when I went alone I was sitting in rows 1-5….. every time. I went to several plays before I knew who Tyler Perry was, but when I went to one that was terrible…. I vowed to never, ever go see another play again. I also enjoyed comedy. At concerts and plays I started paying more attention to what was going on back stage than what I came to see. I wanted to be apart of a backstage crew. I enjoy planning and how things came together. I absolutely LOVE ENTERTAINMENT. To name a few of my favorite concerts and plays that I’ve attended would be…… Anita Baker, The Late Great Gerald Levert, Barry White and Luther Vandross, Karen Clark-Sheard, Shirley Caesar, Missy, Mary J Blige, Janet Jackson. Destiny Child, Kelly Price, Jill Scott, Chante Moore, Maxwell, and Tyler Perry. Too many to name. I know for a fact, that Entertainment is apart of my calling.

Business- I LOVE taking care of business. I love to hear YES… in all my business ventures. Sometimes I push it , but its all good. When I was in my 20’s I learned how to speak well over the phone and in person to get my way. My family and friends would call me and have me to pretend to be them because they were nervous. I’m good over the phone, but face to face .. IM EVERYTHING. Seem like I can never get my way through email because I come off too persistent, and people LOVE to tell me No because they can’t see me. It started for me when I was a young gurl, my mom would make business calls and they would always tell her No, or make her have to do all of these unnecessary steps. Sometimes I felt that they sense that she was nervous about handling her business * which she was*, and they always gave her the hardest time. That bothered me. So, I made sure that when I became an adult, that wasn’t going to happen to me. Just tonight she called me and gave me a phone number to call in the morning so that I can take care of her business for her.

I learned that you have to have all your questions written down before you make calls. You have to speak with authority and know what you want. You can’t be afraid to ask question. Its your business, and you should feel comfortable asking whatever you want and need to know. I put together a lot of things, and in order to do this, I have to make these kinds of calls. If I have to see them in person….. that’s even better. I know for a fact, that the business is apart of my calling.

Women and Teens- I’ve always had a connection to them I learned to keep secrets at a young age, and it was needed in order to gain the trust of women and teens. No matter how deep the story is, God has always given me the tolerance to hear all kinds of unbelievable stories. I use to cry a lot when I’d hear the stories because they would be so devastating. But over the years God has strengthen me in this area where I’m able to listen and not take it personal. I’ve put together many Women’s Gathering, where we get personal, talk about God, and discuss how to deal with issues in relationships. I’ve worked in Detroit Public Schools for over 9 years total and I loved it. When my book is released, I know so many women will read it and change their lives. I know for a fact, that Women and Teens are apart of my calling.

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Where works of the flesh exists, there is NO joy

One of my shy days………………………… From the Desk of Cree

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I hate the fact that I’m shy……… sometimes.

Got in the elevator today and the guy that I like was on there. He was the first face I saw when the doors opened. My heart started racing fast. The way we look at each other is FIYAH. Unspoken words are so sexy to me. Had I been already on the elevator when he was getting on, I would have felt in control. I felt him staring at him me, but I couldn’t move. Not to mention today is one of my quiet days. I know my scent was all over him. Those few minutes felt like forever as he stood behind me. I know he wanted me to turn around. I couldn’t. Goodness, I just couldn’t. Others were on there too….. I know they felt our vibe. I could have gave “them” more, but today was one of my shy days.

Where works of the flesh exists, there is NO joy

Sister Day, Husbands, and Laughs From the Desk of Cree

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I had a great time with my Sisters at Red Lobster yesterday evening. We get together every month for dinner to catch up with each other. Then afterwards we ALWAYS end up at their favorite bar… Kwick’s for Karaoke.

I rode with my Sister Peedie. But before we left, she made a stop at home to check in on her husband, and to change clothes . He came out to the truck to greet me, I noticed that he had this “puppy dog” look on his face, that would kill him to admit….. he wanted to go with us. LOL I know him so well… I love, love , love my brother -n- law because he treats my sister so well. PEEDIEDEE2 But my sister told me that when its time for our Sisters gathering, that’s our time. She said me and him are always out and about after work, going to dinner, movies, and shopping. She said this is my time to be with my Sisters. I got that. ……. I guess 🙂

All 9 of us met at 7pm and was seated. Just then my cousin Darcella came in with her husband Wood * who is really MY blood cousin*. (((DEEDAR))) We didn’t know that she was bringing him * wood* with her. But it was cool. In the middle of dinner, someone suggested that we go to Karaoke afterwards. We all agreed and trailed each other. When we got in the car my sister Peedie called her husband and told him to come down to the bar, because wood wanted a guy to be with him. One of our other sisters called her husband down and he came too. But when my sister Peedie’s husband found out that wood was at the dinner, he was kinda disappointed and felt that my sister didn’t want HIM to come. He noticed that Darcella and Wood are ALWAYS TOGETHER NO MATTER WHAT, and wonder why my sister didn’t feel that way. We told him that it was a Sister gathering, we didn’t even know Wood was coming. She tried to get him to come to the bar, but he went to bed… sad….. ahhhhh. Well we had a GOOD TIME!!! LOL

I love, love, love my VIRGO brother-n- law Mark,MARK AND BROTHER who my sister didn’t invite either. I love when he’s with us.. but end up spending it with his brother Deitrick* Haddon*

My point in all of this is… There was a time * in our teens and 20’s* when we (((Sisters))) would jump in our cars and hunt down our men and try to be with them. We all were PRIVATE INVESTIGATORS… tracking down all their whereabouts, friends, family members and phone numbers. We wanted to be with them even if they went to the store. We wanted to know when, where and why. We questioned who they were with, who was there, why they wanted to be there so bad, when were they coming home, and who did you meet while there.

Times has really changed. LOL LOL * I’m laughing so hard*. I WISH THE HELL I WOULD………. look for my husband or boo. I just don’t have that kinda time. I cant believe how much time and work I use to put into finding out what he was doing. LOL Realizing now, that was taking time from ME….. DOING ME… LOL. Every time the Sisters get together, their husbands want to come so bad… and since I don’t have one, I’m the one feeling bad for them and convince the Sisters to let them come with us. They have the best husbands… DRAMA FREE. But I’m learning to understand Sister time is Sister time, and Husband time is Husband time. I get it…. they just look so pitiful. LOL LOL

Thing is they know their wives are not doing anything wrong… they just feel that they should be able to come along and have guy talk at the other end of the table. But what the men don’t understand is……its not about them separating themselves at the end of the table…. the Sisters want to have Sisters Day without them being present PERIOD. LOL

Boy have times changed. LOL LOL * cracking up laughing*

 

Where works of the flesh exists, there is NO joy

Beyonce….. On the run Crees Blog Entry

When I tell you I LOVE this song.. I do!!! It plays constant in my mind.

 

 

 

 

It has a 90’s feel to it, so sincere, and so true to her life .Listen to her voice. I’ve never been married, but my idea husband has to be ride or die for me.  A  man who has my back, and YESSS… I have his. Our life and work compliments each other, same page, same book, same line. This song reminds me that this LOVE I’m in search of, is out there.

Thanks Beyonce and Jay!!!

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