Today this young gurl (18) came through my line. She was buying clothes and pampers for her only child. She didn’t have enough to buy him socks. When all of a sudden she started telling me that her child’s daddy had jumped on her last night…….at the “hang out spot”( crack house). She had scratches all over her face and neck.
That hurted me to my heart.
As a mother of a soon to be 20 year old daughter, to hear that this young gurl was being beaten made me upset. I told her, “I said boo, God didn’t put you down here to be beaten on.” That’s not what you are here on this earth for. I wanted to tell her so much more. When she left I was sick that I didn’t give her my phone number. I wasn’t thinking at all.
We as parents must train up our daughters that its not okay to get beat by a man. Its not acceptable!! Growing up we got whooping, who wants to get whoopings while they are grown? Not me! I got enough coming up. In fact, I remember saying “I can’t wait to get grown, so I wont get any more whooping!
Many times young gurls find themselves in situations (especially if they have a child by the man), where they are depended on him. They have somehow lost their own way. When a man can look around and see that
- she don’t have a strong family tie
- don’t have dependable friends
- have a low self esteem
- very needy
- she doesn’t have a vision or goal for her own life
Its easy to get caught up in the life of his, where it consist of control, anger, beatings and sometimes death. We as parents, women and men we must talk to our kids, nieces, nephews!!!!!!! Im willing to put up everything for this fight. She needs to know that God made her. He is the ruler of her body and her mind. She doesn’t have to put up with anything that doesn’t make her happy. God put us here for his purpose. Keyword: His Purpose!
When your self-esteem is low you will put up with a lot of things, things you look back on later and say dangggggggg “No I didn’t let that fool do that to me.” WE dont know any better. That’s why its important to set standards of what we would accept and wont except. And live by them.
To my yahoo sisters and brothers. I beg you tonight. Please adopt a teen. Find a teen in your area, at your school, in your neighborhood, at your job and adopt them as your own. Spend time with them, talk to them, invite them to outings, give them hope, pray for them, be that light in their lives. Even if its your nieces, nephews and their friends, please try to spend time with them. And talk to them till your blue in the face.
How I know so much? Because this same gurl was me when I was 18
God Bless
Lacrease
“From this day on, I will try my best to live my life in a way pleasing to God. Because I want my name in the Book of Life “~~ Lacrease
Inside the mind of cree 
>>>”No I didn’t let that fool do that to me.”<<<
There have been times “We’ve all” (Let) someone take a part of our energy. I’m so happy you used those words… Because, you know this phrase has been turned around and used in many different ways. ((People can only do what you let them do to you.)) It could be physical, emotional and/or verbal abuse. And, it’s no one’s purpose is to live a battered life. You are so right about that.
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THATS A DAMN SHAME…THAT GIRL WAS CRYING OUT FOR HELP…THESE YOUNG GIRL’S GET CAUGHT UP IN THESE SITUATION’S WITH THESE OLDER MEN AND JUST LOSE SELF…GOD BLESS HER AND ALL THESE OTHER POOR MIS-GUIDED YOUNGINGS OUT HERE.
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Lacrease, I’ve been thinking about your blog today. It’s sad to see young ladies going through like that, all for a man. But this is also an issue with women our age too. I have a friend who is dealing with the same thing. I just never could understand how a woman could let a man take her to that point. But then I started to see that some women will go to many lengths just to be with a man. Some will step into that man’s world no matter how bad it is, chase him, get out of character for him, and eventually lose herself all for a man that isn’t worth a grain of salt to start off with. I agree that something needs to be done.
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I think it’s sad that women will lose themselves in man to this point. It is so important to teach our children against violence. I have different views with this though that everyone may not agree with. My thoughts are just to much for this tiny space to answer Cre I might have to do a blog with my response… by the way I miss you! I be wanting to call you but by the time I get home it be so late!!!!!!! Look for me this weekend! Luv ya
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oK COOL CALL ME! I WORK 4-10:30 SATURDAY NIGHT. BUT IM ON THE COMPUTER TILL 3 SOMETIMES 4 IN THE MORNING. ITS NEVERRRRR TOO LATE TO CALL ME. PLUS I HAVE 2 LINES IN MY HOME. HIT ME UP!
YOUR SISTER CRE
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You know its important for young girl to know that hitting is the last step.. What I mean is that ….there are other things that happen before a man will hit, that can tell you you’re in the wrong type of relationship. Jealousy, Possessiveness, and Fear. If a man uses threats, or if you fear him, then you are in a relationship that can lead to violence. There are different levels of jealousy… and girls need to be aware of that. Men that discourage you from being with your friends or family, men that think of you as a “possession”. Men that want to control you.. what you wear, how you look, where you go … ummmm that’s not cool. In any relationship you have to continue to be the samne person you were before you met that person… You have to have your own life even in a relationship…..
We gotta teach our girls self worth, and to always make your own money,(no matter how rich your husband is ) and educate yourself no matter how much it may cost We can borrow 40,000 for a car, but won’t do the same for an education…… I’ve never been hit by a man.. I know too many girl that have though…… I can’t say why it happen to them, I just know why it didn’t happen to me ….. I
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COCO say that!!!! Say that gurl! When I was 18 I had this boyfriend who fought me 2 times after that it was a wrap! My dad told me be better neverrrr see him at our house again. And he didnt. I always tell young gurls, make sure you have friends, like you said your own life. Because if he aint got no friends,. please beleive that he wont want you to have them. He can/will convince you that he is all you need, and its not true. Men it goes for you too.. Have your own life and space before and after. There are plenty women ou there thats like that. I know some!!!!!!!!!!!!!!Yes Coco own money too! Yeah gurl you need to do a blog entry about this sybject. Please do!
Cre
From this day on, I will try my best to live my life in a way pleasing to God. Because I want my name in the Book of Life~~ Lacrease
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Aight Cre I’ll get something on this subject going …… and ummm what’s up with ya Pistons… (he he ) you know I had to thow that in there …LOL
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the entire family structure is gone…..its not marriage then babies…its one-night stand paternity tests…..its so sad that our children ARE forced to grow up TOO QUIKK and deal with ADULT situations, b4 they are even ready to vote.
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That Sad Because most People Don’t KNow what Are Young People Go Throught… We Hurt Every Day Because Of What SomeOne Have Done To US.. It Hurt Out Here For US Young People Now Day.. Trust ME I Know I Been Throught It
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