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If you are LEAD….. Please Do So (((((Blog)))))

LISA

 

http://www.gofundme.com/gettingminimehome

This post is from a good friend of mines. If you are lead to help her with donations for a Lawyer.. please do so.  THANK YOU SO VERY MUCH!

Hello all!! I am currently raising funds to pay for what may be potentially two lawyers (one in Georgia and one in Illinois) to fight my abusive ex in court who has decided to sue me for full custody of our daughter and refuses to bring her home to Chicago from her summer visitation with him which puts him in contempt of our current custody agreement. Many of you may already know my story, if you don’t, a link will be provided below to my blog detailing my story. (Please excuse my language in the blog because it was written prior to me turning my life over to Christ.) Since we moved to Chicago, he has summoned me to Georgia on what will now be my 5th time. Since I have a permanent restraining order on him, he has abused the courts to file for modifications to our agreement. I have gone so far as to cut off the child support just so I can have some peace and hoping he will leave me alone, but he has not. He has been successful partly because I still had a victim’s mentality and did not want to rock the boat and partly because I could never afford representation so that I could adequately fight him in court. But no more!!! IF I need the lawyer in Georgia because the Illinois lawyer is not successful in transferring venues, that lawyer would be used to get the change of venue and hold him in contempt of the original agreement as well as hold him in contempt for filing our daughter on his taxes. The Illinois lawyer will be used to start my case here in Illinois, establish my custody case as Illinois as my home and file for modifications as well as close up the many loop holes. I was served by the Sheriff’s department on Saturday, August 16th and I have court Tuesday, September 9th in Georgia. Time is of the essence and school starts in Chicago soon. She is in a selective enrollment school and if she is not in attendance, it is possible she will lose her slot. Funds raised will also be used, if necessary, to fly to Georgia and to bring my 11 year old daughter home. I am a survivor, as you will read in the link below, I have survived so much and I will survive this too and God WILL get the Glory anyhow!!! Thank you for reading and being a blessing!! http://www.misfit4lyfe.blogspot.com/2012/12/lisas-story-part-1.html?m=1

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Elders/Respect/Living For Tomorrow/Ephesians 4:32

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Every time someone post a YOUTUBE video about teens, women or babies… its almost always SPOOKY to watch. These days no one has respect for our Elders. I’m 46 years old and you will never catch me cussing in PUBLIC, on Facebook, or anywhere else in front of them. I just don’t believe that ANY CONVERSATION is so deep, where you can’t find other words to use to help you get your point across.  How can you not look at them with a special eye when they walk pass you? You’re suppose to ALWAYS look them in the eye, smile, speak and ask them how they’re doing? How can someone go on with their normal day and not give these people RESPECT? Even just walking pass someone you’re suppose to acknowledge their presence. So what you don’t know them… open your mouth and speak. If God took your mouth and your voice away.. I bet you break your back trying to make SOMEBODY/ANYBODY notice YOUR “NOW”… NON SPEAKING SELF.

This behavior has to be practiced. Women, Sisters, Aunts, Uncles, Brothers, Nephews…. when you see this happening in your family or with someone you know… open your month and make them speak. This builds Character, and also RESPECT. Speaking is FREE… I see if money was deducted from your pay check, and you have to cut down on the number of people you speak to in a pay period… BUT ITS FREE.

STOP cussing, and having disrespectful conversations in front of our Elders. Think before you speak. Stop making your daughters twerk and then putting these things on line for others to see. One day when they grow up and become different people, they will spend years or the rest of their lives convincing people they’re not that person anymore. Whenever you make a choice, make sure its not just for TODAY…. make sure its one you can live with JUST IN CASE YOU CHANGE. Make sure your conversations are seasoned with “salt” in good taste. Pleasant. Show yourself friendly. Everything is FREE!

32 Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.
Ephesians 4:32 (New International Version)

Be Blessed!

Listen to yourself and in that quietude you might hear the voice of God. – Dr. Maya Angelou

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Six Flags over New Orleans… * my thoughts* :( (((((Blog)))))

 

I love Amusement Parks….and even though I don’t like to ride roller coasters or rides that’s high in the sky. I’ve always had a connection to the actual park.

The park to me in MY mind reminds me of a place where there is laughter, fun screams, eating, walking, photo taking, water, shows, and of course rides. When I was a kid I use to wonder what do the rides do after all the guest are gone. Do they rest and sleep? Do they talk to each other? Are they happy to have people ride them, because its their ” PURPOSE” in life? I’ve always had a wild live imagination when it comes to this topic. People say I’m crazy for these thoughts, but I believe with all my heart, that when Parks close down for good, its a sadness that lurks over it. The Spirit of it is gone. In my crazy mind, I feel that the rides are sad and depress that it has no lively hood anymore. No more children to make laugh, no more screaming . The smell of food no longer fills the air.

I always wondered that if I walked through an abandoned Amusement Park, would I be able to feel the Spirits that once visited there? I’m always watching YouTube videos of Amusement Parks… but this one.. really got to me. 😦 Six Flags over New Orleans. I wish I could wake up the rides and nurse them back to health from Hurricane Katrina. Ill get the kids and families back on the rides again. I can see Roller coasters happy, swings swinging, music playing, kids running, parents smiling, food cooking.

Please watch this video with me. Remember to feel the Spirit of Happiness!!

Be Blessed!

Listen to yourself and in that quietude you might hear the voice of God. – Dr. Maya Angelou

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Kids paternity goes wrong ((((((((Blog)))))))

I cried today watching this video.  This is happening to so many people and its time parents are truthful to their children no matter how “hard” it may be. No child/adult should be this devastated over a decision that the parents/parent was scared to make as a child. It’s not right and its not fair. Children need to be told the truth as they are growing up, so that they can grow with the situation. That would prepare them to be able to handle the truth of rejection or death of their family members, then they go out to find them. This is so sad. Please watch this video.

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What’s SAM’S full name?…FUNNY/ ((((((((Blog))))))))

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For 5 years I was mentoring my Teen gurls group, Raisingurls to Women in my home, when I started to realize that while the teens were being part of a group that helped them to deal with issues, the moms were still working out of the same mentality. That bothered me and I never knew how I could bridge the gap, especially when many of them felt that only the teens were having issues, and not themselves. I get so many emails from parents who seek my advice in this area that it amazes me. Which leads me to focus more on parents/women.

When MarNesha was growing up, she was mostly like me, never cared about going over to people’s house. I rather sleep on my own bed at night, and had company at my house. But when she had boyfriends, she bought them over for me to meet. I’m not one of those parents/momma’s that would say yes to her going to their place without meeting them. I want to know names, phone numbers * yes I had her boyfriends number in my cell phone.. sure did*, address, who else they know associated with this person. I didn’t play that. See many parents don’t start off early about letting their kids know how they are. We know our kids like the back of our hands, we as parents need to let our kids know WHO WE ARE! WHAT WE WILL DO ,AND WHAT WE WONT TOLERATE as THEY’RE GROWING UP…. I ask questions. If you had a problem with me asking questions, let me know NOW, so we can shut this down and talk about something else.

Today my cousin La’Tisha ( my cousins Wife in above photo) posted this on her FB page. Oh its so funny. Parents beware….. these kids are starting off early!!! LOL This is a good one!!! Hahahaha * Get em gurl*

So riding in the car with my son and the conversation goes:
Son: Hey mom can I go over my friend’s house
Me: Where does your friend live.
Son: Oh just two blocks over.
Me: Let me ride by and see exactly where. I need to talk to his parents.
Me: Oh who is this friend?
Son: Well I’m actually going to see THEIR brother
Me: THEIR???
Me: Who is your friend? You didn’t answer my question.
Son: Sam
Me: What’s SAM’S full name
Son: Samantha.
Son: Oh she’s not going to be there.
Me: And neither are you!!!
‪#‎notgonnahappen‬
‪#‎nicetry‬
‪#‎only12‬
‪#‎wrongmomma‬

Be Blessed

 

Listen to yourself and in that quietude you might hear the voice of God. – Dr. Maya Angelou

 

 

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Gurl Talk * wedding stress* ((((((Blog))))))

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Hey!!!!

I want to Gurl Talk about Weddings. I know several good friends of mine who will be married this year and next Summer. As they plan their wedding many issues are with the Bridal Party….. but also there are many problems with GUEST.

As a person who LOVES to plan. I recommend that the Bride have someone other than herself to be in charge of the RECEPTION GUEST LIST. A good friend in boxed me tonight was in tears about this SAME topic. I wanted to cry with her, because I hear this a lot and let me say this. As the Bride, when you make up in your mind how you want YOUR WEDDING…. and what you can afford, how you want it done, how many guest you plan to invite, who are allowed and who are not….STICK WITH IT. Its your day! WHO EVA * not ever* WHO EVA don’t like it… OH WELL!

If you’re having a “no children” wedding, stick to it. No exceptions. That’s the part that bothers me, people always want to put pressure on the Bride about this policy. If the couple agree to not have children, then that’s what it means. FLAT OUT!!! THAT’S FINAL!!! When those same people who have a problem with it… go out dancing, they can’t take their kids with them. If they can’t get a baby sitter, then guess what they have to do……”sit it out”. I don’t care who you are. You wont disrespect our wedding cause you want things convenient  for you. And if they get mad… get mad ON TOP OF THEIR “MAD”… and keep it moving. I love to plan, and that’s one thing I don’t play….. people wanting exceptions to benefit them.

If a couple allow kids to their wedding, with high plate prices that’s over $30.00 per head, people will bring their kids, and the kids they’re baby sitting that weekend, that summer, that month… um ummmm NOT ON MY MONEY. *blank stare*. People don’t know how to act right. So, I say as a planner myself, its best to have a person who you trust and know will communicate everything you want, to do your RECEPTION WEDDING GUEST.

My advice for a Bride who plans to gather address and names for their wedding  reception. Is to let people know up front, NO CHILDREN- NO EXCEPTIONS. Please respect and honor this request and there will be ABSOLUTELY NO conversations pertaining to the matter. That’s to the point and very well communicated. Who ever doesn’t get that… just don’t care. Keep it moving, there is too much work to do. I live by that!

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Be Blessed!

Where works of the flesh exists, there is NO joy
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Parenting Tips, New Apartment, (((((((Blog)))))))

Parenting Tips

When driving and coming to a ice cream truck ice cream truck it is very important to treat it as if its a school bus. You may not see any children coming, but its important to slow down, then come to a stop, because you never know with kids. They’re just being kids when they dart out into on coming traffic. They are doing exactly what they’re suppose to do at their age. Especially if they are excited. We all know that feeling of seeing the ice cream truck and to be able to buy something. Its up to us to know better. You want to always be in position that if you’re riding up a residential street, and a kid dart in front of you, that they can get back up and be okay. After today’s accident here in Detroit where a young gurl was hit by a driver and KEPT GOING. It reminds me to be mindful and for you who read this as well. We are the adults, we have to be the eyes and ears for our children. Even if they’re in the wrong to dart out in front of our cars, we have the responsibility to STOP until that truck is done serving. Lets be careful.

Watch the video below

http://www.myfoxdetroit.com/story/25557467/child-critically-injured-by-hit-and-run-driver

 

I’m ready to move from this apartment, but I want to stay in this area. Its too small, I haven’t even unpacked all my things. Ever since being here, I haven’t really done anything. My lease is up in December, I’m out of here. I want towels, tissue, tooth paste, bleach, Ajax, brillo pads, dish towels, paper towels, bathroom smell goods, different kinds of soaps, bath oils, bath liquid, dish washing liquid, living and dinning room smell goods and things like that to TAKE OVER MY BATH CLOSETS… Here I can only buy so much. There’s no space! I don’t like that. I like to have 3 and 4 of each item. I hate looking in the cabinet and being out of something. I have so many things still in totes. Sigh …….anyway. I’m off to bed to day dream about my new apartment with everything in it.

Be Blessed

Where works of the flesh exists, there is NO joy

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Home Invasions…..teens not making it out ALIVE …From the desk of Cree

kid to save

Hey,

This will be my rambling blog.

Went to Red Lobster with my Sisters and God Sisters last Friday, then to a bar for Karaoke. I was feeling good that night never knew I was about to catch a cold. I knew as soon as the weather broke this was going to happen. I knew something was wrong because I kept on having sleeping spells. I’ll get real sleepy and have these sudden “gotta lay down NOW” episodes and will have them all day. That next day… I was sick. OH well its not that bad, because I kept an eye on it. When I get like this.. I hate talking, and being around people. I have to get myself together. I think I become mean, and outspoken…. * not good*  Anyway, this guy sung to me.. omg.. I was so embarrassed. I’m shy, and my sisters took photos of me  while they enjoyed the moment.. I wanted to disappear and be home. LOL I can’t take attention. Its enough my personality is bubbly, but that’s controlled ATTENTION… he caught me totally off guard. He sung the whole song to me, spot light was on and everything, after wards he brought us all a beer. So sweet. 🙂

There are a lot of home invasions going on here in Detroit. People are tired of this, they have license to carry a concealed weapon, not only that BUT THEY ARE POPPIN THESE INTRUDERS left and right. These young men are dying in these peoples home. There was a time when break ins were happening, and the intruders were doing the killing or leaving them for dead. More people are on the look out, and when they hear something strange, they’re not waiting to see what’s going on. They’re pulling the trigger on these young goons. I don’t blame them. I hate that these kids don’t know consequences. Some were never taught, and they’re dying right in their victims homes. These parents are going to LEARN. Quit taking up for your bad kids.

Here’s the story. The part that killed me was when the boy’s God mother spoke…

http://www.myfoxdetroit.com/story/25218623/suspected-intruder-killed-by-homeowner-was-15-years-old

Stop being so quick to say ” Cant nobody Judge Me”… people are only trying to help you. Trust me LaCrease won’t be knocking on your door setting appointments for me to talk you out of stupid mess. But I will see you in passing and run some sense in your head….. after that… there is nothing I can do to save you. I’ve had this same talk with plenty of people, and they always come back and say…. “I should have listened to you”.

I hope this serve as a lesson to these young teens…. “Aint NOBODY playing no more”.

Be Blessed

Where works of the flesh exists, there is NO joy

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Buying kids everything… is NOT good From the desk of Cree

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When you buy your sons and daughters the best clothes, latest gym shoes, making them the best dressed in school. People always telling you ” your kids stay fresh” Every new electronic device that comes out… YOUR CHILD gotta have it, the latest phones and designer clothes. That’s ALL GOOD.. AND THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT……

BUT YOU BETTER remember and KNOW for a fact. That when YOU stop taking care of them because they’re “18” and GROWN. They have to keep up with that LIFESTYLE that YOU provided for them. TRUST AND BELIEVE… they’re either going to go to college and make a good hard working living for themselves….. or they’ll make fast money ON the streets!!! No kid wants to turn 18 and can’t keep up with what they were use to. People will talk about them and dog them out. And trust me… they’re not having that!!!

Remember you have to set the atmosphere for LATER when it comes to the mind set of your kids. They really don’t need all of that growing up….let them set their own goals of having the best of everything by working for it, not just by being YOUR child.

This is a warning…. hear me clear.

Where works of the flesh exists, there is NO joy

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