Deep Conversations/BLOG

Hey family!

You know if you keep on living you will learn so many life lessons. I have learned a lot, and even if I don’t speak on it, I have. Sometimes you have to forgive yourself for not seeing friendships that was not meant to be, even through the warnings. Ah, the warnings.. SMH. But that is years behind me and again, keep on living and you will learn a thing or two. I’m good!

This week, I was having deep DEEP DeEp conversations with my cousins who are all Sisters about my uncle (( their dad))) who passed away many years ago. He was my dad’s best friend and as we were growing up, even though their mom and my uncle was divorced, me and my sister  would go over to their house and spend nights with them. I loved them and looked up to them, because they are all so pretty, came from a good family, and loved being around us. But all of that time as a young gurl, I thought that they were seeing their dad often, because I did. I was young, so of course I didn’t know anything about bickering ex’s, kids, child support and all of that. I remember my youngest cousin of the sisters (( she’s older than me)) use to always ask me have I seen her dad, and my answer would be yes. I would tell her when he came over, and things like that. She would be so excited to hear my stories. I grew up with both of my parents in the home, so I didn’t know why she was so into asking me questions, but now I know that she was missing her dad. But I always thought they saw him as often as I did.

We were having a deep conversation about it, and come to find out they didn’t see him that often. That sadden me, and told me that things weren’t as it seem when I was growing up. How is it that I’m seeing their dad more than they were? When we talked about it, it made ME feel some kinda way. I learned something so deep. They felt that he didn’t love them the way he should have.  And I know he loved them, but I don’t know how they didn’t feel it. Well, I understand their views. I was shocked. And the funny thing is, these sisters are just like mines, WE ARE VERY VERY STRONG WOMEN, with strong opinions, and personalities . Get all 6 of us together on a topic we split on, and its on and poppin. LOL

Back in the day grown folks business was grown folk business. I told them, that whenever he came over, we went to our rooms, or went outside to play. Even though I saw him with my dad, I didn’t know their business or what they talked about. They felt that just because I saw him, I knew things. I didn’t. I was a young gurl myself. It made me feel some kinda way, because they are all grown women and even though 2 of them haven’t completely healed from the hurt, the baby did. She found closure and I’m happy.

Here is the biggest thing. Even though their mom and dad had a bad divorce, and he may not have been the best dad, he was THE BOMB GRANDDAD TO THEIR KIDS. OMG HE HAD THOSE KIDS EVERY WEEKEND. He loved his grandkids, and even though they are grown, today they still feel the effects of his death.

Now, what my baby cousin was saying (( she’s older than me)) is that God spoke to her concerning the healing and closure that she needed. My grandmother was a young mother who had 7 kids, she wanted to work and be in the streets leaving my uncles and aunts with their dad, and her mother. The brothers were bitter about that, maybe grew up and not know how to be close to their kids, not knowing how to communicate or whatever skills they lacked from not having their mother around. My cousin get that, she doesn’t excuse it, but she feels that with the tools he had, he did the best he knew how. My two other cousins feel that he should have done better and knew better. and to make matters worst, he had a girlfriend before he died who was also very close to their kids, who didn’t offer or give them anything of their dads when he passed away. She had everything. I asked my cousin why didn’t she ask her, she felt that it should have been offered.. NOT HER ASKING. Wow I felt differently about that, but then again I cant say because this is not my story and it didn’t happen to me. I would have asked and listened to her say NO, OVER AND OVER AGAIN, so that later on in life she would feel guilty of holding on to all those things she had of his and not have the man… not to mention he was a Atheist. She’ll never hold or see him again.

In the end, we love each other, and I hope that my two cousins find closure. One said sorry she just isn’t there yet, and I got that. One thing I learned is that things arent always what they seem. You think people are happy and have everything under control, but in REAL LIFE its not that way. I felt my uncle loved them, but he didn’t know how to express love when he didn’t get it from his mom. For me, it made my dad love his family and made sure that we were close, didn’t fist fight each other, and to be there for each other no matter what. Two brothers lived in the same house, grew up and saw things differently. I know in my heart he loved them, I just wish they knew it.

 

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Meet 6 Beautiful Married Couples/BLOG

Proverbs 18:22 He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the LORD.

I absolutely LOVE the way these couples LOVE EACH OTHER.

I decided to put this together because I enjoy looking through the photos of these COUPLES FB pages, just to get a glance of what we all want………. LOVE.  I learned  that ALL of  these couples…LOVE THEIR FAMILIES, LOVE to travel with EACH OTHER, and most importantly, they all LOVE GOD.

These beautiful couples can tell you for themselves the rode to LOVE has not been easy. They will even tell you they’re NOT PERFECT, but they made it. They did the work, they put in the time, they compromised, they put each other first, they will probably tell you, they had to let some people go, and that’s why these marriages are alive and well. NOT ONLY ARE THEY MARRIED, but notice they ALL are WEAR THEIR WEDDING RINGS. WOW.. AMAZING!

I wanted to show the world that REAL LOVE still exist. You don’t have to settle down with just anyone. The person God made for you is out there, and until you get out of these “no-where-going” relationships you’ll NEVER experience the love that these couples share. They should all give us HOPE that one day we too can experience LOVE IN THIS WAY.

My personal thought on all of the couples.

Tim and Karen-I LOVE the way Tim speak on his wife Karen. I LOVE how he LOVES GOD for BLESSING him with HER. I love the way she LOOKS at him when they’re doing videos together. And mostly, I LOVE how he says “MY WIFE”… he makes it SO PERSONAL. They also do videos for married couples and also for singles to learn from them on how to have a Happy Marriage. (( His movie “A Mother’s Love is also on NETFLIX)) Blessing and LOVE to you both.

Toure and Kim- I’ve been knowing Kim since we were teenagers * I’m 49*, she has gone through a lot. And when she told me she had went to school to become a nurse, and later got married to someone she met. I was so happy for her. Even though I’ve never met her husband… I know she’s happy IN LOVE. I love when she post photos of them before Church. They look so good together, and please focus on my favorite photo of her pouring him a drink in his cup. Look at the intense way he LOOKS AT HER.. OMG.. BEAUTIFUL!!! Blessings and LOVE to you both.

Darren and Electria ( Peedie)- My  baby Sister. When I tell you I LOVE THIS MAN for MY sister…no words. He takes care of her, he’s the most attentive man I know. When he comes home from work, he showers, change clothes and want to “hit the streets” with his Wife. Dinner, movies, out of town, cruises… you name it, he wants her right by his side. He loves being with her. He will get up in the middle of the night to buy her soda or juice if she wants. I use to worry about her a lot because of the men she dated, but when she met and married him….those fears went out of the door. He LOVES to travel, and when he does.. SHE’S RIGHT BY HIS SIDE.  My aunt use to tell her all the time, when you get married and stop living in Sin, is when all the blessings will come from GOD… AND OMG… I am a witness to it ALL. Blessings and LOVE to you both.

Wood and Dar’Cella- Wood is not only my first cousin, but he is my favorite. When I first met his girlfriend Dar’Cella (( they were high school sweethearts)) I really liked her. They started coming over to my place and I fell in love with her.I call them… “MY COUSIN WHO MARRIED MY COUSIN.” LOL When I tell you, they’ve been through it all, YOU BETTER HEAR ME WITH YOUR HEART. They stuck by each other through the thick and thin. When he was hospitalized she was with him the whole time, he KNEW, he KNEW, HE KNEW… that he had a WINNER, and that she wasn’t going anywhere. I was so happy to be witness to their wedding ceremony and its been UP FOR THEM EVERY SINCE! Blessings and LOVE to you both.

Vee and Boodang- Boodang is the BROTHER of Dar’Cella. We’ve all always called each other cousins because my cousin married his sister. When I met his wife Vee, and started working with her, I found out she was the sweetest person ever. I love this couple!  By him being a public figure I know it hasn’t always been easy. But let me tell you, one day she was venting on FB, and he commented on her post, saying something like… baaaby we good over here, don’t entertain that… It was the most beautiful thing. Let me tell you why? He did it in LOVE, it wasn’t mean, it wasn’t embarrassing, it was out of the LOVE he have for them, their family, their marriage. She took down the post and THANKED HER HUSBAND….Ahhh it was so beautiful. She respects HIM.. and he respects HER. Blessings and LOVE to you both.

Chauncey and Lakisha-  I met Chauncey many years ago because we lived on the same block. He had to be in high school at that time, but I knew his younger sister because I worked at her and my daughters elementary school.  It was years when I saw him again, grown up and with Lakisha in my line at Walmart. I knew he loved her then, ( they wasn’t married yet)) because of the way they talked to each other. (( Yes, I pay attention to everything)).  They invited me to their wedding and to this day, I’m still mad I couldn’t get the day off. But this is what she wrote  in her “notes” section of FB………I WILL NEVER LOVE NO OTHER MAN THE WAY I LOVE CHAUNCEY. I AM HAPPILY MARRIED .I NEVER THOUGHT I WOULD FIND SOMEBODY THAT LOVE ME LIKE CHAUNCEY DO  .I WANT TO STOP BEING SHY WITH CHAUNCEY..I LOVE ME!!!!!!!!! When she looks at him, you KNOW that they’re ONE. I LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE… how they always spend time with their kids and take family trips. And… Oct 2017, her hubby and friends are going on another cruise. Blessings and LOVE to you both.

My prayer is that the couples will do even more to strengthen their marriages. I pray that you remember the times you took these photos and smile. If you are lacking in any area of your lives, I pray that you DO THE WORK to keep your marriage ALIVE. You all give us hope. You all set the atmosphere. We see you. We live through you. We see God in your marriages. In your eyes, in the time you MAKE for each other. We know that LOVE works as long as we do the work. THANK YOU ALL🙂 God Bless You

Before you scroll down to MEET THE COUPLES…. Know this…. To interfere, cause trouble, and to come in between ANY MARRIED COUPLE…. IS A NO -NO TO GOD…

Mark 10:9 Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.

While putting this together.. I HAD to listen to some inspirational songs filled with LOVE to complete this. Here is a list of songs I used.

Syleena Johnson-All This Way For Love

Stevie Wonder-Sign Sealed Delivered

Pebbles- Always

Phil Perry- Forever

Vaults-One Last Night

To set the MOOD in your VIEWING… here are TWO OF MY FAV. (( PRESS PLAY))

 

Lets MEET THE COUPLES!

Tim and Karen #MEETTHEALEXANDERS

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She writes everything in her journal, I have no idea what is in it, and I will never look. It is her secret place, and I respect it. 🙂

 

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He wrote…. “My Beautiful, Lovely, Adorable wife Karen on her way to work at the ESPY Awards yesterday, she sent me this message from work…
“I LOVE YOU so much for being my HUSBAND and I have NEVER felt like that EVER in my life!!!! Everyone says “I look so happy!” This is because of YOU. Thank you my King! Can’t wait to see how sexy you will look in your new glasses!!!” —– I LOVE THIS WOMAN!!!! ❤ PRAISE GOD SHE IS IN MY LIFE – FOREVER!”

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He wrote.. “Man this woman is beautiful! Wow! I married that! 😀 THANK YOU BABY FOR MARRYING ME!!!!!!!”

 

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He wrote…”This was our last dinner at our favorite Cafe in Paris, and she loves this photo of us the most.”

Toure and Kim #MEETTHEKELSEYS

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Punta Cana, Dominican Republic

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He wrote” Celebrating life with my wife.”

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Waikiki, Hawaii.

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He wrote: “Found and save my bby, Kim.

Darren And Electria #MEETTHEJOHNSONS

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He wrote “Love this beautiful woman”

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She wrote “US”

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Wood and Darcella #MEETTHEWOODARDS

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Boodang and Vee #MEETTHEMADISONS

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She wrote…”13 years Married~”

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She wrote…. “Day 3 of Love Your Spouse Challenge…promoting love and unity💕Me and the hubby in Florida~@Ritas getting some of the greatest ice! Lol”

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Chauncey and Takisha #MEETTHEMITCHELLS

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She wrote ” Had lunch with my husband and havin a bad hair day and he didn’t care, he still wanted to take me to lunch!! I love that man”

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She wrote” 😂😂😂 I’m fixin myself & he’s fixing himself

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She wrote” Awww he missed him wife, soon as I got n the bed he got right under me 😍😍

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#Married at First Site/BLOG

MAFS David and Ashley

I just finished watching “Married at First Site”, and I must say its a pretty interesting show. I’ve been watching the show since the first season (( now in the third)). I noticed that all of the women are a bit standoffish. One is attracted to her husband, while the other two women aren’t. I kinda feel bad for the husbands because we women can put up a defense that’s strong enough to make a man agree to live on the streets than to live with us. LOL

I also noticed that the men are willing to “work it out” but if given a chance, the women would pack up leave…. and never look back! I know this, because I can see it in their eyes, and hear it in their conversations. Women can build a wall so tough… just looking at it on TV makes me wonder…. how have I acted in the past?

Let me share something else I learned. I see that in marriage, these men have lots of patience for these women. Seems like the more disconnected the woman is, it makes it that much easier for the man to want to work it out. One of the women told her husband how unattracted she was to him. But when he spoke up for himself in another conversation AFTER THAT, she seemed turned on and felt connected to him. That was so weird to me. LOL But we women are like that!!! Wow.

MAFS Vanessa and Tres

In this experiment the men tend to take marriage more serious as far as getting to know each other  more so than the women. Now had they just met and NOT married, the women would share all kinds of things about themselves. LOL But these men would be in what we call the” friend zone”. That’s a zone where we as women can be/feel safe without getting hurt at all. We can share all kinds of things in this “friend zone”. For example… what time we were born, what we did at age 5, what age we first had sex, we’ll even share the details of our last relationship and how the man was either great or a loser. But by being MARRIED WOMEN.. .they arent sharing JACK! LOL  That’s because this is it. This is MARRIAGE.

MAFS Sam Neil

This experiment showed me that in the dating process, a woman can find out that the man was an ex sex offender, mentally abusive, and a stalker 3 years ago,  ESPECIALLY if she’s already INVESTED 7 months into him.. and realize she LIKES/LOVES him. She’ll ((some not all)) stay with this man knowing his past. But IN THIS EXPERIMENT where they meet the day they are to be married, and she finds this out an hour later… SHE’LL WANT A DIVORCE… ON SPOT! LOL Wow!

I would love to see these women relax and enjoy the moment. Get to know their husbands, stop being so standoffish. Enjoy LOVE! Because in the end I believe these (( or a few)) of them will work!

Cree

 

 

Thank you Jesus, Joyous Flame/BLOG

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In 1980 I was 13 years old  when this song came out. When I first heard it I was blown away.  I instantly fell it LOVE with the lyrics and the way it was sung. Back then when you listened to the radio you never really knew who sung the song unless you catch the DJ saying it before or after …..IF he did. Now you can use your iPhone to ask Siri  LOL

This song has been in my iPod for years, and also on heavy rotation on my YouTube channel. I have to hear this song EVERYDAY. Recently I found the lyrics and decided to post the video to go along with it. Its Spiritual,  and it shall be played in my Wedding. Jesus… I LOVE THIS SONG!

 

Joyous Flame

Da da da, da da

da da da

Into my my life you came

And now I know I’ll never be the same

I know that you and love are one in the same

You gave your life to be a joyous flame

Thank you Lord

Youre my reason why I live

You’ve got the only thing that I can’t give

With you I know, I know, I know, I know I can’t survive

You made me feel the joy of just being alive

Today I heard your voice, it came to say

From the fear and doubt in your life, you’ve just got to walk away

Be thankful that you’re here, never goin away

I sing and shout at what you’re saying today

Everybody’s gonna feel His love in this old world

Cause it’s about time for this old world

Everybody’s gonna feel His love in this old world

Cause it’s about time, don’t you think for this old world

You are my joyous flame

Joyous flame, I gonna praise your name

Life’s a chain, but you remain the same

I have been…born again

It’s you I claim

I need your love, wanna praise your name

Joyous flame, gonna praise your name

Thank you Lord

Life’s a chain, but you remain the same

Born again, it’s you I claim

In your love

Thank you Jesus

I need your love, I’m gonna praise your name

You are my joyous flame

Joyous flame, I’m gonna praise your name

Thank  you , thank you, thank

Life’s a chain, but you remain the same

I’ve been

Born again, it’s you I claim

Thank you, thank you, Jesus

I need your love, I’m gonna praise your name

Places Where My Scenes Take Place/BLOG

Hey Family! 🙂

I enjoy browsing the bedrooms, kitchens, living rooms, dining rooms and other rooms online. When I come up with stories that I write…. I have to vision a room where it takes places and it allows me to write FROM THERE. Here are some of my FAVORITE photos.

This contemporary striped bedroom has glass doors that open out to a balcony with a view.

The photo above is from a scene  *He Cried*. This is so perfect for the characters. Ahhh…. I am LOVING this view.

The headboard of this master bedroom is backlit and connects to the nightstands on either side.

The photo above is from a scene  *Off Guard*.

Dark bedroom design with wood walls, wood flooring and dark wood furniture

The photo above is from a scene * Aunties House*

Be Blessed

I AM La’Crease

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My ONE ((thing)) HUSBAND wish list/BLOG

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 Dear Husband,

I hope you LOVE…… FOOTBALL. We don’t have to be on the same team, but …you must be a SPORTS FAN. I love BASKETBALL, BASEBALL, AND #1 FOOTBALL. I love to scream, curse (( I can’t help it)) when I watch FOOTBALL  (only). I turn into a totally different person. I’ve tried to calm it down…. sometimes it works.. somethings it don’t. I scream loud, stand up, walk around the house taking junk at the players. I sometimes think that I’m the only person in the world… my screams are THAT loud.

I live DIRECTLY across the street from FORD FIELD…. I can see the building from my apartment…. but I’m too scared to go to a game (( like I do concerts)) because of the things that come out of my mouth. I might embarrass myself and who ever is with me. I can’t control my feelings when I’m watching the LIONS .  I even LOVE the way the DRIVE of the game makes me FEEL. I’m sure you’ll be turned on!!! ((( Can’t tell me NOTHING when I’m in my LIONS zone.)))

I promise to make you and your friends (( and my gurls)) dinner, snacks, and drinks for our  Super Sports Sunday Dinners. I promise to set the atmosphere for a wonderful day of Sports to entertain our family and friends. The house will be cleaned and smelling good. Dinner will be of your choice. Husband listen…. you won’t have to get up for nothing…. I got you boo…….. and your friends for whatever…..

Your Loving Wife

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My Funny Parents/DIVORCE/LOVE

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This morning I took my parents to run some errands. I love riding with them.. they have debates and lil scraps that are sooooooo funny. My momma be tearing my daddy up. LOL LOL But baby when he’s had enough, he come back on her.  LOL Funny thing, when I’m with them its like having precious cargo with me. I have to be very careful of driving, even though I’m a careful driver anyway… its still something about having them in the car. When I’m with them.. we hit about 40 stores… because everybody likes to shop at their own personal favorites. LOL We had a bad storm yesterday and 2 of the stores were closed because they had no power. We always end the day with KFC…. I LOVE IT….. the memories we are creating without even REALIZING.
 
Sooooooooooooo………my Sister’s DIVORCE is final and she encourages me to write about it. Especially my feelings about it. I loved my brother n law. I just hate they couldn’t work it out. Its funny how you could start off together on the same page… then end up on different sides of the street. He was driven by money and “stuff”…. she was driven by LOVE and spending time together. She has a MASTERS working for the city and they built 2 companies and 14-15 properties together. This has really taught me a lot. I will NEVER EVER marry a man who works day in and day out. I’m not driven by money…. “aha’s” and “look what I bought “, “look what I”m doing now”… and all that needing APPROVAL stuff. I just want to LOVE and be LOVED. I’ve always worked since I was 14… and yesss my HUSBAND will too. But doing too much will mess up a marriage because it can’t grow. Yes…. I’m afraid of that. While one person is doing one thing, another is doing something else. I don’t like that. Now, if me and my HUSBAND worked together side by side or in the same building…. that could work. But me working someplace, while he works  another from 6 am-10pm  … NOT GONE HAPPEN WITH MS CREE. Working too many hours apart in a marriage while one is driven on LOVE.. and the other on STUFF, topped with oo’s and ah’s won’t work for me. Then they end up “tolerating” each other because its “business” and too much to lose… to DIVORCE.  MY PERSONALITY doesn’t have time for that. Meeee… for the sake of the PEACE that I demand…. will walk away from EVERYTHING. He can have it ALL… its the ONLY THING THAT CAME MAKE HIM HAPPY ANYWAY. Here… go be happy with your “STUFF”.
 
 
 
Growing up in our household, we knew nothing but LOVE. We learned how to share, how to look out for each other. we weren’t allowed to fight. I find it amazing how  having so much LOVE in the home from both parents….. that ALL 3 OF MY SIBLINGS just want to be LOVED. My sister was wearing a $13,000 ring * and it was NICE too* she said if she ever gets married again… she only wants a matching wedding band. She didn’t have a wedding… this time she wants one. She didn’t go on a honey moon, this time she wants to go. I understand her because we grew up together.  I understand her mentality. I watched her live her life.. because we are close. I see the type of people that me and my siblings are. We want God in our lives, we want a PEACEFUL home, we want to work come home and spend time as a family, have friend time, movie and dinner time, trips… and of course do our own things separately with our friends. We don’t like arguing and nick picking. I can’t do that.
 
 
I want to be showered/ and to SHOWER HIM… with LOVE… KISSES, HUGS, TOUCHING, LOVE MAKING… AND FAMILY GATHERINGS…This is LIFE… if we’re going to LIVE it… LETS GET IT!!! I can go all over the place on this topic… later I will. But for now…. ITS ALL ABOUT LOVE.

BE BLESSED
 
 

Sistergurl Talk *woman to woman* ((((((Blog))))))

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So, I just finished watching Kandi’s Wedding. I’m just outdone by the disrespect and the lack of common sense used. I see clearly the drama that will eventually end in divorce if Kandi don’t get a grip of her mothers behavior. It kills me to see her going through this and not have a clue to how to stop her mother for just saying whatever she wants to say. My daddy is the same way, took me forever to learn how to deal with him. I’m so glad that I learned it before I got married.

Kandi has to say: Momma, I understand that you don’t too much care for Todd. I get that. So for now on to respect how you feel, I will ask you NOT to ask me about him, and I will NOT bring up his name. Not only that, but since you feel this way, I would appreciate if you NOT discuss him with anyone else, because I would hate to HEAR that you’re mentioning his name to anyone when you’ve expressed the way you feel. I feel that if you’re not feeling a person, then their name should never come out of your mouth.

I know and understand that Kandi have hope that each time she brings up Todd’s name that her mom would eventually come around…its not going to happen unless she tries something different. Its not even important why Momma Joyce feels the way she does, what’s important is that Kandi “gets it” before Todd gets fed up. I understand that she looks at her mother as her best-friend…. I get that. But some of the things that Momma Joyce says about Todd  is disrespectful and unacceptable. If Todd at A N Y T I M E feel that its gone to far, and feels that he can’t talk to Kandi as his best-friend and his WIFE …. there is no telling where this marriage will end. A man/woman can only take so much in a relationship when they’re not being heard.

 

Kandi needs to get a grip of what’s going on here with her mom disrespecting Todd ( her husband) in the way that she does, she’s going to lose him. I’m going to say this- When a man feels the need to TALK and VENT with someone who “understands” even if it means meeting a new woman who totally can be a friend without being in his immediate circle… he will. Todd goes out of town a lot early in the marriage, while she’s in Atlanta.. and if she’s calling him “filling” him in on what’s “said” and its drama from her mom, he’s going to eventually get tired of it. At some point, he’s going to feel that he needs to “talk” with that person who loves to listen and understand. That’s how outside relationships start. Those talks are going to show him that he’s in a marriage that will always be filled with drama. If he ever decides to leave Kandi. he will NOT fight for anything monetary or”stuff” (( material things)), he will walk away with his FREEDOM AND PEACE OF MIND…… and what can beat that? My prayer is that Kandi… get it. I just love Todd for her… and I love me some Kandi as well.

 

 

 

Listen to yourself and in that quietude you might hear the voice of God. – Dr. Maya Angelou

 

Gurl Talk * wedding stress* ((((((Blog))))))

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Hey!!!!

I want to Gurl Talk about Weddings. I know several good friends of mine who will be married this year and next Summer. As they plan their wedding many issues are with the Bridal Party….. but also there are many problems with GUEST.

As a person who LOVES to plan. I recommend that the Bride have someone other than herself to be in charge of the RECEPTION GUEST LIST. A good friend in boxed me tonight was in tears about this SAME topic. I wanted to cry with her, because I hear this a lot and let me say this. As the Bride, when you make up in your mind how you want YOUR WEDDING…. and what you can afford, how you want it done, how many guest you plan to invite, who are allowed and who are not….STICK WITH IT. Its your day! WHO EVA * not ever* WHO EVA don’t like it… OH WELL!

If you’re having a “no children” wedding, stick to it. No exceptions. That’s the part that bothers me, people always want to put pressure on the Bride about this policy. If the couple agree to not have children, then that’s what it means. FLAT OUT!!! THAT’S FINAL!!! When those same people who have a problem with it… go out dancing, they can’t take their kids with them. If they can’t get a baby sitter, then guess what they have to do……”sit it out”. I don’t care who you are. You wont disrespect our wedding cause you want things convenient  for you. And if they get mad… get mad ON TOP OF THEIR “MAD”… and keep it moving. I love to plan, and that’s one thing I don’t play….. people wanting exceptions to benefit them.

If a couple allow kids to their wedding, with high plate prices that’s over $30.00 per head, people will bring their kids, and the kids they’re baby sitting that weekend, that summer, that month… um ummmm NOT ON MY MONEY. *blank stare*. People don’t know how to act right. So, I say as a planner myself, its best to have a person who you trust and know will communicate everything you want, to do your RECEPTION WEDDING GUEST.

My advice for a Bride who plans to gather address and names for their wedding  reception. Is to let people know up front, NO CHILDREN- NO EXCEPTIONS. Please respect and honor this request and there will be ABSOLUTELY NO conversations pertaining to the matter. That’s to the point and very well communicated. Who ever doesn’t get that… just don’t care. Keep it moving, there is too much work to do. I live by that!

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Be Blessed!

Where works of the flesh exists, there is NO joy

Crossing the line in Marriage~ From the desk of Cree

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So, I’m sitting here watching the Real Housewives of Atlanta. Clearly reminding me of Why did I get married…… as Kenya is the one with NO HUSBAND, NO CHILDREN.. NO NOTHING… but trouble.
 
 
I’m having a hard time understanding why these other women can’t see the drama she’s bringing to the cast. Maybe its in their contract to have to sit there and be apart of something that only makes them look like weak women. Oh well… couldn’t be ME!
 
 
I’ve never been married. But I be darn, if I see my husband talking to someone who I clearly warned … that if you have any issues or conversations for ME or my HUSBAND… I need to always be present and apart of it. Now keep in mind this is not a random… this is because of an incident that happened in the past. My Question: Why is that so hard to understand? This is why when you’re speaking, you need to be CLEAR of what you’re saying ESPECIALLY when dealing with WOMEN…. it doesn’t need to be a 15 minute conversation…. only 3-5. To me either Apollo is either slow, or have a hard time understanding “lines you don’t cross” in a marriage.
 
 
After the relationship with my daughters father… I promised I would NEVER be insecure with my man.And I stayed true to my word. I realized I LOOK GOOD TOO. And, I sure don’t want a MAN who’s insecure either. If I ever had to be…. I would leave… one thing about LACREASE WALKER…. I have no problems leaving a friendship or relationship once I see its not working. NONE.. A BLESSING I TRULY HAVE. #GIFTOFGOODBYE. Let me say this…. I will work on my marriage, talk, cry, go to counseling, meet up with other married couples for advice…. but I refuse for my SELF ESTEEM to go down. Hell to the neva naw! 
 
 
Some women are so full of drama.. I wish a woman/man WOULD disrespect our relationship/marriage. The part that made me mad about is Pheadra, she’s so “sophisticated ” but maybe she didn’t want to really get down with him, because she was filming, but she should have made him come to the room with her to talk that out. I wouldn’t be able to sleep, or discuss anything else until we talked. I’m not going to beat around the bush, we’re not going to talk in front of company, we’re not going to use curse words to get our point across, we’re not going to raise our voices, and before we go to sleep…. we should have made up. All that next day, talking in codes, making him kiss her as*… I wouldn’t play all that. She’s keeping it build up inside and its causing resentment.. I can see it on her face. That will make a man step out too. Nope.. it aint right… but it happens.
 
 
Single women… like Kenya always have THE MOST TO SAY about people who are married. She doesn’t have a clue to mother hood or being a wife. Its so disrespectful to see her so deep into their business. I, do NOT play that at all. I wish a woman WOULD get in me and my husbands business.
 
 
First of all, the type of woman I am, I WILL NEVER make you feel as if you can comment on my relationship. And let me make this clear…. I say I don’t play that not because IM JUST SO GONE AND HEAD OVER HEELS OVER HIM… but its because that’s crossing the line. And when someone cross the line on MY BUSINESS with MY HUSBAND…. a beep goes off in my head.. meaning you’re IN MY LANE..I’ll give you that look, and you’ll have so many seconds to vacate the premises. From there… JUST HAVE GOD ON SPEED DIAL…. cause that’s what its going to take to get me to calm down.
 
 
Now let me say this….. both of my Sisters are married. I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE , LOVE their husbands. They’re the best brother n laws any sister could have. The type of RELATIONSHIP me and my Sisters have…is this…… I don’t get in their business. My sisters don’t call me, text me, inbox me, or tell me the problems they’re having. FIRST OF ALL … I DON’T CARE… IT’S NOT MY BUSINESS. AND ITS NOT MY LANE. I love that, because when we’re all together, I feel good and comfortable around them. So, when they ask for my opinion about something in the relationship.. THEY ALWAYS VALUE IT. ALWAYS.. ALWAYS! They know I love them all, I don’t take sides JUST BECAUSE THEY’RE MY SISTERS. I tell them to truth, I use words to get to the point, and its not a 2 hour conversation. The truth is always to the point. This is why an authentic woman like me will always stand out.
 
 
So, I say all of that to say…..learn to stay in your lane when it comes to a Marriage. If God Blesses me with a Husband…..God, Communication, along with understanding, faithfulness, and keeping people out of our BUSINESS will be our guide….. THIS IS ONE AREA IN MY LIFE… I DO NOT PLAY!
 
Be Blessed!
 
Where works of the flesh exists, there is NO joy