I just finished watching “Married at First Site”, and I must say its a pretty interesting show. I’ve been watching the show since the first season (( now in the third)). I noticed that all of the women are a bit standoffish. One is attracted to her husband, while the other two women aren’t. I kinda feel bad for the husbands because we women can put up a defense that’s strong enough to make a man agree to live on the streets than to live with us. LOL
I also noticed that the men are willing to “work it out” but if given a chance, the women would pack up leave…. and never look back! I know this, because I can see it in their eyes, and hear it in their conversations. Women can build a wall so tough… just looking at it on TV makes me wonder…. how have I acted in the past?
Let me share something else I learned. I see that in marriage, these men have lots of patience for these women. Seems like the more disconnected the woman is, it makes it that much easier for the man to want to work it out. One of the women told her husband how unattracted she was to him. But when he spoke up for himself in another conversation AFTER THAT, she seemed turned on and felt connected to him. That was so weird to me. LOL But we women are like that!!! Wow.
In this experiment the men tend to take marriage more serious as far as getting to know each other more so than the women. Now had they just met and NOT married, the women would share all kinds of things about themselves. LOL But these men would be in what we call the” friend zone”. That’s a zone where we as women can be/feel safe without getting hurt at all. We can share all kinds of things in this “friend zone”. For example… what time we were born, what we did at age 5, what age we first had sex, we’ll even share the details of our last relationship and how the man was either great or a loser. But by being MARRIED WOMEN.. .they arent sharing JACK! LOL That’s because this is it. This is MARRIAGE.
This experiment showed me that in the dating process, a woman can find out that the man was an ex sex offender, mentally abusive, and a stalker 3 years ago, ESPECIALLY if she’s already INVESTED 7 months into him.. and realize she LIKES/LOVES him. She’ll ((some not all)) stay with this man knowing his past. But IN THIS EXPERIMENT where they meet the day they are to be married, and she finds this out an hour later… SHE’LL WANT A DIVORCE… ON SPOT! LOL Wow!
I would love to see these women relax and enjoy the moment. Get to know their husbands, stop being so standoffish. Enjoy LOVE! Because in the end I believe these (( or a few)) of them will work!