The Seven Deadly Dating Sins
                           #3
No Romance Without Finance: Racheal and Calvin had been dating about six months when her car made a couple of wheezy sputters, then died on the spot. So she asked him for the $500 the mechanic said it would take to fix it. Why not? she figured. If he’s suppose to be my man, he ought to be there for me through thick and then. It wasn’t that Racheal was a golddigger who saw Calvin as Mr. Moneybags. It wasn’t even about the cash. Its just that she had endured too many boyfriends in the past who said all the right words about love and commitment but failed to back them up. Racheal saw Calvin’s willingness to be generous with his hard-earned money as proof that he could offer what mattered even more to her: his commitment. It became clear she was mistaken when he ended the relationship.
What Went Wrong: A man loves to impress a woman by unexpectedly satisfying some of her needs. Call it the dazzle factor. But he’s apt to be missing in action if he’s expected to be a cosigner too many times. Call that the demand factor. While a man likes to feel he can give you anything you ask for, he’s going to withhold his heart from a woman who makes him jump through hoops to prove it.
Solution: Desiring gifts and expecting them are two different things. It’s not unreasonable to look forward to them on your birthday or other special occasions, but it’s difinitely unwise to expect anyone else’s level of generosity to match your expectaions. You improve the chances of receiving from him by (a) applauding his generosity whenever he does show it and (b) modeling the behavior you’d like him to emulate. All getting and no giving from you will very likely make his giving temporary. Some options: Occasionally offer to pay for your own dinner, or suggest changing a scheduled date from one that costs to one that doesn’t.
By Dr. Ronn Elmore
Inside the mind of cree 
Hmmm…I’m like this, we would have to be engaged in order for me to plunk down $500!
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I’m on my way to heaven I teach my daughters the hardest athat God has to deal with a man about is his money .So if a man has an issue with you about money kick his booty to the curb and if he kicks a lady to the curb count it a blessing . So i i’m not mad at the girl in this scenario especially if they’ve already broke rule # 1 and 2 .
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Women sometimes feel that men owe them something. I would loveeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee to say to my new friend, hey I got you boo for dinner this time.
I think its sexy for one, for 2 it shows that you are not selfish and that you dont mind paying. I think that you have to enjoy the person you are with to say ” oh I’ll pay this time”. The reason why I say that is because when you really want to see someone and be with them, a woman/man will pay for anyyyyyyyyything just to be in the presense of that person.
I dont mind paying at all. I wouldnt want to see the person I call my self liking spending his money all the time while mines sit in my purse. Just like I wouldnt want to pay all the time while his site in his pocket. So you meet each other half way.!!
Lacrease
Where works of the flesh exists, there is NO joy
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i don’t know how many times i have to tell people that you sometime get what you give(the key word be-n sometime)and for a woman to always think a man should take care of them is silly now days..come on we are not are moms and these men are not our dads..
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Say that Honey B! Say that!
Crease
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GREAT ADVICE!!! lOVING THE LAST THREE BLOGS
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Its about reciprocation…
im a giver so im alwayz receivin and im not talkin monetary ALL the time….people need to realize that after the money is spent theres more to look 4ward to… i’ve been given the opportunity to take dudez for their money b.u.t. its not in me…..im a firm believer in Karma….i do unto otherz….
gr8 blog sis!
school these yungsta’z
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Well, I’m believing if a man is up in your space and your face 99% of the time, then he knows what your needs are and should step of to the plate to “assist” you with them. I agree with Milton also, if #1 and #2 are broken, then she had a right to ask for help. If a man/woman is getting all the comforts of home then he should help take care of it. Just my 2cent.
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