My good friend Gloria and my sister Peedie USE to laugh and crack up when they would share with each other stories of how they wouldn\’t date a man who had a car. If they met a guy and he had a car, he got the boot. They didn\’t want to have anything to do with them. They felt that if he had a car, that would be less time they would get to spend together, because he would be doing other things as well.
I asked them why would you want a man like this, one who would have to depend on you all the time, wouldn\’t that get on your nerves? They were like nope. Thank God they do not think like this anymore.
Which brings me to this subject of having friends while married. I have 3 close male friends in my life right now, and whoever I marry will know that these 3 men have been my friends for a very long time, and that I want them to be in my life for the rest of my life. My husband will meet them way before we marry, and I hope that they will become friends as well.
Married Couples~, if you have friends before marriage and want to keep them around, make sure you marry a woman/man who has them as well. Because if you marry someone who doesn\’t like to socialize, go out with their boys/gurls, have company over, take short trips out of town, couple up and go to concerts and plays, YOU ARE GOING TO BE MISERABLE!!!
There is nothing so sad than a man/ or woman who don\’t have friends while the other spouse does. The person who doesn\’t have friends, can and will become clingy and will (not on purpose) not want to see you have fun with others outside of you. After a while this can become annoying, and can cause problems in the marriage. That person who often feels left out, will start to feel that if they can devote all of their time to you, then you should be able to do the same. I think that\’s selfish and unfair. Everyone needs someone outside of the marriage they can to talk. You just do!! Even if its your sisters, you need someone to go to for a number of things.
If you are one of those people who don\’t have friends. Go out and make friends on your job, hang out with your sister/brother, or even sister/brother in law. Go shopping, take a short trip for the weekend, come home and GET BOOED UP WITH YOUR HUSBAND/WIFE they will miss you.
I guarantee you, communication will be everything.