Ok, you all know I love music right? Well here is a song I found on line. This song is beautiful. We wont know the words and you may have heard it before. Just listen
SHAKE THE HATERS OFF
The Hater Anthem!!
*ONLY THE STRONG SURVIVE*
SHAKE THE HATERS OFF!
A hater is someone that is jealous and envious and spends all their time trying to make you look small so they can look tall.
They are very negative people.
Nothing is ever good enough!
When you make your mark, you will always attract some haters…
That’s why you have to be careful who you share your blessings and your dreams with because some folk can’t handle seeing you blessed…
It’s dangerous to be like somebody else…
If God wanted you to be like somebody else. He would have given you what He gave them.
You don’t know what people have gone through to get what they have…
The problem I have with haters is that they see my glory,
but they don’t know my story…
If the grass looks greener on the other side of the fence, you can rest assured that the water bill is higher there too.
We’ve all got some haters among us:
Some people don’t like it that you
can:
* Have a relationship with God
* Light up a room when you walk in
* Start your ow n business
* Tell a man/woman to get lost
(if he/she ain’t about the right thing)
* Raise children without both parents being around
* And not ask for a dime from Anyone
* Haters don’t want to see you happy
* Haters don’t want to see you succeed
* Haters don’t want you to get the victory
Most of our haters are people that are supposed to be on our side. How do you handle the haters who you at least expect to have your guard up against?
You can handle your haters by:
1. *Knowing who you are & who your true friends are *
(VERY IMPORTANT!!). 2. *Having a purpose to your life *
3. *By remembering what you have is by divine prerogative and not human manipulation.*
Purpose does not mean having a job.
You can have a job and still be unfulfilled.
A purpose is having a clear sense of what
God has called you to be.
Your purpose is not defined by what others think about you.
Fulfill your dreams!
You only have one life to live…………….
when its your time to leave this earth,
you want to be able to say,
I’ve lived my life and fulfilled my dreams, ……….
I’m ready to go
HOME!
When God gives you a favor, you can tell your haters,
“Don’t look at me…
Look at who is in charge of me…”
Watch out for Haters……………………….BUT most of all don’t
become a HATER yourself!
A man’s (moral) self shall be filled with the fruit of his mouth:
and with the consequence of his words he must be satisfied whether good or evil.
Proverbs 18:20(AMP)
My Why did I get Married ……….REVIEW!
I\’m touched by WDIGM because I can really relate to the part played by Janet ( Patty). Thinking about it makes me cry a little because after watching her I feel like I act like a \”Perfect Patty\”. Tyler, it\’s not a day that goes by that a friend calls me and need some advice and uplifting .I sit for hours and hours on my off days talking and praying for my friends. I don\’t think that you could even begin to comprehend to the degree in which I\’m talking about. I still have my mothers deep secrets buried inside me. LOL.. Patricia\’s part had me thinking about a lot of things. I have friends, hand picked by God at that ( the best) and no matter what if I call them to see how they are doing and to talk, it always up end in what\’s going on with them. Do I mind? Naw, not anymore, guess its not about me. Just like Patty I don\’t talk about what\’s going on with me all the time, I just negotiate with myself or talk it out with God. But I realize that I do need to talk, its just that I do all the listening all the time, I neglect myself. That\’s why I write a lot, that\’s why I think a lot, that\’s why I make a lot of good decisions because I am a good listener, and I learn from others.
I really enjoyed the scene where Angela, and your wife Dianne went up to see her at her job and wanted to talk. LOL That was so funny to me because my friends do the same thing!!!!!!! Just last night OMG, this guy that I know, he likes me, but he has a gurlfriend. He came through my line and started talking about his gurlfriend, and he went on and on and on, but it was cool, because I know that he needed someone to talk with. And like you said, you even forget Patricia was even Janet. For some reason I saw Lacrease. So now I see how I look to my friends when they need me to listen. I love how she broke down, her husband cried with her, and HE UNDERSTOOD, all he needed was for her to admit she was hurting and for once let go of \”Perfect Patti\”. Oh I cried, Oh goodness I cried. To be honest, she was my favorite character in the whole movie. Maybe its because she broke down, something I need to do……….you know? I just wish I had a friend like her. ( just learned something new about myself)
Maybe that\’s why I ask a lot of questions, because I\’m so use to talking to people and helping them get to the root of their issues. Its a mold that\’s hard to break. Oh and the exercises she gave…………..THAT IS SO LACREASE!! LOL
And…………………..
I see Angela in me a WHOLE LOT!!!!. I Just like to tell the truth, I don\’t have time for guessing, playing, negotiating, back and forth, bickering, I\’m straight to the point, lets move on to another topic………………kinda person! That\’s why I LOVED her part. She told it like it was, she didn\’t hold nothing back. I didn\’t like the way she talked to her husband. BUT IM GLAD YOU WROTE THAT, CAUSE A LOT OF WOMEN NEEDED TO SEE THEMSELVES ON THE SCREEN. YOU DID A GREAT JOB ON WRITING ALL OF HER LINES. Angela was so funny, I loved her part .I don\’t think that I would bust out my best friend in front of everybody…………..but then again hey, you never know the situation. If I ever see my best friend\’s husband out creeping on her. I would go to him and say this: (name) me and you WE COOL, but what you doing to my gurl………………..is foul. If you don\’t go to her and tell her that you are out with someone by the end of the week…………I\’ll call her and tell her myself. Here\’s the deal……………… Im not going to sit here and watch you laugh, ha ha and he he~ing , and being a grinning mc milling all up in her face, cause your being fake. My spirit won\’t rest, my conversations wont be authentic, my facial features wont be the same, when I know that you are messing around on my gurl. Whew, lol I hope that I wont never see anything like this in my life. That\’s scary!!!
I loved Sheila\’s part. The strength she gathered…………………….was amazing. I loved how she didn\’t tell her friends where she was, AND THEY RESPECTED THAT (something I would do) but she called to check up on her friends, they loved her, and appreciated her. And when she showed up at Patricia\’s ceremony, she had a lot to talk about with her gurls, ( LOVED THAT PART), she cried with them (LOVED THAT PART), she shared the details of her wedding with her gurls ( LOVED THAT PART), she even had a few words, carefully chosen, confident, self assured words for her EXBESTFRIEND ( LOVED AND ADORED THAT PART).
Your wife Dianne OOOOOOOOOOO TYLER, you gave her a test out of this world. I had a feeling that you were playing about the baby, then you said twins, I thought that I was going to pass out in the movie. LOL When she said yes, I watched her facial expression and she seemed sincere, so when you told her that you were playing about the babies, I know IF I WAS YOUR WIFE AND THIS WAS MY SITUATION, I WOULD HAVE BEEN SO HAPPY TO HEAR THAT YOU DIDNT MEAN THAT ABOUT THE TWINS, and from then on, I would be soooooooo good to you!! So good. You won\’t have to worry about me acting up again. Selfish is right on the money. She was being selfish, I think in a relationship you can get so caught up in your spouse life, till you neglect your own, but if you go out too far, you can lose the one you love. I\’m glad that YOU ( terry) made a decision to move out, so that she could face her issue soon, cause once a person is so gone with being selfish, they may not come back. Well written Tyler.
This was my favorite movie EVER of yours. I have seen it 3 times, and the next time I go it will be a SOLO! It was so fun listening in on the conversations that the men had. Things that we women don\’t think men care about, they talked about. I just hope women see that and \”GET IT\”. Sometimes we sabotage our relationship with our men, because we \”THINK\” that you all dont think or talk about it., We think that we are the only ones who care. I see that first hand its not true. Men think about us and our situations just like we do. And yall had me cracking up!!!!!!!!!!! Tyler you are sooo silly, every time you would laugh I would too, cause something you were sneaking in and saying, GEEKING UP STUFF AND INSTAGATING! LOL VIRGOS DO HOOK UP PEOPLE, START STUFF AND INSTAGATE ( ONLY IN FUN THO) CAUSE WE LOVE TO LAUGH.
All the men were FIONE! Especially you, Tyler you looked so good to me when you had on the brown and tan hat, as you leaned over to your wife, after all the mess had went down. You are so attentive. I love that about you. And please boo, don\’t be trying to lose weight, cant stand no skinny man!!! Especially being as tall as you are. I love the thinner mustache on you, keep that!!! Heck, you fine period!!! I watched you so closely in this movie, I probably can tell you how many lines are under your eyes. LOL ( just playing).
Tyler, in this one scene when Marcus and Angela had pulled up his his baby momma\’s house ( I use to be JUST L IKE THAT BABY MOMMA WHEWWWWWWWWWWW WE)
Marcus was telling them off , he started sounding like Spawn. It was so funny. I watched that movie so much that if they wanted to do a remake, I would know all the parts……no rehearsal.His voice made me think about Spawn. You chose the perfect person Richard ) to play the part he played, cause he pulled the dinner scene part off!!! Check mate! And he was looking good!!!! Malik~ GAVIN, I loved his part, but what I loved most is. The way he supported Janet in her role. He made her look so good. They looked so loving, all what was missing was the communication. I can see them as a real couple. They looked GOOD TOGETHER!! Great job Tyler!!
OK, I have one question for you about the movie. Baby, what is the name of that sexy, slow song that was playing after Angela jumped in the car from getting the kids, and it kept playing till your wife got in the house to ask you to come home? What is the name of that song, I gotta know. It is so pretty. It didn\’t have words, just music. Is there anyway I can find out? Email me? Please.
I saw the Tyler Perry and Janet Jackson AOL questionnaire. Why did you look at my name so funny when it came up n the screen. Was it the City THEY put on there? I forgot to leave my city so they said that I was from ATL. You had this look on your face, as if to say, dang now I know she\’s from my message board, but why does it say ATL. Well anyway that was me. Janet said my name with no problem!! Tyler IM GETTING YOU! LOL
One more thing, I saw the Tyler Perry Janet Jackson interview the same day it aired. I was sitting in my car listening to you on The Michael Basden Show, when you mentioned it. After you went off air I googled it and I was HORRIFED, ANGRY, AND GOT AN INSTANT HEADACHE watching how ignorant this men, and his \”Cromies\” were acting.The lady was even laughing and snickering in the back ground ( I wanted to shake her inside organs out of place), not hurt her not kill her, but shake her up lol. Anyway, I was out raged!! I was on this computer writing them the next day before you even mentioned it. I was HOTT! I wrote both him and his boss. I wasn\’t gonna let that ride………..UM UMMMMMM. But you know Tyler, they see now that we are a force NOT to be TOYED with. They know to the 1000th power that we are not playing. See when you went to support the Jena 6, never knew that one day you would need someone to stand up for you. Well, I\’m here to say, we are here to stay, we love you, and when you have God as your Leader, and PLANT MANAGER IN CHARGE…………BABY YOU GOT EVERYTHING!
I\’M OUTTA HERE TYLER! LOL I\’m going to run some errands cause I\’m going to a wedding and reception tomorrow!! Yep, a wedding!
Listen boo, I love you, May God keep you and bless you to go HIGHER, JUST KNOW that if you say the word……………. WE ARE THERE!!!
Your gurl
Lacrease
Pearls of Wisdom
Train a child!
Today, I want to write about parents taking charge in the home when it comes to chorus and home work.
First before I go into all of this, just know that I love kids to death. They fascinate me, they make me want to learn more about how they think and how they come to the conclusions that they come too. Yeah, I was a child once, but while you’re busy being just that, you don’t’ have time to reflect on how it is. Maybe that’s why I love kids so much, because not once have I forgotten how I use to be.
Tonight I was on the phone talking to my Sister gurl, and we were talking about children and how unorganized they can be, when WE as parents don’t push them to clean up behind themselves, do home work in a timely fashion, and house work.
Me, I use to be the junkiest person in the world!!! Who would leave stuff all over the floor, tables, stoves, counter, bedroom floor, even the bathroom was junkie and nasty. And when I tell this story they cant believe it. Those who knew me during those times can tell you in 60 seconds, how true it is. I remember being so nasty living in a 4 family flat, I caused the whole building to have to get exterminated, and the people who did it, said they had never in their life seen so many roaches in ONE HOUSE!!!
I was embarrassed!! They talked about me, saying I was the reason why they had to get exterminated, roaches came from me being nasty. All they did was told the truth, but the truth has a way of shaming us sometimes to face up and get right!!! And I’m glad it did.
That was 13 years ago, and the friends I have now, wont beleive that roach story if I had 10 witnesses to back me up. Ive changed. Thank you Jesus.
What I learned was: I was junky and so was my daughter, we would come home from work or school and drop our things right there at the door or kitchen table. We didnt have a clue to what we were doing, we just did it. We didnt focus on the fact that we were creating our own mess to clean up later. We would be “so tired” that we plopped down wherever we sat and didnt move unless we had to use the bathroom, get something to eat, or reach for the remote control. When we finished eating, our plate would be on the living room table, so would our glass and cups. We would sit there until I got tired of looking at the dishes pile up, the bathroom got funky, the stove got nasty, and the table got junky. Then I would get mad at Neisha for “help messing up” the house.
But see I didnt realize that I was the Leader of the house. If she saw me come in and kick my shoes off, then she is going to do the same thing. If she see that my plate is not in the sink, why should she put hers there? If she noticed that I throw my coat across the dining room table she’s going to do the very same thing. So I had to REPROGAM my thinking. I had to pay atention to what I did when I walked into my house. I had to start paying attention to what she does when she walks into the house. I can tell you right now what I do. I walk in, take my shoes off at the door ( from the side door), walk up the stairs and then I think about throwing my coat over the chair in the kitchen, but then I go to my office and put it there, or in my bedroom.
We have to be VERY attentive to our children when we are working on a certain area in their lives. Pay attention to everything they do when they walk into the home. When they start putting things everywhere, go head and watch them. dont say a word. And as soon as they sit down, you call them to that area. Say this: Let me ask you a question? Where are your shoes? And then they will tell you, ask them, where are they suppose to be? Ask them where is your coat? Why is it there? Ask them do they know where its suppose to go? Ask them where? Ask them where is your back pack? Why is it on the floor? Where is suppose to be? GIVE THEM EYE CONTACT, 
DONT EVEN BLINK IFA FLY COMES PASS YOUR NOSE!!! LOL
Pay attention to them everyday and how they do things when they come home from anywhere. Pay attention. The way to introduce this new way of keeping the house clean is to sit them down the night before. Tell them that its going to be some changes made about how we keep our home cleaned. Explain the rules, and tell them that you will be watching every thing that they do as far as cleaning up the house, home work, and how much TV they watch. Tell them that you will be watching them from the time they come in, till the time they go to bed.
Then you test them on it, after several weeks they will get the hint that you mean business. But remember YOU THE PARENT, you are the LEADER, SET THE EXAMPLE!!! Don’t say another word, dont talk about it, be about it!!
The bible says: 6 Train [a] a child in the way he should go,
and when he is old he will not turn from it.
and when he is old he will not turn from it.
Proverbs 22 (New International Version)
Cree\’s Ramblings!
Cree\’s Ramblings!
It\’s Wednesday morning and Im sitting here at the computer thinking………..ok La crease what\’s next in your life? Anything that I put my mind too, God always, I mean always make sure it comes to past for me. I don\’t even deserve some of the things I get. Maybe God looks at my heart. I mean well in everything, I really do, even if I make a fool out of myself at first, but I always know when I\’m wrong, and that I need to work on the situation so that it never happens again.
I\’m so happy for myself, I have been so nice to my customers, not snapping, or talking sarcastic. First of all I realized that I am a person who has a lot going on, things to do, I can\’t get caught up with people and their bad days. Im not bragging or trying to look good, but heck I can\’t even remember even having a bad day recently. So that is all the more reason for me to always, I mean always be nice and courteous.
I don\’t know if its something about me, my smile, its something tho. When I walk into any place, people always look at me like Im different or something, they are always helping me, and going out of their way for me. I went to look for me a braclet on this past Friday, and the ladies that work there was so freaking nice to me, they both came from around the counter and help me put on the bracelet. I had just got my nails done, and they were helping me like I was their daughter or somebody. I just felt so good. I went to the movies this weekend, the young gurl was so helpful to me. Goodness Lord, I know I don\’t deserve this, but Thank you. I\’m telling you this has made me a better person for when customers come through my line. When this job is up for me, when God releases me ( I\’m ready for something new) I\’m going to know for real , for real, where my help cometh from. Thank you Jesus, thank you Lord!!
This weekend, Im going to a wedding with my mom. Her ex coworker is getting married. She use to be a big big woman, but she had the surgery ( not sure which one), and she looks GOOOOOOOD! She came through my line and ask for my moms address. She sent her a invitation and my mother haven\’t seen her in years. I\’m so excited for Ms. Dorothy.
Quick mental ramblings.
got my nails done and messed them up getting in the car. UGH
my hair right now looks like cats been licking in the middle of it.
last night I was so sleepy, I went to sleep at the computer for 2 hours I woke up went to bed, and then slept till 2pm.
I miss Gerald Levert.
I left one of my WOW Gospel CD\’s in the rental yesterday, God kept telling me to check it, he kept saying Lacrease, check it, check it. I said God, I think I got them all. So tonight I was looking for it and remembered that kiki was sitting in the front with me, and was the DJ……………….sorry Lord.
I went over to my sisters house tonight, and we walked around her BIG OLD HUGE, WEDDING/RECEPTION SYTLE BEAUTIFUL BASEMENT for 30 minutes straight. I felt good!!!
I wonder what kinda cologne Tyler Perry wears.
Why did I walk today and then came home and ate 1000 Ritz peanut butter and jam crackers???
I need to return some of my friends phone calls……………that is not right to go to bed without doing so.
I\’m sleepy……….Good night!
Janet Jackson asked Tyler Perry a Question for ME…Cree!!
Here is the question that I asked Janet Jackson to ask Tyler Perry. When I wrote the message I didnt leave my CITY……………………….so they GAVE ME ONE AND SAID that I\’m from Atlanta Georgia!! Talking about steming. Thats why he had that look on his face, he knows Im from Detroit. LOL He probaly was thinking dang………………is it 2 Lacrease\’s? Watch it to the very end. In the begining I guess they are going over the questions and somehow they end up talking about the pronouncing of my name. But the question is asked during the middle of the segment.
Anyway here it is
My Tyler Perry Weekend!
Hey,
Wow! What a mighty God we serve. My weekend was off the chain, and let me say this, I got up this afternoon at 2:00 PM. Yes, I was that tired.
My weekend started off on last Thursday when I went to pick up my sister gurl Cookie ![]()
(whom I met off the Tyler Perry message board almost 2 years ago, this is her second visit to Detroit this year, we met face to face in July.), and her 2 lovely daughters up that morning from the greyhound bus station @ 11:40. First I had to pick up Neisha from school which is the next exit from the bus station, and from there we went to get our midnight showing of \”Why did I get married\”?![]()
We didn\’t want the tickets to sell out, so I called my sister so that she could get her tickets early as well. Then we left there, went to McDonald\’s and got us something to eat…………we were hunnnnnngry! We left there and went to my place, ![]()
we got on line for a few to let the other ladies know that Cookie made it, and to read our mail ( I\’m so addicted to the internet).
Later that day, we got dressed and was out of the house by 5:30 to see Bishop T.D. Jakes at my Church, oh did he have a word for us!!! The Church was jammed packed! We left there around 10:30 fighting a little traffic and then we were off to see my boo~ Tyler Perry in Why did I get married? When we got there and jumped out of our cars it was a total of 12 of us!! We go deep when we go to a Tyler Perry play/movie. The movie was EXCELLANT!!! Everybody pulled their weight in this movie. I will tell more about the movie in my next entry. We got out of the movies that night about 2:20 AM. We got home and went to bed!!! We were so dogone tiiiiiiiiied!!
That next morning I had to be up @ 8 to pick up my rental by 9. I got a 4 door red Ford Fusion, that baby was nice. At first I didn\’t want it, I wanted the Mazda Sport 5. But when I got in and started driving it, I was like ohhhhh shoot. Cree can do this!!! LOL So, I got it home, and we went to the market to get breakfast. I didn\’t eat, I had to go and get my nails and brows ![]()
done for the play \” What\’s done in the dark\” Yep, the play is here to same time Tyler\’s movie dropped. I wish Tyler was in it, but oh well. I came home from the cleaners and from running some other small errands, got on line and read my email.
It was time to go to the play, we went and had a good time. The play was nice, had a good message in it, and the singing was off the hook!! Tyler has some fantastic singers. David Mann and his beautiful wife had me and this guy cracking up. He is so silly!!!! After the play was over, we wanted to drop off the gurls and go see Why did I get married again, but it was pushing it and too late, plus we were tired again.
Saturday morning, we had to be up by 6, so that we could make it to the bus station. Their bus left at 8am. I went back home and got myself in the bed!! Seem like no matter what I did, I still didn\’t get enough sleep. I got up around 1pm to go and get tickets for the 5:30 showing of Why did I get married? My mother wanted to see it, she\’s a Tyler Perry fan! We always go to the movies to see his work. On the way, I thought that I should go and ask my ex bestfriends mother, Mrs. Glass if she wanted to get out for a few hours. She said yes!! So I went and got 3 tickets and we went. Afterwards, we stopped at Wendy\’s and got us something to eat. We went home and chilled.
Sunday morning, me and Neisha got up at 7, so that we could get ready for Church. ![]()
Services start at 10 and I don\’t like to be late for services. NEVER EVER. I DONT PLAY THAT AT ALL! We get there, and we are standing outside. So we are all like what\’s going on. Well this is our 2nd Sunday at this new building and our fire alarm went off, so we had to wait outside until the whole building is checked out. That wasn\’t bad at all. Once we got in, we were straight. My sister Peedie told me the night before that she, Dee, and her kids, Nell, Gary and Greg was coming. Well I called their house to wake them up and I got no answer at all. Shoe, we got to the Church they were right there!!! Aint God good! I LOVE HIM, I LOVE HIM I LOVE HIM I LOVE HIM I LOVE HIM I LOVE HIM!! I just got off the -phone with them and they said they are going back this Sunday!!! Praise God!!
After services I had to push it home!! Me, my sisters and my coworkers get together![]()
once a month to chat over dinner at the Motor City Casino Buffet. This time we were going to see………..YEP, a movie, Why did I get married? They haven\’t seen it yet, but I have seen it twice already. I admire Tyler Perry so much. So its nothing for me to sit there and watch his plays or movies over and over again. Its nothing! So, after I went home for a minute, I decided that I wanted to drive and have all my friends leave their cars at the movies and jump in my car. It was me, Margarette, KiKi and my sister Yolanda. The movie started at 3:00 and we were out by 5:20. We got on the freeway and went to eat!!! We sat down and ram sacked that buffet. We laughed and laughed oh my goodness, we got loud from laughing. When women get together we have stories to tell. We were talking about men of course, and the movie. We sat there till about 9:30. Then we left. I went home and had to take Neisha![]()
back to her dorm downtown, yep I had just left from that way. Poor gurl she didn\’t get a chance to really enjoy the rental with me. Its okay, we are going to do something this weekend together .After I dropped off Neisha, I came home and went to bed after thanking God for a beautiful weekend!
We didn\’t take photos either, don\’t ask me why, we just didn\’t think about it. I returned the car yesterday (Monday) morning. I shooooo wish it was mines. Could somebody buy me a brand new car, that\’s reading this message? LOL I wish!!!
My bestfriend Charlene ![]()
went to see it with her husband yesterday, so next week we ![]()
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are going when her kids are in school, to gaze and stare at how good Tyler looked in this movie!!
She loves Tyler Perry and I do too.
Well, I\’m closing this blog entry out, ready for another one?
God bless you
Cree
Why did I get Married? Go out and see this movie TODAY!!!
Hey Everbody,
Tyler Perry\’s movie is off the CHAIN!!! For those of you who are not familar with his work, when you see WDIGM you will be a fan forever. This movie is amazing!! I won\’t spoil it for those who havent seen it, but I will discuss the movie next week.
Go today, if you havent already to the movies, check your ticket stub and make sure it says: Why did I get married? Anything with those words on the stub. You are sure to enjoy this movie. I LOVED IT!
Lacrease
This is the day that the Lord has made.
As some of you know, our new Church building opened the doors for the first time this past Sunday and we had a grand celebration. I started thinking about the conversation me and my friend Ki Ki had one day about big Churches. She belongs to a smaller Church, but has it instilled in her mind that she would never go to Mega Church because she feels that the Pastor wont know her, or that he\’s too busy for the members of his congregation. It really shocked me, and caught me off guard that she felt that way, because she\’s active in her Church, and a is faithful member.
No matter how I tried to get her not to think that way, and that she was only putting herself in a box, she still didn\’t get it. While in Church on Sunday and me marveling over the new facility, I thought about Ki Ki.
I remember back in my early teens, I use to go and visit my grandmother and down the street was this Church called Second Ebenezer Baptist Church. The members would park up and down the street You couldn\’t even leave and come back to your spot. They would fill up their parking lot, and then start parking around the corner as well. I use to say to myself, they have Church down there!!! Never knew in a million years that I would be a member.
Three months after they moved from Goethe to Grand Blvd, I went \”Church\” shopping and after visiting about 4 or 5 Churches one each Sunday, this is where my spirit rest. The moment I walked in I knew it was going to be my church home. I can just feel it, it grabbed me at the front door, I felt that all those Sundays I was \”shopping\” and there was where I was to \”rest my feet\”. My daughter was baptized that year Oct 2, 1994. And here it is Oct 10, 2007.
While @ Church this past Sunday when I was thinking about my friend Ki Ki. I started thinking about how far God has bought my Pastor. See Kiki is only looking at that Church building and how huge it is, she has no clue to the history of being in this place. I challenged her thinking and asked her this: Do you believe with all your heart that my next door neighbor can build a Mega Church, pass out fliers and fill the 3300 seats in it? She said No. I said that\’s right because where is the sweat? Where is the struggle? Where is the determination? I said our Church is a mega Church now, but do you know this:
The Reverend Edgar L. Vann Jr. accepted the position of pastor at Detroit\’s Second Ebenezer Baptist Church in 1977; just 21 years old at the time, he assumed control of a church that had missed its last 31 bank payments and which claimed only 66 members. During his first year Vann accepted no salary, supporting himself instead as a bank teller; over that 12-month period the church emerged from debt, and slowly its congregation rose to over 2,000 members. The youngest-ever leader of the Baptist Council of Ministers.
After I told her where he came from and not to give in to the words \”Mega Church\” understand the struggle. Don\’t just think he got it like that where he can build a Church, and pack the place. My Pastor started with 66 members………………COME ON NOW!!! She finally got it. You\’ve got to be a baby before an adult.
Why did I get married?………………PT9
My good friend Gloria and my sister Peedie USE to laugh and crack up when they would share with each other stories of how they wouldn\’t date a man who had a car. If they met a guy and he had a car, he got the boot. They didn\’t want to have anything to do with them. They felt that if he had a car, that would be less time they would get to spend together, because he would be doing other things as well.
I asked them why would you want a man like this, one who would have to depend on you all the time, wouldn\’t that get on your nerves? They were like nope. Thank God they do not think like this anymore.
Which brings me to this subject of having friends while married. I have 3 close male friends in my life right now, and whoever I marry will know that these 3 men have been my friends for a very long time, and that I want them to be in my life for the rest of my life. My husband will meet them way before we marry, and I hope that they will become friends as well.
Married Couples~, if you have friends before marriage and want to keep them around, make sure you marry a woman/man who has them as well. Because if you marry someone who doesn\’t like to socialize, go out with their boys/gurls, have company over, take short trips out of town, couple up and go to concerts and plays, YOU ARE GOING TO BE MISERABLE!!!
There is nothing so sad than a man/ or woman who don\’t have friends while the other spouse does. The person who doesn\’t have friends, can and will become clingy and will (not on purpose) not want to see you have fun with others outside of you. After a while this can become annoying, and can cause problems in the marriage. That person who often feels left out, will start to feel that if they can devote all of their time to you, then you should be able to do the same. I think that\’s selfish and unfair. Everyone needs someone outside of the marriage they can to talk. You just do!! Even if its your sisters, you need someone to go to for a number of things.
If you are one of those people who don\’t have friends. Go out and make friends on your job, hang out with your sister/brother, or even sister/brother in law. Go shopping, take a short trip for the weekend, come home and GET BOOED UP WITH YOUR HUSBAND/WIFE they will miss you.
I guarantee you, communication will be everything.
Inside the mind of cree 
