What’s SAM’S full name?…FUNNY/ ((((((((Blog))))))))

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For 5 years I was mentoring my Teen gurls group, Raisingurls to Women in my home, when I started to realize that while the teens were being part of a group that helped them to deal with issues, the moms were still working out of the same mentality. That bothered me and I never knew how I could bridge the gap, especially when many of them felt that only the teens were having issues, and not themselves. I get so many emails from parents who seek my advice in this area that it amazes me. Which leads me to focus more on parents/women.

When MarNesha was growing up, she was mostly like me, never cared about going over to people’s house. I rather sleep on my own bed at night, and had company at my house. But when she had boyfriends, she bought them over for me to meet. I’m not one of those parents/momma’s that would say yes to her going to their place without meeting them. I want to know names, phone numbers * yes I had her boyfriends number in my cell phone.. sure did*, address, who else they know associated with this person. I didn’t play that. See many parents don’t start off early about letting their kids know how they are. We know our kids like the back of our hands, we as parents need to let our kids know WHO WE ARE! WHAT WE WILL DO ,AND WHAT WE WONT TOLERATE as THEY’RE GROWING UP…. I ask questions. If you had a problem with me asking questions, let me know NOW, so we can shut this down and talk about something else.

Today my cousin La’Tisha ( my cousins Wife in above photo) posted this on her FB page. Oh its so funny. Parents beware….. these kids are starting off early!!! LOL This is a good one!!! Hahahaha * Get em gurl*

So riding in the car with my son and the conversation goes:
Son: Hey mom can I go over my friend’s house
Me: Where does your friend live.
Son: Oh just two blocks over.
Me: Let me ride by and see exactly where. I need to talk to his parents.
Me: Oh who is this friend?
Son: Well I’m actually going to see THEIR brother
Me: THEIR???
Me: Who is your friend? You didn’t answer my question.
Son: Sam
Me: What’s SAM’S full name
Son: Samantha.
Son: Oh she’s not going to be there.
Me: And neither are you!!!
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Be Blessed

 

Listen to yourself and in that quietude you might hear the voice of God. – Dr. Maya Angelou

 

 

My Weight Loss Update/Hoarders and Food Addicts…..(((((Blog)))))

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Today was a great day!!! I can say that after a few days of feeling down in my Spirit. Sometimes you start thinking about things you have no control over and feel some kinda way. But after sitting still and asking myself do you trust God, and can you see a light at the end of the tunnel? My answer was yes, not only that, but I have God’s track record to look back on and KNOW he is totally in control. After I cry and whine a little… I bounce back.

Tonight I was watching Hoarders, I usually don’t like to watch this show because its so sad to see those people living in those conditions. All of that dysfunction comes from childhood issues, or things that happened in their adult life and as a result they start to live in their heads. But, tonight I decided to watch and…..what I found out Surprised me.

I’m a food eater. I love food! I’m a thinker. I think and over analyze a lot. I realized through watching Hoarders tonight, even though I’m not a hoarder, I LOVE to think while I’m eating. I love ice cream, and chocolate chip cookies that bakes in the oven. When I’m overwhelmed with thoughts and ideas… I like to FEED MY THOUGHTS AS I EAT. As the thoughts come to my mind, I eat while thinking. Many times after doing this, it never feels as if I’ve eaten anything, because I didn’t eat because its dinner time, I ate because I fed my thoughts. I know this will make sense to someone.

For so many years I have done this. It has become a habit. This is why I know for a fact that those Hoarders are doing this to feed their thoughts about their past. Its a form of therapy for them. Just as eating food and thinking is one for me.

Many years, I kept telling myself that I want to lose weight and get back to the “sexy walk into anyplace, and have everybody looking, because of my personality, Spirit and curvy body self.” But with so many thoughts coming to my mind about my past, now, life lessons, family, friends.. anything that’s going on with me at that time, I wasn’t able to focus on myself. I knew that when I FINALLY asked God to help me that I would know FOR A FACT that I was READY and serious about it.

Since the 7th of May with the 21 Day Challenge… I have lost a total of 12 pounds as of today June 2. I look at food TOTALLY DIFFEENT. I also had to change the programs that I was watching. Ooo wee this is so deep. I realized that when I watch shows like I almost got away, I killed my BFF, Fatal Attraction, Deadly Women, Wives with knifes, Redrum, Scorned, Evil Twins, Snapped…. that my mind start to think of who could have done this? What is the motive? I get angry, mad, and almost ready to fight those killers. I go right into detective mode… and while doing so… I HAVE TO FEED MY THOUGHTS WITH FOOD. I have to have a fatty snack usually baked cookies, or something to eat while I figure this out. WOW… GOD SHOWED ME THAT. He showed me that I do this. I paid attention to it and couldn’t do anything but laugh. It was a breakthrough for me. He is so right. So now, this is what I do. I wont buy pop, juice, cookies, ice cream, or anything that I love to eat in that way. I buy grapes, strawberries, kiwi, apples, watermelon * eating that now lol*, peanuts, salad, tuna, broccoli as snacks. I had to stop watching my favorite shows because they trigger personal thoughts and causes me to eat when I’m not even hungry. So, when I know for a true fact that I am doing very well with being consistent with losing weight, I’ll watch those shows again, but for now I watch cooking shows. I don’t like cheese at all, and by mostly everything is cooked with it, I watch the shows to NOT WANT TO SNACK AT ALL. I LOVE IT. This works for me.

I truly had to change the way I think and eat. Its amazing what you can learn about yourself…… when you ask God to help you.

Be Blessed!

Listen to yourself and in that quietude you might hear the voice of God. – Dr. Maya Angelou

May 21-Day Challenge Update……. (((((Blog)))))

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So…. yesterday was the last day of the May 21 Day Challenge. I have lost a total of 10 pounds!!! Yeaaa Cree! I have decided to keep going. I really love the fact that I can get into these Capri’s that I bought several years ago, as a matter of fact when I put them on today they slid down my waist. LOL My attitude was oh well…. I have no problem in being out of them just as quick as I got into them.

I love this challenge because it forces to me to be conscience of everything I put in my mouth. To be honest, right now I don’t miss the Pepsi’s, the chocolate, fast food, candy, ice cream, cookies, juice. Today I went down to the store in the lobby and I looked at a snickers, and said wow, I know I would have picked you up if it wasn’t for this challenge, thing is… you are one of my emotions. I eat snickers, reese cups and chunkys when I’m in thinking mode. Same way with food. I don’t even need it , especially when I don’t crave it. I just see it and want it. Now I look at that stuff and stand there and think on WHY… why would I chose you? Its never because I want it, but because its there and available.

 

 

I have learned quite a lot about myself during this time. When I work out, I count backwards. Yes, it simple, but usually the counting in my head drives me nuts.. So when I count, I start with 100 and work the numbers up to 1. I get so pumped as I’m getting to the last numbers to start another exercise. Before when I would do the normal 1,2,3,4,.. in my mind I’m like… hurry up 35-50 or whatever I’m counting to!!! LOL Its amazing how differently you can see food, when you FOCUS on it. Emotional eaters see food as comfort. A go – to type of thing. I eat to feed my thoughts. When I have ideas and great thoughts and solutions… I’ll over eat dinner and kill it on deserts. When I feel depressed or down…. I never eat. If during that time, its been a while since I had something to eat, I’ll come to a conclusion that everything will work itself out, then I’ll eat just from those “comforting thoughts”. It’s deep.
I have a lot to share, and plan to do so as time go on.

 
Be Blessed
Listen to yourself and in that quietude you might hear the voice of God. –

Dr. Maya Angelou

My Style – My Taste………. Kitchens *3*……. (((((Blog)))))

I love a BEAUTIFUL KITCHEN. When I see a kitchen on a photo or a walk through, instantly I can connect to it and see myself cooking. A woman loves a pretty, clean, bright kitchen with lots of space to move around in. A beautiful kitchen can be a deal breaker in a home that has everything else.  I feel at home. My Style My Taste…..

My Style – My Taste….. Bathroom/Bedroom *2*… YESSS ((((Blog))))

 

 

Maya Angelou 1928-2014 (((((Blog)))))

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Maya Angelou dead at 86

 

Memorable quotes from Maya Angelou
By HILLEL ITALIE

NEW YORK (AP) — Maya Angelou, a modern Renaissance woman who survived the harshest of childhoods to become a force on stage, screen, the printed page and the inaugural dais, has died. She was 86.

Her death was confirmed in a statement issued by Wake Forest University in Winston-Salem, North Carolina, where she had served as a professor of American Studies since 1982.

Tall and regal, with a deep, majestic voice, Angelou defied all probability and category, becoming one of the first black women to enjoy mainstream success as an author and thriving in virtually every artistic medium. The young single mother who performed at strip clubs to earn a living later wrote and recited the most popular presidential inaugural poem in history. The childhood victim of rape wrote a million-selling memoir, befriended Malcolm X, Nelson Mandela and the Rev. Martin Luther King, Jr., and performed on stages around the world.

An actress, singer and dancer in the 1950s and 1960s, she broke through as an author in 1970 with “I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings,” which became standard (and occasionally censored) reading, and was the first of a multipart autobiography that continued through the decades. In 1993, she was a sensation reading her cautiously hopeful “On the Pulse of the Morning” at former President Bill Clinton’s first inauguration. Her confident performance openly delighted Clinton and made the poem a best-seller, if not a critical favorite. For former President George W. Bush, she read another poem, “Amazing Peace,” at the 2005 Christmas tree lighting ceremony at the White House.

She remained close enough to the Clintons that in 2008 she supported Hillary Rodham Clinton’s candidacy over the ultimately successful run of the country’s first black president, Barack Obama. But a few days before Obama’s inauguration, she was clearly overjoyed. She told the Arkansas Democrat-Gazette she would be watching it on television “somewhere between crying and praying and being grateful and laughing when I see faces I know.”

She was a mentor to Oprah Winfrey, whom she befriended when Winfrey was still a local television reporter, and often appeared on her friend’s talk show program. She mastered several languages and published not just poetry, but advice books, cookbooks and children’s stories. She wrote music, plays and screenplays, received an Emmy nomination for her acting in “Roots,” and never lost her passion for dance, the art she considered closest to poetry.

“The line of the dancer: If you watch (Mikhail) Baryshnikov and you see that line, that’s what the poet tries for. The poet tries for the line, the balance,” she told The Associated Press in 2008, shortly before her birthday.

Her very name as an adult was a reinvention. Angelou was born Marguerite Johnson in St. Louis and raised in Stamps, Ark., and San Francisco, moving back and forth between her parents and her grandmother. She was smart and fresh to the point of danger, packed off by her family to California after sassing a white store clerk in Arkansas. Other times, she didn’t speak at all: At age 7, she was raped by her mother’s boyfriend and didn’t speak for years. She learned by reading, and listening.

“I loved the poetry that was sung in the black church: `Go down Moses, way down in Egypt’s land,”‘ she told the AP. “It just seemed to me the most wonderful way of talking. And `Deep River.’ Ooh! Even now it can catch me. And then I started reading, really reading, at about 7 1/2, because a woman in my town took me to the library, a black school library. … And I read every book, even if I didn’t understand it.”

At age 9, she was writing poetry. By 17, she was a single mother. In her early 20s, she danced at a strip joint, ran a brothel, was married (to Enistasious Tosh Angelos, her first of three husbands) and then divorced. By her mid-20s, she was performing at the Purple Onion in San Francisco, where she shared billing with another future star, Phyllis Diller. She spent a few days with Billie Holiday, who was kind enough to sing a lullaby to Angelou’s son Guy, surly enough to heckle her off the stage and astute enough to tell her: “You’re going to be famous. But it won’t be for singing.”

After renaming herself Maya Angelou for the stage (“Maya” was a childhood nickname), she toured in “Porgy and Bess” and Jean Genet’s “The Blacks” and danced with Alvin Ailey. She worked as a coordinator for the Southern Christian Leadership Council, and lived for years in Egypt and Ghana, where she met Malcolm X and remained close to him until his assassination, in 1965. Three years later, she was helping King organize the Poor People’s March in Memphis, Tenn., where the civil rights leader was slain on Angelou’s 40th birthday.

“Every year, on that day, Coretta and I would send each other flowers,” Angelou said of King’s widow, Coretta Scott King, who died in 2006.

Angelou was little known outside the theatrical community until “I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings,” which might not have happened if James Baldwin hadn’t persuaded Angelou, still grieving over King’s death, to attend a party at Jules Feiffer’s house. Feiffer was so taken by Angelou that he mentioned her to Random House editor Bob Loomis, who persuaded her to write a book.

Angelou’s musical style was clear in a passage about boxing great Joe Louis’s defeat against German fighter Max Schmeling:

“My race groaned. It was our people falling. It was another lynching, yet another Black man hanging on a tree. One more woman ambushed and raped. A Black boy whipped and maimed. It was hounds on the trail of a man running through slimy swamps. … If Joe lost we were back in slavery and beyond help.”

Angelou’s memoir was occasionally attacked, for seemingly opposite reasons. In a 1999 essay in Harper’s, author Francine Prose criticized “Caged Bird” as “manipulative” melodrama. Meanwhile, Angelou’s passages about her rape and teen pregnancy have made it a perennial on the American Library Association’s list of works that draw complaints from parents and educators.

“`I thought that it was a mild book. There’s no profanity,” Angelou told the AP. “It speaks about surviving, and it really doesn’t make ogres of many people. I was shocked to find there were people who really wanted it banned, and I still believe people who are against the book have never read the book.”

Angelou appeared on several TV programs, notably the groundbreaking 1977 miniseries “Roots.” She was nominated for a Tony Award in 1973 for her appearance in the play “Look Away.” She directed the film “Down in the Delta,” about a drug-wrecked woman who returns to the home of her ancestors in the Mississippi Delta. She won three Grammys for her spoken-word albums and in 2013 received an honorary National Book Award for her contributions to the literary community.

Back in the 1960s, Malcolm X had written to Angelou and praised her for her ability to communicate so directly, with her “feet firmly rooted on the ground. In 2002, Angelou used this gift in an unexpected way when she launched a line of greeting cards with industry giant Hallmark. Angelou admitted she was cool to the idea at first. Then she went to Loomis, her editor at Random House.

“I said, `I’m thinking about doing something with Hallmark,”‘ she recalled. “And he said, `You’re the people’s poet. You don’t want to trivialize yourself.’ So I said `OK’ and I hung up. And then I thought about it. And I thought, if I’m the people’s poet, then I ought to be in the people’s hands — and I hope in their hearts. So I thought, `Hmm, I’ll do it.”‘

In North Carolina, she lived in an 18-room house and taught American Studies at Wake Forest University. She was also a member of the Board of Trustees for Bennett College, a private school for black women in Greensboro, N.C. Angelou hosted a weekly satellite radio show for XM’s “Oprah & Friends” channel. She also owned and renovated a townhouse in Harlem, the inside decorated in spectacular primary colors.

Active on the lecture circuit, she gave commencement speeches and addressed academic and corporate events across the country. Angelou received dozens of honorary degrees, and several elementary schools were named for her. As she approached her 80th birthday, she decided to study at the Missouri-based Unity Church, which advocates healing through prayer.

“I was in Miami and my son (Guy Johnson, her only child) was having his 10th operation on his spine. I felt really done in by the work I was doing, people who had expected things of me,” said Angelou, who then recalled a Unity church service she attended in Miami.

“The preacher came out — a young black man, mostly a white church — and he came out and said, `I have only one question to ask, and that is, “Why have you decided to limit God?”‘ And I thought, `That’s exactly what I’ve been doing.’ So then he asked me to speak, and I got up and said, `Thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you.’ And I said it about 50 times, until the audience began saying it with me, `Thank you, THANK YOU!”‘

Read more: http://www.myfoxdetroit.com/story/25629218/maya-angelou-dead-at-86#ixzz331phkGux

Gurl Talk * wedding stress* ((((((Blog))))))

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Hey!!!!

I want to Gurl Talk about Weddings. I know several good friends of mine who will be married this year and next Summer. As they plan their wedding many issues are with the Bridal Party….. but also there are many problems with GUEST.

As a person who LOVES to plan. I recommend that the Bride have someone other than herself to be in charge of the RECEPTION GUEST LIST. A good friend in boxed me tonight was in tears about this SAME topic. I wanted to cry with her, because I hear this a lot and let me say this. As the Bride, when you make up in your mind how you want YOUR WEDDING…. and what you can afford, how you want it done, how many guest you plan to invite, who are allowed and who are not….STICK WITH IT. Its your day! WHO EVA * not ever* WHO EVA don’t like it… OH WELL!

If you’re having a “no children” wedding, stick to it. No exceptions. That’s the part that bothers me, people always want to put pressure on the Bride about this policy. If the couple agree to not have children, then that’s what it means. FLAT OUT!!! THAT’S FINAL!!! When those same people who have a problem with it… go out dancing, they can’t take their kids with them. If they can’t get a baby sitter, then guess what they have to do……”sit it out”. I don’t care who you are. You wont disrespect our wedding cause you want things convenient  for you. And if they get mad… get mad ON TOP OF THEIR “MAD”… and keep it moving. I love to plan, and that’s one thing I don’t play….. people wanting exceptions to benefit them.

If a couple allow kids to their wedding, with high plate prices that’s over $30.00 per head, people will bring their kids, and the kids they’re baby sitting that weekend, that summer, that month… um ummmm NOT ON MY MONEY. *blank stare*. People don’t know how to act right. So, I say as a planner myself, its best to have a person who you trust and know will communicate everything you want, to do your RECEPTION WEDDING GUEST.

My advice for a Bride who plans to gather address and names for their wedding  reception. Is to let people know up front, NO CHILDREN- NO EXCEPTIONS. Please respect and honor this request and there will be ABSOLUTELY NO conversations pertaining to the matter. That’s to the point and very well communicated. Who ever doesn’t get that… just don’t care. Keep it moving, there is too much work to do. I live by that!

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Be Blessed!

Where works of the flesh exists, there is NO joy

My Sisters/Gurl Talk/May 21 Day Challenge Update (((((BLOG)))))

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Hey,

Its Memorial Day Weekend!!! Days like this, I miss having my own HOUSE. My favorite time is when everybody go home and we’re cleaning up the kitchen. I love that part for some reason. Then after wards I get to go sit down and “do me” until bedtime. Now today, my Sisters calling me on the 3-way asking “What we gon do for the Holiday?” I’m saying to myself laughing…. yall got the houses… yall figure it out!!! LOL LOL When I had the house all the gatherings was there, now we can use yall nice huge houses…. and I’m not cleaning up afterwards either. LOL LOL YESSSS!!! Feels good. I’mma sit there on the couch, talk my junk, and cross my legs for a change…. give Big Sister a BREAK LOL LOL LOL Sorry yall but this is really funny to me. So now we have a meeting at my sister house tomorrow at 4. Chile please… Imma go and listen to them work it out. I LOVE THEM SO MUCH THOUGH!!! WE HAVE A GOOD TIME WHEN WE GET TOGETHER.. LIFE IS WHAT YOU MAKE IT.. AND I CHOSE TO HAVE FUN.

Ladies we’ve got to quit frowning all the time. A man will NOT approach you with your face balled up and mouth twisted. A man who is being straight up with you, can’t stand a smart mouth either. Yes, I know we’ve been though a lot with men. I know we can take a lot. I know they can make us so mad….. but still we can’t walk around with our faces smashed up because of it. Some women loved to look like something is wrong just for the attention and to be asked “what’s wrong?”. When a man comes home from being gone all day, he want to see a smiling face, with kisses and a great day update. DSCN1619 I don’t even look at women who frown. Understand and know that Spirit can jump on you and have you frowning. Stop complaining all the time too. Ask yourself what percentage of happy stories come out of your mouth daily? You have the choice to share good stories or “Debbie Downers.”

My 18 year old Niece Ganell NELL 4 is so funny. Whenever I go over to her house, she always sit by me. I never paid it any attention until my daughter was like “ma next time we go over to Auntie Peedie house watch Nell make sure she sits by you. She said no matter where we are, she always make sure her seat is by you, and she cant stop touching you. So, I was like okay… let me start paying attention. LOL LOL When I did, I couldn’t do nothing but laugh. I said Nell, why when I come over you gotta sit next to me? She laughed and laughed * thought I didn’t know*, she said Auntie you give out GOOD ENERGY!!!! HAHAHAH WOW What a compliment from a teenager. She loves my energy. I love that gurl. Here is a photo of her.

My May 21 day Challenge……Water, Water, Water is the word for today!!!! YESSSSSSS thatgurlhecallCree aint playing with yall. I’m bout to lose this weight.This banging curvy body “covered in food” deserves BETTER. Its a wrap.. Yes its going to take a while… but LETS GET IT CREE!!!!

* photo taken tonight in my lounge gown*

 

ALRIGHT BE BLESSED

Where works of the flesh exists, there is NO joy

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