The dinning area should create an atmosphere to “come together”. I love sitting at a table having dinner and desert with family and friends. My favorite is looking into their eyes as we eat and talk about the days of our lives.










Living to Learn Life Lessons













After having Nesha, people always and to this day ask me… do I want anymore children? My answer is Hell to the Neva Naw. I don’t care how long his money is, how sweet a person he is, how bad he wants one with me, nor the fact that he doesn’t have any. I can’t even IMAGINE a LOVE that strong to make me change my mind. I can’t even IMAGINE loving a man so deeply that I would change my mind about having one with him. I be dogone if I stay home and raise kids while he work 80 hours a week. Some women would love to give birth again even after having grown adult children. At this point in my life, I want to enjoy my husband. I want to travel and stay in different hotels, take cruises and even host parties. Nesha’s dad is the ONLY man who child I have and WILL carry. Why am I even writing about this….. I don’t even talk about it in person. But IJS.
* photo Nesha her dad and brother*
My brother is having his first baby at 41. Yesss, and we love his girlfriend. I think that he may marry her, she is sweet as pie. She’s a young gurl too only 25… see that’s what those MEN OF MONEY AND POWER want.. a young gurl to carry his baby. Well, go head baaaaby.. its your life. I aint mad at you. LOL LOL LOL He has the money to take care of them both…. did I mention that she has twins all through her family, and for 3 months she is HUGE!! We’ll know this month when she has her doctors appointment. And guess what? She asked me to throw her a baby shower. The QUEEN of planning. Yes… I’m honored. So, now I get to see whats going on with a Wedding ( Sep 2015) and how its planned ( will be interning ) and I get to throw the Baby Shower of my brother. So… I’m getting my experience in for real.
Have you wanted something so badly to come true that you can taste it? You prayed and prayed on it, and you know God is going to let it come to past, that you think about it so deeply then you just let it go… ONLY BECAUSE YOU KNOW ITS GOING TO HAPPEN SOON? That’s how I’m feeling right now. I’m so excited… every time I think about it.. I get this butterfly feeling in my heart. God has been working behind the scene all this time to make this come true. I can’t wait to see this person face to face… eye contact.. facial expression… everything in my thoughts and dreams. Father God in the name of Jesus that time is almost here.. THANK YOU IN ADVANCE!
Alright people… on my way to bed.. have a long day tomorrow……Oh yeah and ESPECIALLY this weekend. Yesss!
Listen to yourself and in that quietude you might hear the voice of God. – Dr. Maya Angelou
Every time someone post a YOUTUBE video about teens, women or babies… its almost always SPOOKY to watch. These days no one has respect for our Elders. I’m 46 years old and you will never catch me cussing in PUBLIC, on Facebook, or anywhere else in front of them. I just don’t believe that ANY CONVERSATION is so deep, where you can’t find other words to use to help you get your point across. How can you not look at them with a special eye when they walk pass you? You’re suppose to ALWAYS look them in the eye, smile, speak and ask them how they’re doing? How can someone go on with their normal day and not give these people RESPECT? Even just walking pass someone you’re suppose to acknowledge their presence. So what you don’t know them… open your mouth and speak. If God took your mouth and your voice away.. I bet you break your back trying to make SOMEBODY/ANYBODY notice YOUR “NOW”… NON SPEAKING SELF.
This behavior has to be practiced. Women, Sisters, Aunts, Uncles, Brothers, Nephews…. when you see this happening in your family or with someone you know… open your month and make them speak. This builds Character, and also RESPECT. Speaking is FREE… I see if money was deducted from your pay check, and you have to cut down on the number of people you speak to in a pay period… BUT ITS FREE.
STOP cussing, and having disrespectful conversations in front of our Elders. Think before you speak. Stop making your daughters twerk and then putting these things on line for others to see. One day when they grow up and become different people, they will spend years or the rest of their lives convincing people they’re not that person anymore. Whenever you make a choice, make sure its not just for TODAY…. make sure its one you can live with JUST IN CASE YOU CHANGE. Make sure your conversations are seasoned with “salt” in good taste. Pleasant. Show yourself friendly. Everything is FREE!
32 Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.
Ephesians 4:32 (New International Version)
Be Blessed!
Listen to yourself and in that quietude you might hear the voice of God. – Dr. Maya Angelou

I love Amusement Parks….and even though I don’t like to ride roller coasters or rides that’s high in the sky. I’ve always had a connection to the actual park.
The park to me in MY mind reminds me of a place where there is laughter, fun screams, eating, walking, photo taking, water, shows, and of course rides. When I was a kid I use to wonder what do the rides do after all the guest are gone. Do they rest and sleep? Do they talk to each other? Are they happy to have people ride them, because its their ” PURPOSE” in life? I’ve always had a wild live imagination when it comes to this topic. People say I’m crazy for these thoughts, but I believe with all my heart, that when Parks close down for good, its a sadness that lurks over it. The Spirit of it is gone. In my crazy mind, I feel that the rides are sad and depress that it has no lively hood anymore. No more children to make laugh, no more screaming . The smell of food no longer fills the air.
I always wondered that if I walked through an abandoned Amusement Park, would I be able to feel the Spirits that once visited there? I’m always watching YouTube videos of Amusement Parks… but this one.. really got to me. 😦 Six Flags over New Orleans. I wish I could wake up the rides and nurse them back to health from Hurricane Katrina. Ill get the kids and families back on the rides again. I can see Roller coasters happy, swings swinging, music playing, kids running, parents smiling, food cooking.
Please watch this video with me. Remember to feel the Spirit of Happiness!!
Be Blessed!

Listen to yourself and in that quietude you might hear the voice of God. – Dr. Maya Angelou
I cried today watching this video. This is happening to so many people and its time parents are truthful to their children no matter how “hard” it may be. No child/adult should be this devastated over a decision that the parents/parent was scared to make as a child. It’s not right and its not fair. Children need to be told the truth as they are growing up, so that they can grow with the situation. That would prepare them to be able to handle the truth of rejection or death of their family members, then they go out to find them. This is so sad. Please watch this video.

For 5 years I was mentoring my Teen gurls group, Raisingurls to Women in my home, when I started to realize that while the teens were being part of a group that helped them to deal with issues, the moms were still working out of the same mentality. That bothered me and I never knew how I could bridge the gap, especially when many of them felt that only the teens were having issues, and not themselves. I get so many emails from parents who seek my advice in this area that it amazes me. Which leads me to focus more on parents/women.
When MarNesha was growing up, she was mostly like me, never cared about going over to people’s house. I rather sleep on my own bed at night, and had company at my house. But when she had boyfriends, she bought them over for me to meet. I’m not one of those parents/momma’s that would say yes to her going to their place without meeting them. I want to know names, phone numbers * yes I had her boyfriends number in my cell phone.. sure did*, address, who else they know associated with this person. I didn’t play that. See many parents don’t start off early about letting their kids know how they are. We know our kids like the back of our hands, we as parents need to let our kids know WHO WE ARE! WHAT WE WILL DO ,AND WHAT WE WONT TOLERATE as THEY’RE GROWING UP…. I ask questions. If you had a problem with me asking questions, let me know NOW, so we can shut this down and talk about something else.
Today my cousin La’Tisha ( my cousins Wife in above photo) posted this on her FB page. Oh its so funny. Parents beware….. these kids are starting off early!!! LOL This is a good one!!! Hahahaha * Get em gurl*
So riding in the car with my son and the conversation goes:
Son: Hey mom can I go over my friend’s house
Me: Where does your friend live.
Son: Oh just two blocks over.
Me: Let me ride by and see exactly where. I need to talk to his parents.
Me: Oh who is this friend?
Son: Well I’m actually going to see THEIR brother
Me: THEIR???
Me: Who is your friend? You didn’t answer my question.
Son: Sam
Me: What’s SAM’S full name
Son: Samantha.
Son: Oh she’s not going to be there.
Me: And neither are you!!!
#notgonnahappen
#nicetry
#only12
#wrongmomma
Be Blessed